Fantastic 40+ thread - part 4

[hippychick66]

Come on ladies - you know who you are .......

Hi *Tina" good to hear from you. Bizarrely I have recently discovered via a laparoscopy and dye that my right tube is blocked! My neighbour mentioned IUI to me and told me to pop over when I'm free to discuss it more which I haven't had time to do as yet. I hope to have surgery next month to unblock my tube. The clinic you're under did you and dh have to meet certain criteria in order for them to take you on so to speak?

hi Curly! we were referred by my Dr but we have had to go private as I already have one (albeit grown up) daughter. We just had to have all the relevant tests at the Dr first (sperm test etc etc) then went on from there, probably didn't have to wait as long being private but it's really expensive and we can't afford more than a couple of IUI attempts :-( they haven't mentioned me having the tube unblocked but they didn't seem to think it would be an issue - either way you need to get referred by your dr whether you go private or on the NHS. I take it your neighbour has experience of IUI? I'd be interested to know how successful it was for her? At my age (43) it's not a particularly high successrate but I'm prepared to take the chance!

Yes, holiday was fab! .

Welcome to dotty.

Great news for me, we have found a donor! Or rather one has been found for us. So it is all go. Meeting to sign consent forms, ordering drugs and getting going at long last! Hooray! Our donor sounds amazing, perfect, idyllic, in my mind I am calling her Desiree! Because this is our desire to have another child. I am looking forward to it all going ahead! My IBS is playing up something chronic! Any prayers in the group, please pray my IBS will calm down and it will all be smooth from here with our treatment. Much love, and sorry this is all me, me, me!

Italian excellent news fab. You need to chill now so as to settle your IBS xx glad you had a good holiday.
Hi Dotty welcome x
Hi Curly hope u re ok?
Long time no see !!! Tina hope things start happening for u soon xxx
Hi all hope everyone's well?? Feeling HUGE here but it's a good huge !!! Got my glucose tolerance test next week . On
aL next week but ended up booking loads of stuff in , some of if work related unfortunately!!!! Also either got a dental abcess or need a filling replacing managed to get in to the dentist tomorrow morning before work so hopefully it ll be sorted. Very painful at the moment.
Absolutely awful what's happening in this country at the moment my sister and BIL are police in west midlands they ve been called in on 12 hour shifts all leave cancelled. These are just thugs acting in a criminal way taking what they want without working for it. Send them all to fight in Afghantstan I say and the think that annoys me the most ; we as a working population will have to pay for all this destructoion to be fixed. I feel so sorry for the people who have built their living and homes in these areas who have lost everything.
DISGUSTING!!!

Rant done!!! At ease all !!! Xxxx

Afternoon! Italian that's brilliant news, I had a feeling it would happen very soon . Is it a similar process to IVF in terms of hormones/injections etc? Agree with Angel try to relax, let stresses wash over you, eat well, gets lots of rest, and hopefully IBS will resolve xxx
Angel feel like a whale here too . None of my coats will do up now and had to put up with a wet patch mid-way down my belly this afternoon when rushing to the video shop to appease the dds. The rain is non-stop!
Tina I have heard good things of the clinic you mention. I really hope things work out well for you. Seems unfair that the NHS can't help in your situation - I have a friend who has also had to go private because her step-son lived with them for a short while in his teens (he called her 'mum' which apparently discunted her from IVF, although no biological children of her own ).
Hi Curly! Do you have a date yet for your op' or does it take a while to get processed etc?
Ok here - tomorrow is the last day of my second trimester then it's on to the final one on Friday!!! Hard work feeling so tired (I'm pretty sure I'm anaemic) and looking after dds at home - the bickering in itself is stress enough. Had been looking forward to meeting up with old friends Friday night in Liverpool for a meal, but have been warned off by a friend who is a police officer there that they might 'regroup' in the city on Friday night . It would have been a bit risky though as between us I'm pregnant, another has just recently had a shoulder op', and another recovering from an ankle injury.. would have been a comical sight watching us retreating from the mob . Never mind, will enjoy the home cooking of the bistro instead .
Love to all xxx

Right with u *Diege^ on Friday I m 28 weeks so in the third trimester. Think we re virtually at the same stage???? Xxx

Yes, think we're matching each other day for day as also 28 weeks on Friday (NHS dates) though on my calculations not 28 wks till next Tues. Offical due date 4th Nov.
Going to bed as feeling really sick after scoffing a dominos pizza (large) and a packet of jammie dodgers

Diege yes it is similar; my body needs to be got ready but no eggs from me.

My tummy problems have migrated into diarrhoea (apologies tmi) so it is not IBS but some sort of tummy upset. One website says the source could be ... "Contaminated food or water, public swimming pools, and communal hot tubs are possible sources of these infections." Not been in any hot tubs so the others could be the cause!

Italian - great news, so excited for you. Sorry to hear of your upset tummy. I hope it resolves really soon.

I've recently been on a "primal" diet - no cereal or grain at all, along with being nearly sugar free, all my tummy problems have been sorted. If I could just get AF, or ovulate, or have something happen down there, I'd be happy...I'm seeing the acupuncture lady today, maybe she'll get things moving in there.

Nice to hear from you Tina. Sorry about your tube.

I've just worked two days in a row, and after 3 years off, it was a bit tiring! I was shattered by the time I got home last night. I'm not going to make a habit of it!

It is so awful and sad to see what is happening in England with the riots. It's just so hard to understand why people would want to riot and loot like they have been doing. It must be really hard for all of you seeing this happening - so worrying. I really feel for the police - what a horrible job to do right now.

Deige and Lou - 28 weeks already. Time seems to have flown. I'm so happy for both of you. I hope the rest of the pregnancy doesn't disappear too quickly - I like having you both here - I will miss you when you are super busy with your new babes...

Thanks Gum . From memory, once 30 weeks hits the rest of the pregnancy seems to zoom by. I am looking forward to getting my body back (what's left of it) and of course meeting my new baby, but always feel a tad melancholy as the pregnancy draws to an end - mad I know! Good luck with the acupuncture and diet - I hve a frined who was on the 'stone age diet; which sounds quite similar - all her bloating and excess weight fell off, though she was very hard to accomodate when she came round to eat or we went out.
Italian hope your tummy upset resolves soon - horrible for you. Could it be linked with stress/excitement do you think?
Quiet-ish day today. All 4 at home and rain forcast, so am focusing on calm thoughts and trying not to get into shouty mode! Baby has hiccoups!!! (sp??)

ps. Where are you Hippy, you are missed!

Diege tummy much better now, thanks.

Hippy where are you?

Hugs to all.

I'll second that (or third it) - I miss you Hippy. You've not decided to leave us forever have you???

Acupuncture was lovely yesterday. I even feel asleep on the table.So, obviously was very relaxed.

I had an opk that was quite dark yesterday - not positive, but who knows, maybe I'll get to ovulate after all. My silly DH is being suspicious of me when I'm "in the mood" -"is it fertile time?" he asks. I just say "I don't know, but it is possible". For goodness sake DH, just get used to the idea, will you!
I think he truly hopes I'll change my mind. Wish I could, but I don't seem to be wavering much.

Deige - I'm not doing the Primal/Paleo/Stone age diet strictly - basically I've cut out grain because it supposedly causes inflammation, and that in turn can be the culprit behind autoimmune disease. As I have the markers for autoimmune disease, I feel it can't hurt to calm inflammation. As I was already gluten free due to tummy issues, it hasn't been too hard to give up grain.

Many of the primal diets don't include dairy, but I'm not giving dairy - I love it too much, and I couldn't live on meat and veg alone!I also eat quinoa which is a grain, but has different qualities to other grains.And there's no way I'll give up potatoes!

Like you Deige, when the pregnancy nears completion I also feel a sadness that the bump will be gone.

Talked to my doctor today - she had my AMH results. Feeling very sad and low because the results were extremely low-1.1, which means I have a low reserve - not many eggs left. Bugger. Not what I wanted to hear right now.

I also received a bill for the pathology testing of the miscarriage. What a cheek - I haven't got the results yet, neither has the doc, but they've billed me! It means I'll probably get the test results early next week.

Feeling so sad and lonely about all this. Sometimes wish I could switch off this damned desire for one, last baby.

I've googled low AMH and it seems it shouldn't put me off, especially as I've fallen pregnant twice in the last 7 months.

But right now I just wish I was still pregnant. It sucks.

Beattie - where are you, mate? You okay?

gum so sorry about your mc - I can sympathise with you wanting to turn off the desire - I never had it until I started trying again this time, I was always so relaxed and had the attitude 'well if it happens it happens if it doesn't it won't matter'. It takes over your life at times, I know my hubby is worried about how I'll cope if IUI doesn't work but i can't even begin to consider that yet! As you mentioned your low AMH doesn't seem to affect you conceiving it's just making it stick! What about your progesterone levels, are they ok?

Morning. Gum don't be too despondent, though I know I would feel the same. As Tina says, it really doesn't seem as if the low reserve is linked dramatically to your situation - surely if that were the case you'd struggle to get pregnant at all? I really do think it's just a matter of time for you - (I hope that doesn't sound flippant). Thinking of you x
Tina sounds like you have a good attitude there!

just delurking to say to gum, try not to focus on it. I can't remember who it was, I think it was galway who said don't get the AMH test, because it's only a number, and it is totally unindicative of egg quality. Yeah it's saying the quantity is low, but hey we knew that, we were born in the sixties . It only takes one egg.

Hi there - just back from holiday. I really wanted to post but I've spent the last hour reading all the posts and have run out of time! But I'm alive - hooray - and off to spend the night with xdp. Why? CD15 (just to confuse Italian!) Welcome to the newbies - really pleased there are more of us trying to outwit the system. I vote we all write to TTTs consultant, telling him our ages and asking him to supervise our labour That should sort the useless bugger out!

Lx

Hello Lol, did you have a nice holiday? When you get the chance, tell us all about it.

Thanks, Tina, Deige,and Jolls. I do agree with you. But when I got those results, my heart just sank. It made me feel hopeless. But, like Jolls said - I did know it was the case - I'm 44 after all. I'd just hoped to be an exception - especially after the "great" LH and FSH results. And the progesterone was amazing. But not accurate - because it wasn't taken after ovulation after all. And it was probably leftover from the miscarriage. I said that to the doctor, and she said, even if it is left-over from the m.c, it's a good high number, which means it is unlikely that progesterone is an issue for me. So, it is kind of a relief to rule that one out.

My visit to the specialist should be interesting. I know their clinic put a lot of store in the AMH number. I hope he doesn't kick me out the door too fast. I guess, it is all about the numbers there because they are an IVF clinic. They'll probably talk about donor eggs. Which is just not going to happen. I'd do it myself, but DH won't go near IVF...

I booked the hotel where I'll be staying when I see the specialist. So, feeling good about making that step.

At last, I got a + opk, and real, obvious ovulation pain last night. I was feeling so despondent, and it didn't look like DH was going to "come to the party", but eventually I convinced him...So now feeling a bit more hopeful

Morning I hope everyone is ok

That's great news Italian and I will keep my fingers crossed for you. I've got a bit of an upset stomach but think it all a bit of nerves because of dealings with social services. Hope you are feeling better now and raring to go

Talking of raring to go....Go Lol get in there Sounds good, and hope you and exdp missed each other while apart, or more exdp missed you and took time to think over things

Gum I'm afraid I know nothing of AMH numbers and tcc oblivious to all these things at the moment. I've never even used an opk but guess in time I may change my ways. But I think what Jolls said makes sense.

Hi Curly have you got any appointments lined up ?

I still had a bfp 2 weeks after mc & hospital wanted me to go in yesterday for bloods but I'm going to do one on Monday & hope it sufficiently faint or non existant so I don't have to go. I'm not bleeding & having no pain so am hoping all is ok.

Social services was heavy, & she is back on Wednesday. She did say to me that having a baby right now might not be the best thing for dp dd but I'm 42 next week and when dp said maybe we should wait a few months before starting tcc again I couldn't speak to him. So now I feel selfish

Hello to Diege and Tina and Angel and of course a big shout to Hippy

Beattie I hope you are ok ?

Panshe when I had my mc (over 5 years ago) I was still getting a positive on a test after the mc and it was quite distressing. Hope you are OK.

You said "Social services was heavy, & she is back on Wednesday. She did say to me that having a baby right now might not be the best thing for dp dd but I'm 42 next week and when dp said maybe we should wait a few months before starting ttc again I couldn't speak to him. So now I feel selfish sad." I am not sure why you are having to deal with social services, is it your daughter or step daughter/partners daughter? How old is she and what is the problem? If you want to share, or have you already and I missed it! I know that you do have to be very careful what you share on public boards as ANYONE can read them so assuming you have not said and I have not missed it! I would just say that you and DP should do what is right for you. Just try and get through this time and maybe get some help/counselling in real life, if it would help. I want to say that a few months won't matter either way but I don't know that at all and I have heard you are quite fertile after an MC or after a procedure like a D and C (not sure what it is called now and not sure if you had one or not). Also, I can't imagine a few months would make a huge difference to your daughter/step daughter. If there are problems could you work on them while also quietly trying for another baby. Not sure how many DCs/step dcs you have got so I can't be sure what the family compilation is. Anyway, sorry for long post, just wanted to say I am thinking of you, and praying for you.

Hugs to all.

Hello, just popping in to say I am now almost 13 weeks, all going well, scan on Mon was as good as could be expected and testing has lowered my risk x 9. I am 47 with a 3 yo son, both natural conceptions. Good luck everyone else!

Italian thanks for your supportive message. I am careful about giving too much detail especially as dp ex is adamant no other woman will have a role in bringing up her daughter (3 years) but at the same time she is on a path of self destruction which stems way back to her own childhood but is now putting her own dd in danger.

Hello herecomesthun , not sure if we've met before and wow you give us all hope