Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

thanks for your symapthy, am OK but just a bit down

biscuits tell me about it! My boss knows but trying not to tell anyone else although am sure they have guessed by now, the total aversion to tea is probably quite a strong sign. I really don't think they consider that you might be working at all, such a pain but hopefully I can stress to them at the booking in I really need to consolidate the visits!
The scan next friday is my 12 week one - will be just over 11 but they seem fine with that.

greengoose so sorry this is happening to you, hope you are getting lots of hugs in RL xxx

biscuits I do feel sorry for my DH sometimes as he can really have no idea about the physical side of things, if I say my tummy hurts I could mean I feel sick, have stretching pains, period type pains and he just wouldn't know! He just tries to bring me things I might want, his way of dealing with it I guess! (did result in a magnum ecuador the other night, total and utter gorgeousness ha ha)

stitch sorry to hear about your dog and the multiple hospital appointments Probably a good idea putting the doppler away until you feel more confident on finding the HB

milky well done for making a decision on your course, I had to do a similar thing when I had the MMC, not easy but you do feel better once the decision is made x

Hope everyone has a good weekend, can't wait for it to start now!

Thanks everyone for reassurance on the discharge! I got myself a couple pg books from the library and yeppers discharge is totally normal.

greengoose hugs to you, thinking of you.

biscuits welcome back from camping trip :) i don't have any morning sickness at all either. some light nausea but nothing major at all. i think if we don't get it we're lucky! I'm reading denise van outens bumpalicious book and she didn't get it either. so we in good company

PS. Hope your back feels better soon!

stitch aw sorry to hear about your pooch.

Is anyone else eating like its going out of fashion? I just can't get enough grub down my neck. This is definitly contributing to my expanding tum.

shellshock mmmm magnum ecuador!! putting that on my shoppin list now... lol!

Im signing out girls. Just been to EPU and they reckon it should come out on its own over the weekend. They were all very lovely there (apart from the mum who let her one year old repeatedly try to climb onto my knee in the waiting room.... some people)!
Feeling very sickly and a bit shellshocked. Only ever had the op before, but think Ill try and do it naturally this time.
Anyone recommend a good tread to hop onto from here, we will want to try again more or less straight away.
Thanks for all being so lovely and good luck with your nine months!!

Oh greengoose I am so sorry :( How terrible for you. I hate how they have women who are miscarrying in the same waiting area as pregnant women and children - it's just the worse thing ever. I hope your family and friends will take good care of you. Chocolate and an unhealthy takeaway always make me feel a little better after my mc's. Try to rest and take care of yourself x
If you feel up to it, there is a thread in the miscarriages section for women who have had 2 or more miscarriages. It has been such a great help to me in the last 8 months. It's called "recurrent miscarriage testing and beyond part 5"

Oh greengoose i'm so sorry, you poor thing. i hope it doesn't take too long to pass naturally for you. make sure you can take some time to you self if possible and just relax. maybe your other half can take the kids out for the day or something? be good to yourself.

when i was mc it helped me to post and read in the mc/loss forum.

i hope you will be back on here soon xx

So sorry to hear that you are going through this again Greengoose . I went down the natural option last time and although it was drawn out and painful (i had contractions every three minutes for a good day or so) I know it can be less so for some people. Arm yourself with painkillers and I second Milky's advice about having nice good and a good strong drink. It sounds silly but you just need to do things that might help you feel better. Plan some nice things to look forward to in the next few weeks.

I also found the recurrent board really helpful as we can discuss testing and everything on there and also for when you want to try again there is the 'TTC after miscarriage thread'. Got a feeling I will see you there after my scan next week.

When I last miscarried I started a thread called 'Reasons to be cheerful' and met some really nice ladies on there who I am still in touch with. Our plan was to make some lovely plans to do things that would make us happy - go out, eat lovely food, book holidays and even for some changing jobs, moving and making life changing decisions. Even just having a little spa treatment or a facial makes life that bit more bearable. Actually the other thing I did was throw myself headlong into research and that's how I have ended up being treated for NK cells. Any advice needed do give us a shout.

Hope everyone else is ok xxx

greengoose I'm so sorry to read your news - take care of yourself.

Has anyone heard from ladybird33 or are you lurking here ladybird? Haven't seen you post for a while and wonder how you are?

Unfortunately it's bad news here, just had call to confirm it's downs.

Lily I'm so sorry to hear your news. My sister has downs and if you would like to PM me and ask any questions I would be happy to try and answer them. No bias from me either way.

lily I am so very sorry it is bad news for you, thinking of you and your dh at this time.

lily and Greengoose sorry to read both of your posts. Thinking of you both xx

lily I am so sorry to hear that you have bad news from your scan. Thinking of you at such a hard time.

greengoose I'm also sorry to hear that you are miscarrying. I concur with the others, the recurrent testing thread on the mc board has been such a support for me in the last 9 months. Everyone is so helpful with sharing knowledge and experience. I think that it is important to be seen by an RMC specialist because local hospitals and GPs don't know what to do with us for the most part.

About my TEG, freelance 75mg of aspirin is not enough to control it. St. Mary's doesn't recommend taking aspirin unless you have been diagnosed with a problem. I don't know of any other hospital that tests for TEG, but I am sure that it could be possible. biscuits it was picked up in a blood test. It isn't something that can be detected in a scan. milky I am supposed to take until 34 weeks. I can't imagine being 34 weeks pg ever! BTW, I found out today my Vit D levels are satisfactory.

I did speak to the nurse today and she was very good. She assured me that it was OK that I didn't get the blood test sooner. As the baby is growing well and has a heartbeat, it is OK. They've picked it up now and it is being treated, so I shouldn't beat myself up. Easier said than done!

Apparently, women who have this condition and get treatment go from a 30% success rate in pg to an 85% success rate. Hopefully, luck is on my side this time. As for being hereditary, they don't know. They think it is random, but I did mention my premature status and wondered if it would have anything to do with it. I think I will book a private scan on Monday if things seem to be OK over the weekend. I really don't think I can wait for another week. I need reassurance that my baby is still OK after this development.

Like you stitch I worry about multiple appointments and being absent from work. Part of me is beating myself up about not getting the bloods done sooner at St. Mary's is because I couldn't wait around and felt like I had to be back for a conference call. Going up to London ends up taking 5 hours door-to-door round trip, so I can't really do it every week. So sorry to hear about your dog. We lost a loved furry member of the family a few weeks ago and it is sad.

biscuits I could have written your post myself about the symptoms. I wonder if it is in my head. I wretched twice today, but didn't bring anything up. Maybe it is psychosomatic, who knows? We want to believe, but are still sceptical after heartbreak.

Thinking of you all.

Hi ladies

Just a quick check in.

just wanted to say I'm really sorry to hear about twoo greengoose thinking of you both.

lily big hugs for you xx

collie I'm still around chick but been so tired I've found it difficult to catch up with everyone. Hope you're ok?

My m/s has started to kick in and I feel a bit icky and also my stomach has bloated big time! Has anyone else had this?

I've also gone ahead and booked my mw appointment. I'm seeing her on the 17th August so will off load all the mentalling I've been doing on her in the hope she might send me for a reassurance scan? I'm about 7+3 today and my last pg stopped at 8weeks so next week is going to be tough!

Hello to the newbies Will promise to catch up properly soon xxx

Oh lily I'm so so sorry sweet. I've been thinking about you all day and lurked for news at lunch. Such hard news to processes. Do you know what you'll do? I'm so sorry I don't know what to say. My heart is with you and your DH right now.

greengoose I'm so sorry that epu have confirmed the worst. Thinking of you too.

glad you're ok. I felt bloated early on too. Needed bigger pants well before 12wk. (but then some of that was mc fat)! All ok here thanks. Getting big and lots of movement. Good luck getting through the next week milestones are always tough, especially early on. Hope you get a reassurance scan.

lily and goose sorry to hear that it's not good news from either of you.

Sorry to hear of bad news lily and greengoose. Thinking of you both.

blackkat i want an early scan. I had one last time. That way if its not viable i can end it sooner. My body is shit at doing it by itself. I have a consultant appt a6+4. By then my bloodshed for Apashould be back. Hopefully it will not be too late.

Hi everyone,
I'm so, so, sorry that I haven't posted for so long. We went away for a while then my stupid computer broke and I was frantically busy and didn't have time to get it fixed. Please forgive me for abandoning you

I'm really pleased to say that everything is fine with me so far. I have spent the past few days mentalling as firstly, we went to a wedding over the weekend and we finally told my MIL and DH's family that I was pg - within minutes all the wedding guests knew and I was feeling really stressed about the whole thing as I had know way of knowing whether everything was still ok with the babies inside. The idea of so many people knowing just freaked me out as we have kept it so quiet up until now.

Secondly, I've had a horrible virus for the past week with really exhausting flu like symptoms and I felt so bad I couldn't believe that it wasn't affecting the babies somehow. Finally went to my gp and she reassured me and told me that the whole reason that I have been feeling so awful is because the babies have been taking all the good stuff leaving me with nothing to fight the bug... just thought I would share that in case any of the rest of you come down with something nasty - basically your body makes sure that the bean comes first.

Anyway, my gp was right, I had a scan this morning (I am 15+5) and everything looks good, all the measurements were right for dates, they both have enough fluid to swim in and the membranes look ok. My only mild concern was that one of them was kicking the other one in the head - I hope this isn't a sign of things to come....!

They told me today that they will scan me every 3 weeks to check none of the nasty things that can happen to identical twins are developing - it sounds very reassuring, but actually I should really be scanned every 2 weeks to pick up any problems early (scans can show everything is fine one week, then 2 weeks later you have to be rushed into emergency surgery as problems can happen and deteriorate rapidly in that time frame). So... I've got my head round the keeping calm part (mostly), but I think I am going to supplement the scans with a few private scans to reassure me - am just hoping I don't bankrupt us in the process....

I've quickly read through the last 10 pages of the new thread - phew! - and wanted to say a big welcome to the newbies and send out big hugs to those with sad news...

Sorry I can't name-check everyone but I did want to say to Lily I'm so sorry for the news that you got today - my heart aches for you and the difficult decisions that you face. I hope that you can draw strength from your OH and those who love you.

Sorry for the mega-post (mostly about me I've just realised). I'm looking forward to getting back into the swing of things on the thread and hearing how everyone is.

xx

lily I'm so sorry to hear that you received that call today. I do hope you and your OH get the support and time you need as you go through the next few weeks. Whatever you decide we're all here for you and thinking of you at this difficult time. ((hugs)) xxx

greengoose sorry to hear your news too, I hope you have someone to take care of you over this weekend and you're not in too much pain. Thinking of you

Kat I will have everything crossed for you for the scan and the blood results.

Lili lovely to hear from you, sorry to hear about the MS. Hoping all goes smoothly for you.

hello to those of you who remember me from the mc thread (I was formally meliesmummy)...I just wanted to say hi to lily, collie's been over to the common room and updated us, I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you, you must be in a state of shock. I'm sure that you know that we're all here for you whatever you decide xxx

LAF great news on the Vit D levels and I can understand why you wouldn't want to wait another week for a scan.

lily my thoughts are with you and you dh during this hard time. xx

Congratulations on the scan ladybird! I had the worst flu at around 10 weeks and was sure it was a sign that bad things were on their way. It's reassuring to know that baby was fine through it!

Waves back to blackkat - hope you're doing well!

lily I am so sorry to hear that. I know whatever decision you make will be the right one for you, and it's such a hard decision to make. Thinking of you, all the best xx