Waiting to try to conceive

[Amonstercooper]

Another thread for those who are waiting to try for a baby. It doesn't matter how long or short the wait; why you are waiting; or how many DC you have. All are welcome.

Old thread here.

Just found out that another friend is expecting! So wonderful and exciting and so very jealous making (but of course my pregnancy and labour will be a dawdle and my pfb will never cry, so I'm not really jealous at all because my pfb will be totally worth waiting for)

In great news, I was offered the job last night and details to come today. DH and I even talked baby over toast and tea this morning! We have agreed on a threshold for wage and length of contract we want before we try. This is starting to feel thrillingly close to date-setting!

Ittybittysmum thats wonderful about the job, one step closer now!

I have my appointment to get my rubella immunity checked next week and I'm charting in advance. DH has even started reading baby books

It's wonderful to see everyone geared up to getting ready for ttc.

At the moment I'm doing a nvq 2 in healthcare. It's for 6 Months so me trying to convince DH is taking a back seat. However if I have an accident

Amontercooper- where AF went she only knows.

Lw

YAAAAY Ittybitty

Ittybitty that is good news! I've got a new job too which has brought me just that little bit closer to starting ttc. The difficulty is in working out what's a respectable time to be in post before getting updiffed!

Anyway, it's the beginning of November and its time for me to invite you all to join me in a drink to celebrate the end of my second year on the waiting thread. It simply must be my turn soon!

Thanks everyone!

MrsTwinks Your DH is reading baby books? I call that an excellent sign!

LittleWater Oh yes, there's always the possibility of an accident! In fact, I know three of them

Awayinamangercooper (I love your festive name!) I know what you mean about wondering when it's reasonable to "say thanks for the job, now I'm going away for a year".
Two years is a long time. I hope you get to ttc soon!

MrsTwinks when you said your DH was reading baby books I had visions of him reading "that's not my lion" or "where's Spot?" or similar!

Ittybittysmum if you don't have any DC yet, can I ask why the name ittybitty? Or do you have DC? I don't think I'll be off a year, I think I'll be climbing the walls after a few weeks at home. But we'll see!

LW I have longed for an accident. I seem not to be accident prone!

na, thats not my lion is his usual reading material. He's actually reading the Expectant Dad's survival guide & he is getting a bit excited about the countdown himself. I think the fear of it being an ectopic pregnancy when I had appendicitis has made him realise how much he wants a LO iykwim.

Haven't caught him sniffing the niece yet... but I'm sure its just a matter of time!!

Evening ladies....My last pill was 2 days ago so I guess we are officially TTC now eek! Very excited. DD is 14 months so I hope it doesn't take too long, nice age gap.

Very tentatively joining this thread . . . I'm 31 and my partner and I have just started talking more seriously about trying for a baby. We're renting at the moment but we've just bought a flat - should be moving in January, probably, and we've agreed to think about it properly once things have settled down after the move. Really torn between hoping for a pre-emptive accident right now and feeling awfully daunted by the whole thing . . .

Awayinamangercooper Sadly, no DC. I just typed whatever came to mind when I was registering. Everything I wanted was all ready taken so in the end I just keymashed . One day, however, there will be a real Itty Bitty!

Maketea That's fantastic! Congratulations!

Kalidasa welcome! I just turned 31 myself! And I know what you mean about the waffling, I'm that way too. Sometimes I want a baby like crazy, and some days I think I'm crazy to want a baby.

Ittybitty oh I thought you were named after the cloth nappies!

Kalidasa welcome to the waiting madness thread! Nerves about making massive life changing decisions are normal, particularly if you can't just take the plunge and have done with it. Waiting's horrible.

"Sometimes I want a baby like crazy, and some days I think I'm crazy to want a baby."

haha Ittybitty what a great way of putting it!

Thanks everyone. We use FAM anyway so I'm hoping there'll be a sort of gradual process of 'getting a bit less careful' rather than a big NOW WE ARE TRYING moment . . .

Hard to be just "a little less careful" if you are doing FAM!

Hello everyone, may I join in?

Brand new to MN and waiting until December to TTC DC#1. As of yesterday I'm officially off the pill and getting very excited and impatient! Most days I'm really looking forwards to TTC but sometimes I do wonder how people cope with such a massive change. I'm hoping this is normal before you've actually become a mum?

Hi VeniVidiVino - DH and I are also waiting until the end of Dec to start TTC. Haven't come off the pill yet (hoping to benefit from the fertility surge that is supposed to exist when you first come off) but so excited and just counting down the time. I know what you mean about the idea of coping with such a massive change though - although DH and I often talk about what we see the changes as being, and how we intend to try and deal with them, sometimes I'm there wondering if I'm crazy to be thinking of giving up so much (but then I'm back to wanting a baby like anything, and it seems to outweigh any momentary panic). But I think I know what you mean!!

alexeliza good idea to try and identify what the changes will be... personally I'm terrified of giving up my selfish Sat/Sun mornings just sitting on the sofa watching TV!

I know I will miss my sleep ins on the weekend - I love my sleep!!

I'm a lark, so I never sleep in, but I do love my 8 hrs so I'll miss that like crazy! (Hmm, night nanny, maybe?)

alexeliza I've been having similar conversations with DH, he seems remarkably laid back though. Weekend mornings will be the biggest shock I think. Apart from storing up sleep (is this possible?) is there any other way to prepare to TTC? I'm taking FA supplements and had blood test to check rubella immunity, anyone else got tips on things to do to prepare my body?

Ittybittysmum you are lucky to be a morning person! I get up at 6 every weekday and it never seems to get any easier!

Good evening ladies,

I hope I am not too late to join? I am completely new to mumsnet and the whole baby/children thing in general (apart from being a primary school teacher!).

Turn 30 in January and thought that would be a good a time as any to TTC. Have been putting it off for a while due to not feeling 'quite ready' and starting a couple of new jobs in the last year.

So have a couple of months to do some reading and try to get my head round cycles and ovulations and all the other things that have never crossed my mind until now!

I look forward to getting to know you all, and the exciting times ahead.

Venividivino go to the dentist for a checkup and scale and polish. Your soft tissue softens during pg, which makes you more prone to gum problems. Also make sure your smear is up to date. Doing some gentle exercise wouldn't hurt, but I don't take my own advice there!

Apart from that, just make the most of being footloose and fancy free. Eat, drink, sleep and be merry!

Welcome Ladybourne, it would be quite hard to be too late to this thread, we get replenished regularly - except me and Bebejones and Quod. We'll never leave!!!

Have you read the tutorials on Fertilty Friend website?