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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Mourning our angel babies but still hoping for the future: let the swi commence!

1002 replies

TooImmature2BMum · 21/06/2011 19:40

This is a thread for those of us on the bereaved mother's thread who want a place to moan about the perils of ttc without upsetting anyone over there. We've gone through at least one pregnancy, and we know what it is to hold a baby whose eyes will never open, or to have lost a baby after a few days, weeks or years. We know the fear, but we're going to go ahead and do it anyway. And then do it again, especially in the middle of the month!

Newcomers will be welcomed with all the hand-holding and wisdom we can summon up - and that's a lot! Come in and join us: the door is always open.

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MelMal · 15/08/2011 07:17

Good luck back at work today Too. I'm sure everything will be fine xxx

janedoe25 · 15/08/2011 07:27

Morning girls,

too you will be fine at work. Im on CD 26 of a normally 28 day cycle, I am not testing until/if AF is late. I don't think it is my month though i have my usual PMS symptoms.

vicky i have no advcie sorry but i just want you know im thinking about you.

Hope everone else is well.

spilttheteaagain · 15/08/2011 09:43

too I really hope it goes well at work today. Just walking in on the first day is the worst bit. Once that's over it'll get easier.

vicky what you're describing sounds totally normal, one day at a time is all you can do. Good luck.

Hello everyone else!

MelMal · 15/08/2011 10:00

I typed a big post earlier and then couldn't connect Angry. Ended up logging off completely and having a moment of calm!!!

Vicky I think it wouldn't be normal for us not to worry all the way through this from the moment we get the BFP until we get the baby crying in our arms. It would be fabulous to be innocent through this but we are all realists and we are all very strong women after what we've gone through x

I'm waiting to get a BFN and then I'll be over the moon. Who'd have thought that that would appear on thus thread?? DH can't wait either and that's for completely different reasons Wink x

vickyd0 · 15/08/2011 14:11

thanks guys u been so supportive xx

AngelGeorgie · 15/08/2011 14:57

Mel (()) I remember that feeling after Georgie last year and the MCS awaiting a BFN but at least u know where you are starting from then. Then , get to it as I ve always found never takes me long to get pregnant at that stage , either after MC or Georgie.
Hi all xxx

TooImmature2BDumbledore · 15/08/2011 20:52

Spilt, absolutely right, I was petrified (weirdly) all the way to work but as soon as I'd sat down I was fine. I spent all day chatting and catching up on gossip and because so many people are on holiday just now I only had to see a couple of people. I am slightly miffed because DH told his entire office that I was pregnant again (we work in the same organisation but in different buildings), and his boss told one of my friends that half of my team knows now. I thought it was okay if DH's office knew so long as it didn't get to mine before I was ready to tell people, but it seems that it is already too late. Bloody gossip! Oh well. DH just said he was so excited he couldn't keep it to himself, so I couldn't be too cross.

Scan tomorrow - some brown spotting today so was a bit freaked out. Really hoping tomorrow goes well. Brown spotting is okay, though, isn't it?

CD26, Jane, excitement! Hoping hard for you.

Mel, arf at your DH wanting the BFN to show up! Wink Hope it's soon.

spilttheteaagain · 15/08/2011 21:02

Brown is old blood too, prob left over from implantation, it can take a little while to work it's way out. I had a small brown bleed at 11 weeks this time - it is very scary but turned out to be nothing to worry about (probably placenta implanting from what I can gather at that stage).
Lots of luck for tomorrow, hope you get a lovely pic of a healthy little bean Smile
Really pleased that your first day back went well, but how frustrating to have the gossip mill running already!

AngelGeorgie · 15/08/2011 21:13

Too good luck tomorrow xx unfortunately gossip gets round any work place I m sure you ve experienced that before!!! Especially when it's nice news Wink.
I was actually glad I returned to work as it was a nice distraction with all the mindless gossip and banter. I found it quite therapeutic to talk shite and made me amused that i' d experienced the worst thing ever but people were still griping about same old trivia and crap!!! Sure alls fine tomorrow xx

MelMal · 16/08/2011 07:50

Morning ladies,
Thought I'd got my BFN this morning and th

MelMal · 16/08/2011 07:53

(sorry) then a line came up! How infuriating, it was the faintest of lines though so hormone levels must be a lot lower. There's a lot to be said for clearblue digital tests, but I'll stick to my 89p for 2 just now!!!
Hope everyone is well xx

janedoe25 · 16/08/2011 08:06

mel it is a good sign that the line is getting fainter.

I am hoping and praying for a BFP, AF is due tomorrow. But i think she is on her way Sad

Hope the scan goes well too

razzdazz · 16/08/2011 08:10

too so glad work went well for you. Wishing you so much luck for your scan today Smile
mel sorry you havent yet got your BFN but it does defo look to be going in the right direction which is great. Fx there is only one line by Thursday.
Good luck jane positive thoughts are with you Smile

ciwi · 16/08/2011 08:48

morning everyone, I am full of cold with a sore throat today, the joys!
too I agree with spilt brown blood is old, I had it with my little ciwi. Good luck with the scan today, you will be fine x
mel Glad you have nearly got your bfn Confused, I got a faint line after my mc, it turned to a bfn within a couple of days x
Good luck jane x

spilttheteaagain · 16/08/2011 09:11

Good luck too x

CheeseandGherkins · 16/08/2011 10:35

Morning all! I had my appointment with the new consultant and she was so much better. I feel a lot happier about changing to the other hospital now. She's put me on asprin daily until delivery and also I'm going back at 12 weeks to speak to the diabetic nurse and I'm going to be monitoring my blood sugar levels just in case. She said that the GTT is all good and well but what they want to know is how my body reacts to sugar normally not just after a high sugar drink. Makes perfect sense to me.

Blood tests due next week and then my nuchal scan in 3 weeks now! Can't believe I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow.

Too good luck for today, hope all goes well. I had bled for 10 days with my dd1 (who is now 9), and that was brown blood; early on. My scan showed me 2 weeks less than what my dates would have made me because I have long cycles so don't be alarmed if you are earlier than you think :)

Mel hope you get the negative soon so that you can start trying again. Personally I always tried again right away after miscarrying, the hospital told me that the only reason some recommend waiting is for more accurate dating but they can do that with a scan anyway.

ciwi hope you feel better soon. I've been sneezing for days now but I think it's hayfever.

Jane are you testing today or tomorrow? Fingers crossed for you.

split hope your little one puts in an appearance soon, how are you feeling?

spilttheteaagain · 16/08/2011 11:07

That all sounds really good cheese.

I'm ok thanks, I was all hopeful that things were starting yesterday, lots more random contractions and a very squirmy baby but apparently not. So I'm planning some hand and knees floor scrubbing today to see if that encourages anything...

Bluetinkerbell · 16/08/2011 11:23

hi all,

I had a tiny bit of brown blood/discharge yesterday... mid-cycle bleed or ovulation? I don't know...

FX for you too !

ciwi · 16/08/2011 11:34

blue I got ov bleeding in the 2 months before i conceived this time, the first month it was brown but the second month it was red. have you done an opk?
cheese I am 9+1 today, it's been the longest few weeks of my life! My dating scan is 2 weeks tommorrow but I just couldn't wait until then so I have got a private reassurance scan tommorrow, am really nervous about it but I am feeling really sickly so I hope that is a good sign! Glad you feel happier with your new consultant x
spilt fx the floor scrubbing works, if not you can always come round to mine and continue your cleaning here - lol

Bluetinkerbell · 16/08/2011 11:40

ah thanks ciwi haven't done a test yet, as I am on holiday with my parents without DH :( so if it is ov bleed it won't be for this month then unfortunately... With Sterre I did have a very long cycle apparently and when I did a calculation on a longer cycle I would ovulate over the weekend which would be better as I can swi with DH then :) ah well we'll see...

ciwi · 16/08/2011 12:05

that is a right pain blue hope it's not ov then x

CheeseandGherkins · 16/08/2011 18:27

spilt glad you're ok. Ooh, things might be starting then! HOpe the contractions continue!

Blue fingers crossed for ov at the weekend

ciwi Good luck for tomorrow, hope it goes well. I'm not surprised you're nervous, I was before mine and I still am! Every twinge and I'm terrified. I'm 9 weeks tomorrow so we're very close it seems.

Finally got my hair cut, managed to get an appointment for today and I feel so much better now. Not long and straggly anymore but nice and shoulder length. Feels very swishy at the moment hehe.

TooImmature2BDumbledore · 16/08/2011 18:33

Hello!

I have been scanned and saw a teeny tiny bean baby and a little heartbeat flickering away! They said it is only 6+5, which is annoying because by LMP I was 8+3, so it is a lot less. I was completely petrified because the technician asked me questions about when I had had the positive test before she started and when I said I had had 2 negative tests at about 4 and 4.5 weeks she said I would definitely not be 8 weeks and she might not be able to see anything at all. It is only 8mm long! She couldn't even be sure that it wasn't twins - she thought there was only one but it was too small to be positive.

The Early Pregnancy Unit MW saw me as well and she was very nice and has arranged another scan in 2 weeks just to reassure me. My booking scan is to be pushed back because I'm not as far along as I thought I was, so it's good to have another one in the pipeline. She said in her experience a scan calms women down for about a fortnight and then they start to panic again. That sounds about right! She was going to investigate my consultant referral, because it doesn't seem to have come through properly. She did say I would probably be in the EPU until about 14 weeks, though. But it's all good!

razzdazz · 16/08/2011 18:46

Hello all,
too I am so pleased that your scan went well today, I can feel your frustration at being back dated......I have been there!!
cheese I am glad you feel like you are being well looked after, how we are treated often helps ease some of our anxieties Smile
I really hope that ov holds off until the weekend for you blue Wink
ciwi I so no how you feel about not being able to wait for a scan, hope all goes well tomorrow.
Hope baby arrives soon spilt Grin

CheeseandGherkins · 16/08/2011 18:48

Too that is great news! Exactly what happened to me and I was frustrated as well, I did think that I couldn't be as far though as I know I have long cycles and probably ovulate late. I hope you're not worried about that though as I'm sure you're the same with me on cycles. So pleased for you :o

It's good that you've got another scan booked, definitely needed imo.

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