so here it is, a new home for us newly updiffed ladies or still seeking that golden egg after a mc part 3

[mrsb33]

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ladies here it is our new home, ive tried my best, im not very good at the witty banter so hopefully this will do, get yourself comfortable it could be a bumpy ride with me at the helm!!!

Hey Emma, no meet ups yet but one planned for London on 22nd if you are around?

MrsB33 Haha on the internal, my doc was chatting away about his day and was far too young and was a bit like an oxbridge student! Its quite ahem, uncomfortable :)

Congrats Marathon (follows MrsB with a squishy tomato!)
I am on CD29 now of what may be a 32-38 day cycle, here's hoping its shorter this month!

Night night all

Hi ladies, emma I'm glad you have an answer, fingerrs crossed the clomid gives you that allusive bfp! Well basically the doc did an internal on monday, I thought they would use a metal clamp! Oh no she used her whole hand!!! Ekkkkk. Had my 21 day bloods today and am now booked in for a pelvic scan, just waiting on a date, then its down to dh to do his [sample]
Will keep you all upto date as and when, back to lurking I go. Xxx

Hey girls

How is the house move going wombat?

yellow I am feeling less sick now, but being sick more if that makes any sense? and now I have headaches too!

Well emma sorry about the results but at least it is good to know, and sounds like they are able to help with it. Did you see that programme last night about the sextuplets? She was on chlomid.........not to scare you or anything bless your DH.

Great news on the marathon fingers crossed for saturdays test and it being a stick bean.

Big love to mrsb for tomorrows tests.

Everything ok sparkly?
The kids were SOOOOO excited. DS went on a trip today and stood up on the bus and announced he was getting a new brother or sister. The first I knew was when 3 girls from his class came over and congratulated me! so sweet. I have told far too many people, if it all goes tits up it will be awful having to untell everyone...... Think positive wormy!!!

Morning!

Sorry I haven't been on much, having a bit of a busy and slightly crappy week. Much stress at work and a couple of odd comments, funny how that's only since I've told them I'm preg....

marathon yay for a bfp!!! Got my fingers firmly x'd for you.

worm fab news on your scan lovely. So pleased for you.

wombat Are you settling in well?

emma I'm sorry about the results, but at least you're getting answers and that it can be dealt with. Sounds like it's all very stressful for you and dh.

yellow my sickness is nearly all gone now and I'm 16 wks today, although I feel like crap today and brushing my teeth made me throw up! First time for 3 weeks though, def improvement. The improvement was noticeable around 14 weeks for me.

mrsB youch @ your internal!!! Men get off lightly really......

sparkly how's it going??

I had mw yesterday for a bp check, and it's fine. Basically the doc was looking at the top number which had gone up, but that's to do with the volume of blood. So as we're prg it's the bottom number that's really important and they're happy for that to go up by 15-20 from booking in. As mw said, you'd think the gp would know that ! Got to hear the hb which was lovely, and confirmed I'm listening to the right thing with my doppler. Strangely it was the mw that delivered dd and in the same room.....

Hi everyone, so much news to catch up on!
Wombat, I think it's your 20 week scan today according to my post-it note , good luck hun! I'll be interested to know what they check. I expect you're worried, it's a real hurdle, but will make it so much more real, exciting!
Marathon, congrats, looking good for you! Worm, really glad the scan went well for you, DS sounds like a sweetheart. You will be quite a full household now, hope they finish renovating the East Wing in time for your new arrival!
Yellow, my nausea has snuck away over the past two weeks (am now 17+1), crops up occasionally when I'm tired or hungry, but I actually managed to eat a dhal and keema curry last night without wanting to retch, so am over the worst! It will get better, try and get as much sleep as possible, and eat what you need.
Oh, want some toast now!
emma, sorry things are getting stressful on the ttc front, it's easy to get frustrated and take it out on each other. Hope it has worked out!
Anyway, got to go, work so busy, hi to everyone else I haven't mentioned, hopeless with names! x

Hi all. I've been trying to catch up on everyone's news and it sounds fantastic, more bfps and great scan news so big hugs/manly slaps on the back to everyone. Good luck with the clomid Emma. I have a bit of time on my hands as have been signed off for a week with my spd, have been sleeping a lot! Am now 29 weeks and have a v wriggly friend in my belly which is very reassuring, anxiety levels still pretty high though - still can't believe I'll actually have a baby soon although I have now bought a couple of new bits of baby clothes :-) will be having a cs so probably only another 9 weeks to go. Anyway, sorry to be such useless poster on this thread, do occasionally come on to catch up and just lurk but keeping my fingers crossed for us all and enjoying all your news x

And good luck mrsb too, yep ouch to the internal... Her whole hand!?

Wow - what a lot of news to catch up on!

Firstly huuuuuuge yay for worm - so pleased all was so positive and that you had a good nuchal result.

And whoop whoop to marathon too - we'll be waiting with bated breath for saturday's POAS! How are you feeling about it? Trying not to think about it too much but finding that impossible?

emma - sorry to hear it's been a bit of struggle of late but great that you have a plan and when you do get pg, let me know if you want any tips on the fanjo insertions - I feel I am quite an expert now.

Poor you yellow - must have been a huge struggle at work this week. I think your scan is 9.30 tomorrow? We'll be eagerly awaiting results. Could you get some pills in the mean time for the nausea? Loads of luck and hugs for tomorrow.

Eeeeek to mrsb! Did they give you any warning?! Hope that you get some helpful news from it all.

Good news on the bp harassed - not wanting it to go up further is a good excuse for kicking back a bit, I think.

17+1 sparkly?! Boy that's flown by! Glad to hear all is well.

Fab to hear from you mana and with such a wriggly friend too.

All going well here thanks. Yes - your post-it served you well sparkly -20 week scan today and I was surprisingly blase about it - I think I was so stressed with the house move, I didn't get a chance to worry. Anyway, all was tickety boo - he spent ages looking at the heart and even slowed down the motion so he could point out the valves moving (like little gates opening and shutting), brain measuring normal size, 5 digits on each limb, kidneys functioning and stomach full (greedy bugger). WE got a report afterwards with all the info and at the end it said "Genitalia normal (parents do not wish to know the gender)" which really made us chuckle! We got to see the 3D view again but to be honest, he still looks quiet ET-like to us. The cutest thing was seeing his mouth open and close like he was trying to talk to us! Have also been having quite a few flutterings of late which has made me mental a whole lot less - some may even say I'm quite laid back about the whole thing now !

Thanks for asking about the house move - I had forgotten what a trial it is.... although I really wasn't doing any of the hard work - the poor packers in this heat..... anyway, now we're in and the air con works, the internet works and quite a bit of stuff is out of boxes, I'm feeling much calmer. It's a big place but short on storage so shopping trip is looming!

Absolutely cream crackered knackered here so heading to bed shortly. Good night!

Just checking in to make sure all went well with Wombat, great news! Slap me for asking, but did you ask not to be told what gender the babs was then? I'm getting this all the time at the moment, along with "Oooh, a Christmas baby!' It's driving me mad, but I know people are just being annoying nice and don't know umpteen people have already said that. Is the whole of December Christmas then?

Yellow, good luck for tomorrow, think of you and will get some croissants and lurpack ready for you x

Evening ladies

Am laying on the sofa as usual feeling sick and tired. I was hoping for better news about when the sickness will stop. I haven't been out for 5 weeks and feel sick most of the time. Bit fed up, sorry for moaning.

Scan is tomorrow at 9.20, feeling very nervous.

Hurrah for the scan wombat sounds really great and glad the moving went well.

harassed sorry you are having a shitty week but great news on the bp

sparkly I shall look forward to the croissant. It is annoying when people are so unoriginal, you could call him Noel! What is your actual dd?

Hi, I was pointed your way, I got my bfp on Saturday and I am really trying not to worry. failing I had a MC in October and a chemical in April, so stressing over every twinge. I am now further on than my chemical, just have to get passed ten weeks without mishap then I may start to relax a little bit!
I am hoping that your company will help with this, as I am too gloomy for the March antenatal thread. :)

Hi Purple buns welcome, although sorry for your situaltion! Hope this one is a sticky bean!
Thinking of you today yellow it will be fine stay calm. , is dh going with you?
Glad the house move is going well wombat and for the 20week scan, mine is booked for 27/8, seems soooo long away!!
Potentially only 9 weeks left manamamma that seems unreal! glad you are still around.
I have only been sick once this morning and now I feel ticket e boo, I'm 13+3 now and managed to stay awake until 11pm last night! Is this the magic time when I am suddenly better? I am ordering a doppler today, harrased if you are about, which brand did you get? Off to buy new bra's today and I might "walk through" the baby section at John Lewis too.

Welcome Purple, you are in a good place, this is a very lucky thread! Congratulations on your bfp, statistics are in your favour for a happy outcome.
Oooh, Spring baby!
Yellow, Monty is due at Christmas! Like, duh! Noel is good, as is Holly for a girl, Carol perhaps, Gabriel if only I could say it properly........
Had a bit of a wail yesterday, read a thread about the early days of breastfeeding, and the baby feeds for 45 mins-ish on each boob, then takes a quick break barely allowing you to have a poo, then starts all over again! 24 hours a day! This isn't what Gina has told me! Visons of a gently suckling baby nuzzling in (smelling of talc, mmmm), a roaring fire, contented purring kittens, twinkly Christmas lights, and Vicar of Dibley on the box went out of the window. I am barely going to have time to bake a cupcake!

yellow good luck for today!! The sickness is a fab sign, I've been sicker with this one than the last two that mc'd.

Wombat brilliant news on the scan!! Glad the move is going well, I hate it too... such a faff.

sparkly I'm getting that too. Due the 22nd and lots of "ooh wouldn't it be lovely if it came on Christmas Day". No it bloody wouldn't! Poor baby! Then closely followed by is it a girl or boy and we going to call it Holly/Carol/Noel. Ummm, no I don't think so. Then they move on to how big my bump is!

Worm I can't remember what mine is!! Doh!! Some of the ladies on the Freak Out thread have the Hi Bebe one which is meant to be very good.

Purple welcome! Sorry you have to be here, but we all seem to doing ok at the moment. Long may the luck continue!!

I'm having a bit of a tough time at the moment. I think it's a combination of things: my first dd is fast approaching, my best friend is due the week before I would have been, dh is never bloody home (was out 5 nights a week and now it's going to be 7 up til his fight), dd had a massive tantrum,having probs with my mother this is my thread here, plus work isn't great. They're def not happy about me being preg and I've no idea what's going on.

So it all resulted in me falling to bits last night. Lots of tears as I hurt my tummy whilst trying to get tantrumming dd up to her bedroom and then I panicked. Closely followed by a huge arguement with dh....... so feeling a bit shell shocked and sad today. Don't really know what to do to make myself feel better. Did anyone have any post-mc counselling??

harassed so sorry you are having a tough time, big hug from me. I have been having counselling for years, really helps me. Will read other thread later, families can be so difficult sometimes.

All good, measuring exactly right fir dates. I burst into tears! So relieved, feel drained. Managed to arrange an individual booking in appt for next thurs then 12 week scan on tues 19th. Could do with a lie down.

Hurrah Yellow, great news! Really pleased and slightly emotional for you.
Can't stop but lots of hugs to Harassed, sorry you're having such a time of it at the moment. Can you have a proper heart to heart with dh about how you are feeling? x

Yay for great scan yellow!! :) So exciting!

harassed big hugs to you, so sorry things are rough at the mo, I have had counselling in the past and found it really helpful, have been considering post mc counselling but not decided yet xx

waves to everyone else! Sorry I've not been around, finished up at work today, hitting the ground running and starting the new one on Monday - will try to be around more once I get started. Hopefully it will take my mind off ttc and our SWI this month can be disguised as just having fun and not being completely obsessed!

Aw yellow - I'm made up for you - wonderful, wonderful news! Has it made the sickness any more bearable?! Great that you got an indiv booking in appt too. How did you manage it? Hope you get lots of lovely rest this weekend.

Really sorry to hear what a tough time you're having at the moment harassed - I think just one of the things you're having to deal with is enough right now and it's no surprise that you're feeling overwhelmed. I had counselling post m/c2 and definitely felt better for it. We touched on other things as well as the m/cs which I hadn't realised quite how much were bothering me - I felt better each time I left her. I'd definitely recommend it as apart from anything else it feels wonderful to have someone just listen for an hour with no interruptions, no advice, no annoying questions (only ones designed to help you) and no hidden agendas.

Agh - is that stuff about b/feeding really true sparkly?! I also had visions like yours (minus roaring fire) and they're tumbling down around my ears! Yes, we made it v clear to the sonographer that we didn't want to know the sex. WE are fully expecting a boy as DH is one of 3 boys and he has 3 sons from previous marriage! Would dearly love a pink bundle though.

Welcome purple and congrats on your bfp - you'll find lots of good support here (we have a lovely mix of expecting and ttc-ing) and also on the freak out room thread under conception - you'll fit right in as there is a lady there called purpletoes!

Waves to all from re-arranged (again) sofa - we suddenly realised we had planned everything around grown ups and no space for bub - oops!

Hello ladies! Messaging from my phone so hope you don't mind me missing out the little stars to make it bold, they're such a faff.

Harassed - sorry to hear you're down, hope you're feeling better soon. I've had counselling and although it was hard (the hardest bit was getting the courage to go in the first place) I really found it helpful for making things seem less hopeless and clarifying what was making me so down. It might be worth a try.

Yellow - nice work on the scan

Purple -welcome! We could (hopefully) be in similar situations.

Well, no news here. I POAS this morning using a Tesco cheapie and it was BFP! Then this afternoon I finally managed to get to Boots and POAS with their cheapie and it was BFN! Arrrgh! All the tests have been BFP apart from the Boots one which is the brand I used to test after the erpc. I won't be happy till I've seen it on a Boots test, especially as I've had no symptoms.

Purple - I too will be avoiding the March thread if this is a BFP.

I keep seeing the term ' chemical pregnancy', haven't heard of one before ad have read about it 3 times today. Now convinced it will happen as I kept reading about mmc in the days leading up to mine.

It's all so frustrating!

Big love on the scan yellow great news have a nice weekend in bed getting rested up if you can.

Deep breaths marathon I didn't get a bfp for ages with my DS, like over a week late as well! and he is very much here! I know what you mean about the term chemical pregnancy, they seem to be a relatively new thing that people only know happen as the tests are so very sensitive now. In the past people would have never known they had a fertilised egg.

The only way I got through the early pg mentaling was to deny it to myself, I got myself in the mindset that I was only a little bit pg at first, which sounds ridiculous I know but it really helped me until the symptoms kicked in.
Think positive this one will be a sticky one!

I too have found myself reading up about breastfeeding sparkly and wombat and am getting stressed too, when I had DC's I hadn't made up my mind how I was going to feed, there were no sermons about it then like there are now! and when the time came they just asked " how are you going to feed" to which I shrugged a bit then they produced a bottle. I didn't knock it back having had been in labour for 27 hours ending in a section!! but if they had said would you like some help learning to breastfeed I would have had a go. I am going to have a go succeed to earth mother status this time!!

Hope you are feeling a bit better harrased, I have huge stresses from my parents with their seperate "issues" and I know distance myself a bit emotionally, putting all my time into MY family (ie dh and kids) the saying you can choose your friends but not your family certainly rings true to me!

Good luck with the new contract wellie hope it keeps your mind off the swi mentalling.

Sorry about the massive post, but it is now 0453 and I have been awake since 3AM , decided to get up after tossing and turning for an hour, and feeling sick. Have chucked and had a and am now going to try to get back to sleep on the sofa. I have 10 episodes of 4 in a bed to get through which should help!

Hope you lovely ladies all have a restful/sex filled weekend x

Can I just say sparkly, I found breastfeeding v hard at first. Dd fed for an hour, 30 mins on each side, every 3 hrs (so only two hours in between!). By the time we got to the end of breastfeeding I loved ir though. It was so much easier than bottles and as dd was less cuddly, it gave us some quality cuddle time. The feeding got much quicker over time and there was longer between feeds.
It was so bad at first I wanted to stop at 6 weeks but was persuaded to persevere and am so glad I did, I ended up stopping at 12 months. I did do a bottle feed for the 'dream feed' though so that DH could do it, I'm sure bf police would have something to say about that!

Hi purple and welcome :). How are you feeling? Does anyone in real life know yet??

worm, do you know what, i think i was that traumatised by DS's birth that i couldn't think of anything worse than breastfeeding him straight away . I know that sounds real bad when i say it out loud but it was a difficult one and i don't think i was prepared for it. Maybe my age as well as i had only turned 21 a couple of weeks before i had him. With DD, i thought i'd see how i feel and was ok and we both took to it really easily. No problems at all with milk supply and apart from the first week, she fed like DS did on a bottle, no more frequently than he did. We stopped at about 8 weeks as she got thrush in her mouth which the doctor failed to diagnose and treat, so a week later my nips were a mess with it and it was so painful and feeding became a nightmare cos i had to do it just for a short while at a time and then have a rest. With having DS as well, it wasn't practical for me to wait 2 weeks or so for the treatment to begin so i switched to a bottle. This time i think i'll at least start with the boob, providing this pregnancy progresses as normal, and see how i go. The one thing i found difficult was how big my boobs were. I felt a bit of a freak to be honest and was paranoid everyone was staring, but that was the only negative for me.

Can't believe the kids woke me up an hour earlier than when i've had to wake them all week. Was sooo looking forward to a lie in this morning. Sod's law.

Have a good weekend everyone. [hgrin]