TTC#2? Hide in here!

[HerniaGranger]

So, after almost turning myself inside out giving birth to DC1, we've decided to take the plunge and try for another. Thought this would be a good place to share excitement / terror / general state of knackeredness. Just watch your feet as you come in. I haven't had chance to tidy the lego away yet and you know how much it hurts when you stand on it.
Glass of anyone?

Awe sorry to hear about af numberjacker have a wild night out before resuming baby making. Fingers crossed for next month!!

Mpt- disappointment is a great way to tell children off haha always get sorry faces after that

well, I was hoping I'd have good news to share as AF was a couple of days late, but no, just after I'd bought a selection of tests and went off excitedly to the toilet to give them a whirl, I found I didn't need to after all. I have NO RIGHT to be dissapointed as this is our first month ttc. But I can't help feeling a bit dissapointed anyway. However it meant that I could drink and eat smelly blue cheeses last night as we had friends over! And DS this morning has reminded me how lucky I am- he's just the best, and if we can't get a little brother or sister for him we're still lucky to have him. (still irrationally dissapointed though).

AF came just now for me too. No right to be gutted as only decided 2 weeks ago to try so I am very cheeky to feel upset. But I have been broody for about 5 years so I have been waiting for a chance to ttc since then.
Sorry to hear about all the other AFs happening today too.

Here's to next month ladies :)

Hi everyone - we've recently decided to ttc baby no. 2 and have just had a weird thing happen. My DS took nearly a year in the making as I have poly-cystic ovaries and was originally told I couldn't conceive without medical help. With that in mind, we don't expect no. 2 to come along very quickly either. With our DS we eventually used the Clearblue Ovulation Kit and within two cycles of using it, became pregnant. We started using the kit at the beginning of this cycle and now I am five days before my period should starts (if it decides to be consistent and there's NO telling with mine). However, I've had a few symptoms that I recognise and decided to do a pregnancy test last night. We worked out that if I was pregnant, I'd probably be around a fortnight gone. The test came up with the control line in dark pink and the test line came up after about 30 seconds in faint pink (but definitely there). I was almost in tears with happiness as it was very visible. However after about five minutes the line disappeared completely. WTF?? Anyone else had this happen to them? So disappointed (again - irrationally as I know this is the first month of trying, it's just that our hopes were raised then dashed within minutes). Boo.

Just a question for any of you who have been ttc for awhile...
How do you pick yourself up once AF comes along. It's only my first since we decided to ttc again and I have been on the floor since it arrived last night, really distracted, thinking all the time about how it didn't happen this month and asking myself what I did wrong.
My next "window" seems ages away right now, added together with the general crappiness you feel at this time of the month anyway, just curious how you all bring yourselves back up.

It's not something that I can talk about in RL as no one knows we are ttc.

saxony it was my first month of AF arriving after deciding to ttc#2. I was about to do a test as was late when AF arrived. i felt gutted. Fortunately I had friends over that night, so had a drink, and food that I wouldn't have been able to eat otherwise. And I just looked at my ds and thought how lucky I am to have him. My take on it is that if for any reason we are unable to have another, it will just mean that I was so lucky to have been able to have ds.

I decided I wasn't going to come on here regularly as it adds to my obsession over ttc, however I seem to be on it even more .

it's tough, but I don't know how else to go about it. people say 'relax and it will happen', i wish I could, but that's just not me! are you doing any ov testing etc? I'm tempted but it stressed me out last time.

Hello ladies,
So sorry to see more AFs and BFNs, I was hoping to come back to an abundance of BFPs. Here's to next month!

Hi Hale, lovely to meet you, sorry I don't really know about the pg tests with lines on. I prefer a def yes/no so go for the CB digital. But as they are quite expensive I only try to do them after AF date (which hasn't happened yet as AF always got me, so actually quite cheap!)
I would recommend waiting until day after AF and go digital, if you can hang on that long.

Sax - I was really upset after the first cycle, but when you look at the stats I think it is only 25% chance. I always have a little cry or a good old moan to DH, then try to busy myself planning the next SWI dates to keep me occupied. That and soft cheese and wine.
It hasn't got any easier for me, as the cycles go on, but I think that first disappointment is definitely the worst. But as we'll all be BFP'd next month so disappointment will be avoided!

Fx for all who are still in the running x

Hello everyone,

Sorry about all the AFs, was hoping to read some good news this morning, its crap though when you get your hopes up, spot some symptoms, then get a bfn. I am now on ttc cycle 3 so fingers crossed. I ve just done a OPK test and got a positive result for the first time ever! I am really excited as I am on CD15, so if I ovulate in the next 12-36 hrs it would mean I ovulate much later than I had previously thought, as my I phone app said I ovulate on CD12. So now I know I need to plan SWI for longer into the month. I feel like I am getting somewhere, as I was so worrried I no longer ovulated. So even though I am not currently pregnan,t I feel really positive for the next few months, definitely going to grab DH tonight. Fingers crossed for everyone!!

Sorry to all of those with AF visiting and fx for you all next month. Hope everyone who is feeling low are now feeling better. This is my 1st cycle of ttc, so if the stats are only 25%, then looks like I'll be joining you with the need of a pick me up. Great advice Number about having friends over and enjoying wine and cheeses etc, defo something that would make me feel better. And good luck to Turnwest looks like the OV charting etc may pay off for you, fx for you next month.
Well on saturday I convinced myself that I was pg, had lots of what I thought to be symptoms but then yesterday I didn't feel pg. I swear, I am starting to go mad , I am 1 week away from when AF is due, the wait is going to drive me more nuts, if that is possible. Good luck to those that are due to POAS this week, fx for all of you, take care xx

Thanks for the advice. Yes here's hoping that the initial disappointment won't be as bad in the next few months...even better I hope to be pg soon! I think that I am so excited after years of DH not being up for ttc that I just symptom spotted and convinced myself until I was giddy!
No Nearly I am not doing ovulation tests as I am so confused by the mere thought of them that I am put off. I am ashamed to say that until this month I really didn't know which week was the best for ttc. I never have had to think about it before as DS came along quickly and naturally.
I have dowloaded a phone app which says that I have high fertility from next Monday til Friday and then I ovulate on the Saturday. So I am guessing any day next week would be the best to ttc but nearer to the Saturday would be best?

Clandy I apologise in advance but I couldn't wait any longer. I've had lots of symptoms these past few days and today I felt so sick and so I bought 2 clear blue tests and yes I POAS, even though I am 7 days away from AF visiting but it came up positive, yipeee I am completely stunned that for the 2nd time I have managed to get pg on the 1st cycle. No more caffeine or alcohol for me. Does anyone think I am nuts for believing in a test I took so early?? Anyway I do believe it, but I will use the 2nd test in the morning to double check but I am already convinced. I will keep my fx for everyone on this thread to be lucky too

Hello all

Just decided to go for it and ttc no2. I'm a bit nervous because I have an appointment at the end of the month with a consultant re a possible repair from DS birth. Forceps delivery... Eugh. Enough said. Until now, ttc was more of a faint hope than a reality but I have been advised by a midwife that getting on with the pregnancies I intend to have may be a good idea before I have surgical repairs to the old fanjo. I have been too scared to try because it hurt until now, but we have agreed to 'see how it goes' to see if (short of an act of god) we can actually dtd and get up the duff without getting me re-stitched first. Sorry if tmi!!

Have poured a cider and broken out the galaxy bar to steel my nerves pre-attempt! Anyone else had a challenging first preg/birth and going for it again? Would appreciate the moral support! Last time I had SPD with crutches etc too. At the end of the day it's never going to be a good time if all that happens again, so well... No time like the present!

Eek...

Ps YAY thedogwalker!!! Hurrah for your bean. Well done!!

Congratulations TDW!! That is brilliant news, and let's face it, we needed some. Haha, that's blown my whole "wait until AF is due" argument right out of the water. Am thrilled to bits for you. And when you have come down from cloud 9 we need your SWI tips.... C'mon, spill girl!

Hey sillywmama. Sounds like we had a similar time of it. My son is 21 months now and it took 15 of those months for sex to stop being agony. Had them take blood from his scalp during labour while he was still in the womb, had a node on his head, almost lost heartbeat, was almost 50/50 between emergency C-section and natural birth but luckily had him naturally. He was ventouse and they cut me significantly. Add to that a hemorrhage and them leaving me in my own gunk on my own with new knackered baby for eight hours and you can imagine the lasting emotional and physical damage. They never figured out why it felt like razors up there and I'm only now starting to enjoy sex. (It still hurts a bit).

So I must be completely mental but we're ttc no. 2. Figured we might as well get all of them out of the way in one go before trying to fix me! I feel your pain (no really - I do).

Oops, cross posted with Mama!

Wow mama, that sounds really traumatic, hats off to you, for getting back in the saddle. I didn't have anything too traumatic that I can remember (but I may have blocked it all out). Although I do remember declaring I was never, ever, doing this again and the midwife assuring me I'd be back within 5 years. Grrrr, here I am trying to prove her right

Ouch sillywmama that sounds painful, sorry but I have no knowledge or insight to give to you, think its great that you want to try again. I tore quite badly, had 30 stitches to sew me back together but the Doc did a great job and apart from the first few times, there has been no pain.
Number last time I got pg a few days after my AF finished, so either my DH's swimmers stick around for a few days or I ovulate early. My Dh is only home at weekends and thankfully AF departed on a Thursday and we dtd all weekend (2 weekends ago), I must admit, this time i did stay in bed and I placed a pillow under my bum to raise my lower half a bit just thought is might help the little swimmers on their way. Well it obviously worked, well I'm hoping the test result is correct. Going to do another 1st thing tomorrow just to double check and then I can sigh a sigh of relief. Come on girls I got my fx for you xx

Hey Haleana and Numberjacker, thanks for the welcome :) I've been wanting to ttc emotionally since DS turned one but with only 5 successful attempts full stop since I was pregnant, well it's easier said than done! It's good to know it does eventually get better Haleana. By hook or by crook I'll get there lol. I think tonight is partly to see if we can even try in the usual way. I would love to be in the whole poas stage but I do know that babies come along in their own time. I am so lucky to have DS and he is perfect in every way (well I would say that hehe) but the scary birth and rubbish pg def made me more stoic about the whole making a baby thing. I just really wanted a big family, and partly I think we need to get cracking just to get over the fear! The longer we wait the harder it will be to even contemplate going through it again. Have been promised elc next time which calmed me right down.

Ooh cross posted with you tdg, :)

Ok sorry - it's been a while since I've been on here. Can someone breakdown the acronyms for me please. I'm behind.

sillywmama I found that the more I did it, the less painful it became. Even if it meant gritting my teeth to begin with! Furthermore, missionary is a BIG no no now. From behind only and with not as much depth as before (course he loves it)! It's just about finding a position that works the best! The more you worry about it, the more painful it is. I even found myself trying to work myself up by reading sexy novels, even sampled a bit of porn to get myself going (didn't last long with that though), was always MUCH better if I was into it. Trouble is getting into it lol! You'll be okay. Don't pressure yourself.

Btw Heleana I'm so sorry you went through that with your DC, it's so horrible. Well done you for ttc as well. I hope that everything goes super well for you this time, have you considered elc or are you really not bothered? Sorry it's slightly off topic but when I think about ttc it's really hard not to have a small panic and cold sweat muse about the end bit!

Cider is obv affecting my concentration. Apologies for the bitty posts. DH better hurry up or I'll end up going to bed and snoring before he gets there!

thedog that is bloody great news.

silly you poor thing, that sounds awful, hoping it all goes well for you dtd. I agree with you though, I feel I'm so lucky to have ds too (i'd love more but I'm holding on to that thought to stop me from becoming (even more) obsessed with ttc.

Aww thanks for the encouragement :) who knew shagging would be such a trial? No pressure... I'll try and keep a sense of perspective and refrain from stocking up on Internet cheapies for now lol

silly Thank you! It really is a horrible thing to have to deal with when you've been through such a difficult time with the first one. I love my DS to bits though, he was totally worth it. But yes - I agree about the panic with the thought of the end bit. Unfortunately you also have to get over the panic of the first bit too! Haha! There's a lot to be said about the emotional scarring during episodes like this too. They can stitch up the injured bits but you can never get rid of the memories.

Btw what is elc? I'm not good with the acronyms on here. Can someone spell them out for me ('scuse the pun).

Sorry, elective cesarian section. Basically I have had a pre-pregnancy agreement with my midwife that at my booking in appt when I confirm I am pg for the next time, I would have a c-sec booked immediately after my dating scan. Prob at a different hospital from where DS was born. I have very traumatic memories and had some very poor care with my first preg so really don't want to return to where he was born if I can help it. My birth afterthoughts service was incredibly helpful in that respect, did you have a debrief after your delivery?