Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

How're you doing Shell, keeping yourself busy (ish)? You must be able to leave soon for it and I just wanted to say again GOOD LUCk - am going to keep everything crossed for you (so please hurry as I can't drive to the supermarket with my legs crossed and I really do need to go today )

Good luck shell. Not long now. really hope everything is good. Xxx

i hope you are ok shell

Quick post to say everything was great really happy will post again later x

Yay shell very pleased was all ok

Yay Shell

Fantastic news shell

Great news, Shell.

So happy for you shell

Thanks everyone, sorry for yesterday full scale meltdown

The scan was great, seeing him/her wriggle and kick their legs was amazing. NT scan result was 1.2 so low risk, but need to wait for blood results too.

Really happy with hospital too, was there a long time but did everything in one go and they were really nice, and thorough which was reassuring Now have appointments every four week which seems much more manageable than the 12 week wait!

On another note, I downloaded the my baby's beat app for the iPhone last night, but couldn't hear anything! Anyone else had a go/heard of this?

Hope you all have a good weekend xxx

Just wanted to say congratulations shell its lovely to hear of so much good scan news after a sad week, and welcome to the newbies! it was my birthday wednesday and also a year to the day since my first miscarriage so quite a sad day and a date ill never forget but we ate loads of chocolate and wached a film in the eavening wich helped
I have an obstetrician appointment monday I don't really know what happens but I hope they listen for a heartbeat, I've got 18 days til 20 wk scan and it can't come quick enough, I agree with whoever said its not nice to wish time away when u have young children but you do, DD is 2.5 and hopefully that means she won't remember my m/cs but now she's starting to understand that I'm pg she keeps copying me saying she feels sick and needs to go to the docs rubbing her tummy so I really don't want her to see me worrying, hopefully ill move up to the grads thread after my scan if I'm at all relaxed enough after- I always think ill stop worrying after ... Appointment but I'm just as nervous waiting for the next 1 (driving DH mad) sorry not to namechaeck but on my phone so can't scroll bk,
I hope everyone has a lovely uneventful weekend x

morning all! I am back from my hols and I had a lovely time in the sun. Technically still diffed, although have had a very worrying week with deflating boobs, loss of tiredness and a very small bit of spotting. Appointment with the obstetrician on Monday so I will request asap scannange but nothing to be done in the meantime but wait.

So sorry to hear that there has been some bad news on here in the last week. Take care of yourself doitnicely I hope you will be feeling better soon.

:) for those of you who have had lovely scans.

Hi Ladies, hope all is well with you! Great news Shell about your healthy scan!

Just having a midnight panic - normal, yes?! - over the fact that I've stopped being knackered, my boobs have stopped hurting and sickness is abating. Sounds wierd to say but I wish it hadn't happened, it was all so reassuring when it was there. I'm 8 weeks today - has this happened to anyone else? With my 3 DCs, I never worried about anything, but since MC at 9 weeks I am frickin' paranoid and irritating the hell out of DP!! Please someone tell me it's normal, and to stop mentalling... No bleeding, some pain above and around hips which I assume is wind.

Have a peaceful, relaxing Sunday y'all. x

spell I felt exactly the same way a week ago and I had a little spotting. I was convinced it was the end. But I was scanned 3 days later and baby was there, growing up a storm. I think 8 weeks is like some sort of milestone because your body would start it's cycle, but doesn't.

I find my body does change hour by hour. My boobs sometimes seem
smaller. I don't feel ill in the mornings, but around lunch time and before I go
to bed, I get sick sometimes. My boobs aren't that sore this morning and seem a bit smaller, but I did bring up a tiny bit after getting out of the shower.

Last Sunday when I was moping on the sofa, I watched a lot of telly and there was a show where a character was pg, and they made such a production out of her being ill. I realised that we are presented with images of how pg should be, but isn't for all of us, and then we think we are doomed.

Hope you are OK.

The dreams have started, really hate this, every tiny twinge is going to worry me now (even more than normal). Does anyone else have days where they really wish they weren't pregnant? Don't get me wrong I really really want this baby, but it would just be so nice to have one worry free day.
Hope you're ok spell. everyone has times like that. my symptoms have been on and off since the start, some days I feel sick some days I don't. and yep, it scares the heck out of me every time they disappear.
Seeing the midwife on Thursday. Just got to stop worrying that she won't find a heartbeat.
Hope everyone else is doing well. Xxx

Hi everyone - great news on all the good scans!

Been trying to keep away from here for the past few days - I have my scan tomorrow, so have been vigourously cleaning everything in the house to keep my mind occupied.

Just told SIL that I am pregnant, as there are weddings coming up and she was asking me what I was going to wear so had to tell her I needed to buy something that will fit around my bump. I'm really really sad by her reaction to the point I want to cry. I know I don't expect everyone to be overly happy, but I thought at least my family would be a tiny bit happy. All she said was "Oh...I thought you looked big the other day. Not from the front. Your backside looked big". Then she went on to tell me how her neighbour who I met at her house 3 weeks ago had asked her if I was pregnant. Then she completely changed the subject and didn't even ask me how I was even though she knows about 2 of my mc's. So basically I just have a fat arse.

I am so sorry for laying down all my problems here, but her reaction isn't helping the worry I have with the scan tomorrow. I wish I could just forget her words and tone. I just keep thinking she thinks I'm stupid for trying again after suffering so many losses. My friends reacted completely differently, and were happy and laughing which gave me alot of confidence, and even my counsellor said their reaction was good for me, but SIL has just thrown me back to square 1...I don't even want to tell my sister now. I'm just so anxious and worried again.

Sorry again....Just feeling a bit crap right now.

Oh Milky - what a shame that your SIL was like that :( I know it is easier said than done but she is one person and you shouldn't let her reaction spoil how you feel. And it shouldn't make you worry more.

Is it possible that she has been having ttc problems or anything? It may more a reaction to something going on in her life (ttc or otherwise) rather than your news.

I know how stressful it is in the run up to the scan - you poor thing. This is your 20 week scan yes?

I have to say too - if you are at your 20 week scan and still having to tell people you're pg or they maybe might think it but not sure then you must be looking very trim indeed m'dear. I was massive by 20 weeks with DS - certainly no need to ask!

Is your SIL normally nice to can she be a bit catty?

I think the thing is you can choose your friends but not your family (especially not other 'married in' people ) and your friends are happy for you and supportive. Soak that up and avoid your SIL if she is going to be negative. We have enough concerns ourselves without other people adding to them.

And if your SIL thinks you shouldn't try again then that is her problem. We can't life our lives in the past (although I know all of us here are haunted by the past to a certain extent) but you can't give up on something you want because the road is bumpy to get there. (I'm not trying to make light of what we go through or have been through, please be clear on that, I just mean that if you still want a baby, of course you are going to try again)

And one last caveat - I hope I haven't said anything offensive. I don't mean anything bad about your SIL - I just don't want anyone stressing you out.

Thank You biscuits. Don't worry you haven't said anything offensive - quite the opposite and made me feel a bit better!

I know SIL made a big announcement after her 2nd child that she wouldn't be having another baby ever again, but ofcourse I don't know if they may be trying again. The thought did cross my mind this evening though. Still, I wouldn't

I just wish I had waited until after the scan to tell her now - Thanks for your reply though. I feel a bit better about my "big backside" aswell!

Sorry I needed to finish off that sentence in the second paragraph!

"Still, I wouldn't react the way she did to a family member if they told me about their pregnancy even though I've had all these mc's"

milky all the best for your scan, and don't let the SIL get you down!

I have my first consultant appointment today. Hoping that they will arrange a scan for me asap and tell me there is nothing wrong with my blood so I don't need heparin injections. Thankfully I have had no more spotting since the incident last week. I'm not sure if I'm worried sick at the moment or "morning" sickness is kicking in. But I do at least think I feel more pregnant than last week when I was sure I was going to mc again.

Good luck today Milky and Kat - hope both appointments go well xxx

milky what a right b*tch your SIL is. If it were me, I'd have slapped her or said at least I'm not as ugly as your personality is.

I guess I have more raging hormones in me and I find my fuse a lot shorter these days, things get to me a lot quicker than they used to.

DH told me that I had a sheep's bum last night, whatever that is supposed to mean and I'm only 9 weeks today.

Anyway, what time is your scan? Thinking of you.

Good luck Kat you mention heparin, have you had any RMC tests?

I've begun testing but got diffed before the results! Oops!
I've had two tests now for lupus anticoagulant and I hope I'll get the results today. I've been doing the baby aspirin just in case as it can't do any harm.

Good luck kat and milky today, I have obstetricaian too, I hope they help with my mentalling but I'm really not feeling too well so dreading the jurney to hospital and back, hope everyone has a good day xxx

Good luck Laylasmummy too - fingers crossed