Waiting to try to conceive

[Amonstercooper]

Another thread for those who are waiting to try for a baby. It doesn't matter how long or short the wait; why you are waiting; or how many DC you have. All are welcome.

Old thread here.

ViviPru ? I totally hear you. Forty would seem like the perfect age to have a baby if possible (mostly because it would give me another five years of freedom, woo ha ha haaaaaa!) but it just seems a risk. A really good friend of mine has been trying for over a year and she?s only a year older than me :( Also LOADS of girls in work have had bother, even though they are in their twenties or early thirties! You just don?t know if you?re going to be lucky or not.

Nenehooo ? I didn?t even think about all that stuff. I think I just magically assume money will appear from somewhere and I can just scamper about going to Pilates or making clay models of my own (gigantic post-partum) breasts or something! I always forget that maternity pay actually meets sweet FA money in your pocket! :(

Buddhagirl - I wouldn't get too stressed about the EWCM. There's that PreSeed stuff that you can buy that's supposed to mimic it. Anyone tried it?

Okay I split post so it wouldn't be longest ever. Have recently bought ClearBlue Fertility Monitor and I promised I would give updates. Plan is to use it for 3 months to figure out cycle and then - BAM! Let the SWI with intent begin!

So got AF on 12th Oct and finally got the little 'egg' symbol this morning meaning I should ovulate in next 24-36 hours. Interesting because that would mean I ovulate around day 15-17 in a regular 28 day cycle so later than I thought. I read similar in Amazon reviews - a lot of people assume they will ovulate around day 12-14 so that might be useful to know.

Any questions ask away. Of course the real test will be when we use it with intent...

weesooty it doesn't always skip a generation but it has up to now. i wouldn't mind twins at all but dh would freak! he's ok at the mo thanks but dreading the funeral he was really close with his gramps.

Budda girl congratulations! You must be bouncing off the walls.
Angelico hope everything goes to plan!

I hope the rest of you are fine.

Lw

Angelico Had never heard of the clearblue moniter looked it up on boots and nearly fell over at the price but looked it up on amazon and read the reviews wow! Good luck!! Thats an impressive little thing. I'm totally tempted by it lol

WeeSooty - I agree about price! For God's sake nobody buy the bloody thing in Boots - mine was an Amazon job and the sticks are miles cheaper there too!

You can pick used ones up cheap on EBay and many mumsnetters are happy to share spare test sticks to reset them. The Persona monitor is cheaper to buy and the sticks are cheaper. By all accounts they are the same.

Is it just me or is waiting to TTC complete utter bloody soul destroying crap of the highest order? Ovulating again, so temporarily insane as per usual. Poor old DH. He's only got himself to blame of course!

LW did AF come yet?

Amonstercooper, no AF yet. Just lightly mentioned that AF has not turned up, and his words were " well there is nothing in the milk" [hsad] I'm hoping to talk to my DP about this. Any tips great fully received, [hgrin]

I did a tesco cheap test this morning and it was a bfn. [hsad]. Besides I'm taking the pill for five months. So I don't get winter baby. I know I should be greatful about having a child regardless of when it was born, but those months are the most expensive.

The clear blue test are about £25 pounds! Yep, that's right!

Lw

25£?! I hope they do the job and make you breakfast for that price!

AmandaCooper I know how you feel about the insanity. I've been trying not to mn because I'm so wound up it's not doing me any good to read birth announcements, etc. Thank god for this thread!

Lw you must be on tenterhooks waiting for AF!

WeeSooty I'm glad you joined the thread! It's great to have your perspective because I think you and my DH are pretty much in the same headspace. It's nice to get a different perspective!

As for me, well ladies I'm feeling a bit down tonight because in my bid to get super organized and become Queen of Spreadsheets I realized it really isn't possible to have a baby just now. This is good to be aware of, but such a bummer.

On the plus side, I have applied for a new and better paying job. If I get that, things look much more possible this side of the decade. And I had a sneaky look at the maternity benefits on offer (counting chickens pre hatching? Me? Surely not!) and they are freakin fabulous!

Itty- well to be truthful, no. However I did some tests and they were neg. I'll do a test next week just to be sure.

Lw

Please keep us updated Angelico I'm trying to rely on my eagle eyes and monthly aches and pains to chart my cycle but am so up for a bit of digital technology if I'm FORCED to...
weesooty I think it's great to have an alternative point of view on here! I do try to think about how my OH feels but it's hard sometimes. Especially when babies are EVERYWHERE. What's the advert with the hysterically giggling babies?! It should be banned!

Ooh and Ittybitty well done for getting a spreadsheet done - it's a nasty job (well for me anyway - I know some people like these activities?!) but worth it to know where you are.
And when you get that job it'll be a go!!! x

Nenehoo well, that would be fabulous but I still need to get DH on side!

How are you ladies doing tonight? I've been in to DH's excellent homebrew so I guess there are some things about not being pregnant that are really good !

Tiresome "so when are you two going to have a baby then?" from DP's visiting best friend yesterday (who has 2yo DD). DP said "We've already got one" and pointed at the dog and I just remained very uncharacteristically silent which will have seemed very noticeable to them.

Later that day, my best friend was visiting too with his wife and 9mo DD. DP's BF recounted the story of this earlier conversation to my BF, and kind of joked that I had gone quiet, I think he was hoping for a reaction from me to diffuse the situation, but I completely ignored him again. My BF appeared understandably uncomfortable, as he too is not privvy to where we stand on the situation. How can he be when I'm not even privvy to it?

Its irksome that these situations arise and I feel forced to behave almost rudely, when I think it is rude of people to make these kind of comments in the first place unless a prior conversation has taken place and they understand where you're at with it.

Aw, ViviPru, visits like that are the worst. It's pretty much impossible to know how to respond some times!

Still no AF and that makes 7 days of no show.
Going to buy another test just in case, it would be fantasic if it was a bfp.

Lw

LW, hows it going? What do you think DP is going to say?

Vivipru I have the same from my mum and IL's! We've taken to getting really pissed off at this point. After asking was i pregnant when DH called to tell MIL I was in A&E with appendicitis shes shut up asking about my uterus every five seconds, and I think me refusing to see her for 3 days got arround and they all stopped asking thank god!!

Getting all excited now, as 3 cycles away from when we are going to start so all the stuff like vitamins and charting to have an idea and stuff. Also planning our last solo (very boozy at this rate) christmas and holiday. We were saving ALL this years holiday to go to my brothers wedding, but now thats not happening abroad DH has decided we should have a big romantic hoilday when we start TTC. Soppy thing at times he is [hblush]

Thanks, ladies, good to know I'm not the only one. I know people don't mean to be rude, but I'm often astounded by peoples tactlessness. The couple in question are waiting to TTC DC2, but I don't probe them about this as I wouldn't want to hit a nerve. I'd only discuss it with them if they made it obvious they were comfortable talking about it.

Just grumpy this week - sorry :(

Well still no AF, I did another pg test and it a bfn. [hsad]
Mentioned it to DP and well he thought it was strange and nothing more on the matter. [hconfused] I'm hoping some wonderful kids will answer the door tonight. As I have seen a mummie on a bike and scream mask.

I have no idea why AF did not turn up, but all tests a a bfn.
I'm going on the pill for a little while as a baby in winter would crush us financialy.

Vivi - my sister loves to wind me up about having children. [hangry] she loves to blert it out to anyone that can hear. So I just ignore her.

Lw
P.s
Does anyone walk threw the baby isle to get that smell.

oh yes... I also go visit my 4 month old niece just to sniff her.

Evening all

Ittybitsymum I really do sympathise with you on the spreadsheet. One of my main worries is money, I just don?t know how we will do it! I?ve had a very good upbringing, just want to be able to do the same when we have children! Good luck with the job tho!!

Vivipru I am soo fed up of the ?when you having a baby? stuff. Or the ?ooh is that a wee tummy I see??? No, I?m just eating too much chocolate! Why do people feel the need to comment?!?! Its really rude!

MrsTwinks I think we?ll be trying to conceive at the same time! I?m taking the conception vitamins just now and working at being all healthy! Aww at your romantic husband! We?re also having a good holiday in January, start the trying in style! [hwink]

LW sorry for being a bit confused, are you off contraception just now? If so maybe your body is just settling? Since coming off the pill my periods have been all over the place!

Nothing new for me really, occasionally I?m broody mostly I?m just scared![hblush]

Weesooty- well I just didn't take the pills very strictly. It's nice to know that it's normal not to have a AF sometimes.

I'm going back to school tomorrow, well doing my nvq 2. I've placed all my bits of paper in a orderly folder. This will deffently be hard tomorrow as I will be using my brain.

Lw

LittleWater I've heard stress can cause missed AF but never had it happen to me. That said, missing AF, especially if you've previously been regular, can sometimes signal trouble (can't speak to the effects of the pill as I can't take it!) If AF stays AWOL and there's no BFP it might not a bad idea to get a once-over from a gp to be sure there's nothing funny going on down there.

As for the lot of you Baby sniffing? Baby sniffing?! Oh my god you guys. I love this thread.

LW my AF was once 15 days late and I had a 45 day cycle. I knew I had ovulated late because I was charting, and my luteal phase was exactly the same length as always, so while hopeful, I was pretty sure I wasn't pregnant. With me it was work stress.