Waiting to try to conceive

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Another thread for those who are waiting to try for a baby. It doesn't matter how long or short the wait; why you are waiting; or how many DC you have. All are welcome.

Old thread here.

Hello again, I've been off this thread for a while trying to avoid obsessing about babies too much but last night DH and I had a good chat about how we were feeling re starting TTC in two short weeks and it got me all over excited again. So glad to have MN for feedback and support!

Weesooty glad you were ok at cousin's baby shower, I have to avoid making broody comments around DH's newphews as they are sooo cute and I could totally give myself away there. It is frustrating when others seem to drift along with no plan and everythings works out whereas others put so much time, effort and consideration into these things

MrsPeggyPatch- hello! Sounds like you and me are in a similar situation ('cept the weight- but well done on that!!) It is SUPER hard to keep it a secret when you want to talk to people and tell them everything, but it will be worth it as and when you can. Also got lots of pregnant colleagues and a few friends (no close ones, but friends).... and it's hard to keep it in! Gluk!

Hello everyone, Espally new peeps!
Just a quick post, thier has been 5 people at work that are pregnant. One of the girls at work said ohhhhh..... Your next. Of course I just shrugged it off, but my heart wanted to leap and say you really think so. :)

Yes I know I'm crazy, but still my DH is against kids, something to do with the world being screwed. Oh well back to the grind stone.

Lw

I just bought a thermometer!!!

Nenehoo -very exciting!

CEDR - Its so hard to keep it in. Especially when I'm sure people are starting to guess I'm gearing up for it - losing weight/learning to drive etc! (When I told a friend at work howI was learning to drive, and I was saying it was an important life skill I didn't have, her reply was yes,and it will be useful if you have babies...!)

DH and I just spent the weekend with my God-daughter who is just over a year. Was a bit different from what we had planned as my friend (god-daughters mum) had the winter vomiting virus so we were on babysitting duties! DH was so cute with her, made me super broody- especially when she came for sleepy hugs with me! Though it was super tiring!

Downside being that I then caught the blooking virus, spent all yesterday throwing up (and the rest) and couldn't even keep water down. Now on my second day off work, no longer throwing up but as I've only had half a glass of water and a ginger biscuit in the last 36 hours I think I best stay in bed!

Quite scared now about ttc - we start the 2nd week of december with the 2ww finishing on Christmas eve (not brilliant timing- will be at in-laws so not sure how I'll be re the inevitable disappointment!). More scared now about being pregnant- the last 24hrs made me think lots about morning sickness! ARGH! Something I'm not looking forward to!

CEDR and everyone- it is so hard not having anyone except DH to talk to about it. I have spoken to mum a bit but you know what grandparents are like, it'd be their 1st so dont want to get them too excited!
I got the job I went for, yay, really not that excited about it as I'm not really sure if it's what I want to be doing long term, but it means a safe secure job with maternity leave so that's what I'm focused on right now...
DH surprised me at the weekend by suggesting we start TTC after my current period... Ie right now!! I was sooo tempted... But really need to not miss this family holiday, I know it's unlikely but if we did get lucky this cycle that would place due date smack bang in the middle of the holiday. As it only comes around once every 5 or 6 years I think I can wait one month to start!

Wow Moggle such restraint! I am the naughty one everytime we DTD suggesting to not use the condoms!! DH finds this hilarious now and half-expects to catch me with his bedside drawer with a large pin... And of course a big hearty congratulations on the job!! Given I have a totally unsecure job I am looking to being a SAHM... or part-time phd (this idea has popped up in my brain again) or part-time something else.

peggy CEDR and moggle - arrrgh keeping it in is the worst part. A close friend (her DH is close friend of my DH) who lives up the road whose DC#1 is due in January is pretty much the only person that fully knows aside from DH. In fact we're working on a cunning shared childcare plan, so she's VERY keen for me to pop in October or so because it's when she'd be going back to work part-time! Others have inklings that we'll be starting soon (but it has been couched by us in vague 1-3 years terms). The only other person I had to tell was a former colleague who wanted me to apply for a job that was advertised at my old work - one of the main reasons I didn't apply is because I want to be pg/DC#1 born by this time next year, and we don't want our child/ren to go into full-time nursery care at young age. So I had to tell her I was actively TTC to shut the questions down (did you apply?? when's the interview??). She is very sensitive and has said she's not going to ask questions in case it doesn't happen straight away (very nice of her!!).

The big celebration for us that will kick of TTC is when I have FINALLY PAID OF MY STUDENT LOAN at the end of December (according to my calculations!). I'm so excited and I just want to get rid of it! That is the equivalent of around £30k (NZ$65k) of debt paid off since MAY. Since graduating in 2007 I had only paid off £5k of the total balance so this was a big effort. I am damn proud of myself - all motivated by getting my DCs sooner rather than later (and the nasty 7% interest rate... thanks NZ government)! So you can also guess I have some strong views on introducing tertiary fees and larger student loans in the UK and elsewhere....

Bloody hell Zara that's impressive!!! Well done! DH paid his last instalment last month. Daren't look at mine, after 3 yrs of paying it and 3 yrs of not I'm almost back where I started, I suspect!!

Yay lots of exciting news on here!!! I'm not telling ANYONE and itis absolute hell, hence my addiction to MN!!! X

Morning all
i have really worked hard to keep it all in lately because i know it's doing dh's head in. on the flip side tho he's the one that keeps bringing it up and i know he is so undecided about having another so i'm letting him come to his own decision. he knows my feelings and i think now if we decided not to have anymore children I'll be fine but i'm secretly hoping!

moggle congratulations on the job. i know your not sure it's in what you want but it is another step closer

nenehoo- snap!

I've got a lot of different groups of friends- from the main group we will be the first couple ttc (afaik), but we do have friends on the periphery who have recently sprogged.

So we've decided not to tell anyone. All my friends know I love kids, and that my husband (sorry, can't quite bring myself to call him DH!) being a few years older than me would like kids sooner than I might if I were with someone my own age!

It's so hard not to tell anyone anything- and waiting to ttc is really hard. I've had superb phantom period pains since coming off the depo last week.... and I can't even tell anyone that as if they know I'm expecting a period at some point, they'll probably know I'm off the depo! Argh!

Working at home today with a warm cat to sit on my lap!

My CBFM turned up yesterday..... I sooooooo wanna start using it!!! Going to my new GP for a pre-conception checkup tomorrow - so it's a week of fun! Good distraction from the face work is being a complete PITA at the moment....

Fertility Friend tells me that my most fertile days next month are 27 Dec onwards..... Errrrrrr wondering if DH would be convinced by the argument that it is pretty much the same as starting TTC in January...??? stupid cycle! I don't want to have to wait until the second half of January!!!!

zara good luck at the doctors. Very tempted to change mine as they've cocked up my Rubella blood test so after a month of appointments and them messing up still no idea. Feeling a bit dejected, surely this part shouldn't be so hard right?

hello - another new joiner here!
Am broody as hell but have to wait till March... Its a good reason though - we're heading on a 'last opportunity' type of holiday in February for 2 months - and as its physical (snowboarding) I wouldn't be able to go if pregnant... So halfway through the holiday we are going to stop being careful and take it from there.
But because its on my mind I've been looking and lurking on this site so hello everyone!!!
Am I also completely mad (or obsessed!!!) that I keep counting out - if it happens in March we get a christmas baby, if its April its a January baby and so on!!! I realise its a bit crazy because these things aren't always straightforward... but somehow I can't stop myself

Hello everyone,
Hello newbies, welcome to the mad world of waiting to ttc.
I tryed talking to my DP, about a baby. The answer I got was and I quote
"get a cat"

Lw

you should point out to DP that when the cat is 8 it will still be pooing in a box and making you clean it, demanding to be fed, open doors etc, while an 8yr old kid can flush the loo, open a packet of crisps as well as doors and whats more should be capable of making him a cuppa/getting him a beer from the fridge. It worked on my mum :P

seriously it sucks when they are like that, hopefully he will come arround

Veni for me it's the sheer number of people who go from not thinking about TTC at all to trying straight away - or at least that seems to happen for a lot of people. Both partners are just spontaneously ready and on board out of nowhere, and before I know it I'm reading their birth story.

StuckintheFens a two week holiday? Wow!

*month

My brain is totally taken up with baby thoughts. Haven't spent much time with my OH this week, so when I have its been all baby baby baby! He's fine about it though as it was his decision to ttc!

Been 2 weeks off the Depo and my hormones are s bit haywire! Was on the pill for 8.5 yrs and then Depo for 1.5 yrs so my body is s bit confused. Had 2 weeks of period pains and been feeling very fuzzy and weird for a couple I'd days! I hope it all settles down soon so we can ttc!

AwayInAManger its been a dream for ages - to get good at snowboarding and the only way is an intense period on snow. Not gonna have the opportunity (time or money!) to do that with a bunch of kids so we are gonna do it this winter.

Mentally I so want to to be pregnant now! but I know in the long run as a couple we need to do this trip before family - otherwise we'd regret it/find it hard (read impossible!) in the future.

Its such an eyeopener reading these forums and finding people in similar(ish) predicaments to me about needing to wait but bursting to do it now!
I'd never been massively driven to have a family and after a few bad relationship experiences and my age (36) had kind of written it off. Then I met my boyfriend and have been astonished at how strong that biological urge is. What made me realise its what I really want is when we had a bit of an unplanned pregnancy scare - I was so devastated when my late period eventually arrived - it shocked both of us that it was the overriding emotion.
So its great to find this place - I can vent my broodiness here and give my boyfriend a bit of space!

StuckintheFens that is exactly the same as our situation, we've booked a trip to the States to drive the route from LA to Vegas, to the Grand Canyon and then up through the National Parks to San Francisco in May. It coincides with the date I'll qualify for additional maternity pay in my new job.

MN is such a good place to share and vent. This thread has been fantastic.

hi - sorry I have been trying to staying off this thread to stop the constant brooding. Probably not the right thread for this post as its not so much to do with ttc.

I'm having a bad week and just needed to get it out of my system.I used to work in an excellent company with very nice people for the past 4 years, but the job was not the right fit for me. So I changed jobs and found my dream job at a very reputed company, but sadly after a month there discovering that the job is good but the people and culture not so good. I miss my friends and colleagues at my old job :'( feel very isolated and lost at new place.

On the other hand I am feeling very very baby obsessed but we have to financially wait till March / April. Walked into Mothercare today to get a pressie for a 1yr old and just looking around made the babycrack addiction worse.....Just wish all the pieces would fall into place - roll on 2012. Cracking open some vino! I can't believe I am actually looking forward to taking Folic Acid....never thought I'd feel this obsessed.