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Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

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dooscooby · 20/07/2011 12:53

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

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kat2504 · 14/09/2011 08:00

No that isn't wrong. That was my rationale for having an early scan last time around. Unfortunately it was not the right outcome, but it did mean I could deal with it at 8 weeks rather than 11 or 12.

However, this is NOT going to happen at your scan. Think positive! Everything is going well so far. You probably will see the heartbeat. I had my first scan at 6+4. They only measured it at 6+1 but they could see the heart flickering. I didn't even need to get dildocammed for that one. Obviously before 7 weeks they like to warn you that you might not see it, but you have a high chance.

I am having the epic tiredness too. I fall asleep on the sofa before ten without fail.

What time is your scan? Good luck, I'll be thinking of you and have everything crossed that you will be back on later telling us good news.

DiffedAgainDachs · 14/09/2011 08:48

Sorry I've been quiet - I've been away at a work conference. Am supposed to be seeing ob tomorrow and getting a scan but am currently biting my nails until his secretary gets in this morning so I can give her a call and try to get seen today - have been feeling v faint, had some bleeding and was out in the freezing cold for over an hour yesterday and it took me the entire evening to warm up afterwards so I'm manically worried about my little bean

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 08:51

Oh dachs how worrying. I hope you can get seen today. For what it's worth I've had two occasions of light bleeding so far - it really makes you panic but it doesn't necessarily mean there is a problem. Sounds like you are feeling poorly on top of that - might you have picked up a cold or flu?
Really hope you can get seen soon and that all is ok.

digitalgirl · 14/09/2011 09:03

dachs am sure the bean would have been using all your warmth to keep itself nice and toasty. Hope you get your appt this morning to set your mind at ease. Thinking of you.

ladybee I think those symptoms still sound very positive, mine have changed from week to week too. Good luck for tomorrow.

LAF did you find out what the missed call was about?

Waves at Kat, boodle, stitch, biscuits, notnow and all the grads who are lurking.

I had my scan with Mr S this morning. All's well, baby measures 9+1 (2 days out but Mr S not worried), hb is 176. Massive relief as we had DS with us.

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 09:06

That's fantastic digi so pleased your scan was good - sounds perfect. Don't worry about the 2 days, that isn't significant at all. Hb sounds excellent too. How lovely for your DS to see the little brother or sister already!

Biscuitsandtea · 14/09/2011 09:31

Dachs - hope your consultant gets in touch soon (or at least his secretary does) and they can fit you in today. As others have said I bet your bean was taking some of the warmth from you - they always say that if you get ill or anything the bean will make sure they're fine-thank-you-very-much and take whatever they can from you. Hope the work conference was OK though apart from them making you stand outside?

Digi - great news about your scan - that's really lovely. I'm sure the days is nothing to worry about. I mean babies come out all different sizes and lengths so they must develop at different rates too so when they do the measurements they can only ever be applying some standard measurement which gives an approximation?

Lady - Hope the scan goes well for you tomorrow (or today now? - I'm confused with time differences!). Fingers crossed there will be a heartbeat there but as you say if not, it doesn't mean it is worrying at this stage and just to have the reassurance that everything is in the right place will be very helpful indeed.

I am officially 12 weeks today - which is nice. I'll be 100x happier once the scan is over on Friday (and we get the right result - fingers crossed!). Still it is nice to have got this far after so long of nothing and knowing what can go wrong. Just hoping my optimism isn't proven wrong on Friday now - eeek!

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 09:36

biscuits congrats on getting to the 12 week mark! Have everything crossed for your scan. Have you had scans already?

Biscuitsandtea · 14/09/2011 09:39

We had a private scan at 8 weeks Kat (didn't qualify for an NHS one because we'd only had one m/c and had had DS subsequently) which was very reassuring. There was a heartbeat there and was measuring at 8+3 (when by dates I was 8 weeks dead on).

I think it is only because of that scan though that I have managed to function at all for the last 4 weeks. I couldn't have got to this point without some reassurance. Of course it still might not be the news we want on Friday but having seen a heartbeat at 8 weeks does drastically increase our chances so I'm hanging my hat on that (or at least I am when I'm feeling positive!)

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 09:42

Well that is very very reassuring, apparently if you have a good scan at 8+ weeks your chances are massively increased. I agree about not being able to function waiting until 12 weeks! I was having a wobble yesterday and then I realised it was only 5 days since my scan! This is going to be a very long seven months.....

Biscuitsandtea · 14/09/2011 09:45

I know - doesn't the time drag!! My scan feels like a lifetime ago - and DH keeps going 'oooh, isn't September going fast?' Erm No!

You must be nearly 10 weeks now though Kat - keep ticking 'em off!

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 10:14

10 weeks tomorrow! Wish I could have another scan then. My first m/c was discovered at 10 weeks, but apparently that one had failed by 9 weeks so I suppose I have already got past my biggest milestone.

I have been researching buying a home doppler. Any recommendations?

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dooscooby · 14/09/2011 10:37

Hi everyone, just popping in to see how you are all doing. Great to see some new faces and that some familiar ones are crossing off the days-woohoo. dachs hope you get seen today and that all goes well.

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digitalgirl · 14/09/2011 10:37

Congrats to biscuits for getting to 12 weeks. Good luck for Friday.

My dating scan isn't till 13 weeks, but I've got a couple of scans before then (next week and the week after), so I will hopefully be fairly relaxed by that point (yeah right).

Quite thoughtfully, DS decided he didn't want to sit on Daddy's lap next to the monitor and sat on a chair a bit further away so he didn't get a look. We haven't really told him what's happening as it's still too soon (and don't want him blabbing either).

LivinInTheMoment · 14/09/2011 11:32

hey everyone! hope your all having a nice morning. Brings in big pot of Decaff coffee and plate of warm chocolate croissants. mmm!

Digi thats brill about your scan! I wouldn't care too much on the dates they give you, i've had two scans and both different dates given to what i had in my head.

Lady enjoy scan today, lookn forward to hear how you got on. What time is scan?!

Kat i've been lookin at dopplers too, but DP thinks i would only be mentalling even more... but i do want one!! I saw quite a few on ebay, and there is only really one i would bother getting. Are we allowed to post links on here? Or i can message it to you if you like.

Biscuits congrats on gettng past 12wks!! We'll be thinkin of you on Friday. What time is your apmt?

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 11:41

yeah loads of people post links to things on here. Often to make fun of them but links nonetheless!

Thanks for the croissants!

scarletfingernail · 14/09/2011 11:42

Morning all

Not been posting much but have been lurking and am pleased to see all is going well.

Dachs I hope you get seen today and your mind is put to rest.

digital good to hear your scan went well this morning.

I've had my 8 week scan this morning and so far so good. Was a teeny baby with a hearbeat measuring 7+6 which ties in with exactly when I ovulated. My lovely EPU have offered me another scan 2 weeks today just to hopefully put my mind at rest and promised that it won't replace my 12 week scan so I'm delighted.

Biscuitsandtea · 14/09/2011 11:47

Yay again Scarlet - super news re the scan :)

My appt is at 9:30 on Friday morning - am hoping I'll have enough time to fill my bladder!

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 11:56

Fantastic news scarlet that is amazing. :)

digitalgirl · 14/09/2011 12:27

That's great news scarlet Smile

boodleboot · 14/09/2011 14:20

ooh lovely scan news from digi and scarlett.....brilliant! Smile

i caved yest and rang the epu at sidcup to check they received my referral....they have and my scan is tues 20th at 2.20pm....l shall let the mentalling commence....DH literally cannot get the time off on tues which sorts out my problem of not wanting negative vibes in the room (altho he is more an ice cube than an iceberg now...)...of course now he def can't come i really want him too being the contrary arse that i am....tbh if it is going to be bad news then i would really rather digest it first before telling him...oh god, i dont know....i might ask my best friend to come that way she can keep me semi sane and just incase its another EP and i have to be taken in immediately again.....before anyone suggests my darling mother coming, i totally adore her and she is wonderful in all situations...EXCEPT scans....she gets totally weird and bonkers...rude and clipped and just general weirdness....so she cannot come....Wink

Dachs - have you warmed up a bit now? if not then sending you a big

biscuits - fab 12wk news....well done for getting thus far and still sounding semi sane!!!

Kat - re dopplers i think they are pretty good idea as long as you dont have a placenta that is positioned at the front as they make it much harder to locate HB each time....i decided against one last time as was a nervous wreck allready without adding another mentalling tool to the mix....Wink

Brewand Biscuit for everyone else!!

x

DiffedAgainDachs · 14/09/2011 14:24

Just seen consultant :) Bean is apparently happy and healthy, measuring about 7 weeks and beginning to sprout arms and legs. Grin

Although he said my blood pressure is far too low and that I've been overdoing it so I need to take it a lot easier.

scarlet and digi Yay for good scans :) biscuit Hope your scan also goes well. :)

I'd better get back to work now!

kat2504 · 14/09/2011 14:30

Superb news dachs :)
Now you go and put your feet up and have a rest like you have been told please!

Biscuitsandtea · 14/09/2011 14:33

Great news Dachs - so pleased you have been seen and it was good news all round!

Now feet up and rest!

digitalgirl · 14/09/2011 14:42

brilliant dachs so pleased you got seen today. 7 weeks!!! Enforced rest sounds like a good plan. (You just made me google my own BP reading today, 133/77, which is now looking a little high, even though I was told it was perfect)

boodle I don't think I'd have my mother in a scan either. She's never really taken bad news particularly well, insisting 'something must be done' when nothing can be done. If DH can't come, then maybe a friend is next best option.

notnowImreading · 14/09/2011 14:43

Hi everyone. I've taken a day off work today after night of cramps but all seems to be subsiding, thankfully - didn't stop me weeping over the on call doctor on the phone though! I have spent most of my waking time this morning reading the whole of this thread and I feel as if I know you all now. There are some great (and terrible) stories here but the best thing about it is the support you've all given each other. I have been quite low all the way through so far (6 weeks tomorrow so not far at all). It's so strange to know that you're pregnant and have it consume your every waking thought but at the same time be completely unable to be happy about it or imagine a baby at all. At the moment, it feels more like I've caught a bug that will lead to miscarriage. Glad this thread is here - can't go around saying stuff like that in real life! Hopefully a day of rest will do me good. I think the weeping over the doc is good, at least, as she said she will refer me for an early scan. It looks from comments on here that 8 weeks is the best, most reassuring time for a scan - do people agree? Assuming I make it that far. I've got further than last time though, so yay me! Personal best...