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Cavemum TTC#1 - Currently undergoing fertility tests.

Evening everyone. Wedding went really well yesterday except for a punch up later on [cringe] but it all worked out ok in the end and they both had a fab day

Not a lot going on here so I've nothing to report I'm afraid, will check back another day

Thanks Late, it's very kind of you to think of me.

I'll be up at stupid o'clock tomorrow so will be back to let you all know how it went late tomorrow/Tuesday, depending on how I feel.

Lots of positive thoughts please ladies

Hello all - thanks for the positive thoughts Imps, though sadly no hotties to report (though I did have a rather lovely dream about Dave Grohl last night )

Well, I'm lying on the sofa at home feeling a little spaced out. I got to the hospital at 6.45am and once booked in was told I was third on the operating list and would be heading into Theatre at about 10.30am. However 15 mins later they came back to say that one woman and failed to show up and another had decided, at the last minute, not to have her operation (all the women on my ward seemed to be in for gynaecological operations), so I was bumped to first on the list!

I had a slightly worrying moment when one of the nurses came round to go through my details and said "You're down for a Lap & Dye and to be fitted with a coil. Is that right?!"

Er, no! I'm trying to GET pregnant

After that was sorted I was taken off to theatre and DH went home for a few hours. Just as I'd been told, one minute I was being told to relax and the next I was coming round in recovery!

Any way, enough waffling. The upshot is apparently I don't have a blocked tube after all! They think my tube must have gone into spasm when they did the HSG. Apparently that is quite common - though I wish they'd told me that at the time!

So next step is to wait for an appointment, in a few weeks, to get me started on Clomid. Progress!

I ought to add how lovely DH has been. He drove me to the hospital; waited with me till I went in for my op; came home and tidied the house; then came straigt back to the hospital once I was back on the Ward.
To top it all off, when we got home there was a big bunch of flowers and a box of chocolates waiting for me, plus a tub of Ben n Jerry's Phish Food in the freezer He's a wonderful husband!

So, bring on the Clomid!

Oh Cave oh goody re: tube!!! How naughty of it to go into spasm though (the thought of that makes me shudder a little bit, to be honest - a spasming tube - just imagine). Glad you're feeling okay and even more glad you have a lovely husband to look after you! When I went to hospital to have my appendix out I had to take myself there on the bus because OH had a meeting at work he didn't want to miss!!

Relax, don't even think about doing anything remotely strenuous for a good couple of days and make sure that Phish food is gone by 9:30 this evening so you can get a refill for tomorrow!

Cave glad it went well and your tube is all tubey after all. Scary though about the nurses thinking you wanted a coil fitted! When I had surgery after breaking my collarbone they asked about three times what I was going in for, and it all seemed rather repetitive, but better that than accidentally getting long-term contraception put in. [hshock]

What? Where'd my shocked Harry Potter go? Harumph! It'll have to be a normal shock then I guess.

Morning!

Cave how are you doing this morning? Can I get you anything? Cup of tea? Toast?

Karstan hope all goes well today.

I had the weirdest dream last night - I was in hospital giving birth. It was so realistic and so scary and I actually woke up feeling in pain what with labour and all! OH was with me (in my dream), looking petrified, and the midwife spent the whole time looking panicked!! Sort of more of a nightmare than a dream come to think about it.

It's weird but I just can't imagine myself in that situation - pregnancy and motherhood is something that happens to other people, not me - I just can't realistically picture me and OH in that position, much as I want to be. Does that make any sense?? Is it just me who feels like that??

Well best get up - got another crap day in the office to look forward to.

Morning all! Imps a would be lovely ta. White, 1 sugar please

I'm pretty good this morning. I have a very croaky, though not sore, throat and pretty achey shoulders. Apparently that is quite common - they fill your abdomen with gas so that they can see everything clearly during the Op. Most of it escapes from the incisions in your abdomen, but some hangs around, moving up your body and leaking out your pores

Karstan hope all goes well today.

Glad all went well cave and your tubes are all ok. Hopefully the clomid will work :)
Hope you are all well today.
Been trying to book an appointment with the Doctor about my long cycles and not proper af's but i think it would be easier to book a flight to the moon!!! Hopefully when i ring up tomorrow i will be able to get in else i will lie and say its an emergency!!
On day 36 now. No sign of ov yet let alone af :(
Have a nice day everyone :)

1sttimetryer whilst I don't advocate lying to the dr, it might be worth stretching the truth a little and telling them you've been trying longer than you really have. It can take a few months to get an appointment with a consultant/specialist and my GP, though lovely, was completely upfront about the fact that fertility was not her area of expertise so she'd have to refer me on.

Hello ladies, room for a little(ish) one? I've just turned 32 and we have decided to TTC our first.

Himself has a DD who has just turned one (he split with his ex before knew she was PG. We've been together 9 months), so at least we know his swimmers work!

I stopped taking the pill, after being on it for 16 years (!), had my bleed and now on CD14. No idea when AF will be due, and am not checking for ovulation, but SWI every other day for the past week (hoping for more tonight )

Was put on the pill at 16; I'd had a retrograde period which was discovered with a laparoscopy, when they told me I also had polycystic ovaries. I was too young to really ask proper questions, but years later I was told it isn't PCOS as I have no other symptoms(?). I was also told at a scan a further few years later that the cysts were gone as the pill would have shrunk them.

So I'm at the docs tomorrow to discuss all this with him - I'm worried that the cysts will raise their ugly heads again now I've stopped the pill. I've had AF-like cramps for the past three days - I'm hoping it's ovation pain and not cysts growing

Sorry for the long post!!

*FloydieDoydie 32 TTC%231 CD 14, AF due??

Hi all.

Had our appt today and not good news. Turns out I am fine, but DH is not. Low sperm count, motility and morphology. Basically, we would have a 20% chance of getting pregnant naturally in three years of trying.

So we have to have ICSI. Will prob have consultation in September, then treatment in October maybe. Looks quite gruelling and going to involve an op for me, but worth it if it gets us there. For someone my age and health, we have a 40% chance of success with each cycle, and can have one cycle free.

Feeling very shocked and sad (though in my heart I knew there was something wrong) and wish it could have been different news. DH has rushed back to work but I'm not going to now, think I need a little while for it all to sink in.

Cave, glad your op went well and you have good news

Cave - so even though im not really getting periods i will still need to stretch the truth about how long ive been ttc you think? if you arent ov'ing do they still make you wait a year or so? i know nothing about all of this so think i need to get clued up!

Cloclo so sorry the news wasnt good for you today. I imagine that even if you think there is a problem its still hits you hard when you find out there definately is something wrong. Hope the ICSI works for you. Good luck.

Ive got to ring the surgery again tomorrow so fingers croseed i get an appointment this time!!

Welcome Floydie, always room for more newbies.

Cloclo sorry that you didn't get better news. It is gruelling at times, but you're right: it will all be worth it when you have that snuffly little baby in your arms.

1sttime, my GP told me that 6 months without a period was the magic cut off. It may be that you have to stretch the truth to get the appointment, but the Dr will be another matter. Reading on the NHS website they like a woman to have a bleed at least once every 4 months, so you could try that tactic.

wow, really that long cave? I have periods, just more like spotting than a period.
Ive just been looking online at various things that are wrong with me and it keeps coming up with PCOS, im wandering whether they would be more willing to look into it if i say im concerned i have it and the reasons why i think it is possible i have that, could explain a whole handful of stuff that has been wrong with me for ages if i did have it!

1sttime, I know it is ridiculous!

I've been diagnosed with PCOS and while it is a right royal PITA it is manageable.

Good luck getting an appointment with your GP and make sure you tell him/her all your fears and concerns.

Did it take you ages to convince them Cave or were your doctors pretty good? I seem to have a lot of the symptons :(
Will hopefully get somewhere with them tomorrow if i can get an appointment.

I first went to see my GP in September, 3 months after my last period. They told me to come back after 6 months with no period.
I went back in January and was sent for blood tests which confirmed I was not ovulating. They then sent me for ultrasounds which showed cysts on my ovaries.
I was given an appointment in April for an HSG - where they inject your uterus with dye and scan you to see if it shows up any problems. This is when they said they thought I might have a blocked tube.

I had another appointment to discuss the outcome of my scans and my consultant said she wanted to perform a laporoscopy to check out the tube, which is what happened yesterday.

The thing to remember with PCOS is that it is actually pretty common - from what I have read about 10% of women have it. It is also worth remembering that it is treatable, though not curable, with medication.

Please don't worry yourself at this stage. It is all to easy to self-diagnose yourself using the Internet, but you really should talk things through with your GP.

First of all I'm really sorry for the self-indulgent post, secondly I'm sorry for my use of obscene words

The shit has hit the fucking fan at work. The pg girl is putting in a bullying complaint against me and the boss lady has complained to the team manager that I consistently don't do the things she's asked me to do, all of which is complete bullshit. I went home early in floods of tears today and now I can't seem to stop. I've had everyone at the yard crying with me bless them and now I'm home alone, sobbing my bloody heart out. Honestly, if you met me you'd know in a second that I can't even stick up for myself never mind bully someone else. Funny how in 6 years of working there I've never had anything bad yet now they've arrived somehow I've morphed into a bully who doesn't do my work.

I'm going to the docs tomorrow to be signed off on the sick, I'm joining the union and then I'm putting in my own complaint against the two women involved.

Cave thank you for going into details of your private life, it helps knowing how other people have been through things and what to expect.
Trying not to worry but scary to see all the symptons written down and recognising so many of them. Im hoping doctors are willing to give me some tests to see if i do have a problem. Will let you know how i get on. just fustrating after waiting 5 years til we were in the position to be able to ttc and now this.
Josie Im so sorry that your having all those problems at work, some people can be sooo horrible, i know its not easy but try not to get too upset. I hope the situation can be sorted out so you can go to work and not have all the stress and upset there that your having. Take care

Josie I'm so sorry you're having problems at work again. Are there others willing to back up your side of the story? I think getting signed off for a bit is a good idea, and make sure you make plenty of notes about the problems your colleague and boss have caused you.

1sttime that's quite alright. I don't mind sharing details if it helps someone else. Hope you get a good response from your Drs tomorrow.

Thank you cave i hope so too, just worried they will fob me off, hope not.

From my experience the GP was really good at referring me on - we have discovered that we are unlikely to conceive naturally after only 8 months of trying and will prob have first ICSI in less than a year from when we first started trying. I think if you do your research well and know what you want before you go in, you are more likely to persuade the GP.

Of course it probably depends upon each practice/doc/availability of services in an area too

I've got some notes on my work computer so I will keep adding to them, although I may have to make new notes as I'm not planning on being in for a while. A couple of close friends have agreed to give me character referencs if necessary. Everyone I've told is totally shocked.

It just really pisses me off that she says I don't help her, when I taught her everything she knows, and that I make dismissive comments to her! Is that between asking her how her weekend was, and how she's feeling, and how her baby is, and cooing at her scan pictures? Hmm, where exactly where the bullying remarks in there cos I certainly don't see them!