Fantastic 40+ thread - part 4

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Come on ladies - you know who you are .......

That's good news diege If you want a strep b test, we used the Dr's laboratory, which was very easy to do at home and post, and I think is more sensitive than the NHS tests... it cost about £30.

{{ Lou }} Terribly sad to hear about your puss. We lost one of our pair to a RTA (we live on quite a busy road) about 4 years ago. We were heartbroken - they are just part of the family, I suppose. We assumed that Cat 1 would be devastated - but I have to admit, he has never pined, and seemed to settle into being Top Cat very easily! Be gentle with yourself - all this loss and stress compounds each other...

Not a good day here either... MW appointment this morning, and protein on my poas and some swelling. Have repeated tonight and still there, so one last go tomorrow, and if it still there mw wants me to go to the hosp for monitoring... Not keen, but ho hum.... We're all hyper-sensitive, so now have a worried, MIL, DH, parents etc. DH googling pre-eclampsia... apparently over 35s have the hightest maternal mortality... cheery eh?

Hopefully everything will come back peachy - mw thinks I just need to take things easy!

Good news Diege.

Hugs Angelgeorgie.

1000fireflies, how?s it going?

Jolls good to hear from you.

lol how?s it going?

Tina Any news?

Hippy how did the talk go??

Nicole, Panshe, spottysox, Curley, Shandy, Tank, Gum, Mitzimaybe, FF and BB.

Hugs to all - and baby dust.

Oh, sorry ladies I am watching One born every minute USA! I am almost in tears!

So much happens while I sleep.

Deige - I am so glad you and baby Deige are okay. Take it easy, and rest, and look after yourself.

Tank - I hope all is okay. You hardly need this scare right now. (((HUGS)))

Lou, I am so sorry your lovely Scottie didn't make it. You and Ant obviously love him very much. Please take care of yourself, this must be a very difficult time.(((HUGS)))

Hippy - what a sweet boy you have - I do hope you can have a take home baby, your boys will be such good older brothers. Hope your trip to IOW is fruitful (I mean in terms of choosing schools and flat, but if it is SWI time - that too...)

Any more dates Lol?

Diege so pleased it's something so simple - at least, I'm guessing it's simple. Of all on the list of previous preg ailments that you mentioned, this is the only one I can a) recognise b) spell.

TTT big ((())). The mortality % is so high because all the over 35s admitted early are prone to being bored to death. I recommend an emergency pamper pack plus engrossing novel.

Lou hope you have a much-deserved fun day in the sunshine on Sunday.

Curly hoping all's ok with you. Ditto Jolls. Hippy I'm in Herts too, so refusing to listen to Heart FM in case I hear the horrible ad. Thanks for the warning!

Italian you've got to stop watching that programme - unless you start investing in Kleenex

Will update later. At work...

Not sure who the lady is who is 47 and pregnant - but just one thing to say - you rock! xx

Thanks LoL , had so- so day at work today in tears over Scottie. I have a lot of the feelings I had after loosing Georgie;!lack of hope, despair, upset, hate my house feels so empty, weariness and u feel vulnerable and lost again. Popped in to the vets tonight to pay his bill and they are convinced he had some anti- freeze as his creatinine had raised so much so quickly. This happened to 2 of my sisters cats and they proceeded to have fits and seizures which is what the vet said would be the next progression with Scottie if we didn t put him to sleep. Ant wants another cat , I want to wait a few weeks but we ve never had just 1 cat and the house feels so empty.got talking to a lovely couple in the vets who had just put 1 of their cats to sleep 2 weeks ago then got another from
A Blue Cross home virtually straight away as they had always had 2 cats do knew exactly where I was coming from.
Hi all hope everyone' s well? Going to bed early as all I want to fo , again, is sleep to forget it all.

Aww Lou IN terms of another cat I think it's different for everyone. I thought I'd want another straight away after Red, but 2 yrs later am still not ready for the anxiety if/when they go missing.
TTT how are things? Hoping all is ok, but at least you are on their 'radar' and will be monitored. Thinking of you at what must be a very anxious time x
Love to all - have been falling asleep in front of the telly at about 8pm for the last 2 nights. Was watching the BOrn to be Different thing on ch 4 and woke up to hear Robert Webb going on about the clitoris
Late night bistro is now open, but only to deserve sandwiches and light snacks. I'm having a chicken sandwich and some kettle chips..

Morning girls.

This pregnancy in your 40's, after a miscarriage, is not for the faint hearted is it??

I had a little bit of a brown smudge when I wiped yesterday morning - and immediately thought, "Oh hell, here I go again". I felt so worried. I had visitors and had to pretend all was well. I couldn't wait for them to leave. Then I did another preg test, which was stupid - because although it was def. positive, it was lighter than some I'd had at 6 weeks. I googled and found it isn't unusual.

So I took up my drs offer and went in and she did a quick ultrasound. Thank goodness - little one looks like the right size for 9 weeks, has a little heart beating and was moving. The sack was intact and everything else looked okay.
The dr thought it might be a little cervical erosion, and I've had that before.She told me she'd had 4 miscarriages this week, and didn't want another one! She also had 4 deliveries, so it wasn't all bad.

So that did provides some relief, but I'm still boob checking(I swear they are sore now from being prodded every ten minutes). It is SO bloody hard to relax about it all. I know I cannot do anything about it, if I'm going to miscarry, but it doesn't stop me from stressing.

I know my situation is nothing compared to what others have gone through. Sorry to be whinging.

I hope everyone else is okay.

Lou, I'm so sorry you have lost Scottie. I know I'd be thinking about getting another cat, myself, but it is such a personal thing. My mum and dad lost their cat a few months ago. My dad was heart-broken and hasn't been able to get another cat yet. They are taking an overseas trip, but I reckon they'll get a new puss as soon as they get back. That cat was so special to my dad.

My Dad in law is in hospital and has been sick for months. The drs are saying he isn't making red blood cells. This sounds serious, so I'm off to google it to find out more.[why is there no "worried" emoticon - I'd use it a lot!]

Gum it's a nightmare, isn't it? You get your head around the cervical erosion, then it's on to the next thing. Just treat it like a series of hurdles - don't look down, keep your eyes fixed on the finishing line and just keep running at your own pace. We're trackside on the team bikes - I'm the one on the bizarre custard yellow ladies bike (with basket) cheering you on with the megaphone. TTT is the one still trying to keep up (on a mountain bike, with stabilisers as her midwife insists). Hippy is on the purple Goodies-style three-seater, offering seats to those who fall. I'll leave the others guessing which bike I've got them on!

Well, last update on exdp. Found him thoughtful and tearful yesterday, wanting to 'talk'. So, we left the work party (which, by all accounts, was brilliant, dammit) and went back to his. And yes. He just wanted to go to bed. BUT...it was really cathartic. One of those 'epiphany' moments. I put together all the pieces(bits of conversation, insights, odd things that happened etc) and realised what everyone else could probably see from the outset. He subconsciously sees me as the sexy older mistress! He said he loves my company, conversation, wit and bedside 'manner', and knows that WHEN he marries someone SUITABLE, these things will probably not be there to the same degree. He's desperate for me to go to Florence with him. Reader, I laughed at him.

Have a date on Sunday with Mr Bean. Ok, so perhaps not an auspicious start, but I'll have broken the dating barrier. So, it's a latte with a shot of hazelnut, please.

Oh, Lol, I want to castrate him! Bastard. I am so glad you laughed at him. Hopefully Mr Bean will be really lovely. Well done on breaking the barrier. Any bloke who goes out with you is bloody lucky!

Thanks so much for being on the team bikes. It makes a huge difference.

Hello! Oh Gum that's a relief about the bean - scan being good is such a good sign. If there were to be problems I think I read that this is almost always apparent by 8 weeks plus on a scan. I think we all know what it feels like to see a bit of spotting though.
Lol you know your escapades would make a great drama . What a knob (x is), sounds totally involved in his own little fantsay world. You enjouy yourslef with Mr. Bean. Just one question, I'm assuming you did sleep with x? Was it a fertile time? You know, if it was a soap, you would have conceived!
All fine here, though def have thrush (again) which is strangely reasuring as would mw said that would account for the watery discharge.
Looking forward to the 'heatwave' too; finally an excuse to get the razer and self-tan out!
Oh and Italian have been meaning to say that your Tom was extremely lucky on Weds. Sadly I think his days are numbered!

I've tried to post twice now and I get to post and ut throws me out. Grr I'm just trying a quickie test.

Grr it worked but do I risk the full message again.

Risk it!

Diege thanks for your lovely words about -Scottie. Glad it's just thrush and not Group B Strep. I ve had more Thrush this time than ever before!!! At one point I wondered if I had gestational Diabetes however, my urninalysis is always ok and my blood sugars within normal range.
Gum so glad alls ok after your scare, your dr sounds great to just " drop in" . it is very hard but as Lol says the only way
I got to this stage without having a nervous breakdown is taking everything a stage at a time, I only ever look at the next step ( scan in 3) weeks I never look at the end prize as it seems too much can go wrong. Focusing on the next stage does seem to have made it all go by a bit quicker also.
Your poor dad I know exactly where he s coming from I now thinking of getting another cat in a few weeks when
I m on A. L , at the vets yesterday they are sure Scottie died from poisoning from Anti- freeze , which Is what happened to 2 of my sisters cats last year. As his kidney failure was so quick and his bloods so out my dad said cats like the smell of anti- freeze and even if he had got the tiniest amount on his paws and cleaned his paws it would have been enough for his bloods to be so toxic.
Vets were lovely crying about Scottie awaiting his ashes in 2 weeks to sit next to our Georgies, got a bloody house full of Ashes!!!!
Lol hope mr bean turns out to be thd love of your life , drop dead gorgeous!!!! How cheeky is your ex???
Mind you I ve been there about 15 yes ago before I met Ant I was still sleeping with my ex for about 2 years on and off after we spilt , partly as he was a good shag and partly ad I could t be arsed to meet anyone else!!! Although must say looking back I do think " WTF" ???? never see him now, thank god and I wonder what I ever saw in him when I look at Ant. Can I have a black and White bike pls, a "Scottie" coloured bike to join the squad!!!!
Hi everyone love to all xxxxxx

Fidget & I are fine. Hosp was reassuring, and all the tests came back fine - nice active heart beat on the monitor - so now we have a 30 minute ecg paper read out to show Fidget when she grows up (She said optimisitically).

My MW came with me to hand-hold, and on the way back I was telling her about you diege and she said that discharge from infection etc really wasn't that uncommon, and was very reassuring - so I am feeling much less worried about you...

Gum good news about the scan - glad your dr is so supportive - that does make a big difference. As the weeks go by, I think the risk of miscarriage is reducing... I think by the time you're 11 weeks, assuming bean is still happy, and not a mmc, the risk has dropped to pretty much "phew, don't need to worry much anymore"....

LOL At least he is predictable. Next he will tell you how hard it is for him to see you dating other men
He really deserves a good slap - love my bike btw xx

PS big hug to you Lou It's hard when so much seems to be going wrong. Things will get easier in time x

Thanks TTT xx glad alls well with you xx

That's great news TTT, had been thinking about you today! Thanks for asking after me withy mw too . Have had no more watery discharge, but def thrush so expecting results to that effect next week when I see the community mw (horror).
Hold on in there Lou - I am liking your black and white bike, and quite fancy a ginger one myself!
Now as of tomorrow I will be embarking on the twice yearly A' level marking nightmare, so apologies in advance if I am a stranger for the next 2 weeks! I am just thinking of the money and the swanky Phil & Teds I will buy as a result!

Hello ladies. It's early morning and I'm back to feeling 100% worried that I'm going to lose this little one, despite the good ultrasound... I've had pink mucus now - which worries me more than the brown. This is how it all started last time. It really is a tiny amount, so I'm hoping, hoping, hoping all will be well. Unfortunately I'm also having a little bit of cramping. But still feeling sick and boobs a bit tender.

I know there's absolutely nothing I can do except try to relax, and wait and see...

Gum ((())) FX for u xxx

Everything crossed for you Gum and a squeeze too (((())))

It's now the end of the day, and there's been no more coloured mucus for now! I haven't felt very sick today, but am starting to now. I wonder if resting all day helped me feel less sick. I'm resigned to whatever will be... hopefully all will be well.

Thanks so much for your good wishes and hugs!

Gum, the resting all day would def have contributed to you feeling less sick, so don't worry about that one. I also had brown then pink, (then red) coloured cm with this one (8.5-9 weeks) and was very worried too, but ultrasound showed all was well. Would you be able to give your dr. a quick ring to reassure/rearrange another quick scan to out your mind at rest? As the spotting was happening before your scan, and all was fine then, I wouldn't be too worried 'on paper', but obviously it is a very stressful thing to be going through. Hoping you can get some reassurance soon xxx