Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling or settle yourself down in our padded cell. All welcome! (Part 19)

[Poppyjen]

Another new thread for some more serious metalling - we really are a chatty lot!

Here's to making it through the WTF cycle(s), metalling* like a teenager from the early '90s in the 2WW, BFP colds and other classic symptom spotting and hiding in the (nice and comfy) padded cell post BFP

If you have miscarried and are ready to TTC again, come and join us!

• For those currently wondering what our mosh pit antics have to do with ttc post MC, a fabulous typo in an earlier thread resulted in "mentalling" becoming known as "Metalling" - a far more fitting expression I am sure you will agree!

Welcome!

Hi Ladies, I just mc last night, just looking for any sign of hope that there it's not the end of the world and maybe one day I'll be able to have a baby?! xx

Popping on to wish all my lovely MN thread friends and supporters all the good health and happiness possible for 2012 :):)

blue has said it all really! You guys have totally been my lifeline over the past 6 months

martha OMG OMG I am squealing with manda, i'd be testing in 2 days time :) :)

Quiet one for us tonight, get DS in bed then have some yummy duck pancakes to enjoy followed by maybe some Guitar Hero or Just Dance on the Wii then bed (before 12 methinks!) gone are the party days!

I still haven't told any friends or family our news yet, is that bad at 14 weeks?! I just want to wait until after my 16w appt and have heard the heartbeat ....

Here's to 2012 !! xxx

crystal So sorry you've had to seek us out - but rest assured, I think over half of us are either more than 12 weeks pregnant or have recently gotten bfps plus martha is getting one any day now... You are at a very raw point in the process but we're here to support you, and living proof, as it were, that there absolutely IS hope you will have a future, healthy pregnancy.

Very quick one ladies just to say to Crystaltea hello, welcome to the thread and I am so sorry to hear of your loss. That really is shitty timing too

Look after yourself, there is definitely hope but remember to allow yourself to feel sad and grieve a bit for your loss. Then when you feel ready we'll all be here to jolly you along the minefield that is TTC post mc, and to metalcelebrate with you when you get your BFP

Please feel free to vent whatever you need to vent here with us - these ladies have been an unbelievable support when it is most needed.

Happy NYE everyone, like pie it is a quiet one here in Poppyland. DS in bed, DH is cooking lovely steak and dauphinois potatoes and as I am still able to eat without feeling nauseous I will be doing so incredibly heartily as if last time was anything to go by it may be my last chance for some weeks!

And thanks Blue for saying what I think we all think - you ladies have been amazing. Thank you!

Thanks ladies, it's all a bit raw at the moment, I had to ring the midwife and tell her and she said there's no reason why I shouldn't go on to have a sucessful pregnancy so here's hoping! How long did you all wait before trying again? How do you know when you might ov as have no past period to count from? Or does it not happen until after you've had your next period? x

Sorry crystal we crossed posts earlier. Sorry you have had a MC and found youself here but it's a very supportive place to be and we will be here for hand holding! Your midwife is right though, sadly MC is more common than known ie/ I think it's 1 in 4 or 1 in 5 pregnancies which I genuinely didn't realise till it happened to me in June. I think most of us started trying again once we'd had AF again ie/ a period of not bleeding before AF re-started. Some people do ovulate after miscarriage but for most it's not until after the next AF.

There is a lot of useful info here:
pregnancyloss.info/

Well, crystal there are no hard and fast rules about when things happen, because we're all different, after all.

But, if it's not too painful, we'd possibly have a better idea of what advise re: what to expect if you gave us your stats, as it were. Did you mc naturally, or have an erpc? How many weeks were you? What is you usual cycle like?

Generally speaking, whatever the answers you have, you are officially in the 'what the fuck' cycle (referred to as wtf here) because it's so common for your body to act a bit screwy from the left over hormones.

Speaking of left over hormones have you been advised to test in a while to confirm you have a bfn? Lots of hospitals fail to mention this but it's quite important especially if you're looking to ttc immediately so you know that any future bfp you get is a real one rather than left over from the mc.

Thanks, I didn't expect so much support esp. New Year's Eve! I've got a cold as well so just sitting with a blanket and lemsip feeling sad! I mc'd naturally, they checked today at the hospital and it was a complete miscarriage at 6 weeks. I didn't realise that about the pg tests, thanks. The bloods they did showed hardly any hcg left, and my boobs stopped hurting almost straight away. My usual cycle is 26 days. I'm 27. Thanks piemistress that website is very useful. x

Hi everyone! Just spotted the thread on active convos, and am so pleased I did as I've been off it so long I'd lost it!

Hope everyone is well (any exciting news?!) and enjoyed Christmas! Will mark my place with this and run a looooong catch up on everyone :)

Wishing everyone a very happy, very special, and positive New Year! Personally, I'm hoping to start the new year by POAS first thing in the morning. Fingers crossed.

Un-MNettly Hugs x

Happy New Year! Happy New Year! First post on this thread of 2012. Wishing you all much happiness, and lovely healthy pregnancies in 2012. Bye-bye 2011, you old rotter.

Crystal, so sorry to hear of your loss, especially at this time. Sending you a big hug. I hope your cold improves as well, you don't need that on top of everything else.

MillontheFloss, congratulations! Hoping your lines darken when you test again. :)

Pie, I don't think you are bad at all for waiting before telling people. I think when I get pg again, I will be struggling to tell people. I think my podgy tum might give me away before I let people know tbh.

Martha, hope the spotting is what we all want it to be! Very exciting and fingers crossed !

Well, I have had a mixed Christmas, sometimes wonderful, and other times weepy. I just kept thinking about how my little one always be a part of our family, even though we never knew them. I was also strangely moved to be back at my parents house. It made me realise how important my own Mum is to me. My due date was in January, so this really was not the Christmas I had imagined. I have been dreading January, but now it has arrived, it does not seem as bad as I thought right now. A sort of new start really.

I am currently 7DPO I think, and working up to full on metal. I have already POAS , which I know is completely pointless, but now all the Christmas hullabaloo has died down a bit, I have not as much to distract me from TWW madness. I have a podgy little tum at the moment, but I almost certainly think this is down to festivities! Hope I can hold out for a few more days before next attempt.

Hi Guys

I hope you don't mind me posting, I come armed with boxes of after eights and some freshly squeezed juice to make us all feel as though the New Year detox has started.... I've put the same post on another MC thread... But I see you guys seem to be pretty active here! I hope that's not breaking any serious MN rules... I'm very new to posting on here despite lurking during my failed pregnancy and through the MC... Hoping you might be able to help me through my serious metalling at the moment!

I had an ERPC on 24th November after a MMC @ 8 weeks.... It was our first time trying to conceive and we'd managed after only 2 weeks of trying - Although I knew it was a risk I just never thought that it would happen to us , silly girl. I've just finished my WTF cycle and AF which happened amazingly close to on time - I was a clockwork 28 day cycle before and this one was 31 days... I think I'm ready to get back in the saddle. Do most people find that it goes back to normal or do they find they're having wierd cycles afterwards?. My DB and SIL just announced that they're 4 weeks preggers and keep asking my advice on what's normal in early pregnancy - I'm so happy for them but at the same time thinking about it makes me realise what's not happening for us and my boss has just told me he and his DP are due to have a baby on what was my due date.... I'm excited for the future, so scared I won't get pregnant again, petrified I will and I'll MC again and desperate to POAS even though I'm only on CD08.... Sigh Sorry to ramble, I am usually a positive little bunny.... but noone else to tell!!

Welcome Crystal, sorry to hear about your loss. There are lots of ladies here who have lost babies and healthy babies in all kinds of combinations. I lost my first, kept my second and lost my third, for example.

I was at a New Year party last night trapped in the kitchen with a group of women (several of whom know I was pregnant - I announced my pregnancy to them and then had to re-tell them when baby was born/miscarried so I know they know!) rabbiting on about how they'd never have a nother baby not if they won the lottery and how no way would they ever do that again, shuddering at the thought and such like.

Made me fairly

Pie I don't think it's bad, we didn't tell anyone at all with my latest lost pregnancy, not a single soul, until after the nuchal results, we had scan pictures to show and a 1 in 100,000 risk factor, I think I was 14 weeks and some. I heard the heartbeat at the 16w appointment, all was dandy, then. We didn't tell anyone until 24 weeks with DD, either, I think it's very much personal choice. I haven't decided what I will do to be honest, I think it'll be tough keeping it secret all the way to 18 or so weeks again, and how can I know I won't lose another? Maybe I should just tell everyone straight away.

Welcome back wellies!

Martha I don't know about signs much but if the knowledgable people are squeeeeeing then I shall also squeeeeeeee. Do the knowledgable people know why I could be having such horrid pain in my ovary? I have a large cyst on it but it's mainly dormant, last four days very painful and right into my back - not bad enoguh to be twisted, but a horrid ache. I'll be making an appt at the docs when it reopens on weds, and then I can ask them about post mortem results too. (joy) I'm CD21 today but haven't much of a clue when I Oved this cycle (if I did) AF should be due Jan 7th.

Anyway here's to a happy and productive 2012 for everyone, may we all have happy healthy babies by the next new year

Thanks manda I did go out in the end and had a good time. I find that distracting myself does generally work but it's just hard sometimes. MN is helping A LOT! :o

Welcome crystal, so sorry to hear about your loss. I mc a month ago and at the beginning I was a total mess and even though I still have Bad Days, it does get better. Re: starting TTC again, my midwife told me I could start straight away. If you were to get pg before getting AF, the only problem would be that not having a last period date might make calculations a bit tricky but it's not the end of the world. But for the sake of your mental health, I would say, do try and get a BFN first. Hope your cold gets better too. Hugs.

Hi Kellbells -sorry to hear about your loss. When I mc at 12 weeks last month, it was my first pregnancy so I don't have much experience but so far I found that my period arrived 25 days after the MC and it's lasting longer but other than that seems pretty normal. In any case, my approach to TTC is to DTD as often as possible in case my 28 clockwork cycles have been affected by the mc (sorry if that's too much information)

Two of my friends are pregnant and the due dates were very close to mine, so yes, it's hard. I guess it will get easier with time (sp when we get our BFPs!! o) but in the meantime we might have just to accept that we'll be a bit sad while still being happy for them

I didn't take me very long to get pg the previous time but I'm terrified it will take forever now,don't know why. I also feel that when it happens, I won't be able to be as happy as the first time because I'll be so scared of mc again... Do come and chat to us, MN has been a life saver for me in the last month! :o And happy new year! 2012 will be ours!

Maja and Kel sorry about the recent losses. I too thought it would take forever to get pg with 2nd pregnancy after getting pg straight away with the one that I MC'd. Again, wasn't sure why I thought that. Just a general bad luck feeling feeling I guess.

AF returned after about 25 days and the first cycle was a bit longer than usual so I was pretty sure I didn't conceive as wasn't sure when I OV'd. However, after that WTF cycle it went back to 28 days and it only took 2 cycles to conceive this pregnancy. There is hope! FX for this one...

Good luck and take care.

My goodness. 2012 already Sorry I can't name check as am on phone at the mo. I'm hiding out upstairs and drinking wine ironing as PIL are stopping over tonight and it's all a bit too much. I'm afraid I might out myself if I went into their unique traits!!

DP tells me he's been googling conception etc so he's "all clued up" re the best ways to get pregnant. I'm worried!! But we are definitely in full swing this week and next. Although in the back of my mind I'm thinking that if I got pregnant this cycle, due date would clash with DS's birthday and a wedding down south that DP is usher at (that we need to book the hotel for soon!) My sensible head would say not to bother but I'm hoping the "inconvenience" (obviously not the right word as would be over the moon to have baby due at any time!!) of it all means we're on to a winner

Hello to the new ladies come share your stories with us, everyone here is lovely and will share your after eights hopes, fears and dreams. They have been my lifeline

Watching Return to Oz. Used to scare me half to death when I was little!!

Thanks MillonTheFloss ! It's good to know! The midwife kept telling me that the mc 'had not damaged my body' and there was no reason to think that I couldn't get pg again really quickly. But hearing 'real stories' is much more conforting... :o

newton Ha ha!! Exactly the same here! DH and I have been invited to a wedding in the States in October and I just want to buy flights now because I know how 'annoying' it would be if I couldn't make it because of heavily pregnant by then... even though I'll happily lose the flight fare 'in exchange' of a BFP!

Happy new year ladies! Hope you've had a nice first day!

Maja Do it!!! We'll book a hotel and it's certain to work although I reckon 2 nights in a Premier Inn and a tank of petrol are much less than your flights would be!

Hello, long time lurker, not really posted before, only a couple of times on the mc thread.

Had a mmc in July, been ttc since then, but didn't think I was ovulating. Did cheapo preg test tonight, and very very faint line, plus think I had a bit of ovulation spotting a few days ago. Would have been due next weekend, and those that were due the same time as me have all given birth. Am going to do a digital test in the morning but am (obv) hoping it will be +ve.

newton On opodo now!!! :o We shall trick fate! Mwahahahahahaha!

Fingers crossed atlastadragon Do let us know when you have done the digi, although remember they aren't as sensitive as some of the cheaper tests...

Well I am definitely starting to feel something now. My boobs are very sore and seem bigger to me and the tiredness...oh the tiredness I had quite forgotten how that feels. Still no nausea yet...long may that continue (although of course it's absence will make me metal all the more )

Happy new year all - may 2012 bring good news for all of us

Thanks Poppy. I did the test this morning and have a bfp! Veryd pleased but mind is already working overtime. Am going to try to take one day at a time but easier said than done. Eek!

That is fantastic news atlastadragon ! that makes 3 of us with bfps in the last week - we can all metal together!

Fab news atlast ! Great to hear about the sore boobs and tiredness poppy ! Are you still taking the B Vits? I am but I think they have also helped with the sickness as I've been feeling sick but not actually vomiting.

Wonder if martha has managed to test yet but she has willpower of steel!

Off to hit the shops today :)

Yes pie I am still taking the bvits, consultant said that they are good to take alongside metformin and as I will be taking that until 12 weeks I am sticking with bvits too Also heard that the b100 complex is recommended to help with morning sickness anyway...

Ah yes, how are you doing marthas ?