Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

[dooscooby]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Oh that's good that they've referred you to mw early. It's nice when they take you seriously. And really hope she'll refer you for an early scan. If not you could always get a private one though.

I know what you mean about thinking about it ALL the time! At least at work you HAD to think about other things some of the time

Why not see if you can arrange a few things like days out etc or things to do at weekend to make the time go quicker?

I'm keeping everything crossed for you.

If all else fails I'm here to hand hold as required!

DS 2.11 almost

Thanks and yes you're right. I do need to keep busy. We are usually busy most of the time, but the last week or so has been quite quiet. Weekends are always busy. It's funny because time usually seems to go so fast but these early weeks of pregnancy always seem so long. It's not good to wish time away especially with DS being so young but I would just like the next 8 weeks to fast forward.

Are you feeling better now you've had a scan? I bet your parents are delighted. Were they expecting it or were they surprised?

Hello ladies! Just read this thread, thank God I'm not alone! You are all so funny, supportive and positive, it's fantastic, and I wondered if I might be permitted to join you lovely people?

History - I have DD(12), DS(11) and DD2(8) from my first marriage. Met my amazing wonderful DP, who is everything I never thought I would have, two years ago. He adores my fab DC and because I'm 37 and we want a DC together we TTC last October - I'm not getting any younger. He is 28 and I don't want to deny him the chance to be a father, we've done the 'forever' chat and he's here to stay. Fell straight away but I felt strange, and I MCd just before Christmas at 9 weeks. Never happened before, always had easy pgncys, and we were both devastated, it was a MMC after a scare when we had a scan and saw him/her wriggling about, so really sad. Took a long time to get over, and we started TTC in May, and found out I was pg on 22nd July, just after the EDD for the last one . Am now 7+6 weeks, EDD 1st April 2012, will be an ELCS owing to two prior EMCSs so prob towards end of March.

Extremely happy...and completely terrified. Every twinge sends me into obsessive panic. Am guilty of using Dr Google at least twice a day to diagnose ectopic or MC etc. Eating whatever it takes to take away hideous morning sickness - healthy eating gone out of the window. Have a huge, bloated tummy and terrible wind is this normal?? Never had it before! I look fine from the front and like Mr Greedy from the side. Is it because it's pgcy#5? Am I normal to be obsessed with it being Down's Syndrome or otherwise disadvantaged by my selfishness at having a baby at my advanced age? Am I being greedy by wanting 4 DCs? And why do I feel so bloody tired, never had this before but I'm worried I'll fall asleep while driving it's that bad. Is that my age? And I've got fibroids! So much to obsess about...

Morning everyone. Just thought I'd post about a Womans Hour podcast that I listened to last night (often helps me get back to sleep - didn't work last night due to the neighbours having a screaming row at 1am). The 12 Aug one had a researcher on talking about a study into threatened mc (done at St Marys Manchester). I found it quite interesting, they've basically developed a 'prg viability index' to give a better indication to women who are bleeding in early pg whether they are likely to mc or continue with the pg. Apparently 20% of those with threatened mc actually go on to mc and although the index isn't foolproof it gives a better idea which camp you're in (they add together the results of any scans, blood tests, blood loss etc.) They are also looking at the possibility that those 20% of pgs that do mc can be 'rescued' with hormone intake (didn't give anymore details on this). Anyway, it's prob not of interest to everyone but just thought I'd let you know as it's good to hear of promising research and the man talking about it did so very sensitively, which was nice to hear!

Welcome spellcheck. Sound like you're in the right place

Scan in 4 hours and am in a complete mess - again. Note to self to book all future scans in the morning.

Hi scarlett congrats on the BFP I've coped with the stress by trying to pretty much ignoring the pregnancy, except around scan dates when I can't cope with it!! My booking in is at the same time as 12 week scan which has helped as not had anything 'to do' with this pregnancy except an early scan at 8 weeks.

Great news re the scan biscuits its great to be moved on a bit too x

Good work adding yourself to the list LAF

Congrats on the BFP too [spellcheck], sounds like you have a lot to occupy your mind! Hopefully time passes quickly and uneventfully for you x

Tangfastics are the best sweets ever stitch I can devour a whole bag in 5 mins ha ha I feel for you with the scan - best wishes. Mine is tomorrow and I'm a mess too

Hi spellcheck and congratulations! Just wanted to say that terrible wind is par for the course with me. I've shocked myself on occasion, let alone those around me...

Thanks shellshock

I want to ignore it, but I can't stop thinking about it. Hopefully I can put it to the back of my mind a bit once the news has sunk in a bit more

When I had DS I was so naive to things that can go wrong. I breezed through the pregnancy without a care. Between DS and me becomming pg the second time, some friends had MCs and I just had a bad feeling right from the off. By the time I'd mc'd and got pg the 3rd time I was a nervous wreck. It's completely taken the thrill out of being pregnant. Don't get me wrong, I am excited as to what might be, but I don't want to accept it yet. It's too painful when it goes wrong.

I hope everything's good with your scan tomorrow. Do you think you'll relax into it more once you've seen everything's ok then?

Hi Scarlett I know what you mean about the thrill being taken away...first time round for me and DH (MMC at 10 weeks) we were so excited, told everyone and were picking names...this time we have only really talked about morning sickness and the headaches, not about the 'future' of being pregnant - it's such a shame.

I have tried to be positive though, the chances of a successful pregnancy are much greater and I've not had that many days where I've been been totally convinced it's all going to go wrong - just around scan dates like now!

I don't know how I will feel tomorrow, the 8 week scan did not change my feelings at all, still felt very precarious IFKWIM, but 12 weeks is more of a milestone so at the moment I'm just trying to convince myself it's going to be good news!

How are you stitch how did the scan go?

Scan was good thanks but took forever as baby was not behaving - had to go off and drink hot choc and walk about to try to get it to move. Happy with result and feeling a tad more relaxed

welcome scarlett and spellcheck

I hear you on the tiredness spellcheck I fell asleep again this afternoon for 2 hours. I came home at lunch time and was overwhelmed with exhaustion and fell asleep again. I thought perhaps it was just me that was struggling with tiredness to an extreme degree. I also have small fibroids, but they aren't a cause of miscarriage as far as I am aware.

I read an article about that research a couple of months dooscooby I think it is an excellent step forward. Anything that helps reassure us anxious pg women is a good thing.

how did your mw appointment go biscuits are you going to join me on the list now? :-)

I also echo your sentiments about the 12 week scan being the confirmation of the real pregnancy shell I had a great scan yesterday, but now, I'm obsessing about the next one at 10weeks and the big one at 12. I'm trying to remind myself that time with the baby is so precious and I should enjoy it. Easier said than done. My losses have been early, so crossing the dates of nearly 9 weeks, is a good thing for me. My last pg, I lost at 9+3, but things were pointed out as wrong at 7+5, so it was never going to go far.

The bean is on a health kick with me. We went to the gym this morning and did the elliptical exercise machine. When I've tried to eat some rubbish like a chocolate biscuit last night and pork scratchings on Sunday, they come right back up. So I can't just eat junk and get away with it which is a shame because I bought some nice stuff, like 3 Lindt chocolate bars, sea salt, chilli, and caramel.

Thinking of you tomorrow shell

Yay stitch so happy for you.

Fab news about scans LAF, Biscuits and Stitch, and lucky Scarlet with 8 week scan, would love a scan every day to ease my obsession! Totally hear you Shell about the worry taking away the excitement, it'll be DP's first child so I feel sorry for him with this - he's as bad as I am, and it should be such an exciting time. Very much looking forward to the 12 week scan, only 4 weeks of worry to go!! Then if all well we can relax a bit and get on with it. Even my 3 DCs ask me constantly if I feel ok, doesn't stop them trashing the house and fighting though...not one bit. Donchya just love rainy summer holidays? Had a few cramps today, all better now, probably just wind... Good luck to all of you x

Great news Stitch and what a great reason to drink hot choc

Will add myself to the stats when I get to my computer so I can cut and paste

Oh, and welcome to newbies - can't remember if I've said that already today .

Congrats on your bfps and we're here for hand holding as required. Fingers crossed they are sticky beans all round. Take care xx

I've had a go at the stats - apologies if I've done any days wrong...... I've just added 2 days on to everyone from LAF's post on Tuesday - is that right?

Thursday 18 August

Bump 19+0 EDD 14/01/12
Freezingmyarseoff 20+1 EDD 6/1/12 next scan 18/8/11
Updiffed 20+0
Milkyways 19+4 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 22/08/11
Hairylights 19+2
Mamarara 18+2
Laylasmummy09 18+1
Pigletmania 17+6
ladybird33 17+6 EDD 22/1/12 Next scan 5/8/11
purpletoes 15+2 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
MrsSteph 12+6 Next scan 20/07/11
Stitchinline 12+1 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 18/08/11
Shellshock7 11+3 EDD 5/3/12 next scan 19/8/11
LAF77 8+4, next scan 31/08/11
Biscuitsandtea 8+1 EDD 28/3/12, Next scan 16/9/11

MIA
Lovemysleep 32+4 EDD 11/10/11
Hils74 29+1 EDD 8/11/11
Haffertee 28 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 27+4 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 27+2 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 27+2 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 27+2 EDD 22/11/11
Jigglebum 24+2 EDD 8/12/11
Lucky 22+5
Hadrian 22+0 EDD 25/12/11 next scan 15/08/11

On the grads thread too:
Owlbooty - baby#1 41+4 weeks EDD 7th August
PrettyVacant - baby#1 38+5 weeks EDD 28th August
OrangeGloss ? baby#1 37+4 weeks EDD 4th September
Wombat33 - baby#1 36+5 weeks EDD 10 September
Daisybell - baby#1 36+2 weeks EDD 13 September
PinkFondantFancy - baby#1 34+2 weeks EDD 25 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 34+2 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 33+5 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 32+6 weeks EDD 7 October
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 30+3 weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 30+3 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 30+2 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 28+6 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 28+5 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 28+0 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 26+4 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 26+0 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 25+6 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 25+5 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 25+2 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 24+3 wks EDD 5th December
Minnie74 24+0 EDD 12/12/11
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 22+0 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 22+0 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 20+1 EDD 5th Jan

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwoo, Lily06, doitnicely, freelance

Good news on the scan, Stitch.

Also, welcome to Scarlet and Spellcheck too.

At last, nausea is kicking in, which as horrible as it is, I'm glad that my symptoms are showing up properly at last! Can't stand the smell of DH's deodorant- it's hardly the Lynx effect!!

Great news stitch

I just feel sick, I hate scan days so much

Good luck Shell - what time is your scan?

12.45, it's too far away!

Best wishes for the scan shell - will be sending happy thoughts your way. Scan days are hideous

Oh Shell the waiting is dire isn't it, you poor thing. Anything you can think of to do that will take about an hour? Are you at home or work? Work = make a round of drinks for everyone - that should fill at least 15 mins if you do it slowly enough! At home I would say watch something on TV - time goes faster!

The worst bit too is all the waiting and then when you get there you're busting for a flipping pee because of the full bladder thing. The lady on Wednesday must have been really confused as I showed no discernible emotion apart from relief when I could go for a wee! (I was desperate to cry but didn't want to make the scan wobble).

Thanks guys, it's total pants!

Im at work, wish I'd took the day off, I know better for any future scans! I know I'm gonna be fighting the tears until it's done and then hopefully cry with relief