Fantastic 40+ thread - part 4

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Come on ladies - you know who you are .......

Hippy, I think paparazzi-type motorbikes would be more appropriate for spying on lol's first date than a big noisy 'copter. We can use big telephoto lenses to make sure we don't miss any of the action. Alternatively we could all just hang around in the background like a Greek chorus...

Glad to hear Mr Hippy's got the all clear.

Diege happy to hear about the scan.

Great news on Mr Hippy . Sorry about IoW so far, Hippy.

Panshe sorry to hear things not good at moment

Loves the idea of a pregnancy sneaking up on Hippy and shouting BOO!
Glad to hear Mr Hippy is ok....

Gum any update? I am sure everything is fine, but we worry here y'know xx

Diege hope you are taking it easy, and looking after the bean... no midnight marking....

Italian no one could blame you for losing heart - what a long journey you've had - but you are nearly there now... sending you lots of gentle hugs... and dreaming of sticky beans.....

Panashe I'm allergic to controlling men, but will hold off my character assasination until you tell us more.... I also want to go on LoLs date, but feel I might look a little conspicious waddling behind you lot

Oh it's fab here. I have a vision now of lol with Mr Bean in front of a load of colour ranging ladies on bikes with ranging bumps here and there and tank waddling at the rear and cute arsed sadbastard is lurking behind the scenes looking confused and morose.

My phone's mumsnet is looking a bit odd and I keep losing messages so sorry for not posting but thank you for your comments.

My first day back was a struggle. Luckily today was better although now I know I'm not pg I'm back to dreaming of another job.

Hope things have settled down gum and you're ok bb. Getting very excited for tank, diege and Lou.

hippy sorry to hear iow was a bit musty on the renting front. Hang in there with your hopes. You too Italian. Although I know I have my moments.

Af arrived Sunday too as well as the last remaining tissue. Bang on 4 weeks for Af after mmc treatment.

Panashe sorry about you and dp's troubles. It sounds like you've made up your mind or are you just mad. This ttc business is very stressful. I know dh and I have had a very rough time after my mmc and the idea of swi or swoi was pretty unlikely.

Ive no idea but is dh maybe controlling now because he's worried you're close to giving up on him?

Sorry panache I meant mad with dp not that you may be just mad. Oops.

Oh, lots going on again with all of you.

Firstly I'll just say that all is well here. No more funny coloured discharge, thankfully. And the symptoms, though not very strong, are all still there. It's really hard to accept that I might have got off easily with the nausea, as all my other pregnancies I felt sick all day, worse at night. I wonder if it is because I'm not working very much (worked for all the other pregnancies) and I'm able to get plenty of rest?

So hopefully all is well and there won't be any nasty surprises, especially at the 12 week scan. I really want to get the point where we can tell our kids, I'm tired of covering it up and would like it to be out in the open.

Hippy, sorry to hear that IOW didn't go so well. I hope the house is great, I know it will help put your mind at ease if you have a home organised. So glad Mr Hippy is well.

Panashe, sorry to hear you are feeling sad. I hope DP can see sense, I know I'd have trouble staying with someone who wanted to control me.

Shandy- big (((hugs))) to you. Healing emotionally is so hard, and going to work can't be easy. I know I struggled with watching the real world go on when I felt so sad.

I too, would like very much to be part of the spy team when Lol has her date. Sounds like lot fun(for us!)

Ok, scrap that last update. I've had more discharge, and it is feeling remarkably similar to the last miscarriage. My symptoms are all but gone. I'm pretty sure the ultrasound I have this afternoon will reveal my worst fears. I wish there was some way to prepare yourself for the worst. The doc also suggested a beta hcg, but what is the point if there isn't a heartbeat showing? I'll have the ultrasound done first.
I shall try to focus on all the positives in my life, and try to think about how to move onto the next phase. I'm just can't see myself trying again. But who knows?

Oh gum I hope everything is ok with you. Everything crossed here.

hippy I felt a bit like you this week - it is difficult moving and stressful, but hopefully your new friend will bag the perfect new place for you.

curly any news?

I did another test yesterday last Saturday which was ok - shill 1-2 weeks pg.though, but haven't done another test as the removal men have packed everything away. I'm half tempted just to seer if the sickness kicks in soon. On plus side boobs are sore and bigger, but that could be progesterone.

Hello to Everyone e

iPad froze then, too difficult to post on it!

Pretty sure now- I'm bleeding. It is just like last time. I read somewhere that losses at 9 weeks are often the result of chromosomal issues. So I guess my eggs are just too old and buggered.

I'm not even sure about going for the ultrasound. I know what it will show. God, I wish I didn't have to end my "fertile years" like this, but I have no choice. It sucks!
I guess the ultrasound will confirm it, and maybe then I'll have an erpc instead of going through the awfulness of miscarrying at home.
Sorry to be so grim.

Beattie fingers crossed you are sick soon! I hope everyone else can have healthy pregnancies and bouncy healthy babes.

Hi gum(((())))) hugs to you. I hope it's all ok with the doc today. Thinking of you.

panashe sorry about my earlier comment it sounds a bit wrong. I meant it to be helpful but it doesn't sound it. I'm sure you're not giving up on dh and that there's a lot going on for you that I wouldn't know.

I've cross posted gum I'm so so sorry you think it's happening. You're right it is often chromosomal issues at 9 weeks but it's also common regardless of age. It's not much comfort I know but we do all tend to jump to the age problem.

Shandy glad you re ok at work, at the lowest points in my life, after Georgie , I found work to be the one constant. I was going through he'll and people there were STiLL whinging about the pettiest of crap!! It was quite funny at times that as a reminder my life was totally upside down but others were still functioning " normally"
Panashe hope your relationship problems are sorted soon, relationships can be so hard? Having to work at them all the time. (())
BB good luck with the move hope all goes well x
Hippy great your hubby's ok, not great about musty houses!!! Hopefully, the virtually viewing will be exactly what you want, you must be getting excited though? Even after this little set back you re moving to where you want to be yeh!!!! X
Hi TTT not long now. fX for you xx
Hi Italian stay strong and positive, surely it must be your time soon.
Gum so hope you re wrong big hugs to you. Xxxxxx
Hi all curly , lol , Mitzi hope everyone's well? I m just about coming round from last weeks events but can t
Stop going through everything again and again as I did after Georgie in my mind. I can t believe he s only been gone a week
Seems like forever and I miss his loving, affectionate ways.
Work very busy oh Hippy. to answer your question!!! The cat we found 3 weeks ago we returned to our vets who were going to send him to the local " Blue Cross" home when I rung our local vets he had escaped from them after being castrated and ended up at ours!!! They contacted the owners who collected him straight away. Was a bit miffed as only the vets thanked us nothing from the owners , whereas we took a " thank you" card to the people who contacted us about our Scottie. The vets were calling us " heroes" however still charged us £500 for Scottie' tx but I told them if Tigger( the escapee cat) shows up at ours again I m keeping him!!!!!

Cracked this morning and tested, BFN, I knew it and did not even get upset. So obviously periods stopped again. Found a description of our last donor in my notebook and prayed for her. I had not thought of her for ages, she was described as not a perfect match (because of eye and hair colour I guess and maybe blood group) but she was perfect to me! Just waiting now.

Just wanted to drop in and let you know that I've had the ultrasound. No matter how hard I tried to will the little heart to beat, it just didn't happen. It seems our wee baby died at 9+1, which would have been Saturday or Sunday. So I guess we did see the heart beating on Friday, but it was obviously on its way out.

Although I'm heart broken, I am feeling more philosophical right now, but it probably won't last. I didn't do anything wrong, I tried very hard to do all the right things, and we were just unlucky. I realise how lucky I am to have my beautiful family and will do my best to cherish every moment.

I will see my Dr in the morning, and I suppose we'll organise what's next - whether to have an erpc. I want one - don't want to go through a long drawn out process, and hope they'll actually do the testing this time and perhaps find out what was wrong. I don't know if there is any point, maybe it will help with closure(God, I hate that word).

What I'm least looking forward to is selling all the maternity clothes on Ebay. Perhaps I'll put the money towards a really good supply of gin and tonic.

Just a real quicky to send all my best to Gum - so sorry sweetheart. :(

And a squeeze for Italian too. :(

Wave to all - will pop back later in the week.

Gum, so sorry for your loss. I wish you hadn't been right but you know your body too well.

gum I'm so sorry

gum so sorry to hear your news. It is really shit isn't it! Hope you're being comforted in RL. XXX

So sorry gum ((((()))))

Oh Gum I'm so desperately sorry. We all know how much you wanted this baby, and how incredibly loved she or he would have been. Sending you the warmest hug - I hope you get lots of rl support xx

Sorry gum take good care of u and your family xxx

Gum so sorry, no words.

gum - you certainly didn't do anything wrong. At our age I truelly think it's just a matter of luck - good or bad. Don't think it was anything you did. It's horrible, especially when we've had babies so easily in the past - mother nature just slaps us round the face - the total bitch . ((()))