Fantastic 40+ thread - part 4

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Come on ladies - you know who you are .......

lou - don't call your friends dorks - you know they hate it

lol have just looked at the instead cups - they are like the moon cups - OMG not sure i can walk around with warm sperm in a cup up my bits

" instead cups" instead of what??? What a bizarre name??? The mind boggles!!!
Hippy indeed my friends are dorks at time!!! However meant to say work colleagues!!!
*LOL" painters in??? Thought you meant AF to you actually explained the decorators!!! I am still at work on " light " duties. Just admin, sending out results etc... Not actually seeing any patients. Finish Friday.
Like LOL said love to all MIA ; curly, Fireflies ,Panashe,BB & everyone else. Xxxxx

Evening all

Hippy Sorry about your clomid saga. Dont listen to that voice in your head - do what your heart is telling you if that makes you happy :) I loved your Time Travellers Wife quote - such a lovely book.

Angel hope youre last few days at work fly by - love your 'ready to pop' story btw.

Hi to everyone

xxx

Totally confused about all this cups talk!

Hope everyone is hanging on in there!

I have no idea how Paschal and Cielo are, I keep swinging between total optimism and total ignorance! I now know why I am so fixated on the frozen embies! Because I've never had frosties before, and because they are safe, and the ones in me are not, they might stick around or they might not. My one experience of IVF last year resulted in them not staying around so I have worked out that that is why I am finding it hard to 'invest' in them, because I am fearful they will not stick around. I had some heavy boob feelings but now they just feel normal. This is so frustrating!

Hippy runs up behind italian and politely bops her on the head - drags her off in a lovely deep sleep to hibernate quietly. please note I will wake you up on testing day my love. XXX ((())) It really is the only way to do the 2 week wait and it must be 100% worse when you've invested so much time and effort. much love to Bill & Ben (did i get those names right? )

ps lou instead of tampons or sanny towels - i'm guessing.

Hello and lots of love to everyone

I have been reading every day but unable to post. I'm in a mess ...

You may recall I mentioned a previous relationship with a man who had had a vasectomy. He was the love of my life, I never loved anyone like him but he wouldn't commit and after two years we split. I was heartbroken and never stopped loving him. Met my new partner and all the pain went away. Ex dp has been in contact, wants to marry me and all feelings have come back to surface and I've never felt in such a upset mess in my whole life. And I'm 5 weeks pregnant ! Am sat in tears now because I'm angry, upset, frustrated.

Anyway just wanted to give you all an update. Have missed you and am looking forward to reading Angel and Dieges good news soon.

xxx

OMG panashe - what a situation! It's been a tough year for you hasn't it? Good luck with the pregnancy. Does the outcome of this pregnancy have the final say about which man you choose? Bloody men - why couldn't he have commited before? Keep us up to date lovey. (My phone just changed that too lobster - but fortunately I spotted it.)

He he hippy !!! instead of tampax??? Makes sense!!!
Panashe Gosh your life sounds incredibly complicated.congrats on the pregnancy. What will you do about the man situation??? Rather you than me!!!
Italian I think Hippys idea is a brill one hibernate for 12 days mmm.. Think I ll join you. !!
Had a bit of a stressful morning like a idiot dipped my wee at work showed ; leuocytes, glucose, protein & ketones . Checked my bp was raised so of course I panicked about pre- eclampsia. Off I trot to the day unit, they dipped my wee ; nothing exciting in, bp ok but would GILS perform for a trace... No of course not!!!! Found her heart beat but didn t meet the " criteria" to be discharged. Off we trot for some lunch then back to have tracer repeated!!! Finally our GILS ok heartbeat loud & proud & enough sleepy/ awake periods to be discharged. This pg will kill me!!! The Midwive was lovely apart from when made the quip about " should I have attended in my uniform" as I replied getting changed was the last thing on my mind!!!
Phew now breathe & relax Louise!!! Love to all xxx

Angelgeorgie very glad all is OK, thinking of you. i am sure if I ever get to the positive test stage I will absolutely spend the following 9 months on hot bricks!

Oh Panshe you dear girl, what a muddle. For once I have no pearl of wisdom. Thinking of you.

Phew, yes breath and relax Angel!!! I also found the monitoring nervewracking, and don't want to have it done again in a hurry! Good for you on getting things checked out though. I really can't beleive you will have had your baby by this time in 2 weeks!
Italian I see totally where you are coming from about the security of the frosties and the comparatively insecurity of the babies inside you. Thinking of you often and praying for a good outcome xxx
Hippy thinking of you on the ttc front; I really hope that these next few months prove fruitful. You MUST keep positive xx Well done for ds too - that's such a great start in a new school for him
ON the 'instead cup' I of course with my filthy mind though 'instead of a willy' , though of course you're not exactly going to have one of those in you for long after dtd...wouldn't 'inside cup' have been better??
lol going with the flow sounds good, and is usually underrated. ON the pronounciation front, 'Diege' comes from a nickname an old work colleague gave me (work initials are 'DJ' and relates to that old Roseanne sitcom where her son (DJ) is called 'diege' (pronounced 'Deej'). When I met up with some Mnetters a few years ago they went all exotic and had been thinking of it as 'Dieg-e' (as in Diego) and probably expected some sultry Latin beauty . Well you did ask!
Panashe hmm,I'd be tempted to give the old ex the cold shoulder. Seems like he's back on his own terms, and is relying on the attraction you once had. Could it be that the thought is better than what the reality would be?? PLus of course he's had the snip!!!!!!! We can't be having snipped men in the snug you know . Seriously though, it does sound a horrible dilemma .
Have finally finished big work report that will certainly help my replacement at work (when that happens). Just 2 more little ones that are eating away at my conscience then I can finally rest and turn my attention to hosptial bag!

Thanks Diege & Italian a rather scary day and I ve felt worried tonight that GILS ISn t moving as much. However, neither Georgie or GiILS moved/ move a huge amount at the best of times. She has just started to liven up now.her heartbeat is fine on my Doppler just so want her here now . Hope I m back to my calm state tomorrow as if I remain in this heightened state of anxiety it's going to be a long 12 days.I seem to have got stuck at the stage that feels like gloom& doom that it's all going to go wrong again.

It's not going to go wrong Angel, it's going to go very right. You've done so well to have kept it together for so long, and a wobble here and there is entirely to be expected. Sleep well and try your best to relax xxx

Thinking of you angelgeorgie. Try not to worry. Not long now, honey.

I feel like my eating is going mad! I am eating so much. Today I had beans on toast for breakfast, eggs on toast for lunch, chilli for dinner plus I've eaten sweets, 2 bags of wotsits, a biscuit and a chocolate bar. Think I am eating to distract myself from the treatment!

italian are you eating for bill and ben as well ?? i think you are probably right - just eating to distract. Try to keep positive

lou i also think that you've done amazingly well to keep it together through-out this pregnancy. You are getting to the very end and of course, heartbreakingly, this is where it went so horribly wrong with georgie - it makes perfect sence that you are stressing now - more so than ever before. In 12 days you will have your baby girl and all this will be over. Just keep lying down and feeling for the movements (remember that she's a big girl and doesn't have much room to move about a lot). I CAN NOT wait for your post to say she's here and then we can all have a wopping great party in the snug. Hugs for you sweetie. ps. WTF does it matter that you had your uniform on when you went - is that woman mad???

panashe I think that diege has a good point about your Mr Lover man - is it more about the romance of him, the one who got away or is it really him that you love. You've even managed to make italian speechless and she normally has advice!!! Keep us in the loop pleeeeaaase...

diege I always pronounce it De-age. Can't start calling you Deej now - it's way too late What is your due date?? take care.

pocket1 hope all is ok with you. I am doing what my heart tells me for the moment but I am trying to prepare myself for the end of TTCing. I've ordered a couple of books from Amazon and am getting used to imagining myself WITHOUT a baby.

I really need to get started on SWI for this month but I have a stinking cold and just don't feel sexy. (Hippy searches for the infamous vest top with a heavy heart )

Morning

Just wanted to send some hugs to angel, thinking about you lots xx

Also Italian I want to send lots of good luck and positive vibes your way. I'm overeating, think it can be a distraction from things....

Thanks Diege and Hippy for your wise words. I just feel at a crossroads and it is the worse feeling in the world but I know my family and friends would be more than happy if I told ex to f**k off and leave me alone. He had plenty of chances with me but the fact that I am in this dilemma says enough about how I feel about him. Dp knows all that is going on and has gone to stay at his friends.

So I am potentially single and pregnant..and I think because of all pregnancy hormones I cannot think straight about anything.

My life fees like an episode of Eastenders at the moment.

p.s. I pronouce Diege De-age

Panashe thanks. Don t know how you are going to come to any decision. Hope you ve got some RL support to help. Take care xxx
Diege hope you re ok? X
Italian thanks xxxx hope the time is passing by quickly for you.
Hippy once again your posting is absolutely lovely . Your words made me cry , for all the right reasons. You are so lovely I truly hope you get your take home baby. Your words engulfed me in nice cuddly blanket. Thanks a million xxxxxxx
Nice day just chilling. My lovely manager told me to take the day off to rest which I m doing.
Love to all xxxx

Panashe you poor thing, what a dilemma. its hard to offer any advice - for what its worth if you've been happy with your dp and you think you plus baby could be a happy family, it may be worth trying to hang on to that. i wish you lots of luck in your decision, and if you need a shoulder to cry on, i've got two. x

Angel have you only got one day at work left? Lucky you - bambino will be here very soon.

Italian i'm sure embies are nestling in - its too darned cold and windy outside so they'll be snug and warm where they are.

hello to everyone else xxx

lou thanks honey. What do you and Ant have planned for monday? I remember you saying such a long time ago that many people had another baby about a year after a still birth and it's wonderful that you are having GILS so soon but it is also hard timing isn't it - you are at the scary bit just at the time when you are remembering it all happening before. Thinking of you this week-end it must be such an emotional time for you. give this time to georgie and before you know it we'll be dancing around the snug .

panashe does your 'current' partner know about this pregnancy yet? I don't watch Eastenders but it certainly sounds like a soap to me. All the best as you struggle to come to a decision. We'll be here whomever you choose, lovie.

Thanks Hippy . on Monday we re going to Georgie's special place with some flowers and then out for lunch.
Just finished work had a lovely under stated day. Fish & chips then a quiet finish. Only in tears once so haven t done bad. Trying not to focus too much on leaving work. Xxx

AngelGeorgie, thought I might still find you here, I just wanted to tell you I'm thinking of you with the 10th coming up, and with your delivery date getting so close. I can't imagine how anxious you must feel, and wish I could help make it easier, but please know you're in my thoughts xx

I shall be lurking for happy news from you and from Diege

Hi everyone

Question for you; i'm not even pregnant yet but I'm imagining what it will be like to tell people if and when i am. and i'm wondering if i'll be judged as an older mum (i'm 44 and going for donor egg). any thoughts? what if someone asks 'wow, was it planned?' i dont know what i'd say if there is even the hint of 'blimey, i thought you were too old'

i know months away but i'm getting my knickers in a twist already...

Any thoughts greatefully appreciated

Hi alba hope you re well? Many thanks for your thoughts & kind wishes.. Yes, I m very emotional will be glad when Monday is here. Xxx
Pocket you do ponder a lot don t you? Mmm... No advice apart from take everything 1 day at a time. Xx

Morning! Thaks Alba, good to hear from you
pocket, I'm sure people wouldn't judge, but if they do (and it becomes apparent from their tone/choice of words etc) I think you just have to develop a thick skin unfortuantely. Or maybe the mumsnet stock phrase 'That sounded really rude...did you mean it to sound so rude??' . I get comments (when I have the 4 dcs with me) everytime I go out, sometimes - though rarely - complimentary (wow, that's amazing that you're having no.5) but usually of the 'local freak' variety. I think you just have to focus on what being pregnant means to you, and acknowledge that if you did everything in the shadow of what people might (or might not!) think you would have lots of regrets.
Hi Angel. Bet if feels great to finally be away from work, although I totally acknowledge the poignancy of your situation. I hope all goes well for you on Monday and that you are able to have a peaceful day xxx
Ok here - pelvis better than it was yesterday, and hoping to get some houework -related stuff done today. Parents over for a rare visit which should be nice though you never can tell with them
Love to all xxx