Fantastic 40+ thread - part 4

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Come on ladies - you know who you are .......

Gum hope you are feeling better, have you heard anything from the doctor ?

Hi Hippy hope you're Internet up and running soon !

The sun is shining..hooray might actually get the grass cut today !!!

morning ladies - an update on my consultation at Care yesterday...my consultant said that as the results of my scan showed I may or may not have a blocked tube he wouldn't recommend IUI at this stage especially bearing in mind I had a miscarriage and an infection which made it more likely it was in fact a blockage. He also said that although the other tube looked clear, the hairs inside it may also have been damaged and hence it is unable to waft an egg along. He is therefore referring me for a laparoscopy to investigate further and then if this is ok, or the surgeon is able to unblock the tube, then we can go for the IUI.

very disappointed but grateful he was honest and hasn't tried the hard sell pushing me into IUI which may have little chance of working. My worry now though is that if the tubes are too damaged my only option is IVF which I definitely can't afford :-( but one step at a time I guess.

On another note a psychic lady told me I was still going to have a baby boy next year and will conceive around mid november - just a bit of fun i guess but she gets great results in her predictions based on her feedback!

Tina hope u re not too upset as you said at least you know where you re at now and there's further help you can/ will have.
Panashe hope u got u re " lawn" mowed!!! Thanks, how I m feeling is just something I have to work through just back to 1 day at a time. Glad you ve got you re BFN . The interview sounds like quite a grilling. !!!
Had a nice day saw the Midwive all fine though even she said. " you re big!!!" my uterus is measuring 32 weeks!!! Good job GILS is coming out the " sun roof" !!! But heartbeat , my BP etc... Fine. Then spent a few hours with my friend and her 7 month old baby which was very nice. Off to the cinema now to see " the inbetweeners" can t wait.
Hope everyone's ok? Love to all xxx

Panshe no more news, but hope to start very soon.

Love to all.

Hi. Nice to see some action on the thread.
Hard to concentrate as I've got all sorts of commotion going on in the background...trying to ignore it all.

Tina - glad to hear your consultant is taking care, doing some investigation is a good thing I suppose, though I know it is hard to wait. Hopefully they'll find all is well and you can get on with ttc.

Was your psychic someone you saw in person? I like hearing about this kind of stuff. It's fun, but I also think some of them are spot on.

Penashe - I hope all goes smoothly with SS. It must be quite stressful.

I saw my doctor yesterday, had a pap smear. She is quite funny, has a way of defusing situations. I told her I don't like smears, and she said "well, if you said you like them, I'd be running a mile!", Then later, when she'd done the smear very quickly and painlessly (my other doctor always had trouble finding the cervix), I told her how she did it so quickly, and she said,"Well, I've been there a couple of times before". I laughed, even though I wish she'd never had to go there before (the D&C's)...

However, we were both very annoyed that there is still no sign of the path results. She phoned the lab while I was there, and eventually we were told that the results were "products of conception". I almost burst into tears - I already knew that! Eventually we established that they "thought" (no clarity here) that the results had been sent to the large teaching hospital for chromosomol studies. My Doc said she'd try to find them. The incompetence is astounding.

I know they must do thousands of pathology tests every day, but they are dealing with people's lives. Bastards. I don't know if I'll ever get the results.

Although I'd really like to know the results (for a couple of reasons :1. I wanted to know the sex of the baby, and 2. If it was a chromosome issue, then perhaps the auto-immune thing is irrelevant?), I still want to continue ttc. I'm really not ready to throw in the towel yet. I think the results might make a difference to how my DH approaches the whole thing. Oh, well, nothing I can do about it.

I'm having the "21" day progesterone test done again, because last times results wouldn't be accurate. I'll be 7 DPO on Sat, so will have it done then.

I just got a bill of $220 for some of the other tests I had done. I had no idea they weren't covered by medicare - not impressed! I know I'll be paying over $200 to see the specialist. But in the scheme of things - if I get my healthy baby in the end, it will be worth every cent.

Angel - so pleased to hear that all is well with you and GILS (physically). Sorry that you are having some anxiety, but I'm guessing it is perfectly normal. I do hope you get plenty of good support from family and friends. ((HUGS))

Now I have to braid DD's hair. See you all later

Just popping in to share some terrible news.

Magic8 died suddenly at home on Monday. Some of you will know her from the MC threads (lou and hippy particularly) after an MMC and losing Ruby in the 2nd trimester. She has 3DDs, aged 5 and 6 month old twins.

Those of us who know her on FB and have met up IRL are just in terrible shock. She was generous, kind, supportive and funny. And barely into her 30s. :(

Have facebooked you Jolls that's truly terrible. Hope her family are receiving lots of support. Once again we are all made aware what the important stuff is in life and how we are never truly in control.terrible .

Oh Jolls, that is such sad news. Just awful.

god what an awful thing to happen - her poor children :-( does anyone know how it happened??

gum the psychic lady just does predictions via email, she has a website under the name psychic123. I don't take it too seriously but she seems a really lovely lady, she's happy to answer any questions you might have regarding what she tells you. When she sends a pregnancy reading she also writes down anything else she gets from linking in to you - so I had some stuff about my family, it was spot on - just hoping her prediction about a November conception also comes true, what a great xmas prezzie that would be!!

That's shocking news . What happened? Were there any warning signs? That poor family.

I'll post again when I've absorbed it all. I can't think straight.

Hi all. we got fed up of waiting for that there internet so we bought a dongle - who knew :-)

Jolls i'm so sorry to read about Magic8 on FB. I remember the joy when her twins were born - awful, terrible news.

Hope everyone is ok on here and can forgive me for being AWOL forever and a day. All is fab here in IOW. I used to try to imagine typing on here after the move and couldn't imagine it happening and yet here we are.

An up date on my TTC trials. Well the stress of moving did a very odd thing to me - I know it sounds impossible but I was just about to ovulate for 4 weeks - yep you read it right. I got constant positives on OPKs for 4 weeks and finally I ovulated and the positives went away and my temp went up about a week after we moved. I then got my period right on schedule - so what a feckin' waste of time all that was!!

I still have 2 lots of clomid and am trying to decide whether to keep going with TTC or give it all up. i didn't take it this month cos i would like to wait and see if i ovulate normally again (after all that bizarreness last month).

Anyway, all is fine and we are happy here. DS1 is training with the local footie team next week and DS2 is in the Carnival on saturday - so we have not let the grass grow under our feet.

Love to Lou and Diege - hang on in there not long to go. Lou i imagine you must be scared and thinking back to your last pregnancy but all will be fine this time, i know it. I can't wait to hear news of GILS. ((()))

tank - not sure if you get the chance to look on here much but I had a look on your blog and i was so pleased to see the pics of little M. i know you are still devastated about C but i am glad to see that little m is bringing you and your hubbie joy.

Sorry not to name check you all. i will not be gone for so long again and will gradually catch up with you all. XXXXX Mwah Mwah Mwah (kisses not evil laughs).

Hi Hippy so glad you re settling and your new life is as fab as u hoped it would be. Thanks for u kind wishes , 29 weeks today only 8 weeks to the section!!! X
Hi all x hope we can all pick ourselves up a little after the tragic news of Magic.
Our lovely new keepsake box for Georgies stuff came yesterday. It's beautiful we had it engraved with her details lilac with butterflies. I m going to keep it with GILS clothes so both my girls can be together. Was very upsetting looking at all her cards and messages from the website and her personal stuff but I felt the need to spend some money on Georgie also.
Love to all xxx

Hi all, thanks for your kind messages about magic. She did have a pre-existing heart condition and wore a pacemaker, but obviously there'll be a PM to confirm. It's still very difficult to make sense of it. Have no idea how her family are able to process it all :(

Glad our snug bumps are doing well. The DHEA I've been taking has definitely made me a bit spotty and even more hairy, and I've also started taking Agnus Castus this month too. CD18, but no apparent signs of ovulation this month, so not holding out much hope.

Magic's news has made me resolve to not waste time on regret though, so am just getting on with stuff and sadly what'll be will be.

Morning

Very sad news about magic8 I never knew her but it is so very tragic

8 weeks !! Angel Wow that will soon come round, we'll all be in the throes of xfactor by then

Hello hippy glad you bought a dongle ! It sounds like you are settling in and once school starts I'm sure you will begin to meet lots of people. Are you going to be working ?

jolls I'm glad you are still tcc but I agree with what you said about wasting time on regret. Sometimes we just get so caught up in things its easy to lose sight of what we do have.

It was my birthday yesterday and I had a lovely time. We took the children to the cinema in the afternoon and had family round in the evening for food and drinks. We were going to have a bbq but after it being sunny all day, we came out of the cinema at 5 and it was raining !! I got perfume from my mum, and dp I love perfume !

Jolls indeed . Never let life pass u by my Georgie taught me that. I m not scared of anything any more and loosing Georgie and hearing about Magic strengthens my resolve.life is so very short and none of us know what's round the corner. My counsellor used to say we Live with the not knowing and it's how we manage that.
Happy birthday for yesterday Panashe glad u had a nice day x

Happy Birthday Penashe. Sounds lovely (apart from the rain). What's your fave perfume? I still love White Linen - have done for years, and Green Tea.

Jolls, I really do believe that time should not be wasted on regret. I also feel that life is short, and we do not know what will be around the corner. I hope there is a baby around each of our corners, and I will pursue it as best I can, so that I will never regret ttc.

This week I learned that my very first serious boyfriend passed away. We'd not been in touch in years, and our break-up wasn't really amicable, but I have no bad feelings about it - we were teenagers, after all. But I was so sad to hear he had died, at 45, just short of his 46th birthday, from cancer. He leaves a wife and daughter behind. It has shaken me up a bit. The thought of losing my Dh doesn't bear thinking about.

Today I spent the day cleaning, and baking a nice cake for Charlie. He'll be 3 on Tuesday, and my parents and sister and her kids are all visiting tomorrow to celebrate it.

Today I asked myself,"Why, oh why, after 44 years, I still feel I have to please my parents." Why do I care what they think? I wish I could just let their criticisms run off me like water off a duck's back. But, no, I spent my time vacuuming and washing the floor, dusting etc.

Actually, the place really needed a once over, so it isn't all bad. Ironic, isn't it, I've just finished saying that I shouldn't have regrets, but I still feel the need to do things I don't really want to do, because of my critical, negative parents...
Sorry, that's enough ranting. Sometimes those feelings are over-whelming. Perhaps hypnotism might work? Of me, not them...

Joll's - I'm interested to see how things go with the DHEA. Was it prescribed for you, or are you giving it a go by yourself (IYKWIM)?

My doctor put me on the homeopathic DHEA because my testosterone levels were on the low end of normal. She said she doesn't like prescribing the real DHEA because it can upset other hormones. However, I'm willing to bet that the fertility specialist I see might have a different view. I'm not sure that I believe homeopathy works, but she insisted it had made a difference to other women she had prescribed it to. It isn't going to change my AMH result unfortunately, but maybe my egg quality might be better?

Hippy - IOW sounds lovely. So glad you are there, you made that dream come true. I love it when things work out.

The couch is calling, along with "Silent Witness". DH is away for a conference this weekend, so I shall snuggle up to DS instead.

Night girls...

jolls i know what you mean. When you hear such awful news it shakes you up and makes you think about what you have right now - this second. i am determined to enjoy my new life with the four of us and not dwell on the 5th little member dragging his heels about joining us. I am so lucky. unbareable to think what magic8's family are going through. strange to think that she brought those 2 new lives in to the world just 6 months ago and now she has gone.

lou 8 weeks is nothing (just 2 X AF for the rest of us) it will fly by. Don't forget the middle name for your little girl 'Hippy'.

panashe happy belated birthday - all the best people are born around this time of year

No probs Phoebe Grace Hippy Sadler Harris she is then!!! Who said that's a mouthful???? Xxxx nice to have u back chick xxx

That's a lovely name Angel

Thanks for the birthday wishes everyone.

Gum White Linen reminds me of when me and my sister were teenagers. She used to love it. For my birthday I got Gucci Rush from dp and a new Estee Lauder Sensuous Nude from my mum and I love them both. All time favourite has to be coco chanel. I used to wear Ysatis lots when I was younger. That is said news about your old boyfriend. One of my friends boyfriends died in a motorbike accident and she saw it on front of a paper and it really shook her up even though it had been years.

I hope Charlie has a nice birthday, my dad would have been 80 on Tuesday. I may be turning to you for advice soon as dp dd turned 3 in June and it is almost certain now we will be having her full time, and the mother will have very limited supervised contact. The social worker is happy that I'm normal and know what children need and have 4 well rounded children. I have my sister and her dh and ds visiting this time next week so like you will be cleaning, cleaning and cleaning !!

sorry hippy I beg to differ all the best people are born in June

and panashe I remember white linen it was the first posh perfume I bought myself - before that it was coty laimant joi de vivre and charlie lol

Now now ladies I think you ll find all the best people are born in DECEMBER !!! That's that then!!!!

Happy belated birthday wishes panashe - sounds like you had a lovely day My favourite perfume at the moment is Mark Jacobs' 'Daisy', also continue to like Angel and also, rather sadly, Anais Anais
What tragic news about magic8 . As other have said, it reallydoes oput things into perspective.
I'm signing out for a week now as off in hols to Whitby - still have the packing to do, so better get going!
Love to all, and see you back here in a week's time xxx

Oh and before I go I'll order beer-battered skinless haddock with hand-cut chips and a large piece of tiramisu from the snug bistro, and a large glass of ice cold diet coke with lemon. Ooh and some mushy peas on the side