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Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

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LAF77 · 27/09/2011 08:52

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

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Biscuitsandtea · 07/10/2011 15:07

Oh Moomin, I am so so sorry to hear your news. Sad

I hope you have lots of RL support, but I'm thinking of you. I know there is nothing we can say to help, but we're here if you would like to talk.

Try to take care of yourself xxxx

Biscuitsandtea · 07/10/2011 15:09

I meant to say too, I hope Monday brings you some answers - will be thinking of you xx

stitchinline · 07/10/2011 15:17

moomin so very sorry to hear your news Sad is such a sad time and thinking of you. Hope you have lots of RL support and will be thinking of you on Monday.

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LAF77 · 07/10/2011 15:59

moomin so sad to read this msg, what a horrible shock. I hope that you have a sensitive GP who can refer you to a consultant/specialist to do the RMC tests so you can get answers. Surely, as you've had 4 mcs now, you should be allowed to be tested.

Thinking of you at this sad time.

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digitalgirl · 07/10/2011 16:30

moomin Sad so so sorry to read this news. It's heartbreaking, even more so that you've been through this so many times. I agree with LAF that you should push for testing even though you may not feel like pushing for anything at all. If only to lessen the worry next you get pregnant - knowing that you've ruled certain causes out. Have you read Lesley Regan's book, it's fairly comprehensive - although it doesn't cover immunological issues (which is what I'm being treated for). Don't feel you have to sign off for fear of upsetting us, we're a resilient bunch. But do feel free to pm me if you have any questions about recurrent miscarriage testing - I've had all the tests.

googie hope you're ok.

shellshock7 · 07/10/2011 16:38

So sorry to hear your news moomin, what a terrible shock. Hope you are being looked after in RL. Understand if you want to leave the thread, but please don't leave for fear of upsetting us.

Velvetcu · 07/10/2011 17:37

moomin I'm so sorry to hear your news SadSad

dooscooby · 07/10/2011 17:41

Really sorry to hear your news moomin. when you feel ready I hope they offer you the tests-stupid rules in my opinion. Take care and best of luck in the future x

LadyMaybe · 07/10/2011 17:48

Oh moomin god, how awful, I'm so so sorry that you're being put through this, and had to find out this way, it must have been a terrible shock. I echo the others in saying please don't feel you need to go immediately (or at all) especially if you have questions about the surgery or anything else. It's such a hard thing to go through without worrying alone, we'll be here to hold your hand and listen as much as you need. I'm so so very sorry. Awful, unfair, and very very sad.

bigmacandhappymeal · 07/10/2011 18:30

I'm so sorry Moomin xx

Biscuitsandtea · 07/10/2011 18:31

Seconded (or thirded, or fourthed or whatever) about not feeling you have to leave us unless you want to Moomin xx

mousebacon · 07/10/2011 20:08

Lots of love moomin if you need some info about what the surgery will entail please feel free to pm me.

My heart goes out to you xx

Biscuitsandtea · 07/10/2011 20:17

Any word from googie?

Thinking of you lots this evening moomin xx

LimeFlower · 07/10/2011 20:25

So sorry moomin Sad

googietheegg · 08/10/2011 10:18

Hello all, moomin just seen your post and wanted to say I'm sorry you had the news we all dread. How are you feeling today?

I'm very lucky to have had good news this time. We had a scan and saw the baby and it's measuring 8+2 which is what we thought, and heard the heartbeat. So all is well thankfully. When can I stop mentalling though??

How's everyone else today?

KatAndKit · 08/10/2011 10:19

:) for good news googie sounds like a perfect scan. I'm sorry to say I don't think the mentalling ever goes away! But hopefully you can relax a bit more now.

Velvetcu · 08/10/2011 10:36

googie that's great news. You never stop mentalling though I'm afraid!

digitalgirl · 08/10/2011 10:49

What a relief googie - pleased scan went well.

moomin thinking of you today.

Biscuitsandtea · 08/10/2011 11:08

Glad it was good news Googie

Thinking of you today Moomin xx

scarletfingernail · 08/10/2011 13:16

Great scan news Googie Smile

stitchinline · 08/10/2011 13:43

So pleased for you googie Grin

LimeFlower · 08/10/2011 14:03

moomin thinking about you,take care of yourself
googie great news :)

Feeling crap today but managed to eat a roll.I just don't feel like doing anything,I could sleep and sleep and sleep.Wish I could hibernate till my due date and wake up with baby in my arms.Back to work next week,how the heck I'll survive?

LivinInTheMoment · 08/10/2011 15:03

Ah Moomin so sad, i'm gutted to read your news. sending massive hugs your way. Hope you can relax this weekend and have some time to yourself and your partner.

Good news Googie

Well i got my apmt about my bloods, for feck sake they lost half my bloods so thats why i had to go back in to give them more. Ugghhh. I was in there for about 4 hours altogether. It was soo busy in the clinic that morning. I was there extra long as i had to see the doc too cos of my joint pain, so they are giving me a belt to wear. Whatever. I am so fed up of docs nurses and the like right now. Next apmt in 2 weeks for the results of the other bloods.

Hope everyone else is well and happy. x

Moominsummermadness · 09/10/2011 09:15

Thank you all for all of your kind words.

Just an update, I kept myself really busy yesterday, and did lots of moving heavy stuff around, hoping to get things moving naturally. I started cramping at about 6pm, and have had some bleeding, but it's not really progressed much. I've got a feeling I will end up with the ERPC (which I wanted to avoid). I just want to get it all over an done with, and am going to start trying again as soon as I've had a normal cycle. MIL was a midwife until a year ago, and she said I should give it 3 cycles, but I have done my own research, and as long as I have one period, I can start trying. To be pregnant again will be the only way I'm going to get over this, although I will probably be even more anxious than I was this time! If I do manage to get pregnant, I will wait until 8 weeks before having any early scans- I feel like the 6 week scan gave me a false sense of security, although with hindsight, the fact that me dates were put back twice was probably an indicator of things not being right. I was pretty sure of when I conceived, I have 24 days cycles and tend to ovulate on day 10, so when I went for a scan thinking I was 6 weeks, they could only see a gestational sac measuring 5 weeks, then when they called me back 13 days later, there was the embryo, but only measuring 6 weeks 4 days, not 6 weeks 6. I also had to be dildo-cammed for these scans, with DD3 I could see her with an abdominal scan, and I'm the same weight as I was then. I know for next time(hopefully!) that I will trust my gut instincts- I was constantly worrying about the fact my boobs were never really sore, my nausea wore of pretty much at 9 weeks, and I just felt different to when I had DC.
People have been lovely. My line manager turned up yesterday with a beautiful basked of flowers and some chocolates (with DH has mostly devoured!!)- she'd told everyone at work (on my request) as they all knew I was pregnant, and they'd had a collection for me. As soon as I saw her on the doorstep, I dissolved into tears. We're having a move around at work onto different teams, but she said she'll request that I can stay with her, as she's been a brilliant support to me. MIL and FIL came around with more flowers, and brought us some new net curtains(!) as we needed some, and then my parents came over with yet more flowers and some much needed TLC. DH is at work until 5pm today, so it's a bit strange. He's not really upset about the baby, as he hadn't bonded with it, but he's very concerned about me.
I don't know where I would have been without the support from all of you. I will be back for a final update once miscarriage is complete, but I will also keep lurking as I want to see how you all get on.
xxx

Biscuitsandtea · 09/10/2011 09:56

Ah *Moomin, I'm sorry you're going to have to go through the erpc Sad. I'm glad people are looking after you though.

I do hope you get pg again quickly once you're ready to start trying. Do take care of yourself. Thinking of you xx