Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Big congratulations to you hairy :0) x x

Congratulations hairy that's brilliant and what a gorgeous name for your little girl :) xx

Wow congratulations hairy what fantastic news. I am still waiting for ds to be born (I am 8 days overdue and seriously mentalling). They will start me off on Friday if he does not come and seeing the Obstrician tomorrow.

Hairy congratulations!

Congrats too, Lollopy, sounds like a lovely scan, hopefully you'll be able to enjoy being pregnant more now.

Amandine not yet in maternity clothes but my skirts are definitely sticking out rather awkwardly, and when I have to wear nasty holdy-in pants I can't wait to get them off at the end of the day. V bloated, and muscles giving up on me already. At least after my scan next week it'll stop being a big secret, so I can stop trying to squeeze into my normal work clothes.

Not much news here, nausea is worse in the evenings but still not vomiting (was close last night though....). I think it peaked around 9-10 weeks with DS, was very similar to this - unpleasant but manageable (I survived a 4 day exam between 9 and 10 weeks with DS!). Unfortunately it was 16 weeks before I really felt better. But if it's a healthy pregnancy it's definitely worth it.

Going on holiday next Friday - holiday cottage with friends, can't wait. I'm a bit nervous as last time I went on holiday I was 11 weeks pregnant and miscarried while I was away. We'll be closer to a main road and hospital this time at least (not intentional!)... I'm having my scan the day before though, so if all is well hopefully I'll be able to go away and really relax and enjoy it, and get some rest.

Phew! Had my 12 week scan today and baby is definitely there, alive and kicking :) I think I might start letting myself get a bit more excited now, although since I haven't been thinking any further along than today I still need to decide when and who to tell. I still don't want to make a massive announcement but will start with family (apart from parents and siblings who know already) and close friends. DH is totally up for shouting from the rooftops but I'm a bit more cautious!

Congratulations on the lovely scan news lollopy and pan

After allowing myself to start feeling positive after my good scan at 6 weeks and trying to see the constant nausea as a good think I had 2 nightmares last night where I lost the baby . I woke up and thought it was true for a few seconds and it was just awful. I've emailed the fertility clinic where we had a check up to see of they'll scan me even though I'm not technically their patient but no reply yet, there doesn't seem to be anywhere within an hours drive from here that does private scans and I need to go local to fit it in whilst dd is at school - she was there when I found out about the mc and I don't want a repeat of that

*thing not think

Lollopy and Panpipe :) for great scans. I love seeing the scans it is just amazing and makes it seem so much more real!!

Tumble I was like you felt sick but did not ever vomit, it all stopped about 2 weeks ago and energy levels are on the up too, well they were until I picked up some nasty bug!

I had another scan last week as I am under the consultant, and wowsers baby has grown loads, cannot wait for the next one 20 week in just under 4weeks. I am quite lucky as they are doing another one at 28 and then again at 34 weeks, so we get to see it loads! 16 week check today and all is good, the midwife said she has no concerns at all!

Hi ladies, it is such amazing news for you hairy (have said that on another thread somewhere but it's worth saying twice!)
I have been off MN for a bit as not allowing myself to get excited about pregnancy in case I MC again but I'm 6 weeks today and so far so good. Still no proper nausea but sore boobs and tiredness. I had a bit of a freak out earlier in the week because I had been truly knackered and was less so one night, but hubby did point out this might be because I had slept for hours longer than usual the night before! I still don't feel properly pregnant most of the time but when I remember that I am (at least for today) I do have a little smile to myself!
I am 6+2 on Saturday and that is when I have MC'd both times before...if I make it a few days past that I will allow myself to make a doctor's appt and ask for a scan at 8 weeks at the EPU, which they said I could have if I got pg again after the last mc.

All your scans sound lovely and I can't wait to have one at a more exciting stage - at 8 weeks I'm just hoping to hear a heartbeat. Hope the morning sickness is starting to wear off for those who are suffering :)

Hi all! Pan and Confu3ed great scan news!

Pan i can't think beyond 12 week scan either (next Thursday, although will be between 11 and 11+4 hopefully). Just hoping it'll be OK, the last one seems such a long time ago now, I can't imagine going round telling everyone, maybe just on a 'need to know' basis. Will have to tell work as they'll have to make plans. Also we're interviewing the week after, if we don't fill the vacancies I don't want to then drop the maternity leave bombshell. And I work at the hospital, someone's bound to notice my tests coming through!

Confu3ed being ill and pregnant at the same time is rough, hope you feel better soon.

funchum hope tomorrow's OK, try to relax and not worry too much, think of that 8 week scan.

Amandine hope you find a scan locally. Babybond have a weekly clinic near us (but I do live in a reasonably big place), they seem to cover a lot of areas. What horrible nightmares, must be such a relief to wake up.

I think people might guess I'm pregnant this weekend. My parents are babysitting tomorrow night, going out with friends for my birthday which was this week, but I will be driving. Will try the usual 'can't be sure I'm not' excuse, it's never really worked though!

Hi mind if I join Im pregnant again after a miscarriage November 2011 I also had one between my 2 sons at 6 1/2 weeks pregnant.
Im so worried Im only 4 weeks and already obsessed about it I just think its going to happen again so if it does I wont be shocked or upset but feel if it does Im going to get really depressed this time.
When should I go to the doctors ? will they do an early scan ? My GP didnt show any sympathy in November. I often think once is bad luck but twice something isnt right with me?

Sorry for moaning on here anyway but as you can see Im freaking out already!

Hello ladies,

I'm delurking again to cautiously rejoin you after dipping my toe in the water 3 weeks ago. To cut a long story short, I have been backwards and forwards to the EPAU for the last 2 1/2 weeks, after a very faint positive HPT, and a few days later a follow-up scan for my mmc in October (I had retained products) showed that I was pregnant, but location was unknown. The EPAU staff were convinced that it was ectopic, as nothing could be seen on scan. However, a tiny 6 week bean could be seen today, in the right place, phew! I wasn't impressed with the EPAU last time around, but they have been really good this time, to be fair. I voiced my fears about not being able to access a scan last time, when I knew something had gone wrong, but they assured me that I can simply self-refer again, should I need to.

Sweetness, congratulations. I understand how you feel, I'm feeling the same. When I saw my GP weeks ago, she said for me to book in for antenatal care at between 6-7 weeks, so I'm going next tuesday when I'll be 7 weeks. It probably depends on your area, could you contact your local EPAU if you are worried? There would be no point in having a scan before 6 weeks though, as they probably wouldn't see anything- as I have found out!

moomin, I was thinking of you today, I'm so pleased it's good news for you.

I. am. so. tired. I'm waiting to hear from the mw to arrange my home visit, and then get a date for my next scan. I'm fluctuating between positive and negative thoughts but mostly trying to ignore the whole thing, which isn't easy as I've ballooned (a friend who doesn't know I'm pregnant actually commented on my thickened waist to another friend who does know yesterday ) and I feel so sick

Hi all! Sweetness, welcome and congratulations! I was the same when I first found out, still anxious and disbelieving. I spoke with my GP early (as I take thyroxine), and saw the midwife at around 7 weeks (1st available appointment). She wasn't that concerned by my miscarriage, and certainly wasn't interested in me having a scan (I did it privately). I'm sure it's different in other areas, and may be different after 2 MCs.

Moomin great news, so reassuring, glad you're being well looked after.

Amandine I know it doesn't feel it, but tired and sick is all good! I wish I could try and ignore - have been obsessing, but not really thinking beyond my scan tomorrow. My waist has definitely 'thickened' too, work clothes feeling rather snug.

Nuchal scan tomorrow, so anxious, realised it's exactly the same gestation as when I found out I was miscarrying. Really hope it'll be different. Going on holiday on Friday, so don't know what I'll do if it's bad news (OK would probably go and spend the week drinking, eating cheese and sitting in the spa).

I'm feeling tired, spent the day with DS today and needed to lie down in the afternoon. He is going through a phase where he just wants to run in the opposite direction all the time, no fear of getting lost or separated or running into the road. Fortunately he obliged and watched telly while I slept, then he fell asleep (literally) on top of me. was rather uncomfortable, but at least he was still and cuddly and gorgeous! Intermittent mild nausea, and nearly constant hunger, but not really feeling bad.

DS also has slight diarrhoea (has had it for a week now, but otherwise completely well, all contained in nappies and only once or twice a day) so he can't go to nursery tomorrow. That means that he'll have to come to the scan as nowhere to leave him. It also means I won't be at work to break the news about my pregnancy before they find out anyway. I might postpone my booking bloods further (or just pop in quickly while we're at the hospital). If the scan goes OK that is, or it isn't an issue. just want the scan to be over!

Thinking of you today tumblebug and fx for happy scan news!

Welcome back moomin, lovely news! Completely get you about things not sinking in though.

Amandine welcome to the tired and sick club! Keep clinging on to the thought that symptoms = good thing - although it certainly doesn't feel like it

The last week has been a bit of a whirlwind for us. I wasn't really thinking of anything past the scan but since that was all good things feel like they've gone crazy! We've told family now but no friends yet; I still can't quite get over the feeling that something could go wrong at any minute so I don't want to make a massive announcement.

As far as work is concerned my boss has sort of forced my hand into telling people 'officially' earlier than planned. Previously only he and my colleagues in my department knew but he's now told the MD when I was hoping to wait a little longer until after a meeting next week. So now since more people seem to be knowing I feel as if I need to get the 'official' thing done now which isn't ideal as it's not to my ideal timing.

I've booked in to NCT classes which start at the end of May; my sis-in-law who's also expecting recommended signing up asap as her local ones are booked up already. It's all very overwhelming! Hope you're all doing well :)

My scan was great, very wriggly baby, saw all it's arms and legs (2 of each!). 11+3, just 1 day behind what I guessed from dates. Just waiting for the Downs screen results - I guess there will always be something more to worry about. I suppose I need to get used to the idea there might be a baby at the end of all of this :)

I feel like you Panpipe - not ready to make a big announcement yet. Your boss was a bit naughty telling people before you were ready, I would have been fuming! I went in to work after the scan, and told my colleague/boss to give as much warning as possible as they may have to make plans to cover me. A few friends know, including those we're going on holiday with, but we will wait for the screening results before telling everyone else (unless I can't keep my mouth shut!).

Lovely news tumble

Thanks for welcoming me back ladies!

Fantastic scan news, panpipe and tumble! panpipe, that's bad about your boss spreading your news. I was really cross with a colleague at work, she overheard me telling another colleague who is a good friend, that I was going to the hospital for a scan (this was over 2 weeks ago, when I didn't know what was going on), and put two and two together. She then loudly announced to another colleague that I was 'going to be a mummy again'. I had to then explain that yes, I was pregnant, but it was unclear whether or not it was in the right place, and even if it was, it was very early days indeed. I felt really uncomfortable.

Amandine, the feeling sick and tired has hit me full force too. I don't know why they call it morning sickness, it seems to be morning, noon and night with little respite. I seem to feel better for about an hour mid-morning, and again for a couple of hours mid-afternoon, but the rest of the time I feel as though I could throw-up at any second. Yet, weirdly, eating seems to help, at least temporarily! Still, I shouldn't complain, if I wasn't feeling like this, I would feel more worried. I'm going to buy some travel sickness bands today, they seemed to help a bit with DD2 and DD3, although I feel more sick this time!

Hi everyone
So glad to hear your scan was positive and there's a lovely wriggler in there, tumblebug. I'm still here at 7+3 which for me is an extremely long pregnancy! Thinking of going to the GP and trying to get a reassurance scan sometime after 8 weeks, but actually somehow I'm not going mad and knicker checking all the time etc! Though after a long, long day at work yesterday (4am to 11pm - school trip to Belgium which I was leading) I wonder sometimes whether I should be more stressed.

Only symptoms are wonderful clear skin, no periods and the odd dizzy moment when I stand up quickly. No nausea as yet but maybe I'll be one of the lucky ones who doesn't get this. Fingers crossed everyone for happy safe pregnancies.

Just to let you all know baby Benjamin was born on Friday 27th January at 9.50am after 2 m/c and 3 years ttc

Congratulations piglet wonderful news, and great name! On holiday, having lovely time, will reply to everyone else when I can, but hope all well.

Thanks tumble well worth the wait . Was mentalling right up until the birth that everything would go wrong, but it did'nt which was good.

a little brother for dd 4.11 yrs