Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

[LAF77]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Hi All, taking the plunge and joining you , having met a few of you on the m/c thread.

Firstly sorry to read your news ostrich, what a horrible time for you, I hope you are getting support in RL.

After a further 9 months (post m/c) I got a BFP on 23 December, two dasy before AF due, am now 7+1 by LMP or more likely 6+4 by O date. I only made it to 6 weeks last time so am feeling positive but have a scan booked for 20 Jan at 8 weeks. Hoping all these beans are sticky ones this time and thank ing you all in advance for your support as I freak out daily!x

Welcome Loup23 and fx for a sticky bean :)

Had my booking appt with the MW today which seemed to go well. She's a lovely jolly Irish lady! I was surprised at how, well not easy, but maybe straightforward it was telling her about the mc last time (she didn't know the history as we've moved house since then). Next milestone will be 12wk scan which I've got the week after next.

Other than that I've been feeling truly awful! Luckily I haven't actually been throwing up but have been feeling like I'm about to pretty much 24 hours a day for the last 3 weeks! It was nowhere near this bad last time so I'm trying to tell myself that if it's worse this time it has to be a good sign?!

Hope everyone is doing well, and thinking of ostrich.

Amandine That's brilliant news x

Moomin Fingers crossed this one sticks for you xx

LAF They are testing the baby and they also took swabs from me to check for infections - is that common?

Loup Congratulations on the BFP, hope all goes well for you.

Panpipe Great that you feel like crap, may it continue!

Jetstar Hoping the time will fly by for you x good luck

Knitter Hope it all goes well and you join the ladies on the grads thread soon.

Confu3ed Great news for you, I would have been due around the same time xxx

Sazbrilla Hope alls well x

Thanks for all the kind words and hugs everyone, I've been feeling a bit too alright about it all but I had a bad night last night - lots of tears and not a lot of sleep so I feel like I am human after all. Surgery went well and they've offered me an early scan for the next time round which is normal procedure after an ERPC - I love this hospital!

Hope to be back with a BFP in the next few months, I'll be lurking to check all the good news. Good luck everyone x
I'm off to join a choir, apparently singing is great for beating the blues.

Take care
Oxxxxx

Hi all, been quietly lurking and trying to get life back to normal after Christmas. Not easy with work being so busy, and being so tired. Will be brief, as have to sleep...

Ostrich so sorry to hear your news, hope you recover as quickly as you can physically and emotionally, and get back here soon.

Amandine great news re scan.

My scan's tomorrow afternoon, should be 8+4, so nervous. I think I knew that things weren't right by this stage last time, just felt too well (although not normal, and sore boobs throughout). Everyone just said 'each pregnancy is different', I wanted to believe it. I don't feel like that this time - some nausea, tired, boobs hurt, just feel rough. Still not enough symptoms to reassure me but probably not that different to when I was pregnant with DS. So optimistic but prepared for the worst, and still feel it's better to know sooner rather than later.

Scan was good, saw heartbeat and wriggling. Measured a bit smaller than expected though 8+0, hope that's not a bad sign. Very relieved.

Great news about the scans amandine and tumblebug.

Welcome to loup.

Panpipe the nausea isn't easy but it's a good sign! Hope you're not feeling too bad.

I have my 20 week scan this afternoon and I'm feeling very nervous. I had been feeling some clear movements over the weekend but haven't for a few days and I'm a bit worried about it. Hopefully all will be well.

for tumble

twittwoo from what I remember of my first pregnancy it takes a few weeks to be able to feel regular movements because they go and 'hide' when they are still small enough to. And then every now and again I'd see a little foot moving around! Good luck for later x

good news tumble
good luck with the scan today twittwoo
I have also been worrying a bit about feeling/ not feeling movements, but in my last pg I didn't feel any til 20 weeks + The baby could be facing backwards or the placenta could be in the way too! Also I have some extra padding so maybe that doesn't help!
Now I think I feel a flutter sometimes (18 weeks) and luckily I had a mw appt last weds where I heard the heartbeat & some movements to reassure me.

The waiting is the worst though - have you got plenty to do to keep you busy until the appt? Sometimes I would read a book as that makes the time pass faster for me.
Hi to everyone, hope you are doing ok today

Good luck twitwoo will check back later for your news. Hope to see you on the grads as it is getting lonely over there!

Thanks for the good luck wishes everyone. The scan went well and everything is looking good. What a relief! The sonographer did mention that the baby has long legs, so I think we might have a tall one just like DH. I've had a feeling about the sex of the baby from the start and it looks like I was right - we're having a girl! I will take the plunge into the grads thread soon LAF77 - see you there! x

Yay twitwoo congrats on a girl!

Really lovely news Twitwoo and Tumble xx

Twitwoo congratulations, a healthy looking baby and a girl!

Jetstar and twitwoo with DS I had an anterior placenta, didn't feel any convincing movements until 21 weeks and was 23 or 24 weeks before I felt them regularly enough that I would have noticed if they reduced, if that makes sense?

Thanks everyone, starting to allow myself to think there might be a baby at the end of this. No guarantees of course, but last time we would never have seen a heartbeat, so definite progress.

actually feeling quite rubbish. Nausea quite a lot of the time, and so tired. I'm somehow managing work, but come home and just flop. DH is being great and doing the washing up, and let me have a big lie-in this morning, but I still don't have ant energy. In some ways I feel it reassuring, but I just want to feel normal again too, and enjoy time with DS rather than finding him exhausting.

Hi everyone, very very tentatively though because I got my BFP yesterday on the day my period was due so am only 4 weeks even by LMP. I had two m/cs a 6+2 each time in 2010, then took a year off trying and got a new job instead. Now I've settled into new job and we've conceived quickly after starting TTC again so here I am!

I am convinced that there is no point thinking about it (other than stopping drinking, eating right etc) until I'm past 6 weeks though so this is the only place I am going to be talking about it apart from with DH....thank god for all of you ladies on here who know what it's like!

CONGRATULATIONS to those who are happily healthily pregnant and also good luck to those who are freaking out! And especially to hairy lights who I remember from when I was on here before (under the name of water plate btw). So so glad to hear so many of you have gone on to have healthy pregnancies.

Keep starting posts then having to go to bed, I thought the tiredness got better after 12 weeks!!!

Welcome Sazbrilla!

Congratulations Knitter! 20 weeks is HUGE!!!! :)

LAF - I thought the grads thread was for those over 20 weeks? I am only 14.5!

Ostrich I am so sorry to hear your news. I hope that you are looking after yourself.

Congratulations Twittwoo a girl :)

Excellent news Tumble!

Welcome Loup and Funchum

Jetstar how do you know when you feel a movement, I keep getting funny feelings but figured it is probably a bit early for movement. The thing is that as DD is 12 it is impossible to remember what it feels like, it is almost like this is my first pregnancy.

Tumble nausea is a great sign, and I am with you on the tiredness, in fact for the first 10 weeks I was having a nap in my lunch break daily! I still come home from work now and have to lay down for 1/2 an hour before I can do anything.

All good here after a minor freak out this week, but went to the docs and got to hear the heartbeat again which was so reassuring that I invested in a doppler, so hope that I can hear the heartbeat myself! I am huge though, look around 5 months pregnant so told people as there is just no hiding it. Told friends at lunch time today, well turned up and it was pretty obvious. The doctor said I have a fair size bump, I think that means large. I still have the odd doubt but am learning to rationalise them a bit as I have a gut feeling that this is going to be OK.

Morning all!

funchum welcome and fingers crossed for you this time!

tumblebug I agree with you about the movements, I was like that in my one sucessful pg but this time I'm just desperate to feel it!

twittwoo great news, a lovely girl!

confu3ed I think I am feeling movement when I feel an internal twitch or flutter when I'm sitting still and no other factors are present (eg. gurgly tummy after eating!) maybe it isn't, but I am comforting myself by thinking it is. It's not especially regular - but the midwife and I could hear movement as well as the heartbeat at my appointment last week! How are you getting on with your doppler? I was never brave enough to buy one!

I bloody can't wait til my scan next Tuesday - wish I could time travel

Wishing everybody just enough sickness/tiredness to make you comfortable that you are pg but not too much to make your days difficult - remember it will pass!

for twitwoo . In feeling exactly the same as when I was carrying dd so my hunch tells me this one's a girl (please don't tease me if I'm completely wrong in about 13 weeks time...)

Welcome to funchum

Keep us updated on the Doppler tumble. I've considered it but I think it would freak me out too much every time I couldn't find anything.

Well, my ms has properly kicked in . I was sick in the night and the nausea kept me awake. I've just been out and bought some travel bands, but I'm not sure I've got them in the right place . I'm eating snackajacks like they're going out of fashion, otherwise I've gone off food completely. I'm dreading going back to work on Wednesday (I've been on holiday since 3rd jan) because i seem to be worse at night so the thought of staying up all night is not very appealing

I don't know if this is going to come out right but I have morning sickness envy - with my last two pregnancies which didn't last I didn't have any symptoms and now I'm still rather lacking. I feel pretty positive and surprisingly had not been madly going to the loo to check all is well every five minutes (probably because it hasn't sunk in yet and work is very busy!) but I would be so grateful for a bit of morning nausea!

Hopefully I will want to take that back in a week or two - I'm only 4 and a bit weeks at the moment so hopefully it will start soon (or be the world's most MS free pregnancy).
Good luck to those of you about to have scans and suffering with the symptoms!

funchum welcome, hope all goes well this time. I also tested really early, and then freaked out about lack of symptoms. They gradually built up after 5-6 weeks, really not bad but I definitely feel pregnant now, which is really reassuring. Like you say it's still so early. I had much earlier symptoms when I had my MC, but they tailed off after 6 weeks, so I'm hoping the nausea hangs around this time!

Confu3ed a bump and hearing the heartbeat - really pregnant, enjoy, hope you feel less tired soon.

Amandine sorry you're feeling so sick, it's a good sign of course but still not nice. Do you work nights? Good luck with starting back.

Jetstar I'm so looking forward to feeling movements (all being well...).

I'm much the same, nausea sometimes when I eat, sometimes when I don't, really hungry all the time have been eating every couple of hours all day. I have even put a box of breadsticks next to my bed, as when I wake up to go to the loo (every night!) i have that stomach achey hunger. Unfortunately DS spotted them, think he'll be raiding my supply too. Hopefully all for a good cause!

funchum I felt nauseous when I was hungry from about 5 1/2 weeks, then the proper nausea and actual vomiting from 7 weeks. It is a reassuring sign but not a pleasant one! Mine seems to be worse at night, which is how I was with dd - and if I was still up late even at the end of my pregnancy I was still sick. I do work nights tumble, I went onto permanent days when I was pregnant with dd but that's not an option this time because I don't have any childcare in the afternoons. I'm going to see how I get on, I've got a feeling I might be off sick a lot.

Please reassure me that some of you went into maternity trousers this early? I've given in and put my maternity jeans on this morning and I'm so much more comfortable but I'm not even 8 weeks

funchum like a few of the other ladies my nausea didn't really start to kick in until around 7 weeks, both in my last (unsuccessful) pregnancy and this time. That and tiredness seem to be the only symptoms for me both times, no sore boobs or anything else so I guess everyone's different.

Amandine 11 weeks for me now and I'm not in maternity trousers but am doing a nifty line in holding my trousers closed with a safety pin as they're getting a bit snug with the button closed! I'm in desperate need of new work clothes as I seem to be constantly wearing the same two pairs of trousers, but I can't figure out whether I should buy my normal size, the next size up, maternity ones etc. I did buy a woolly dress this weekend which hopefully has plenty of expansion potential!

Thanks for the info Jestar I cannot wait till I can feel movement all of the time as it may stop my occasional freak outs! The doppler has arrived, and we heard the heartbeat after a bit of 'searching'! Amazing :)

Tumble - good luck with keeping your breadsticks!

Funchum I was not sick at all, felt nautious when hungry but that was it. Total opposite to when I was PG with DD 12 years ago.

Amandine - I was starting to expand at 8 weeks and from 11 looked properly pregnant. I did not go into maternity clothes until 13 weeks after scan as i didn't want to jinx things. I am now HUGE!!!

Our gorgeous miracle baby, Matilda Erin (Tilly) born 4.32am 22 December 2012 :) :) :) so so happy.

January!