Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling or settle yourself down in our padded cell. All welcome! (Part 19)

[Poppyjen]

Another new thread for some more serious metalling - we really are a chatty lot!

Here's to making it through the WTF cycle(s), metalling* like a teenager from the early '90s in the 2WW, BFP colds and other classic symptom spotting and hiding in the (nice and comfy) padded cell post BFP

If you have miscarried and are ready to TTC again, come and join us!

• For those currently wondering what our mosh pit antics have to do with ttc post MC, a fabulous typo in an earlier thread resulted in "mentalling" becoming known as "Metalling" - a far more fitting expression I am sure you will agree!

Welcome!

IQ so so sorry to read of your friend's news that is so heartbreaking.

I really wanted to reply but just don't even know what to say......really what can you say!!! They are a very together couple and know that their family around them will be doing everything they can to support them.

DH came back from the gym last night and was worried as I was upset and when I told him what had happened he got down on his knees and kissed the bump and said "look how blessed we are, we have so much to be thankful for". Sometimes I wonder why I married him (when he is being an idiot, hassling me about my shoe collection or telling me off for my lack of housework) and then things like this happen and I just think I made the right choice. I was thinking about it most of the night but have decided that I need to stay positive for myself because if I keep obsessing about it I will worry myself to death!!!

Right then

You really are blessed, you need to stop obsessing about it because your li'l one is absolutely fine. What happened to this couple is so tragic, but rare. All you can do is be there for them, they may want to keep a polite distance for a while for obvious reasons, but if you are good friends this will ride the storm.

I wonder if a simple message saying 'we are so sorry to hear about your sad loss, remember we are here for you if you need our support, and any practical help we can offer'

I dont know - that sounds a bit 'standard' but YSWIM.

Big hugs to you and the 'giant malteser' who is kicking around inside you. I remember when i fell on my bump with DS he gave me a kick to say either (a)dont worry mummy i am fine; or (b)FGS mother that hurt! Your li'l one is giving you the hugs in there i am sure

Oh, IQ, so sorry to hear about your friend.

I have realized that I'm not going to have time to catch up having been offline for weeks, so I hope I haven't missed out on too much big news or new thread arrivals. I decided not to try last month as I was still recovering from my hideous lung lurgy (now all fixed thanks to the magic of really strong antibiotics and steroids) but did chart and it all looked normal: 29 day cycle with a good long luteal phase. Let's see what happens this month.

(oh, and in TMI news, I managed to get through pregnancy and labour with a 9lbs 7oz baby without getting piles. Three months of antibiotics messing up my digestive system and lo! - sore bum. Going to have to go back to the doctor again if it doesn't clear up as I don't want to go into pregnancy with an ailing bottom. Please please let this be the last ailment I have before pregnancy...)

Synchronised peeing, a bit like synchronised swimming only in reverse.

I'm not technically due AF until Saturday and I don't get spotting before hand - just spots. Currently sporting some crackers.

I can think of something else that might be delaying your period far

Christmas shagging!

It's be very amusing if I had a Christmas Shag baby as I've always taken the mick out of DP about his parents' 'annual shag' (him and his sister born in early/mid Sept)

Not that I will if these spots are anything to go by though. Oh and lets not forget the constant pull on the left side ovary, will need to go back to docs about that.

\m/ \m/ metal!!!!

IQ that is awful for your friends, really really horrible. The poor things. Are you going to send them a card or similar? I would I think, not that there is much you can really say or offer but I know it's nice to know people are thinking of you if something this grim happens.

Its not that I don't care or am not interested, but I am going to change the subject now. For, I suppose, selfish reasons as stories such as their's scare the shit out of me (and I was just starting to relax a bit more about the whole pg malarkey.)

Laydeez, I now have a bump. A small one but its definately there. However.... its wonky! Yup, when I lay down the right hand side goes flat and the left stays rounded. Its not massively obvious, but certainly obvious enough to me (and to DH who thinks it's hilarious.) Has anyone else got this, or had this? I am presuming it will even out as the baby grows but it's bloody freaky at the moment!

baby that is wonderful to have a little bump, albeit wonky, I can't answer if its normal or not having never got that far but it sounds fab!!!

mseltoe I really really hope so. I know it sounds cheesy but we had some really lovely shags at xmas and one is particular was quite emotional and it would just be so nice if our baby had been conceived then. We have had some pretty perfuntory shags since TTC but for some reason this month we both felt like and did not have the usual , 'right we better have sex cos its the right time' chats.

I refuse to get my hopes up though as I seen to do this every month, I feel like the girl who cried 'potential BFP' only to spend £££ on tests and then the spotting starts. I am thinking test tomorrow when I will be 12dpo and if still negative then I will stop the cream and hope and I have not buggered my system up. I will use first response and I think it says on their blurb than over 80% of people get a positive at 12dpo

leedy that is great news about your cycle

Right, I am off to see the PCOS consultant and will report back

And just as I write that the spotting starts :(

Implantation spotting!

:o

far on your behalf

come and settle yourself into the VIP area, we have for starters but at the weekend we can have some cheeky

Thanks martha

pop I think its too late for that sadly, gah

Roll on the next month

Sorry far :( I second the suggestion of a cheeky

Right I've sent them a message and for the sake of myself and everyone elses sanity I shall be putting it into a box and closing the lid!!!

Sorry far I really hoped this month would be it for you......bloody rubbish. Definitely get some alcohol in you - as my student sister says " is medicinal"!!! xxx

So my first thing to say on a positive note is that I have now spoken to my boss and agreed my last day.......only 22 working days left for me!!!

where did popcorn come from???? has someone name changed???

really !!!

:( far - do you still want to pee with me in the morning? I understand if you don't.

I haven't spent £ on sticks I got a pack of 25 cheap things from ebay for a few quid this time last year. Still got a good few left but I do only tend towards POAS once a month or so. Did more tests when I was pregnant to find out if they got darker Could you get some cheap ones?

baby DD was often wonky as she laid down one side hiccoughing all night long.

Never got far enough along for a bump with either of the others.

I don't know who Popcorn Mouse is, not me. I do need a name change though. Any suggestion? What about MetalNWine

Sorry Insomnia I'm not a name-changer, I'm just straying from the brooking thread I just got bored at work.........

popcorn is a friend of mine form the brooking thread, probably just coming on to give some moral support :)

I have just come back from the PCOS he was lovely I may have cried on him
His advice was that its likely all is well and he is confident I will get pregnant naturally in the next 6 months and hang onto it (I wish I shared his confidence).
He wants to monitor a cycle with scans every few days and then some progesterone tests at 5, 7, and 9 dpo to see what is going WRT spotting and the lining. Then we will make a decision about clomid potentially to boost things but only if there is a problem.

He also wants Dh to do a sperm test which I know he will HATE. Gah!

mseltoe I will still POAS with you tomorrow if ya like :) I have some cheapies

PCOS specialist that should say!

Sorry popcorn - i thought someone had name changed and I'd missed it......I tend to miss a lot at the moment!!! your obviously more than welcome to stay with us!!!! Xxxx

I don't want to make you :( far

Only do it if you were going to do it anyway.

Sounds positive from the PCOS specialist. Which I always want to write as POAS specialist

Oh I wish there was a POAS specialist that could make them go positive, I would beat a path to his/her door!!

Don't worry I will obviously be POAS every day until AF proper arrives (and then a few more times for good measure just because I like to waste money)

I don't metal too much about making them go positive I tend towards metalling about keeping them positive, as that seems to be where my problem lies.

Yes that means if I get pregnant again while this thread's up I'll be unBEARable

I'd like to fund some research into gestation pods. Give the necessary fluids, test tube them, pod up, ring up every day to see how your pod baby is doing and go and collect it after forty weeks. Oh yes.

Oh far... pours wine Sounds like the specialist was really confident so that's good.

Sorry, I have been out of action for a little while and the thread has grown mahoosively!

MsEltoe, I am so sorry to hear about your experience. I had a similar heartbeat backdrop to my mc, although it was not the bit that stuck with me the most. Mine was walking into the labour suite once the mc had been confirmed, and the mw wheeling the little crib out and scrubbing 'welcome' of the whiteboard. The staff were generally so lovely in so many ways, but the geography of the building was against us all. I think there is something so utterly horrible about having to go through it all in the delivery suite. If you ever wanted to private message me about it all, I would be very happy to chat to you about it.

Martha so sorry about the cp, it is just not fair. Hope you are ok.

Far, I am so sorry that AF has got you. We are on the same cycle day, she has not got me yet, but I am almost certain she will. I am trying to save money and sanity and not POAS until Saturday, when she is due, but have so little hope. Absolutely no preg symptoms and have the foulest temper imaginable, so she is wending her wicked way hence. Think I will be on the vino on Saturday.

Manda fab news on your scan. Really happy it went well for you. :)

IQ thinking of your friends, and you.

I haven't much news apart from that I am really down. I am struggling with the approaching due date and a few other things non-miscarriage related, (don't want to go into it here), I just feel very lost and adrift. I am hoping it is just AF messing with my mind tbh. I am going to go and make myself some tea, and have a chocolate I think. Sending you all big hugs. x