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Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

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LAF77 · 27/09/2011 08:52

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

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Fishandjam · 14/11/2011 12:28

Hi lovely ladies. Apologies for the silence - I caught a fluey type bug which combined with the MS has not been fun at all.

Twitt, I went for the nuchal fold measurement and triple test (a) because of my "elderly primigravida" status and (b) cos I'm one of those people who wants to know, IYSWIM. For me, forewarned is always forearmed - I can cope with pretty much anything so long as I know more or less what to expect, but I worry like hell about the unknown. If you're someone who worries more the more they know, then maybe the tests are not for you. It's a tough call I agree.

Fishandjam · 14/11/2011 12:31

PS: great news biscuits and cat!

litlady · 14/11/2011 13:12

hello, just a quick message to say that I had a scan last week and the heartbeat had gone. So, went in and had an op on friday. All very sad. Good luck everybody else here.xxxx

googietheegg · 14/11/2011 13:46

Oh litlady I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope you have good support in real life? What a sad week, fingers crossed you start to feel better and you'll be back here soon xxx

Twittwooo · 14/11/2011 13:47

So sorry to hear your news litlady. I hope you're getting plenty of TLC and are looking after yourself. x

Biscuitsandtea · 14/11/2011 13:49

litlady - so sorry to hear your news. I do hope you have lots of RL support.

Do take care of your self xxx

Fishandjam · 14/11/2011 16:23

litlady I am so sorry to hear that. Sending you some gentle hugs.

KnitterNotTwitter · 14/11/2011 17:25

litlady so so sorry about your news. Sending you lots of love.

mamaP thanks so much for the message - lovely to be remembered. I did read about your littlun - congratulations :)

All good here - we had a weekend in Venice this weekend just gone with my parents. DS loved the fact there was no cars and he could just beetle about everywhere. Bean seemed to like the food as was very kicky.

I've always been really lucky and felt my babies early - with DS it was about 8 weeks and with this one about 6 weeks - just a scratchy flutter but it couldn't be anything else. Now at 12+5 I get proper prods. Midwives always look a bit Hmm at me when I tell them but I know what it is.

Been playing phone tag with the home-birth midwives trying to book our 16 week visit with them - they come to the house even for that appointment which is all terribly reasonable :)

hugs to you all

p.s. I'll have a go at the stats if I have the energy tonight - the maths is gonna hurt my head though I think!!

PieMistress · 14/11/2011 18:35

litlady so sorry to hear your news, please look after yourself - hugs xx

confu3ed · 14/11/2011 20:55

Thanks Cat that is a great tip, used it last night and will do so for the next week!

Mama great to hear a success story!

Laf the days feel like years all right!

Thanks Twitwoo :)

So sorry Litlady, take care of yourself x

Knitter wow, that is really early to feel movement.

Good day for me my hormone levels have well over doubled almost 1000 more than expected. I am taking that as a positive. The nurse said I just need to keep my fingers crossed. So I have a long week ahead of me as my next scan is a week today. Tough week as it is around now that last 2 ended. Fingers crossed this one will be different and the vast amount of pills I am taking plus the progesterone will make all the difference! Feel better about it all than I did this morning so all good.

LAF77 · 14/11/2011 21:53

Big hug litlady I'm so sorry to hear this. Have they done any tests on you for RMC causes?

confu3ed I'm glad to see your news. It did feel like time stopped in the early days, but now I feel like I'm on a time warp. Suddenly, I'm almost 22 weeks!

knitter I'm amazed at your in utero Sherlock Holmes detection skills. I'm still not sure if I feel the baby or something moving through my digestion track. I listen on the Doppler and I can hear movements at night, but can't really feel them.

Look forward to gluing digi and lady to the grads thread. I'm hopefully going to start pg yoga next week. My pelvis has been sore. Stairs and long walks aren't so easy these days.

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Twittwooo · 14/11/2011 21:59

So pleased to hear it went well confu3ed, I'm rooting for you! I know how tough it is around the time that things have previously gone wrong, I'm sure everyone on here does in fact. It's difficult, but you sound positive and you just have to keep going, as hard as it is. I'm just over 11 weeks now (previously things went wrong at about 6 and then 7 weeks) so I have what feels like a very long week and a bit until my scan. Annoyingly, it's not until 13 weeks just because of when I could make the appointment! So I feel your pain with the waiting. Good to hear your news though, keep smiling! x

Twittwooo · 14/11/2011 22:03

LAF - let us know how you get on with the yoga - it's something I'd like to start eventually, all going well. I'm also thinking about aqua-natal classes, although I can't get the image of old ladies with swimming caps on doing aqua-aerobics out of my head! I'm sure it won't be like that ...

I guess you don't start these things until post 20 weeks? Normal swimming would be a bonus for me at the moment actually, I feel like I'm eating a lot and exercising a little - not a good combination and I need to get out of these lazy habits!

LAF77 · 15/11/2011 07:33

Hi twitwoo you can start pg yoga earlier, after the first trimester. However, there weren't any classes going near me. I do go swimming, I've never done aqua natal classes though. I was planning on swimming this morning, but was too tired this AM!

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shellshock7 · 15/11/2011 13:23

So sorry to hear your news Litlady hope you are being looked after

LimeFlower · 15/11/2011 19:34

litlady I'm so sorry :( take care of yourself,(((hugs))) to you
bigmac i didn't realise you're so far ahead.How I wish I was at that stage-I'll probably be like hairy -won't join the grads until the baby's here.
Knitter , biscuits and poppies congrats on good scans-it's soooo reassuring.
Lady I thought i started showing a bulge but it's gone I want a belly
LAF step away from that doppler haddock swing
Hello to all the newbies sorry,I'm getting all mixed up with amount of cats around Confused

Eating like mad cow,ate 8 pancakes today filled with cinnamon apple and doused with cream,salami roll and nibbling on grapes.Apple crumble for afters(courtesy of my lovely MIL) and yoghurt.Caved in and bought some crisps(wholegrain ones)
Retching was gone last Thursday,came back today.Boobs sore on and off.How the heck I'm supposed to know if everything's fine?
Never got a chance to speak to my boss last week as he was always with somebody,will try this week.
DP's family on one side is giving me a grief,quite happy to treat us as 2nd class family for the last couple of years,now there's baby on the scene so apparently they are "interested".To hell with their bitching,intrigues and poking good intentions this is not the thing I want or need just now.Thinking hard now how to tell them "thank you" in polite,diplomatic yet discouraging way.

LimeFlower · 15/11/2011 19:38

And of course since I had my scan last week and do NT taken I'm mentalling about Downs as on the scan pic I can't see the nasal bone doesn't matter that it might have been to early :(
Just life,eh?Frustrated ttc,frustrated being pg.Just give me a slap.

KatAndKit · 16/11/2011 08:09

Haven't been on here in a little while.
So sorry to hear bad news from litlady hope you are getting lots of love and support.

limeflower I thought the same about my scan, I was looking for a nasal bone but I got a low risk result anyway and the image is so blurry anyway. I think if the sonographer doesn't find anything to worry about then you should try not to worry. Didn't stop me google image searching abnormal 12 week scan pictures though.

I think I might try aquanatal today, I am not working today and there is one on at lunchtime. Hopefully you can just turn up. Will be a nice "properly diffed" thing to do.

LadyMaybe · 16/11/2011 08:51

Oh litlady I'm sorry to hear of your loss. That's extremely sad news. I hope recovery goes as smoothly as possible and wish you every bit of luck if and when you decide to keep trying. Take care m'dear.

Cat - congrats on your good 8 week scan, may all the good stuff just keep on continuing Smile

Digi - yeah, I had a big bloat tummy earlier, then it went away for a few weeks, and now I have just the same belly as before but it's harder and I wake up with it rather than it developing steadily over the day Smile. I'm generally feeling a bit better but had two rough days yesterday and today - still far too well aquainted with our loo sadly (TMI) and my dinners are on sandwich plates or I just feel urgh. So snacking is king for me. That fits with what I'm supposed to do for the blood sugar stuff anyway.

twittwoo when do you have to decide about the nuchal? Can you just decide when you go in for the scan? or do you need to tell them beforehand? My personal feeling was that it is not invasive or harmful at this stage, it does give a fairly good indication of the risk of there being a problem. I try to take everything just one step at a time, so on that basis alone I couldn't see why I wouldn't have it done. The step after would have to be considered on the results - if it came back high risk, I'd want to know exactly how high before making a further decision about whether to have an invasive diagnostic test, etc.

confu3ed if you're waking with lots of thoughts swimming about in your head, you could try listening to the radio or a podcast very quietly. I find having people talking to me stops my own internal voices. I've been doing this almost since my BFP and sleep very well. If I wake up a little, here the voices, listen a bit and drift off again. I generally use the 'In our Time' Radio 4 podcast so it's not pregnancy-related Smile Lovely blood results though. Very reassuring. Progesterone made a difference for me (well, it was the one thing that we did differently this time), fingers crossed for you too.

PieMistress did you book the scan? You're doing really well, just keep getting through the days one by one.

FishandJam are you starting to feel a bit better now? Poor you, flu and MS would be a nightmare!

Knitter - very jealous of Venice. We went at about the same time of year but before DS was born and I loved it. Have some excellent stories of our adventures - much of it was v surreal.

LAF I would like to hang on to your coattails if you're moving into warp speed, please. Time still feels like it's going very very slowly over here.

KatandKit shall await your report on the aquanatal. There is a class not too far from me on a day that might suit but if I'm going to go there is going to have to be some serious personal grooming take place beforehand...and I want to know it's going to be worth it Grin

So I had a MW appointment yesterday, mainly to go over my blood sugar results which I thought looked ok but they've decided I need to increase my metformin by one and keep monitoring. Oh well. And they found a heartbeat - yay! Was warned that she might take a while but actually I was quite calm while she hunted and it didn't take long. That gives me a bit more confidence in investing in a home doppler now, as I think I might have an ok chance at finding it too, despite the anterior placenta thing. No more appointments for 4 weeks and I anticipate those being quite long weeks without some sort of reassurance.

So having basically done nothing for our anniversary because I was crippled with miserable nausea and fatigue, it is my birthday next weekend and I have no idea what to do. Think probably a lunch is the only option as I get quite uncomfortable/nauseous/tired in the evenings and just want to lay down. And I think I'm going to really miss drinking a lovely glass of NZ wine with an evening meal whereas I think I could pass it up more easily at a lunch.

LimeFlower · 16/11/2011 10:54

Lady you poor thing.Have you got GD or are you diabetic?Horrible thing to have,must be kept under control all the time.
KitKat,how does this aquanatal look like?Just curious,is that some kind of excersize in the swimming pool?And at what stage of pg it can be started?
I'm off to the doc this week as my cold/chest/whatever crap I had is still coming back sometimes,I want to get some answers what the heck is it and get rid of that.Can't take a flu jab unless I'm 100% fit.Grrrrr,bloody thing Angry

KatAndKit · 16/11/2011 10:59

from what i have seen aquanatal looks like dossing around doing exercises in the shallow end. Like aquafit but easier! Will report back if I get to do it today. I reckon you can start it when you like, although probably a bit silly to start it at 6 weeks when you can still do normal exercise! I think it is supposed to help with the aches and pains of pregnancy and stuff.

LimeFlower · 16/11/2011 11:48

Cheers Kat not (yet) for me then!

KatAndKit · 16/11/2011 16:18

Aquanatal was pretty good. It was fairly gentle exercise and it was nice to do a proper differs activity. Won't burn off a lot of calories but good for keeping mobile and keeping your joints and stuff in good shape.
Doesn't matter how far along you are or aren't either. I was expecting to be the least diffed but there was one woman who had an ironing board flat belly and a couple of others less diffed than me. And there was a woman who was 40 weeks!
I can recommend it for as soon as you feel ready to do diffed stuff. I freaked out mentally for a long time and am still doing so to a certain extent. I don't think I'd have even contemplated it until 16 weeks or so but that is just me.

Blackkat · 16/11/2011 18:28

just to join in the aquanatal discussion, I've been doing it since 17 weeks, now 37. I find the gentle exercises do help and as I've got more blimp shaped it's really helped doing exercise in water. I know a couple of others in the grads thread have also been doing aqua blimp ( as we lovingly term it) and really enjoyed it. I have loads more energy when I've done it, so if you can find a class then go I'd say. Glad you enjoyed it Kat

< waves> to digi dachs knitter lady and to everyone else x

LimeFlower · 16/11/2011 20:48

I know there are some aqua blimps (like the name)sessions in my city,might try them later on.Now it's still early days and as I'm physically still fine(no bump,aches and pains)I'm afraid that I'd like to swim awayyy somewhere!