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VJay · 21/09/2011 12:01

Here we are, it's getting chilly, the slanketsnare out. Were all here to support, laugh and cry with each other.

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GracieGirl · 23/09/2011 19:47

Moon I hope you and your lovely DF are sat cuddled on the sofa giving each other lots of support.
Once you've seen your Gp (I second LBM- on Monday young lady!) are their any other avenues to explore whilst your waiting for your consultant to explain things further? Having been off the thread for a while before I reappeared in august I'm not sure what you've tried already. Is there anything to gain from acupuncture, or other random alternative stuff? I'm not sure what to suggest.

bluesatinsash · 23/09/2011 19:54

Moon where to start Sad Angry

Was it the consulstant you saw today?

Did you ask why your weight had never been brought up before?

Why is weight an issue?

Can you ask for a second opinion?

Can you see another doctor?

Do they realise how bereft you are and how long you have been trying to become a family?

You deserve at the very least a full explanation of all of the above. They us see how this is all affecting you...

I would read everything you can get your hands on re: clomid and go back armed and informed.

You DO NOT deserve this xxx

MummysLittleSunbeams · 23/09/2011 20:32

Moon I agree with what all the others have said. It's totally out of order & they can't do that to you. I would definitely go back to your gp.

Also Gracie mentioned acupuncture - well you know my views on that. You said you were willing to try anything & maybe now might be a time to start exploring that avenue??

I'm so very angry about all this on your behalf, I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling about it. Sad

xxxxxx

MummysLittleSunbeams · 23/09/2011 20:41

Moon ACMAC website for you.

cupcakefairy · 24/09/2011 10:22

Moon :( what a huge disappointment for you after all that anticipation :( can't believe it. I know louey and bq have both been on clomid so probably have more words of wisdom but just wanted to offer you all my sympathies. Please don't give up, keep fighting.

Vjay hope you're feeling a bit less wobbly this morning and hope it all turns out to be insignificant. Well done for getting through it all, and to Ajay for being a star :)

VJay · 24/09/2011 15:43

Thanks cupcake Smile

moon I can't believe it I really can't. The others have all suggested what I would do too. How's your df doing with it all? I hope you are both stating strong together. {{{hugs}}}

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Neeko · 24/09/2011 21:35

Just poping on quickly to offer my sympathy amd support to our lovely Moon. So Sad and Angry for the way you are being treated. I would urge you to see your gp too.
Also, is there anyway to arrange clomid privately and, if so, would that even be an option.
Keeping everything crossed for you. Another huge {{{{{{hug}}}}} to you from me.

Neeko · 24/09/2011 21:36

popping Blush

CurlyLikesShortShorts · 25/09/2011 13:42

It could be worse Neeko I'm sure i've seen you pooping in the greenhouse before GrinGrinGrin

I'll be back on later but just wanted to give moon a massive hug and her doc an even more massive punch Angry

Lots of love to all you lovely ladies. I'm a bit worried about a few of you lately so I've been doing some thinking which hopefully won't involve me being booted out of the greenhouse just as winter is setting in GrinGrin Back later to talk more xxxx

loueytb3 · 25/09/2011 20:02

moon apologies for not seeing your post until now and for the language I'm about to use.....

For fucks sake, I can't fucking believe they've done this to you Angry I'm FURIOUS that you have had to wait months for appts, to think they were going to give you clomid and then to have the hope taken away again. I actually have some clomid left because it worked first time with DTs. I just checked though and it expired last august. Despite that if you want it just let me know. Otherwise, I would go to your GP and complain. I know some GPs will prescribe clomid but it seems to vary from place to place - might be worth asking. I've also just had a look at the patient information leaflet and the Drs prescribing information and there is nothing in there about weight or BMI being a reason not to prescribe it. Did you see the same person this time as last? If not, then I would phone them up and ask to speak to the consultant. The person you saw last time should have written in their notes about the plan (ie that they were going to prescribe clomid if you were not pg by the next appt).

vjay big shiny gold star for being a brave girl and I hope the results come back quickly x

Waves to everyone else, will hopefully get a chance to do a proper post tomorrow.

MummysLittleSunbeams · 25/09/2011 20:58

Moon if I were you I'd take Louey's clomid.

Just saying.

CurlyLikesShortShorts · 25/09/2011 21:52

naughty mls Grin

Hi louey :) Hope all is good with you lovely. I share your anger at moons doc Angry I really don't think consultants realise how fragile our hope is. 6 months is too long when you have been waiting two and half long years. moon I think you have got great advice on here. Is there a complaints procedure or PAL at your hospital? Your gp sounds like a good option too. If they are now saying your weight is an issue for the first time - especially when you have done so well losing lots - then they were obviously negligent previously in not bringing it up. Maybe the threat of a complaint of negligence will make them see that there is no problem after all Wink

Hope you are recovering okay brave vjay

Anyone else watching xfactor? What is with that Kitty? I liked her tightylighty outfit though :)

So here's the thing I need to get off my chest. Firstly, I need to say that I am rubbish at dealing with emotional stuff, and also that you girls mean so much to me :) And so does this thread. I was reading today about MN's code of care for miscarriage and started bawling right about the time I was reading our gracies input. It brought it all back. I keep thinking that I am over that awful time because curlygirl has brought so much happiness to me. But it was the worst time of my life :( and it never really goes away and now I am facing putting myself through all of this again. I need you all there with me and I owe you all to be there for you in whatever is going on in your lives. You are the most wonderful bunch of girls. I just hate that we seem to have lost some good friends along the way. We need mermaid and monkey and jools back on this thread and we need to make it an easier place for moon to be. Like it is this weekend when everyone has rallied together to put the world to rights when another stupid golfer has stomped on our dreams :( And I want barbie and gracie not to be worrying that they should hold back on their pregnancies. And for our totally wonderful vj, blue and mermaid and others who have decided to keep their pants just as they are thank you very much to be properly appreciated for how much they bring to this thread.

So I was wondering if we should maybe try and redress the balance a bit and discuss this? We could consider focusing on the following:

  1. let's not be afraid to talk about our most wonderful bundles of joy but let's focus MOST OF ALL on supporting each other through ttc, or deciding not to ttc if that's the case, and on staying pregnant. We have a lot of scans to focus on over the next few weeks. God knows every stage is terrifying x
  1. I know this will make poor barbie wince but let's have a list, and keep it up to date so that nobody drops off and we can keep track of important dates.
  1. let's have some totally bizarre random non-baby related late night conversations between vj and 4ever and barbie to make us all chuckle the next day. When is our lovely 4ever back btw?
  1. let's have that recipe from mermaid. Please come back mermaid we cannot continue to lurk in your greenhouse without you xxx
  1. let's make a deal with each other that sometimes real life takes over and that we do not need to stay away because we haven't had time to catch up properly (this one's for crap old me)
  1. If we are really worried about discussing a topic that might seem insensitive to some, let's send an email instead to the others rather than hold back on stuff. It is scary having a little baby, or big ones. I really rely on the advice from you guys :)

I really embarrassed now but I just needed to say all of this. I'm so close to deleting this. And now I'm getting choked up again thinking about how much you all mean to me. I wish I was up the duff it would explain a lot - I'm not obviously but let's consider this a form of practice for the horrormones Blush

And while I'm getting things off my chest sabs I am so sorry I keep meaning to email you and I've got £20 for you next time I see you. Very proud that your lovely dh cares so much xxx

I hope this hasn't offended anyone. Please tell me to shutup, or ignore if you want.

MummysLittleSunbeams · 25/09/2011 22:00

Curly how lovely to have another long curlyesque post from you! Not only that but I agree with everything you've said. I'm glad you didn't delete what you wrote - anyhoo it must have taken you ages. You are a breath of fresh air.

Oh & one last thing - please come back all those MIA. xxxx

SabsFabulous · 25/09/2011 23:16

curly you've made me so emotional with your post and it's not hormonal for me either

Friday 23rd sept was 3 years since the worst day of my life, when I mc'd and lost my precious angel. It was the darkest days of my life but I can honestly say that you ladies got me through by holding my hand and with the hairstrokes while I has to wait 3 months before we could try again. And then I got pregnant again. And you ladies were there for me again, every step of the way.

I hope we can all be friends again and lovely strawberry, jools, monkey, moon come back again soon

I thought September would be less busy for me and I would get more time to post on here but sadly not. I even had to cancel going out for dinner tonight with friends because I was trying to cram too much in on the weekend and I hate cancelling on people Sad

Love to everyone and kisses to my cyber nephews and nieces

CurlyLikesShortShorts · 25/09/2011 23:24

Oh Sabs Big hugs. It seems like so long ago since that first thread. It's heartbreaking how many anniversaries are in sept oct but at least we all found each other x

Big waves to mls you always make me smile Smile

And I'm so sorry strawberry for forgetting ur name. Duh Blush

Night all xxx

barbie1 · 26/09/2011 10:35

Waves 'vote for curly for PM' banner....you sure talk sense girl!

So, so much to say...I need to say some stuff to moon but dolly is all out of sorts and being a pita, therefore I have zero time. I have been thinking about moon loads and I will get around to posting to you, I'm sorry i didn't when you needed the support a few days back...

Will be here tonight as dh has football x

VJay · 26/09/2011 13:41

Nice one curly Smile

commando
Blue
LBM
Neeko
Strawberry
Vjay

smallpants
4ever
Curt
Moon
Monkey

mediumpants
Barbie EDD 12 Feb 2012
Gracie
Cupcake
MLS

bigpants
QA EDD Nov 2011

saggypants
Vjay 01/09/09 BOY Ajay 8lb 6oz
Lionstar 27/09/09 BOY Arlo Bryn 9lb 5oz
Sabs 30/09/09 GIRL Saara 9lb 1oz
Buddhabelly 25/11/09 BOY Ewan James
Annie 25/11/09 BOY Ellis Charles 8lb 11oz
Bluesatinsash 23/12/09 BOY Benjamin Charles 8lb 3oz
MM 30/12/09 GIRL Nieve Ellen 8lb 6oz
Curly 05/02/10 GIRL Grace Eliza 8lb 4oz
Graciegirl 05/02/10 GIRL Isabelle Clare 7lb 1oz
Barbie 21/02/10 GIRL Devon Nimah 5lb 15oz
MrsKate 09/03/10 BOY Jack David 6lb 13oz
Neeko 29/03/10 GIRL Hannah Denise 8lb 15oz
Littlebellsmum 18/05/10 GIRL Joanna Emily 7lb 7oz
4everhopeful 26/05/10 GIRL Summer Clementine Hope 9lb 5oz
Cupcakefairy 05/06/10 BOY Jude 8lb
Iggypiggy 25/07/10 GIRL 6lb 14oz
MLS 11/10/10 GIRL Kitty Violet 7lb 1oz
Loueytbg 02/06/11 BOY Oscar Joseph 4lb 8oz
Bakingqueen BOY Luca

Hope I've got everyone right, I've typed this all out cos I've still not learnt to cut and paste on phone!!

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VJay · 26/09/2011 13:42

Who the chuff is curt, sorry curly Blush

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barbie1 · 26/09/2011 13:44

Vjay you will just have to do it all again....you spelt curly's name wrong Wink
How are you, forgot to say how brave you were at your appointments x

VJay · 26/09/2011 14:04

Someone clever enough to cut and paste can do it Grin and thanks barbie I go through moments of nerves then the rest of the time just think there's naff all I can do so just get on with it all. I'm sure it's all nothing Smile

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GracieGirl · 26/09/2011 14:38

Well said Curly!!

Though I will say one thing.... STEP AWAY FROM THE MISCARRIAGE CODE OF CONDUCT THREAD!!!! Do the survey if you are so inclined as I imagine they'll get useful information from it, but don't sit and read 200 peoples experiences of how to get treated badly during a miscarriage!!! Madness lies there!!!! Might also be a good idea to lock yourself away, don't buy a newspaper, and throw away your TV and radio during national miscarriage week. We can all hide in this greenhouse and discuss something intellectual like cream cakes! Grin

cupcakefairy · 26/09/2011 14:53

Gracie I prefer a custard tart myself.

back later on laptop x

GracieGirl · 26/09/2011 14:55

My 12 week scan is 2 weeks today.Hmm 10th Oct at 8:40am. Oh god I hate scans! At least by 8:40am they can't be running late.Confused

GracieGirl · 26/09/2011 14:57

Cupcake custard tarts are good, but have you tried those little chocolate pots by Gu? The ones you heat in the microwave. Absolute sheer heaven!!!!! Grin

barbie1 · 26/09/2011 16:10

Hello, I'm back....dh has just left, dolly in bed.....and relax! Grin

Will just eat dinner and be back.

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