Waiting to try to conceive

[Amonstercooper]

Another thread for those who are waiting to try for a baby. It doesn't matter how long or short the wait; why you are waiting; or how many DC you have. All are welcome.

Old thread here.

I have suggested this one, if you want to continue with the same crowd, otherwise perhaps the September bus?

How is everyone thats staying here - especially this week?
I am on such an emotional rollercoaster for so many reasons - I love Christmas, my mum is coming from abroad for the 1st time in years which is fab, our house is now a home as lots of diy jobs have finally finished and it feels so cosy...
Then there's the kids thing about Christmas, I keep catching myself wishing I was pregnant now, that hopefully I will be at some stage of pregnancy this time next year, and how much I want to share christmas with children
The xmas babycrack is even worse! All the cute xmas outfits, toys and decorations...
So I'll be the emotional one in the corner, grining away but unable to hold back the tears

Thanks Awayinamangercooper :-) Not sure if anyone is on it yet to be honest but there you are.

Right then All, let's batten down the hatches and get down to some excessive and fancy free Christmas shennanigans! No half measures anyone, next Christmas we'll all be in such a state of diffedness that we'll only just be able to stomach a small gaviscon.

Stuckinthefens I know exactly what you mean about Christmas undiffed it is the worst time of year with all the family around so lovely thinking "oh if only". Still, nothing that a few bottles glasses of wine won't sort out. Thank god I won't be OV the weekend of Christmas, I can only imagine the dizzy heights my usual menkul behaviour might scale!

Just got word my cousin had a baby boy this morning. Absolutly delighted for her as she has been concentrating on her career for so long and will be an amazing mom!!

Went to see another friend who has a baby, and god forgive me but isnt loving motherhood, is moaning bout her baby not being text book as it crys, has a 'maid' ( i live in the middle east so maids are comman practise out here) ,so the maid is minding the baby, sleepin with the baby instead of the mom and its sickening me. I want to scream at her, give me the fucking child since you dont seem to want her and il take her in a blink of an eye you selfish cow! Ugh hormone rush there sorry!

God Its tough seeing so many ppl having babies and knowing i have to wait for my hubbie to say YEAH or NAY, im frustrated and im sad and im feeling sorry for myself too. Sorry Moan over! :(

I tell myself that this time next year i will be hopefully pregnant and to enjoy this Xmas, the drinks and food and enjoy but its so hard, i really feel sorry for myself and trying to not take it out on my hubbie for making me wait for 1.5 yrs alreayd and now another 6months before TTC.
Having a little cry to myself and il be ok i suppose. Plus my family coming over for xmas so i cant let on any of this, so gotta put on the ol brave face too.

Ah freckly a fellow victim of FOF, eh?

So what's the story with your DH? Does he have the baybee fear? Or is he just being mean?! Why are you waiting six more months?

Hello again! I haven't posted since the thread changed, because we had put ttc'ing back a year to mid-2013 and it was all too depressing. We have since changed our minds (when I say 'we' you know I mean DH!) and brought it forward again, to April 2012. But that means starting vitamins etc, so it feels like things are progressing (so there is hope freckly!)

Christmas is harder though, am trying my best to enjoy the cheese, and wine though! I also keep thinking, this time next year...

Mmmm back home (and not in the fens) and enjoying the booze being passed around!
I may not have much time for mumsnetting for next few days so Happy Christmas to all the ladies on here! (just thought maybe there are also some guys lurking on here as well??? If there are then seasons greetings to you as well!)
Right time to get up and do some organising, is it too soon for a baileys?

Happy Christmas Stuckinthefens. Get stuck into the Baileys!

Heavensnet good heavens do you really mean to tell me that DHs can move the goalposts forward as well as back?

Apparently so! I was somewhat staggered myself. Although not surprised he couldn't cope with my broodiness any longer!

Definitely get going on the baileys (I'm on sherry, and very alcoholic Christmas cake tonight)

Happy Christmas stuckinthefens

Merry Chrstmas everyone!!!!!
I'm on an absolute high as we've just got back from the most amazing snowboarding holiday and hubby has said TTC is till on despite all the job worries... so yes away they can move move the goalposts forwards, backwards - whichever way they like it seems!!! He was even cooing over some of the teeny tiny babies we saw
Had been planning to have my coil taken out last week but wasn't able to get an appt so have to wait til first week of Jan, then it's one more AF to go and we're off!
Will def be on the new thread, thanks for doing that btw away - really hope you'll be on there yourself soon. Think I'm def gonna be in need of some friendly ears during the ACTUAL ttc period earing in mind how obsessed I've become since we started thinking about it!
So au revoir everyone, happy drinking, eating of cheese and all the other bad stuff we need to get out of the way - here's to a happy and successful 2012 - whatever you're aiming for xxxxx

Nenehoo & HeavensNetiswide Delighted for you, There is hope as you said, got fingers crossed for you.

Ladies sorry for the moan!! Feeling ok,

Well Awayinawayamanagercooper, My hubbie is just being selfish really, just doing his own thing, doing his business and delaying 6mths so he can finish his business. He does want kids and knows im desperate to have them but has the fear slightly but is mainly just being selfish. Its so frustrating. he is 100% behid me coming off the pill and im now off it and he knows we have to be careful etc. So i suppose he knows there is a risk of pregnancy but he just doesnt want to 'actively' try until he says so.

We had an ok xmas until xmas eve when his uncle died which as you can imagine just put a bad feeling on it all. So hoping 2012 will be our year.

Hope all the ladies have a great new year!! xxxxx

hi ladies, just to say, bye for now! We're officially trying, although missed my most likely to get pg time this month, so really we're trying properly next month. (this is my excuse for living off left over pork pies and champange without a thought to watching my diet if I want to increase my chances to actually getting pregnant).

for the rest of you, I hope it's not too long a wait.

Hi everyone, can I join please? Me and dh have 1 ds already, he's 9 months. Completely unplanned, I've never been bothered about babies, never had a maternal bone in my body prior to having ds.

Well, since having him I'm desperate for another baby! We can't start TTC yet as we own a tiny 2 bed flat (3rd floor, no lift!) so it's bad enough with 1 baby, let alone 2! We are waiting until house prices go up enough for us to have a house deposit, or until dh gets a few decent payrises to save for a bigger deposit.

I'm lucky that dh is almost as broody as I am, I've become a SAHM since having ds as our salaries meant we were at that annoying income level where we can't get any financial help if I went back (even part time) so once we paid childcare we were really no better off me working.

Hope everyone had a fantastic Christmas, ds is an amazing age foe his first Xmas - helped rip the paper off his own prezzies and shared Christmas dinner with us. I'd love to try next summer so there'd be 2 years between them, but for now I'm just having to content myself with drooling over friend's babies!

Hope everyone had a lovely christmas and has nice plans for the new year! Christmas is definitely the hardest time and I seem to have had lots of babies of friends and family to buy for so lots of excuses to check out the baby clothes and toys!

I have def been tucking into the baileys though fens

DH mum said she had some pictures developed of him holding his sisters baby and looks really smiley (he normally hates having his picture taken!) so I think she has her hopes up that it wont be too long until there is another grandchild! DH is broody, there is photographic evidence!

freckly hope you're feeling better, it is hard when it seems like your OH doesn't understand the urgency. I hope 6 months doesn't feel like forever.

hi rockchick

Having a bit of a crying day today as my stupid doctor has screwed up so much now that should I need my rubella vaccination I'm going to have to wait even longer. 3 fucking months to get the bloodtest done and now 3 weeks waiting for the results. I called up today and they are in but the doctor hasn't reviewed them yet, i mean FFS the practice nurses are in sympathy with me now as its taking so bloody long, every time they see me its the sorry face :( Christmas was lovely as I just forgot about it all and was thinking how nice next year with LO or very near, and now looks like it'll end up being a 2013 baby. So frustrated and disapointed now and no one IRL to talk to about it :( we've our holiday booked for some alone TTC time and now its going to be sad because I'll be thinking we should be and I've somehow developed a reaction to bloody lubricants on the condoms so DH isnt chuffed his shagathon holiday aint happening

..... and breathe.. Hopefully I will end up being immune but the way my luck is running I bloody doubt it :(

Hi everyone,

Can I join you please? I've never posted on a forum before, but I think that's because I've not felt so passionately about something before.

Feel like I've been waiting TTC for about 5 years - have always been v broody and ever since I met DH 5 yrs ago it's like my maternal instincts went into overdrive. Literally think about babies every day. Sometimes I think I'm going crazy - I know my DH does!

Have been waiting for "the right time" and especially to get married and buy our own place 1st. Well last year bought a flat and got married in Oct 2011. When I talked to DH about a year ago about it we'd sort of said we'd TTC in Feb 2012 - few months of marriage first. But I keep getting really impatient. And he has no idea how in my head I'll start planning and then kind of get surprised when he doesn't want to just start trying straight away (had a bit of an argument about this over Xmas as it was the right time of the month and I thought "why not?" Apparently I go on about it too much - I worry that it will turn him off the whole thing entirely).

Anyway, so the plan is to wait until Feb (in my head that's the 1st of Feb). However, our problem is compounded b/cause I have vaginismus making sex really really painful. So not sure how often / if we'll be able to try. DH wants to get this all sorted out before we start TTC, but I've been trying to sort it out on and off for about 3 years and nothing has worked. It really stresses me out anyway and now I feel like there's this extra pressure - like we can't even think about TTC until sex is sorted (there are other ways of TTC although admittedly not so effective). I want to try both at the same time.

Massively frustrated! Sorry for the long post. I've not talked to anyone about this before so got a lot of pent up emotion...

Sounds like you are having a rough time of it :( Your DH is probably holding things in. Men are weird, I know mine is as broody as me (after my crying episode yesterday) he just doesnt want to go on about it incase theres a problem etc etc. And relax, don't stress because as i understand thats not going to help with the vaginismus.

Thank you MrsTwinks.

Sounds like you're having a bit of a tough time yourself. Fingers crossed you'll be immune (and they'll hurry up and tell you). If they've given you the jab, chances are you will be - and then holiday plans will be back on! :-)

If not, then my strategy has been plenty of - not hugely advisable I must admit, but it does help.

well.. I should know later as I called up, explained the obscenely massive delay of two months to the receptionist and the doctor will call me after surgery I'm told. If not, even angrier call tomorrow. Fingers crossed its ok, and I have an illicit lunch featuring baby cuddles and going over DN outgrown baby things friday

I hope everyone had a wonderful party time. Yes, I've been away and nothing has changed.

Well I'm hoping to get a bigger car (hint, hint)

Hope everywoman has had better news.

That made me laugh as about 3 weeks ago sil got a massive people carrier, and dh said he thought we should get one for "the baby". Aside from not being even ttc yet how big does he think one baby is?

Doctor did call, I'm all immune, so now just patiently waiting until feb 1st. Got a works review tomorrow too so maybe I can talk myself into a handy payrise

Hi

I've been lurking on MN for a few days now, I have spent the past two reading this thread from the beginning and now feel ready to post on here!! Deep down I've always wanted to be a Mum but whenever family or friends have asked I've always said no to thought of Children only because I wasn't ready at the time - now it's a different story!

DH is desperate to TTC and has been for years, I agreed to discuss the possibility of a family once we'd been married a year. Due to different circumstances we didn't even talk about it but as our two anniversary approached last year we started discussions.

We have a massive family holiday planned for June so we decided to start then and at the time 2012 seemed miles away. To help my body prepare I took my last pill at the weekend and 2012 is actually here I appear to have become completely obsessed.

It feels so strange to have made such a huge life changing decision but only having DH to talk. I've never posted on any sort of forum before, only been a lurker so I'm so excited to be able to share the anticipation and nerves.

Congratulations to all of you who agree TTC now the new year is here xx

Hi hope you don't mind if I join too! I have also been lurking on here since its discovery a few weeks ago and it has been feeding my obsession. Its nice to hear that Im not alone. I would say I have been broody since .....well since forever really, love babies love kids and simply can't WAIT to have my own.
Currently Im in my final year and qualify august as a childrens nurse so I am lucky enough to be able to spend a lot of time with babies and children all be it at their worste and poorly :( I think if I didn't do this job i would be struggling even more to wait to have one of my own. Am 25 have been with Other Half for nearly four years have lived together two and although talked about marriage a lot although it is not a number 1 priority for us, although I do find myself feeling that I ''should'' be married before ttc but this is because of everyone elses opinions and not my own. I am hoping to get a job in the next few mths to start sept 12 and OH is starting a new career as a driver ''hopefully'' in the next month or 2 as its better money than he is on now. Once we both have job offers we are looking to get a mortgage and buy our first family home :)..something else I want before a baby comes along as we currently rent.
So we are waiting until either when I start my new job Sept 2012 or EVEN more sensibly jan 2013 which would entitle me to a year maternity paid leave but.....I don't think I can wait that long :(. I am totally obsessed its driving me absolutely crazy I just feel like forgetting all of theses plans and ttc now at least I will be qualified by the time baby is due , could we afford to survive on one wage though? just about maybe ...at a push ....I know its the right thing to wait but its taking over my life thinking about it . By the way OH would love to have kids but doesn't mind waiting until the time is right ,obviously hasnt got the overwhelming URGE that I have which thankfully you understand as its so hard to explain. Christmas has been hard as I absolutely love it but feel I am missing out as I feel its a time for children.Also friends announced their pregnancy recently and other couple announced they are ttc which leaves me although happy for them utterly devastated at the same time (I know its bad ).So there you have it in a nutshell (kinda) sorry if I've gone on a bit its just nice to get it all out there any feed back greatly appreciated x