so here it is, a new home for us newly updiffed ladies or still seeking that golden egg after a mc part 3

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ladies here it is our new home, ive tried my best, im not very good at the witty banter so hopefully this will do, get yourself comfortable it could be a bumpy ride with me at the helm!!!

Thank you everyone for the lovely messages. I am so happy, I know I'm not in the clear yet but haven't made it this far before.......

I managed to get out of the group booking in thing by going directly to the ante-natal clinic at the hospital and explaining the problem. So I now have an individual appt at 9am on Thursday.......hurrah.

You're all way ahead of me thinking about breastfeeding. My vague thoughts were that I'd give it a go and if it doesn't work I'll give up. At the moment, decisions like that seem so remote but I guess I'll get to them nearer the time.

Poor you feeling sick worm hope you managed to get some sleep.

I'm off to eat a croissant..........feel vaguely sick but thought that might help!

Hi, everyone, I am feeling ok, still hanging in here I am 5 weeks today by my best guess so that is one landmark ticked off!
My boss knows (so glad I told her when someone brought their child in with chicken pox ffs), DH knows and one of my friends.
I should be having an early scan, my gp sent a request card anyway and I think if all is well there then we may tell some family after that. I am also really hormonal/grumpy and tired and my boobs are so sore so I am feeling optimistic at the moment.

Marathonmama, with my chemical pregnancy, I was late, so took a test and got a faint positive and then got my period a couple of days later. Also I did post once on the March thread but I don't think I will post again as it isn't my 'vibe' at the moment. Sounds hopeful your end, when would you be due?

Everyone who is thinking of breastfeeding, it is one of things that isn't always easy at the beginning but it is definitely worth sticking with. I would definitely advise knowing about any local bf cafes or groups in your local area, I found these invaluable, so much so that I have taken breastfeeding peer support training to help other mums and hope to take some more soon as well :)

Yellow that gives me some hope, and congratulations!

Thanks everyone, I already feel a bit better, there is nothing worse than thinking you are all alone!

[hgrin] at 'breast-feeding cafes! "Tea 'N' Tits' open for business! I think I probably just don't look out for that sort of thing in cafes, but one has opened up near us that is clearly aimed at mums who eat cake, so perhaps this is the sort of place I should frequent - it's lovely, where I had my buzzy cappucino last weekend. Purple you sound great, fancy doing some training to help others - such actions are incomprehensible but sp admirable to a lazy, antisocial sloth such as myself!
Had a lovely day, been with the parents who were all chilled out and giggly, and I bought a car! Just thought I'd drop that in, like yah! We don't have one and we need one to visit John Lewis relatives, I feel increasinlgy out of the loop without one - it's a 2nd hand Nissan Micra (nowt fancy like), we get it next weekend. Quite excited even though I am so not a car person and have only driven about 5 times since passing my test 20 years ago! Might need a refresher, anyone thinking of venturing out next Saturday stay clear of the Manchester area!

Parents think Hugo or Melody are the current favourite names, quite like them - Melody in particular. Did anyone read the thread where the couple loved the name Isobel and asked for suggestions on a middle name, and a family member suggested 'End'? Made me giggle lots, though they were rather less impressed. Never divulge your name choices!
Wormy, it is quite a sexy weekend! [hgrin] Had a great dream about Chris Evans the other morning, now have a weird crush.
Hi to all

Haha. Good luck Manchester [hwink]. Given your Chris Evans fetish sparkly, is now a bad time to reveal that DH is of the red headed variety? [hgrin] hehe. I've always had a bit of a ginger fetish come to think of it......

PMSL at tea and tits!! sparkly if I lived in Islington I would nab that idea and make a million! On the funny names, I was reading on another thread a lady who's surname is Bull, wanting to call DS Edward. I have no idea how you cope without a car, you will llove having one again.

Well it's a beautiful day , which will be spent catching up on ironing here........rock and roll!

Hello people

Am feeling quite good today after sleeping so much. Am going to try and find some new trousers today as I cannot fit into any of my trousers or jeans.

Exciting for the car sparkly we don't have one either and I haven't driven for about 20 years either, I think I would need to take lessons again.

Thinking about the whole breastfeeding thing makes me nervous so I think ill leave worrying about that for later.

Those who have had the 12 week scan did you have the nuchal thing? Apparently the do the neck measurement and a blood test and if you are high risk they call you in 3 days and if you are low send a letter within 2 weeks. I think that will be a very stressful wait.

Morning yellow I had the nuchal stuff, but they said to me it would be 3 weeks either way, a couple of days earlier if high risk as they ring you rather than send a letter. Wish it was 3 days, she did say something about there is a rapid test that just checks for downs within 3 days, but all the other chromosomal things take longer to show up on the tests. I am not expecting anything until I am 16 weeks. While we are on the subject though, if I did come back high risk I have been looking into more advanced scans that you can have where they check out the nasel bone and other markers before having the evasive testing. The nation M/C rate for amnio in 1 in 100, but our local rate is 1 in 250, which is encouraging. I am already 1 in 400 just on age apparently. Lets just hope it all comes back good for us. My nuchal fold was really low 1.35mm i think which is well within the low end.
Glad you are feeling better today, I havnt been sick yet either :) have a nice weekend girls x

Thanks for the info worm that nuchal is low. I think in 3 days I will be contacted if high risk so I can decide on further tests. The detailed scan sounds worth exploring. I think we are about the same age so my risk is also already higher. It is what I am worrying about most right now. Those days after the test will be so stressful. The worry never ends does it?

Sorry to be all about me and depressing. Hurrah for the weekend and I've finished my essay. I also had a couple of sips of fizz last night, living on the edge!

Hello ladies, typing in a bit of a hurry so sorry for mistakes.

Well, it's official, got a BFP with a Boots cheapie in the afternoon so am now mentalling like mad. Have been feeling down, not convinced my body's ready for this and just waiting for it to go wrong

No symptoms at all

Did the rest of you feel like this?

Purple my dd is 17th March I think. What about you?

Has everyone gone somewhere and not told me?

Hello marathon sorry Monday's are v hectic for me. Hurrah for the bfp, I think that I def felt the way you do and still do to a certain extent. I didn't get any symptoms until at least 5 weeks and even though I feel sick most of the time if I feel well for a few hours I still panic.

I think it is totally normal to feel as you do, esp after a mc. I'll be here to hold hands with you, just try to take one day at a time. It is a cliche but what else can you do?

Big hug and chin up

Where and how are the rest of you lovely ladies?

MarathonMama, I think it is about the 10th March and I have had no symptoms today which is really worrying! However I have spent the past two days taking it easy and my main symptom has been being exhausted.
I am counting each day off and really hoping that I am sick soon. I know how you feel though I am exactly the same, when I got my decent positive I cried my eyes out as I couldn't cope with another mc.
However, I am on the first step on the having a baby ladder and I haven't bled or have anything else happen that would suggest it has gone wrong. So I am being hopeful and following some steps to reduce miscarriage this one says eat chocolate and I think grapes & cherries which have a special enzyme or something which is something I am now doing Also I am taking a plain folic acid tab and a pregnacare together everyday with permission from GP as extra folic acid also helps. I am on this thread if you wanted a more one on one chat?

Hi all and sorry for not posting for a while - cannot believe how manic it has been moving house, tidying up work before hols and trying to pack for 10 days in the UK when you have no idea what the weather is like and you have nothing to wear cue last minute emergency shopping! Just about there now and taking advantage of the internet in the biz class lounge before my flight (upgraded on points) - not sure how many people here would be logging on to mumsnet!

Sorry to hear about the bfn after bfp marathon - it's really tough - thinking of you.

Good to see that you're hanging in there purple - one day at a time....

sparkly - I know I've said it before, but you really should think about some creative writing - you are toooooo funny - love the Tea n Tits. Have you considered a blog....? I love Hugo and Melody and every Mel I've ever known has been lovely and my first love was a Hugo! Am concerned about your Chris Evans thing though....

Can't really help with the nuchal thing yellow other than when we got the whole lot done and got a low risk, it meant we didn't have the difficult choice of whether to go for cvs / amnio etc. and while we know there is still a chance of abnormalities, our worries on this have lessened dramatically since the nuchal and bloods.

Good to hear the sickness has reduced worm - feeling more normal now?

And how are you doing star, wellie, harassed, mrsb? Hope all is well and your new colleagues are nice wellie.

Likely to be quite sporadic over the next week or so but will try and log on and see how you're all going when I get 5 mins. Got to get on the flight in a mo so waving madly to all and rather excited I'm going to be in the same country as you all finally! xx

Hi Ladies
Yes marathon this is the beginiing of the mentalling stage for you I am afraid, I will try to summon up some sicky vibes and send your way, just enough for re-assurance. My first symptom was sore boobs, I think the sickness began at 5+4 ish. Are you officially late now?

purple your DD is on my birthday! Sending you the same sick vibes!

yellow a few sips of Fizz hey? living on the edge indeed!, I had half a pint of cobra with our anniversary indian meal at the weekend, and felt quite naughty. DH said that's probably the last you will be able to buy before people start to give you dirty looks, as I am showing at a terrific rate!

Good that you are on your way over to blighty wombat if we are going to meet up we need to get our heads together and discuss details as I will need to book the train. I have never had a blind date before Ha! yellow you being the city gal, can you suss out somewhere for us to lunch? I am hoping DH is off that day, so I may be able to pull in a bit of shopping too!

mrsb if you are lurking I hope you are ok, any news back yet on the tests?

sparkly I love those names too, My DC's are going mad suggesting names, and I think we have already agreed on a girl's name that all 4 of us like, my very favorite has been veto'ed and I have gone off it a bit now I have seen how far up the top 100 it is. I am a bit daft about not liking there to be another child with the same name in kids class, I don't like the whole child1 child2/ big child little child scenario.
It's way to soon to have chosen a name anyway! plus I am feeling like this is a boy so won't get to use it anyway...

No sickness now for a few days, cue mentaling, I have ordered a doppler, well hired one, so hoping that will ease the worry until I start to feel movement. Oh I nearly forgot. wombat I had thought I was feeling movement, but didn't like to say as you are so far ahead of me, well anyway, I could feel it while I was being scanned, but the baby was very much asleep! so it was just wind Ha

Waves to wellie harassed star and anyone else I may have missed!

wombat and yellow by DH being off work I mean so he can be here for DC's, not so he can tag along!

Hello All. I miscarried at 6 weeks in May. No period since then, and BFP today. I want to be happy, but I'm just freaking out to be honest. Never saw a heartbeat, so think I'll feel better if I see this one's.

Does NOT help that I have the most awful runs right now! (Which was why I tested) Asked DP to get me bananas yesterday, and he came back with green ones

Haven't told DP yet. Wanted to do something dramatic, but doesn't feel appropriate this time around, like some of the magic has gone

Morning!

Sorry I've not been on for a few days........ busy weekend, and then busy work yesterday, but two bfp's!!! Huge congrats marathon, and to you too Cuttlefish. I'm 16+5 straight after a mc with no af too. Scary but possible!!! Tell dh soon, you'll need all the support you can get.

Not sure who was asking about supplements, but I take vitamin b6 p5p, double folic acid and aspirin. All prescribed by my kinesiologist but the doc knows I taking it. I'm taking the aspirin because Wombat's ob/gyn said to her it wouldn't do any harm, and it hasn't! This was our last go, so it's an all or nothing thing.

wombat the weather isn't great, but has it's moments. You need everything!! Mainly a sundress and waterproof though .

sparkly lovely names, and they seem very "you". Dh has come up with some shockers....... Archie being the latest offering. Sounds like a dog.

yellow how's the sickness?

No news here really. Did a bit of shopping on Saturday. Got a couple of bits to wear for me, including a lovely maxi dress in Primark for £5! So that's next weekend's christening sorted. Also bought a moses basket , and a new dishwasher . 5 weeks without a dishwasher has been hell.

Getting quite a few movements now, and picking up a good hb on the doppler . But, also had a few spd twinges.........

Oooh glad you've not deserted me ladies. No action for nearly 24 hours, I'd started to see some tumbleweed and wondered if you'd all gone off somewhere without telling me (like that cruel trick people did at school, or was that just me?)

Worm yes I'm officially late now, I was due on Sat. Felt a tiny tinsy wincy bit queasy this morning so hoping that's a symptom.

Wombat glad the move went well.

Purple thanks for the top tips.

Cuttlefish many CONGRATS! Good to hear that someone else is going through mentalling hell. Good luck!

waves hello to everyone else - yellow, sparkly, Mrsb, Harassed and anyone I've missed.

Hello ladies

Hurrah for a bit of sickness marathon

Welcome cuttlefish and congratulations!

I'm glad you clarified worm was just imagining wombat, you, me and your DH! Tee hee.........I think you said your train comes into Kings Cross and I work near there so that might be a good place to have lunch. I will send you a pm with a suggestion as although all you ladies on here are welcome to join we don't want any mad stalkers turning up! I haven't asked for the time off work yet but I'm sure it'll be fine.

I told my boss about the pg today and he was really very nice about it. I was v stressed and emotional about it but feel very relieved that it is over. It felt so weird to say it all out loud and made it seem more real. But it also made me feel more nervous that it could still all go wrong.

harassed hurrah for movement and £5 Maxi dresses! I am still feeling very sick all day long, I really hope it starts to get a bit better soon. I can't believe you went 5 weeks without a dishwasher, I'd struggle with 5 minutes!

worm you made me laugh with your wind story......!

hurrah for being in the same country wombat do you have any views about the meet up location........are you still going to be able to make it?

Right am knackered and sick am going to bed!

Sat here waiting for yet another scan!!!! Totally freaking out now. Not told DH I've booked this.....think he'll kill me or at least have me sectioned!
Had some tummy painsduring the week, some sharp, some crampy but also not been well this week so not sure whether it's to do with that or if I should be worried. Hence, this extra scan I'm having. I'm so anxious all the time, I'm driving myself bonkers never mind anyone else :). Should have been in at 11.40 but running behind giving me more time to mental!!!!!

Star, hope it has gone ok? Let us know, sending positive vibes and plenty of chocolate your way x

Phew! All well, thank god! 10+5 so dates stayed the same. Could see the limbs wiggling about on this one which was funny.
Amusing thing the monographer said as I went getting up was "the best thing you can do is relax and enjoy and please, keep away from the Internet and these online forum and antenatal groups"!!!! Hehehe!!!

sparkly, thanks and do you know what? I put away a full 200g bar of dairy milk last night plus some jammie dodgers :). Chocolate is always very much appreciated here!!!

DH back about 3.30-4 today.....hooray!!!!!!! If I weren't pregnant, I'd hand over the kids and rush out to have a few relaxing alcoholic beverages :)

sonographer!!! iPhone changed it.....not my fault. Just did it now again when I wrote the correction. The m is nowhere nr the s so def not me hitting wrong buttons...honest!!

Excellent news Star, now stop arsing about worrying, and just relax! I'm still concerned that something may go wrong, especially now everyone knows, but you know what, why should it go wrong?! We're nice people, doing the right things, and although bad things happen to nice people doing the right things (this is why we are here) fate decrees that we eventually get what we deserve. So I am aiming for twins after this one
I know what you mean about those 'relaxing' alcoholic drinks, am missing that twatted fuzzy feeling a bit now

Nice and gentle there sparkly
I am sooooo worried about something going wrong, since I initially made a big song and dance by announcing to all and sundry and posting the scan picture on facebook I havn't told hardly anyone. I have seen 20 different clients at work in the last week and not told any of them, next time I see them I will be 20 weeks I feel very decietful but will have the test results and 20 week scan so should be feeling a bit less like it will all go wrong.
Got a team meeting tomorrow [yawn] my boss asked how I should announce it, so I said just put the scan picture up on the projector and play guess who this belongs to!

Glad it is all ok star I wouldnt tell my DH either, it's much easier that way! they don't understand how hard it is for us! I ordered a doppler and didn't tell DH but he spied me typing my credit card details in so I ha to confess!

Looking forward to meeting up yellow and wombat if we can pull it off, I'm
not booking the train until I know all is ok for you guys and that DH is definately off. Yes I will come into Kings cross.

Waves to everyone x