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Cavemum TTC#1 - Currently undergoing fertility tests.

Hello,

Thanks for the update Imps. There certainly like are quite a few of us.

I currently don't have a UCL or CD. I've just been diagnosed with PCOS and seem to ovulate pretty randomly, the last time was back in December so I'm thinking I must be due one soon! GP has advised that we just get cracking.

I'm working hard on losing weight and choosing more low-gi foods which is supposed to help. Anyone else have any PCOS advice?

Hello all, I lost you for a while!

farfallarocks so sorry to hear about your mc.

Sn0wGoose welcome! UCL is usual cycle length (if you know what it is) and CD is cycle day.

Brownsauce I have PCOS too. I was diagnosed in January having not had a period since May 2010. I've also been diagnosed with a blocked Fallopian tube so am undergoing a laporoscopy in just over a week to see if they can fix it.
I don't have any weight issues, though do have awful skin. I've been advised to try and follow a low GI diet and am contemplating acupuncture.

Gah, the site ate my post. Trying again...

Welcome Sn0wGoose!

farfalla they may have mentioned this to you at the EPU, in which case ignore, but when you stop bleeding you might want to POAS to make sure it comes out negative. I got caught out a bit by this. They did a urine test at the hospital that was negative, so I assumed a home test would also be a BFN. I did one to see for myself, and it wasn't. I'm told it can take a little while for all the hCG to clear out, which can make for a confusing situation if you're TTC immediately.

Farfalla, I'm so sorry to hear about your MC. Look after yourself. I hope Mr F is okay too.

Hello Sn0wgoose! TTC can be quite a painful process! It's really hard to keep your chin up all the time when you've not succeeded in a cycle, but the only option really is to keep on at it! Hope you get your BFP soon.

Not long until your appointment now Cavemum - could you remind me what they will be investigating at this one?

Thanks Tomboywife, good point I will try that tonight just in case.
Have pretty much stopped bleeding now so at least that is a blessing!

Mr F is such a rock and so incredibly positive, he really is fab and I realise how lucky I am so have him. If there is anything positive that comes out of this it has made Mr F MORE determined to have a baby whereas before he was up for it but mostly because I was I think.

cavemum, hope your investigations go well!

hey- joining a little late-but thrilled to be able to chat to people going through similar kinds of things! We have been TTC for 18 months, have done HSG/ hormone tests & all seem to be fine and normal, as does DH spern counts. Last saw fertility dr May 19 who said next step was a laparoscopy which is scheduled for OCTOBER . Pretty frustrated at having to wait that long for yet another investigatory procedure and wondering if i should go back and ask them to put me on clomid in the meantime. anyone else experienced anything similar?

whoops- forgot to ask if it would be ok if i joined! hoping it is....

Hello All!

Farfallarocks so glad you have supportive OH, it's so important. I have close colleague who has just been through 2 MCs so seen what she has been through. Sending you lots of hugs if that's allowed on this thread!!

Well the red lady sang for me yesterday, almost a week late but think it's my body finally adjusting after coming off the pill over a year ago. Had not been convinved AF was the real thing each month but this month due to lots of pain and fact it wasn't on time am thinking it might finally be resuming normality! Here's to a busy July, hope Mr Marshmallow has had his weetabix ; )

Good luck everyone!!

My friend who decided to try for her second at the same time as I decided to try for my first has just given birth :(

I am pleased for her, but honestly, it's like, she decided, did it a couple of cycles, got pregnant, now has another child. I meanwhile feel no nearer, in fact I feel further away from conceiving.

Of course I am thrilled and relieved for her, but I also want to sit and cry. I can't because I have to go to work now to do the late shift and I am still in my jammies.

I'd love to throw a sickie right now though. I have been really emotional this month, just keep snuiffling here and there. This whole TTC thing must be getting to me.

Sorry Tigerseye that sounds difficult. I had what I thought was an unplanned PG last year (not sure what happened there exactly, but turns out I wasn't PG in the end). Two of my very best friends ended up having their babies at exactly the same time that I'd have been due earlier this year. Does hit you a bit, doesn't it? I didn't tell them, either- I didn't really want to talk about it.

Hope you feel cheerier soon. XXX

Thanks Kiki, I am late for work but I am now dressed, have stopped getting teary, and now am on my way. Onwards and upwards.

Sorry that you had a crap experience. It is very hard, emotional in a way that is hard to understand unless you have been there.

Hey, I used to be Kaloki. Thought I'd pop in and say hi. Still no BFP over here, trying not to think about it nowadays.

Hope you are all ok. I'm both happy to see some familiar faces, and sad to see that you still haven't had any luck.

[waves to Kaloki/Empusa]

Imps, things are slightly on hold for me until I've had my operation. They are going to look at the blocked tube (right is blocked, left is fine) and see if they can unblock it. I presume they will also have a good look at my ovaries while they are in there.
Once they know what is going on with my tube I will then be put on Clomid for up to 6 months. The fact is, whatever is going on with my tube, I am not ovulating and haven't done so for over a year. If the clomid can't get me going they are going to refer me for (gulp) IVF .

Oooof well what a day. First day back at work after holiday, got into a massive argument with one of the directors (I definitely wasn't being hormonal...he was definitely wrong and I was definitely right...sort of) and have got some pre-ERTD spotting which means Cycle 7 shall soon be upon me. Cycle 7 eh? God, time has flown actually. I remember thinking back in January that I had best not buy my frock for my friend's wedding at the end of July too early because I wouldn't know how big my bump would be by then...hadn't really occurred to me that I wouldn't have even had a whiff of a BFP by now! Oh well, onwards and upwards - I have lots of things keeping my occupied so can't really complain.

Sorry Cave I must have mis-remembered what you had said the next steps are. How do tubes get blocked? (If you don't want to talk about it - absolutely fine, pls just tell me to shut up). Hope your op is soon so that you can start getting some clarity on things.

Tigerseye - a tough day for you. It's so hard when people close to you give birth - not only do you feel like shit that you haven't conceived yet, but you also then feel guilty that you're upset by the situation! I wonder if men feel like this?

Imps I don't mind talking about it, I've not really got many people to talk to!

They dont know why they're blocked. It could be a problem I was born with, or I may have excess tissue causing the blockage, or I may have had an infection that caused scar tissue. Who knows!

The op is on 11 July so not long to go now.

Oh cavey so sorry you are going through all this! At least you have options, it's all going to be worth it when you finally hold your baby

Hi All, was wandering if i could ask some advice, been ttc now for a few months, but in that time ive only had one period, my cycles have been approx 48 days long, does anybody else have extreamly long cycles? Also do you think i should go and see my gp for some advice, just wandered whether its possible im not ov'ing or there is some other underlying problem, the first time i told my gp back 7 years ago they just put me on the contraceptive pill, its never been looked into, any suggestions welcome :)

Have you just come off the pill or some other hormonal contraceptive? It can take quite a while for your body to readjust. Are your cycles generally around the same length? If they are then chances are it's normal for you to have long cycles.

I came off the pill approx four months ago, but they were the same before i went on them, doctor put me on it to make them regular. i have only had 2 cycles since coming off the pill, the first one being 42, the second one was 48. at the moment i have no idea if this is normal for me or not, i remember 7 years ago i had really long and irregular ones, cant exactly remember how many days etc

It might be worth you talking to your doctor then. I know I have irregular periods thanks to PCOS.

Yes, I'd definitely go to see the GP, 1sttimer- hopefully there's nothing wrong, but they could explain the possible reasons for it. If this was an existing problem as you say, then they might refer you to someone earlier than the usual six months they tend to wait, which just saves you on a bit of hanging around & waiting time.

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Thanks for your help, think i might pay them a visit and see what they say, i cant seem to find anyone else online that has cycles so long so it was hard to know what to do, worse they can say is to go home and come back in 6 months or so. fingers crossed there is nothing wrong but would prefer to find out sooner rather than later. Thank you :)

If it's any help, my cycles are about that length ( though can vary wildly) you are not alone!

Can I ask you ladies something that might sound really silly. Do you BD in your ttw..?

My calculations might be wrong, but if I'm right and things are on track, I'd be going through implantation in the next few days. The whole process just all seems so fragile and fraught with obstacles, that it puts me off a bit.

Am I just being daft?

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Good to see you Empusa

Kiki sometimes I do sometimes I don't iycwim I know what you mean about things seeming fragile, you don't want to 'rock the boat'. Sorry, that wasn't really much help was it!

Well, you will all be pleased to know that I ended up in a slanging match with my boss this morning. She got her comeuppance she pulled me and tried to put me on the spot infront of the other admin and I apparently direspected her by standing up for myself so she angrily told me she wanted a word, stormed into the tea room and laid into me so I gave her back as good as I got. I told her she treates me like a child and takes advantage of me. I kept totally calm while she lost her temper and swore, waved her arms around etc, think me staying calm wound her up more Eventually we got to the end, and agreed to leave it there, but then as we were leaving the room she said something else (can't remember what, obviously wasn't important , in front of plenty of other people, so I defended myself again, and she turned around, in the middle of the office, got right in my face and said something else disrespectful, so I shouted at her in front of everyone and basically said 'oh so you're not disrespecting me!' so she stormed back into the tea room (yawn) and I didn't even give her a chance to open her big gob, I told her I didn't appreciate her getting in my face and shouting at me in front of everyone, so she said she didn't shout (cos that's ok ) and I told her that regardless of whether she was shouting at me, she was in my face, in front of everyone, and that it wasn't acceptable, so she apologised. At some point she said that she was my boss, to which I replied 'being my boss doesn't give you the right to disrespect me'. She said I was childish so I told her that pulling me into the tea room and shouting at me was really mature! Stupid cowbag!

Whooooop whoooop, go me!! I think this work on building up my self esteem is working! There was no way I was taking that today, and definitely not in front of other people. Hopefully she knows now I'm taking no more s**t from her, but to be honest I don't think she really listened to what I was saying. Anyway, it's come to a head now, and if her way of managing issues is to shout at someone, she's not a great manager, but we all knew that all along didn't we