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Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

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LAF77 · 27/09/2011 08:52

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

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dooscooby · 25/12/2011 04:29

Hi anandine I was prescribed 75 mg aspirin daily by RMC after tests showed i had low protein c levels. I now have a one week old daughter I'm currently trying to shush to sleep! My understanding is that some people are against using it when tests don't show any problems, although I know there are people out there who took it speculatively and would probably swear by it. I was told to take it whilst ttc, not at
conception or bfp. Wish you all the best for a happy ending Smile

googietheegg · 25/12/2011 07:09

Merry Christmas all! Everything crossed this time next year we'll all have a new little person to share the day with.

PieMistress · 25/12/2011 14:03

I'll raise a glass to that googie !!

It's actually DS's birthday today so i'm trying to limit the mayhem in our house!

Ostrich78 · 25/12/2011 21:08

Merry Christmas ladies, may 2012 be a very happy year for us all x

AmandinePoulain · 28/12/2011 13:59

Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas. We've just got home and now I've got to sort the house out!

I've just taken the first steps in doing something about being pregnant - - I've arranged my booking in appointment (which took a while, the receptionist seemed desperate to fit me in next week even though I don't actually need to book in until 8 weeks, if I hadn't been through this all before I would have presumably been sent away if I'd turned up at barely 6 weeks Hmm!)

I've also been discussing scan options with dh...we can either go and see the sympathetic gp I saw after the mc who said he'd bend the truth to get me into epu, which would obviously be free but involve going back there and we wouldn't get a photo if alls well, or pay £140 for a private one which would be an altogether more pleasant experience. Or I just wait for the 12 week scan and go slowly mad...

lollopybear · 30/12/2011 20:14

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Twittwooo · 31/12/2011 07:30

I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas and that you're looking forward to some New Year celebrations!

Welcome back lollopybear and congratulations for getting to 9 weeks. I hope the next two weeks go quickly, the wait is so difficult. It's great that you had such a lovely midwife and fingers crossed everything works out for you this time.
Amandine - well done for arranging your booking in appointment. It's a difficult decision about the scan, and I suppose a lot of it depends on whether you can afford a private one. If you can, from reading your post, it sounds like that could be the best option for you. Your GP sounds lovely, but I guess this option depends on how difficult you would find going back to the EPU. I considered a private scan but then was offered one at the EPU, which I went for, but I hadn't been before (my miscarriages were managed at home) so I didn't feel any associations with it. Waiting for the 12 week scan would be tough, especially when you have those options. How far along are you now? I hope you manage to make the right decision!

Have a lovely New Year everyone - here's to a happy 2012 for us all!

AmandinePoulain · 31/12/2011 08:51

5 weeks today twitt Smile. I'm seeing the mw at 7+ weeks so I'll have a chat with her and see if she'll refer me to epu. The mw I had last time was lovely so I'm hoping it's the same one. Obviously if I bleed I'll go to the gp sooner. I bled with dd from 5 weeks until 13, with my last pg I only had one episode at 11 weeks so in my warped reality bleeding is actually a positive sign. Doesn't mean I won't freak out if it happens though!

MillontheFloss · 31/12/2011 16:04

Hi all

I recognise a few of you from the miscarriage boards. Glad there is mostly good news here! I had a BFP a few days ago following an MC in August/ Sept. I think I am 4+4 and will ring GP on Tuesday. Hoping for a scan at 8 weeks.

Good luck to you all!

LimeFlower · 31/12/2011 18:17

Hello,ladies:)

Wishing you all the best in for 2012,mostly with healthy new family members:)

lollopybear · 01/01/2012 13:01

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tumblebug · 01/01/2012 22:54

Hi all, Happy New Year, lets hope it's a good one! I nearly got away with a sober new years eve (at our house, so couldn't drive!) by drinking 'prosecco' (Schloer) with the one friend I have told, until DH asked someone to top up my glass with that elderflower stuff!! Hopefully most people had had enough by then to not notice.

Mill congratulations, lovely to see you here. Fingers crossed things go better this time.

Lollopybear 80% of pregnancies apparently have morning sickness, that must mean 1 in 5 don't, hopefully you're that one!

Amandine where I live it seems you can't get referred to the EPU just for a previous miscarriage, so I've booked a private scan. Could get an appointment really quickly though, so no issue with waiting. It's on the 12th, should be 8+5 then so at least we'll know either way.

I'm up and down and a bit all over the place. Have hit 7 weeks (not sure how? just been so busy the time has flown). Had my booking appointment on Friday. The midwife was very nice, supportive, seems very good but was a bit stern, she didn't seem that worried by my recent miscarriage (feels like such a big issue to me at the moment!).

Worrying when I do have symptoms, worrying when I don't (intermittent nausea, feel really tired but also have a horrid cold thanks to DS who is now snot-free and running around happily). Boobs a bit sore, but not awful. I feel different this time though - in my last pregnancy I think I felt something was wrong before 7 weeks. Might just be because I can't bear the thought of losing another though.

Anyway enough rambling on, better get some sleep!

AmandinePoulain · 02/01/2012 12:31

tumble in general referral to the epu isn't automatic following one mc but I found a sympathetic GP who said if I came to him when I got pregnant again he'd make up something to get me in. If I don't get anywhere with my booking in appointment (which I realised yesterday I'd booked for a week late Blush, pg brain already!) I'll consider trying to see him, but my gp surgery has about 20 doctors so it's not easy to see a specific one.

I'm feeling nauseous today, and craving junk food (potato waffles with beans and cheese Grin) which is typical early pregnancy for me Grin

AmandinePoulain · 02/01/2012 12:39

Waves to mill (who I just waved to over in the common room even though she hadn't even posted there Blush)

tumblebug · 02/01/2012 21:43

Amandine sounds like you have a lovely GP! I'm also eating stodgy junk food, get so hungry so quickly.

AmandinePoulain · 03/01/2012 14:12

My gp is about to be tested. I've had some brown cm and feeling despondent. I can't go through this again Sad

Twittwooo · 03/01/2012 17:05

Oh, Amandine I'm so sorry to hear this. Hopefully it won't come to anything but we all know how it feels to go through this kind of thing. I hope your GP has been helpful and kind. Thinking of you. x

AmandinePoulain · 03/01/2012 17:22

The gp was nice, very reassuring and tried his best to get me into epu tomorrow but they weren't having any of it so I'm booked in for next Tuesday (we're going to France to the ILs tomorrow, back on Monday). This is going to be a difficult week I think Sad. This spotting is more like what I had with dd than with the mc, plus I've still got pregnancy symptoms, its just so hard not to think the worst Sad

PieMistress · 03/01/2012 18:42

Thinking of you amandine and keeping everything crossed it just brown cm, nothing more and it will go away soon. How many weeks are you now? It's a bummer that the EPU won't see you tomorrow :( :( Are there any other hospitals nearby(ish) by that have an EPU? xx

AmandinePoulain · 03/01/2012 18:53

All of the epus here need a referral from a GP. I'm going to try and see someone in France, although I've just checked my eu health insurance card and it expired in 2010 Blush. A GP consultation is only about €20 so I don't mind just paying for it, hospital treatment is a set price too so it should be affordable. I'll be 6 weeks on Saturday which seems to be the cutoff. It's my birthday on Friday too Sad

PieMistress · 03/01/2012 19:57

Any chance you can get a private scan here before you go tomorrow? Or would that be more expensive than in France? x

AmandinePoulain · 03/01/2012 20:36

The private fertility clinic won't do scans until 7 weeks.

LAF77 · 03/01/2012 20:48

amandine did you ever decide to take aspirin? Sometimes aspirin can cause spotting. I know it is hard not to think the worst.

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panpipe · 03/01/2012 20:49

Hello all, can I join you?

Before blathering on - Amandine fx that everything turns out OK for you.

I'm 9wks today with hopefully #1. Had a mmc at 11+6 in May. It took a little while to recover from the ERPC (bleeding for quite a while which turned out to be an infection) so it took what felt like ages to start TTC again!

I've already had a mini panic with fresh-ish looking bleeding a couple of weeks ago; I ended up having to tell work and making a quick exit to A&E as it was the weekend and EPU was closed. One up side of that was I had a couple of scans - one internal and one 'normal' ultrasound a week later (7+2) - which thankfully showed a nice heartbeat. I've had some more spotting over the last few days but very little so am hoping that it turns out to be nothing as it's less than that last time. I'm having period-like pains too which I don't know whether to be concerned about or not.

Got my booking-in appointment with MW next week and already booked in for 12wk scan on 26th which I absolutely can't wait for! DH is being great and keeping positive but I can't help feeling this little thought in the back of my mind that I'm not going to have this one. I've had real trouble feeling or believing that I'm pg too and keep having to remind myself!

Expect lots of ranting and panicking but you guys are all lovely and patient and can put up with all of that right?!

AmandinePoulain · 03/01/2012 21:06

laf I am taking it yes - I'll have to look into that!

Hello panpipe, I understand where you're coming from about finding it hard to believe you'll end up with a baby. A scan with a hb gives you pretty good odds though Smile

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