TTC#2? Hide in here!

[HerniaGranger]

So, after almost turning myself inside out giving birth to DC1, we've decided to take the plunge and try for another. Thought this would be a good place to share excitement / terror / general state of knackeredness. Just watch your feet as you come in. I haven't had chance to tidy the lego away yet and you know how much it hurts when you stand on it.
Glass of anyone?

Loving the new name HomeMade and big welcome to Nearly. Have been off radar with work and SWI (only CD8 but with short cycles am covering all bases)

Sorry to hear of your family issues, HC, I don't know what to say or advise. At the end of the day you know the people involved and what's gone on, so stick to your guns with whatever you decide to do or who you support. We're here to listen if you need us, so rant away x

Thanks Number.

So, it's been a weird day today. After getting all excited about TTC#2 and then being 'not-so-sure' after DD's weird tantrums at the weekend, things are starting to look a bit strange...

AF was due on Monday but no sign. Cramping on and off since Sunday but no sign of anything but creamy CM (TMI sorry ). Also, normally, just before AF I will have the occasional hot flush, in fact that's how I knew I was PG with DD because I didn't get any. And haven't had any this month.

Thing is, I know that we will have DC2 at some time but I really think that it is too quick and we should have waited. But I guess if I am PG, it's happened for a reason.

Giving it until Friday (when I need to go shopping) and if no AF, I will buy a PG test. DH is going away tonight until Saturday to spend some time with his friend in London who has just gone through a nasty break-up, so I wouldn't tell him until he got home anyway. I don't think he'll be particularly keen on it happening so quick either, but hey ho.

I will keep you all informed!!

HMC- love the name, infact love anything cake related, cake is my hobby (if that's possible- eating not baking of course).

I can't believe you can wait till Friday, the suspense is killing me and we've only just (kinda) met. I would have caved in and done one (or five) tests by now!

nearly lol, well the thing is, I don't actually have any tests......

I work from home from 7am until 5.30pm so then its bedtime routine for DD so I don't get out until shopping day on Friday. So I will get some then.

Cramps are changing slightly so a little relieved that I think af is coming afterall. Bit of an Arse that my cycle has got longer though...

I will have a nice big glass of wine tomorrow night when she turns up!

Oh! Wrote a bloody long post and it has been lost somewhere in the Internet world!!

Sorry to hear of family problems HC!! It's awful when it's such a complicated situation. Sending big hug!!

Sounds promising for you numberjacker!! I am excited about all the possible bfps about to come our way!

I am thoroughly depressed as I think I am oving so not only not trying but avoiding even swoi bought dd a dolls bottle at the weekend and she has none stop played looking after and feeding dolly so sweetly. She is so ready for a little brother or sister and I am so broody I could pop!!! Am trying to avoid mumsnet as best I can for a bit all except this thread of course!! Will happily accept some of the munchies.... Thanks

Mmmm, cornflake cakes are my downfall. I made them with DD the other day, was fatal, we ate a lot before they got into the cases.

HC - love the new name, but still sticking to HC! Sounds a truly awful situation. How horrendous, do feel free to rant here, not sure that we can help but we can listen. I guess that is all you can do with your sister too. I can see how you see your bil was somewhat pushed to his limits, but there is no excuse for that, I know you know that, but it is just such a sad situation.

Well we are fine, couple of tantrums today, one was when we got into the car - I was taking her to the big toy shop FFS!! We bought a mini trampoline, I have burns on my hands from trying to put the bloody thing together, it is finally together and she can have a go at breakfast. Am hoping it will be good at wearing her out on rainy days!

On the in-car tantrum - note to others, who I am sure have already done this, but do make sure the child locks are on the back doors of your car, thankfully ours was because DD somehow managed to slip her arms out of the car seat straps and pull the door leaver - as I was pelting down the dual carriage. Mummy said some rude words, which no doubt she will repeat tomorrow. needed!

Oh dear MPT, sounds like a nightmare!! We're constantly complaining about what a nightmare it is to have a 2-door car (but it is my baby and I love it...), but maybe we'll keep it for a while longer as DD won't be able to get out if she manages to break free of the straps of her carseat!

Well, definite signs of AF here and I am relieved, I have to be honest. I really think this has given me a bit of a shock so I need to move back to trying from January. I just kept looking at DD thinking 'I just want some more time for just us before we have another', I was also looking at the mini bottles of wine in the fridge, wondering whether I'd even be able to have them before they went out of date, now I can!

But I think the biggest thing was knowing that if I was PG now, I would be injecting insulin over Xmas which wouldn't be a good thing at all. I wouldn't be able to enjoy any nice Xmas food either. So all-in-all, I think this scare has given me a lot to think about. So roll on January!

Bit of a bummer though that my cycles are long again.

I hope you ladies don't mind me hanging around, even if I can't start until January...

Clandy, please don't be depressed! Go out and buy all the food and drink that you can't have when you're PG and savour every mouthful - while you still can!! That's what I'll be doing come December!

MPT, well done on putting up the Mini-Trampoline! We bought an 8ft one recently in B&Q that was reduced from £100 to £60. DH put it up on his own as I'm really useless and also believe that DIY is definitely for men and did a very good job of it. DD loves it!

I've got my poor DNephew coming over tomorrow as my DSis is helping Mum do a wedding. Apparently he keeps on asking for his Daddy.

I know it's a bit early, but loads of rare steaks, soft cheese and runny eggs heading your way to those of us waiting to TTC. For those PG ladies, choccy and crisps!!

xx

Thanks for the kind words I am rather erm dramatic at times haha so not so much depressed as slight less happy than usual

Also I have vowed to stop putting double exclamation marks all over my posts it's annoying me now so god knows how you all feel

Oh mpt sounds like a nightmare lucky you were prepared. It's amazing how they manage to escape and reek havoc whilst still being so small

Oh and HC I agree diy is a mans job sounds like a good decision to wait until you are ready and January isn't too long away (although dd will be 2 so don't hurry it along too much) and like you said you can get a Christmas binge in plus you will have more energy for your fab party!

Hi everyone was invites to join by Clandy (thanx!) so thought I'd pop on and say hello !!

Just got my coil out today to ttc number 2 !! So nervous as dd wasn't planned so hadn't had the wait of taking a test dreading af etc etc !! So who's all doing Anthony other than swi ?? I'd love some tips !!

Hello shav! Hope you don't mind me saying to pop over but I know it can be daunting joining a thread that has been around for a while but everyone is so welcoming!!

My dd wasn't planned so a novice over here too but there is so much info available on mn its crazy! My advice is have lots of sex

How old is your dd?

She's 6 . I have been wanting to have another one for a few years , but I wanted to be married before I had another ... I am marrying OH in 5 weeks so thought we would just start now !!

I appreciate the invite I am eager to share stories !!

What about you ? How old or ur dd ? How long have you been trying ?

Hi Ladies, is it OK if I join you? I'm hoping to TTC #2 following my next AF (due next week), having had my coil out a week or two ago.
I have one DD who is 21 months old. When TTC for #1, I used the temperature method for pinpointing ovulation on my ladycomp which I had previously been using for contraception and I conceived in the first month of trying.
Hope it's OK to be slightly silly on here. I'm seeking advice from you learned ladies on my conception options next month as it looks like my DH will have to go away for work in Ovulation Week. So should I try:
a) the milkman or
b) a turkey baster?
Any advice gratefully received

Hello thing1 welcome to the wonderful world of ttc number 2

Shav my dd is 19 months.

Oh my word this week has exhausted me having all my new kids in think they are settling well tho but ready fir the weekend! Dd is being christened Sunday. Anyone else have any plans??

Oh and shav congrats on your impending wedding must be a very exciting time

Hello thing1, nearly and shav nice to meet you, i am fairly new to this thread too, so welcome.

My dd was also not planned, had a moment of madness, caution went out of the window and 9 months later, well you know the rest! Still, its the best mistake I ever made, if that makes sense, and i would nt change it for the world. But the whole TTC malarky is very new to me as well, and confusing. I am on CD26 currently, AF varies from CD25-CD30 usually, so could possibly be pregnant now but other than some slight tummy cramps and possibly imaginary breast tingling feeling have not had any symptoms so I am trying to resign myself to the fact that I am not pregnant yet, but there is still some slight hope there. If nothing happens by monday, will do a test.

Cant stop eaing this week though, cause of constant thinking of imaginary baby, so I am definitely expanding but not in the way I would like. I ve even picked a name, and daydreamed about pushing little one in pram on way to taking dd to school....anyway cream cakes anyone??

Hi again and thanks for the welcome. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks about it somewhat obsessively. DH and I worked out a time scale that suited us as i have just started s new job, and lo and behold he gets some work which is planned for the week I had worked out will be when I ovulate. It will be abroad. So I'm hoping this period comes late so that next month I ovulate later than I thought.
No plans for this weekend - anyone else?

morning all...

hands round massive plates of saturday morning waffles with lashings of maple syrup, piles of pancakes with blueberries and squirty cream (then wonders why putting on weight) and a big pot of coffee (decaf of course!!)

anyways- been swi every other day this week (no, not a chore at all..?) from cd9 till today (when I get round to it) will be cd15. I have a feeling that (typically) I didn't do it on the day that I ov'd (as not charting or using opks). Does that mean that I have a significantly reduced chance of getting pg this month? or no chance at all?

I'm seriously not a complete thickie in RL but grasping this seems to elude me!!

Any ideas?

I'm convinced it'll take me ages anyway, whether I get the timing right of not!

Morning all !!

Oh thing1 that is so annoying if oh is not at home when ur ov !! ul just have to make up for it next month

Hope everyone is having a good weekend so far , mines is just filled with wedding planning and swi ! I think I will need a night of relaxation at some point I'm beginning to forget what it's like to jaw a day with nothing to do !!

Anyone else got nice plans ? Apart from jumping oh's ??!

Nearly- sperm can live in your body for several days so I don't think you ve lessened your chances at all, I think your advised to swi before ovulation so that the sperms will be ready and waiting when the egg is released. Please correct me if I am wrong anybody.

I ve no plans as such, but this morning caved in and did a preg test, it was bfn!! Feeling a bit sad, but I ll get over it.

Turn- when is AF due? maybe you're just a bit early?

x

Ha! The month after next he's planning a 2 week trip to Japan to see a friend. THat's why I'm thinking turkey baster! Do you think maybe he's just not ready for number 2 .
Sorry to hear about the BFN, turnwest, maybe try again in a couple of days.
Nearly, sounds like you've given it your best shot, good luck with the 2WW!

Hi ladies,

< waves cheerily to thing and shav, whilst grabbing cake in the other>

Anyone else noticed I seem to time my appearance on this thread when there's a new plate of cakes or baked goods?

Hope you are all ok. Very excited to hear about all the SWI and even wedding plans.

Still SWI here, DH thinks every day is the way to go, and who am I to argue. Do I get an 'A' for effort Clandy?
Am temperature checking here too which is useful as have 25 day cycle, so it seems to verify am ov'ing around CD 11/12 which is good to know.

So sorry about the BFP Turn - maybe you are too early and you can do another test in a couple of days?

Ah I would say everyday is an A+ numberjacker haha.

Thanks for the cake had a busy day n just what I needed.

Sorry to hear bout bfn but possibly just too early maybe wait til af due n if it's a no show test again?

Wow what a busy OH haha wish I was as well travelled yep think it's gonna hav to be up to the milkman although OH may be a wee bit suspicious....

Hi nice to meet all of you! I'm joining in late but I hope thats ok! I'm also ttc #2. I'm only just getting used to some of use abbreviations cos I'm pretty new to mumsnet so bear with me while I try to learn! :) brought a nice cake round for you all! Freshly baked by me and ds#1 this morning. Well my name is Alison & my ds is now 7. About 4 1/2 years ago I was ttc#2. I was pretty obsessed tbh. I charted my temp, religiously used ovulation tests and had sex on specific days. I felt it was becoming a bit of a chore and we tried for a year and half with no joy. Each month was met with hope and then heartache when the pregnancy tests were negative. I then had my heart broken when I found out my man had been cheating on me and seeing one of my so called friends behind my back while we were ttc! We split up. Maybe it was fate that I didn't get pregnant again. I moved on and it took me a long time to get over him. I was completely heart broken as my dreams of having another baby and making our family complete were completely gone. Almost two years ago now I met an amazing man who has been a godsend to me and my ds. He treats him like his own son and they get on amazingly. I love him dearly and now we have decided to try for a baby. I came off the pill 3 months ago. I told myself I wouldn't become obsessed so I have banned myself from buying ovulation tests etc, and instead we're just relying on wait and see and let nature take its course. My period due today and I'm trying hard not to be obsessively symptom spotting but my boobs are really painful and they aren't usually before my period. Keeping my fingers crossed!

Hello Alison and welcome (although I'm brand new myself). Sorry to hear about your ex, but how fantastic you've found your lovely DP and loads of good luck with the TTC, let us know if you do a test.
Wll I better go and bake some cakes for you all and not just take everyone else's! What do you fancy? Flour less chocolate brownies could be nice!x