Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

[dooscooby]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Wow just come on here after being off for a while, congratulations diffedagaindachs thats fantastic

Just had my 20 week scan, we are batting for the blue side, and baby looks healthy so thats good. The placenta is a bit low so will have to go for another scan when I am 36 weeks.

By the way my EDD is 14th January 2012

That's lovely news piglet :)

Does crying when watching re-runs of Dr Quinn Medicine Woman count as a pregnancy symptom? Or maybe I am just a bit wet anyway.

Right, I'm officially joining this thread after lurking (in denial) for the past month. The freaking out has finally started in earnest. I'm 7+5 today - so smack bang in the middle of mc#3 and mc#4 milestones. I've only had one day of nausea last Tuesday but have been fine since. Very paranoid about every twinge of back ache, cramping. Every trickle of cm has me dashing to the loo to check for blood. Boobs don't feel as heavy but maybe that's my imagination. I'm at a wedding today so I'm desperately hoping I'll be distracted for most of the day but I was at one yesterday and every minute I had to myself my brain was working overtime figuring out what to do if I started miscarrying.
And today I have a headache. Which I what I had the day I started mc-ing in the last pregnancy. Hoping it's just because I had a late night last night. Still don't feel particularly pg so I'm not looking forward to the first scan on weds (will hopefully be 8+2). Have to get it over with I suppose.
Wish I could just sleep through this bit.

hello digi Hope you have a lovely time at the wedding today. I'm in a similar point with regard to mc milestones and admit doing the same with regards to cm checking! I don't feel really pregnant either and my boobs aren't really hurting. I wish I could fast-forward the next month, then I would be 12 weeks and happy. I really am pleased to have got diffed again so soon after last time, but I can't allow myself to be "happy" about it yet as right now it often seems like a ticking timebomb waiting to plunge me back into the horrors of miscarriage. I guess it's self defense in a way. Although having seen this little bean alive on a scan, I am already more attached than I was the last 2 times in a way.

digi are you on any treatment of any sort? I'm on the aspirin and the clexane. I didn't get given the clexane till 6+4 though so I hope that is not too late.

Welcome digi so happy you are here. Feel free to obsess away. We all need to, and when you have had RMC, it makes it even harder to be calm. I think 8 weeks is an awkward time for your body because you should be at your next cycle and I think different strange symptoms appear.

The first 3 months are torture. There are many times when I've thought this pg was over for lack of symptoms or bad signs, but the bean is still here, or at least I think he is. I was naughty and went into a jacuzzi for 5 mins yesterday. The water wasn't that hot, but I'm beating myself up for doing it.

dachs what does PROM mean? Good luck for Monday.

Waves to everyone else!

Congratulations piglet!! Team blue here aswell!

kat Haha, Dr Quinn can get quite dramatic in the most cliched of ways! I'd class your crying as a pregnancy symptom!

A big welcome digital! Congratulations on your BFP :) I know, it's so hard getting past those milestones. With me, even when I have got past the "risky" part of pregnancy, I am still having major freak out sessions at least once every 2 days! It's crap, but that's what recurrent mc's do to you :(. Just remember that there is no reason why this pregnancy won't work out for you this time. I completely ignored this baby for the first 12 weeks. I wouldn't look at the scan pictures incase I got too attached.
I echo exactly what you say kat about not allowing yourself to get happy. The first 12 weeks are really really hard emotionally, mentally and physically.

I got a letter from my consultant today, saying that I am free to carry on the aspirin until week 36 which is a bit reassuring. Really didn't want to stop it incase it is helping in some way.

Hope you're all well and enjoying your weekend!

piglet Yay for good scan and being team blue! :)

kat crying is def a pg symptom. I keep crying! ALthough watching re-runs of Dr Quinn is a debatable pastime...I only ever catch the end of it when I'm waiting for Daily Cooks Challenge to start :)

digi Brave of you to become official! I'm still just lurky lurking. Enjoy the wedding and hope it takes your mind off things.

LAF PROM is premature rupture of membranes.

Thanks everyone

dachs I am so pleased for you after the heartache you have been through, was following you a couple of months ago. Wishing you a boring and uneventful pregnancy

Congratualtions too milky will be lovely having a brother for dd to play with.

dachs I like watching Dr Quinn in case Sully comes along to take off his top Good luck tomorrow will be thinking of you.

Not much news here. Was having a major freak out last night for no apparent reason. Four weeks until I get to the magic 12 week marker. I keep just trying to tell myself that as long as there is no bleeding there is no immediate need to worry and I should be happy I am not puking my guts up five times a day!

piglet thanks! :) I just hope nothing goes wrong this time.

kat Not really too keen on Sully's hair - he doesn't really do it for me. But if he has a really good body I'll keep an eye out for top removal next time I'm at home and it's on! :) Hope you manage to stop freaking out soon. There's no reason to worry if there is no bleeding or anything. (Which I know is true but it's kind of hypocritical for me to say that 'cos I'm freaking out 24/7 about everything)

Kat I'm on treatment for high nk cells and pcos - so I'm on steroids, progesterone, aspirin and metformin. I have one ds (3yo) and I've had 4 mc's in the last two years, so I feel far more experienced in miscarrying than I do in having a successful pregnancy

I joined the due in April thread in a bid to feel positive about this pg, but I'm finding it easier to relate to the women miscarrying than the ones with ms. I never really get ms in pregnancy. I had a little with ds, but apparently the steroids are supposed to mask any symptoms of nausea. I'm not even tired. So apart from the occasional back ache, heavy boobs and huge appetite I don't feel pg at all. I even had a bit of a dance at the wedding yesterday to no ill effect. Still, if it's bad news on Wednesday, at least I will have had a good time this weekend.

God I can't wait until dd goes to school this week so I can get some rest, I am exhausted (she has SN) so its really hard to keep her occupied, she is so bored. All i want to do is lie down as I feel so heavy and I am only 5 months. Heavier than dd, comparing the scan pictures she was a wee little thing (weighed 8.4 at birth), this one looks like a whopper, and the sonographer said he was a good size.

digi so great to see you here hope the wedding went ok yesterday. Everything crossed for you on Weds.

Posted to Dachs elsewhere, but wanted to make sure you know will be thinking of you tomorrow

And Kat counting down the days for you to be at 12....crying is definitely a pg symptom, I cried at the advert where the dog had made his own promo video to get out of the dog home, in fact thinking about it now is making me feel a bit upset. Dr Quinn is clearly better material to shed a tear over!

to everyone else,

Dachs good luck today. I have everything crossed for you.

Good luck Dachs - thinking of you today xx

Thanks guys - the scan is at 12 so will check in afterwards to let you know how it went. I hope there is something there as I'm not quite sure how I'll cope if this pg goes wrong.

dachs I have everything possible crossed for you! Hope your scan goes well today.

Just delurking to say good luck to dachs
Got my 20 week scan wednesday and I'm gettin nervous and exited I'm sure baby is well but I just hope the cyclazine for the sickness hasn't affected baby,
hope everyone has a good week x

lurking for dachs

One healthy heartbeat. One potential ectopic twin. Having scan from specialist on Thursday before I see my obstetrician. Am completely mentalling and madly worried.

Congrats piglet how exciting to know you are having a boy...chances are high your placenta will move up, and if so it's a bonus scan which is good!

Kat I cry all the time, or am filling up and fighting it if not actually crying!!

Hi digital congrats on the BFP I still knicker check loads of times during the day, I think it's to be expected x

Good luck for scan Dachs and Layla xxx

I was 14 weeks at the weekend and it feels like a milestone I don't know why...I had a wedding on Saturday and when I got to bed I felt really tired and hungry, my stomach was churning...and for the first time I actually thought about my baby inside me, it was very emotional thinking about him or her going banana's cos of what I had been up to that day! Freaked me out the next day so I had to dopple to check all was ok, think I will yo-yo from being happy and excited to stressed and terrified this whole pregnancy.

I've even started thinking about finding out the sex - has anyone else thought about this? I think we will - I am convinced it is a boy...my DH's family only have boys...his Grandad is one of two boys, his Dad is one of two boys, he is one of two boys and his brother has had three boys! Not much chance of a girl with them statistics!

Dachs crossed with your post...I don't have any experience of knowledge of this so can only say I hope the time passes quickly to your appointment on Thursday and hope for some good news from you then x

Oh dachs how scary to have one potential etopic twin. Could they surgically remove it without harming the other, or won't you know until Thursday?

Big hugs

I'm going on hols tomorrow so thought I better do my bit and update the stats before I go!

Monday 5 September

Bump 21+4 EDD 14/01/12
Milkyways 22+1 EDD 08/01/12
Hairylights 21+6
Mamarara 20+3
Laylasmummy09 20+2
Pigletmania 20+3
ladybird33 20+3 EDD 22/1/12
purpletoes 18+0 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
angela85 baby #2 17+0 EDD 13/2/12 next scan 30/9/11
MrsSteph 15+3 Next scan 20/07/11
Stitchinline 14+5 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 15/09/11
Shellshock7 14+1 EDD 4/3/12 next scan 17/10/11
LAF77 11+0, next scan 31/08/11
Biscuitsandtea 10+5 EDD 28/3/12, Next scan 16/9/11

MIA
Lovemysleep 35+1 EDD 11/10/11
Hils74 31+5 EDD 8/11/11
Haffertee 30+4 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 30+1 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 29+6EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 29+6 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 29+6 EDD 22/11/11
Jigglebum 26+6 EDD 8/12/11
Lucky 25+2
Hadrian 24+4 EDD 25/12/11

On the grads thread too:
OrangeGloss ? baby#1 40+1 weeks EDD 4th September
Wombat33 - baby#1 35+3 weeks EDD 10 September
Daisybell - baby#1 38+6 weeks EDD 13 September
PinkFondantFancy - baby#1 37+0 weeks EDD 25 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 36+3 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 36+2 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 35+2 weeks EDD 7 October
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 33+0 weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 33+0 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 32+6 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 31+3 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 31+2 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 30+4 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 29+1 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 28+4 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 28+3 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 28+3 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 27+6 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 27+0 wks EDD 5th December
Minnie74 25+4 EDD 12/12/11
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 24+4 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 24+4 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 22+5 EDD 5th Jan
Sunchild77 Baby #3 22+3 wks EDD 6th Jan - Elcs at 39 wks
Freezingmyarseoff baby#2 22+2 wks EDD 7th Jan
In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwoo, Lily06, doitnicely, freelance