Fantastic 40+ thread - part 4

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Come on ladies - you know who you are .......

Gum I know it is impossible to try not to worry. Agree with diege that you had a reassuring ultrasound result after this sympton started, so I think it is still sounding pretty positive. I would go back and see your lovely doctor - important to get your mind put at rest. Sending you a super big hug - remember to breathe xx

Gum I really hope all will be well. Please try not to worry.

Diege hope you too will be fine, and feel sure you ladies will all make it through.

AngelGeorgie hugs to you.

Hippy is all OK?

BB hope you are well too.

Lol I am so sorry that your ex is proving to be such an arse! I was rooting for him, now I am shouting and throwing rotten fruit. He is an idiot. I hope you find someone who appreciates you for all you have to offer and is not just looking for a baby making machine! Sorry, I don?t mean that to be cruel, I still don?t think he just wants that, I think he does want the full package with you but he needs to decide what is the most important bit and I think he is still confused. I think he is an arse but I do think he cares for you but not as much as he cares for himself! He needs to stop thinking what he can get and see what he can give! That is what a relationship is really about!

Italian THANK YOU for putting into words what I've been struggling to get my head round. I really appreciate it. It makes sense when you see it written down. He certainly IS an arse. Unfortunately, he also has a very cute arse attached, which was probably my downfall in the first place! CD18 - temping (totally unnecessarily - just to see if my pattern is steady) and ovulated CD12, so quite confident that Arse-junior is not on the way!

Gum I am hoping that some Dr tells you that pink mucus is a bi-product of a very healthy pregnancy. It must have been lovely to see your little one on the screen. Hold that picture in your head for now until you feel better about things. I'm a great believer in visualisation. Some good advice from Diege about the Dr. You do need some reassurance. ((()))

Lol I just hope it will all work out for you, darlin'.

I feel kind of weird. I am feeling very old and decrepit at the moment and I suddenly realised if I have another baby that baby will be a person in their own right! Now, you will think I am mad but I always thinking of this baby as my baby, my hubby?s baby, my dd?s sibling, but this person will be a person, and I will need to lavish all the love and care and mental energy that goes into the rest of my family. I am feeling tired and wondering if I have the energy. I would not turn back now, I am so close but I just want it all to be decided, to have an idea, it is taking so bloody long to get our donor and I just want that call. Here?s a funny thing! I called someone at work last week but I accidently called my own number (long story!) but as I was on the line waiting for this other person my phone started going (cos it was me calling me, I'm a Dumbo!) and I (for a moment) felt my heart leap that it might be the donor coordinator with a match! So now I just want that heart leap moment for real.

Diege - darling my tom was not lucky, he is absolutely incredible just a bit stupid! He should have covered his arse as effectively as Melody covered hers! He was just silly, but I would rather work with him any day than Melody. I am a feminist so would be delighted to see a woman win again but I do think Tom is the NICEST contestant probably ever and for that reason alone deserves to win! I think Helen may well win. I think the final 4 will almost certainly be Helen, Susan, Melody and one other (Oh please let it be my Tom!) If it were the straight forward apprentice Helen would walk it, but because it is about starting a business, and she is one of the contestants who has not, that is why I have a doubt. She has never been in the board room because I don?t think she has lost at all! Is that a record? I really can?t see Sugar setting up in business with anyone except Helen, Tom or Susie. Tom is really a great person to do business with, honest, inventive and clever but he is not pushy enough. I tend to think pushiness can be taught but real inventive talent cannot! Melody can sell it but who will invent what she sells? I?ve had this discussion with a lady on the assisted conception thread! I know, you are all thinking why not chat about it on the telly addicts thread, the trouble is they just critique the whole programme bit by bit and I prefer to analyse it at the end! SAD aren?t I!

Oh one more thing diege. Do you get the radio Times? Nick Hewer writes about the candidates, it is so funny. It says of Jim ?I was in Belfast the other day and everyone convinced he is going to win it- apparently he and his wife are the Posh and becks of Cookstown, County Tyrone, where they live.?

I think Jim (when he dodged the board room) signed his own firing warrant, and Leon and Glenn also came out badly from that whole thing too, now they are both gone.

Hugs to all! Nicole, Panshe, spottysox, Curley, Shandy, Mitzimaybe, and FF - A huge sprinkle of baby dust.

I'm now convinced the baby has died and that miscarriage is imminent. I usually gag awfully on my toothbrush, and didn't last night. Not feeling sick, though breasts still a bit tender. And I think I'm just trying to prepare myself for the worst. I suppose I'll have to try and see the Doc again. Which is so hard because she is always so busy. I think I need a proper ultrasound. The last one was on a tiny screen, and I did see the heart flickering, but it wasn't really all that clear.

I haven't slept much. I keep going over and over in my head how on earth I'm going to survive this.

hopeful there is nothing much I can say but just hang on in there. Don't get ahead of yourself. I am very hopeful for you, sweetie.

Well, I've just searched threads on "9 weeks,loss of symptoms" and it seems it is really common to lose symptoms at this stage. Now I'm not sure what to think. Perhaps I'll just try to relax and wait for a couple of days, or might try calling the doctor later. I'll have a think about it.

What a bloody rollercoaster.

Hi gum I hope you're ok. My heart goes out to you and my prayers. I don't know what to advise probably just to hang on in there and try and keep an open mind.

I'm back at work today, first day back after my leave and dreading it. I was wondering what to say to people, but I think I'm going to gloss over it I can't face all the sympathetic questions.

Shandy good luck. I guess it depends on how well u know your work mates I ve been in my current post 11 years and lots of them are totally fab and supportive they ve been there every step of the way from
the first MC to Georgie and Scottie last week, they know they can ask me anything and if , on that day it's too much I say. I ve cried buckets at work, always managed to avoid the patients though !!!! You
May find being at work a distraction therapy and nice to have something else to think of , I did , lots of luck xxxx
Gum. big hugs I m sure all will be fine. If your dr is that accommodating why not contact them today to put your mind at rest? Xxxxx

hi all, just a quick one - to say gum hope everything's ok. I agree that it is totally not fun being pg after 40 (and after a mc probably). every day is too stressful but I really hope that everything is ok with you and bean.

shandy good luck at work - I didn't tell anyone about my mmc last year - they all thought I had swine flu. Not sure that was a good thing tbh.

lol hope your date with Mr Bean went ok.

lou so sorry about your cat. We have 2 elderly cats, one of whom is fading. It's very sad. We lost our guinea pigs this weekend (Dh put them out in the sun during the move and they got heatstroke) - I just feel so upset and guilty about them suffering. so bad. children all inconsolable too. I am sitting here so close to tears.

hippy hope your house and school hunting went well. We are in between homes now - moved out of B home and lodging around until the end of term.

curly did you test this weekend?

as for me, I am waiting to test with a digital monitor next week to see if the number of weeks has gone up at all. Can't help but think it is another cp, with the progesterone just holding back the inevitable. If it isn't a CP morning sickness for me normally kicks in at 6-7 weeks, so time will tell...

Hi everyone,
I'm in a much better mind space at the moment.Not much has changed since this morning, except I have had tender breasts and a little bit of nausea. I still feel pregnant, and despite the fact that there was a a tiny bit of brownish mucus again this evening, I'm remaining hopeful. I didn't call the doctor. I've decided that if it turns into real spotting, gets heavier, then I will call the doctor. I've read a lot that symptoms can ease up at this time, and come back later. And I've not had terribly strong symptoms all the way through.

I'm holding on to the fact that the baby was fine after the first lot of brownish stuff, and there was no sign of a bleed in the uterus at all, everything was in tact. So I think all should be well.

It makes sense that it is probably cervical erosion, as I've had it in past pregnancies (though it was later at 12 weeks), and the brown stuff started the day after having sex. So no more of that til I get past the 12 week scan!

Of course when I go to bed and dwell on it all night, I'll probably run back here in the morning declaring that I think it's all over.

Ultimately I feel that all will be well. I hope my instincts are right. I'll feel pretty devastated if I'm wrong. Time will tell.

Sorry I've been so focused on me.
Any poas results Curly?

Hippy, how was IOW?

Beattie - how are you feeling? How many weeks?

You are right - this is very stressful. I'm trying my darndest to just relax, but it isn't so easy.

My gut feeling us that all is well gum . Fwiw a frined at work is pregnant and her symtoms totally disappeared at 9 weeks. After a bit of googling we say that the placenta 'take over' between 8-10 weeks, so totally normal for them to go by this stage. Hold on to that positive scan xx
BB how are you feeling? Don't get too hung up on the conception indicator thingies (I avoid them like the plague after worries caused by them when pregnant with dc4)
Shandy I'm sure all will be fine - the thought hopefully worse than the reality iyswim x
Italian, ah you are too kind to Tom . I totally agree that he is lovely, but perhaps too lovely for that environment? I also love the goss' on
Jim . Now, therein lies a total wa*ker - how is he still in?
Hippy was it a hot one in IOW? I'd imagine so.
Well I'm sitting here waiting for my team leader to ring me about the scripts I've just marked. Pretty ok I think, but one Q has me totally confused (as it does the students by the look of things!). Hoping to get a sneaky peek of the tennis, then off to a personal trainer session at the gym at 5 to 'reassess' my abilities as I was totally wiped out after 5 mins last week. Have some swanky pregnancy gym-wear ('sporty bump' website) but the top is struggling to cover bump...anyway, non excuse not to go now.
Love to all x

BB sorry about your guniae pigs ((())) . It is a horrible feeling , whenever I think of Scottie at the vets I feel sick. When you doing another digital test? I love them to see those fantastic words big and bold. Hope you re kids aren t too upset about their loss, or you.
Gum hang in there kid x
Hippy hope you had a fab weekend ?
Shandy hope you got through today ?
Hi Italian hope you re ok?
Hi Diege, curly and Panashe hope everyones ok ? Still sad tried looking for cats to adopt over the weekend but I kept looking for " Scottie" lookalikes so knew it was too early.
Cleo ( our other cat) looking for him, very sad. Too hot for work hope it cools down .. Love to all xxxx

Too much goes on here for me to keep up! Took me a while to find the new thread then it's taken days to catch up with you all. Sorry, this will be rushed.

Italian I hope some nice lady donates some eggs very soon and you get a definite date.

Hippy How was your weekend on the IOW? Sorry AF got you.

BB hope the children are recovering from scarlet fever, sorry about the guinea pigs but OMG congrats on the BFP! I really hope it's not a CP; have my fingers firmly crossed for you.

Lou/Angel Know exactly where you're coming from re. Scottie. Had two much-loved cats, (siblings,) the male died of cancer at 14. I was seeing a workplace counsellor (for an unrelated matter) at the time and discussed with him how upset I was and that colleagues said "It's only a cat". He said it's a much-loved family member I'd lived with and been close to for 14 years, which is longer than most marriages last, so OF COURSE it's perfectly natural to be extremely upset and grief-stricken. His sister missed him terribly so I got another cat about 6 months after (he died in October and I was waiting for the following spring's "kitten season", but was offered an unwanted 9-month-old cat and couldn't really say no.) Unfortunately they never got on, and the best they managed was to tolerate each other until Jet died several years later. I've now just got the one.

Lol Yes, have been eagerly following the sadbastard saga. And hate him more than ever! I hope you find someone brilliant and can really rub his nose in it!

Diege glad it wasn't anything worse than thrush.

Shandy your GP sounds really insensitive. I'm quite a bit older than you (47; yes, how daft am I TTC?) and TBH I'm too scared to go to the GP and ask for blood tests for progesterone levels etc. because I think that will be the response I get, something along the lines of "It's not really worth bothering at your age, is it?" It's annoying because my DP is 10 years younger and if it was the other way round I'm sure we'd have no problem being taken seriously. But then I read Herecomesthesun's entry, who's pregnant at my age, and I think "It could happen." How great is that?

Gum I'm sure you know this but some women bleed off & on throughout their pregnancies so hopefully all is well and the dip in symptoms is perfectly normal as others have said.

Spottysox hi, don't think I've seen you before. Great news!

Curly I had a laparoscopy once and it was fine at the time (I don't remember the shoulder pain someone mentioned) but yes I had bad wind afterwards and awful constipation for days (very painful) and the incision site got a bit infected and... well it took quite a bit longer to get over than I expected. Hurt to bend down to pick things up off the floor etc. Not something I would be keen to go through again unless it were absolutely necessary. But don't let that put you off... sorry.

Oh and hi (waves) and apologies for anyone I've missed.

Thanks Mitzi it's lovely to know people understand where I m coming from. Our cats have experienced everything with us from moving house, getting married, MC s , Georgie not mention all the scrapes we ve all got in to!!!! Miss him so much my " old mucker " xx

Thanks, ladies for asking after me. Feeling so emotional at the moment, keep kind of hoping it will be because of a natural pregnancy - that is making me so emotional - but I know that is not the case! Just waiting for our donor to appear!

Hi there. Lots has happened and I can't possibly hope to comment on it all. I just wanted to say TTT glad all ok with fidget - tell her she can come out and meet us very soon.

gum I know exactly how you're feeling. I hope that this is just a glitch and that all is well with your bean. I agree that you did have a successful scan after the brown stuff started and that is a good sign.

italian hang in there lovie. Your doner is on her way and all this stress will be over soon. ((()))

lou I can see that losing scottie has brought back so many memories for you - I hope you feel a bit better soon. What about the cat that you found - any news on him/her??

diege glad all is ok with your bean and that your scare was nothing serious.

lolfactor you are soo funny, your ex is an idiot to let you go. He definitely knows that when he meets this fertile young wife in the future she isn't gonna be a patch on you - he is a numpty! I love my bike! How did you know purple was my thing???

BB i hope you get a good strong message from your digital test. But remember they are the work of the devil those things.

Hi to panashe nicole shandy curly mitzi jolls etc etc uncle tom cobbley

Well as for me - it's all a bit crap. I managed to do £400 worth of damage to the underside of the car on Friday (raised ironwork - totally my own fault I am a total twat!!! ) Dh was very understanding about the whole thing which really surprised me.

We were meant to view 5 properties and 3 of them got cancelled at the last minute because they were let to someone else. Managed to find a couple more to view but nothing was suitable. All smelt musty and the boys were whispering to me "Wer'e not gonna live here, are we mum?"

Came back last night and have just looked on line to find a new house that apparently went live on the internet over the week-end. If we were still there we could pop round and view it but of course we are f'ing miles away.

Anyway, it's probably musty too . Can you tell that it didn't go well?

I felt very down and kept saying that my love affair with IOW was over but DH rightly said, once we have a decent place to move to you'll fall back in love.

We did find a school for DS2 which we quite liked and which had good SEN facilities (DS2 is dyslexic). It is quite a churchy school and as a family we are not churchy but apart from that it would suit - just need a flippin' address now.

Anyway, on the TTC front. I have been SWI and am hoping that it will be a case of me being so busy trying to find a house that a pregnancy sneaks up behind me

DH has his investigative procedure today at the hospital so am stressing about that too (but not as much as he is!!)

Good luck, Mr Hippy, and I hope it turns out not to be the scary thing.

All good with Mr Hippy He had a camera inserted in 2 places - 1 of which we wont mention - he had gas and air and the nurse told me he giggled all through it. Really pleased all is ok with his insides.

A friend of mine from IOW - who i 'met' on MN local is going to view the new property tomorrow for me. I am so touched she agreed to do it cos she has never actually met me - well not yet anyway. At least if it's musty too we wont have wasted money and time on the journey.

Hippy is much happier today

Hope everyone else is ok. Especially those who are sad or worried about early pregnancy.

It was odd, whilst DH was giggling during his procedure i went for a coffee and the coffee place is right next to the scan room. I sat and watched the preggos waddle in for scans and I didn't feel all that jealous (probably cos the last 2 scans I've had have been bad news). I think i'll be ok if I'm never pregnant again.

Ooh that is good news about Mr. Hippy!!! Also about virtual house viuewing, though make sure she's not the owner
Just a quick one from me as 'under standardisation' with the marking and have to get back to the AQA website pronto as only have till tonight to finish..
Had mw today, and all fine. Measuring 21 weeks (which I am) and due back in another 5 weeks. Blood pressure a bit high but then when is it not...
LOve to all, back when I can!
Oh meant to say I hope things have settled down Gum xx

Hello all

Lots going on...

Gum hope you are ok, it is such a difficult time for you. Beattie how are things for you ? Lou and Diege glad things are ok and can't believe you are half way through !

Italian thinking of you and hoping you are off on holiday soon and will come back to good news re a donor

hippy hope you get the thumbs up on the house

I'm going to be joining Lol I think soon and just be an interested and caring observer. ( no offense lol )

Having relationship problems Not sure what to say as a lot of it is instigated by me. I'm feeling my dp is being too controlling, demanding, possessive, jealous..... not sure really but it's all getting too much for me and I'm feeling smothered. He is insecure and I think he thinks if I get pregnant that secures the deal !! IYKWIM Last night we argued because he said I was giving someone the once over in the supermarket !! I had no idea what he was talking about. I'm just at the moment.xx

panashe - so sorry to hear things are not going well. I guess you know best what you want to do and it's hard for us to comment as we know nothing of your relationship. Anyway, just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you. go easy on yourself, honey. It's still really early days re: your poor old pa. Must have been a really stressful Father's day for you - I remember the first one after I lost my dad being particularly hard. Keep us in the loop re: any major decisions, wont you?

lol when is the date with Mr Bean?, i've forgotten already. We all wanna come along (maybe we could use the copter for that as well )