so here it is, a new home for us newly updiffed ladies or still seeking that golden egg after a mc part 3

[mrsb33]

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ladies here it is our new home, ive tried my best, im not very good at the witty banter so hopefully this will do, get yourself comfortable it could be a bumpy ride with me at the helm!!!

Hi girls
Welcome back yellow with your phlem and sparklys green chocolate gorging (only kidding sparlkes) its jolly grren around here today!
My 2 penneth on the moses basket thing is that mine DC's didn't like it in the cot straight away, they had a moses basket for about a month, I thing they felt more secure in a smaller space ? I have managed to get one off an old school friend for the measly sum of a bottle of plonk! That drop down side thing sounds ace though, ooohhh the advances since my day when I did it all the first time!
Aqua Zumba sounds Fab wombat ! I wish they did that here............ I am getting absolutely huge and not just on my bump. My legs have ballooned and I can't even walk to help as was my plan, as every time I walk more than 3 minutes a get a stitch like pain at the bottom right of my bump. Doctor google reckons it's "round ligament pain"? if thats all I am going to get I can put up with it, I will be getting off alot easier than harassed with SPD? (does anyone else read that and think of silent but deadly farts?- no probably just me)
Well the back to school stress is all over with, although I do really feel for DS, he has his 11+ a week on saturday and they are practising every day at school, I didn't know that was going to happen and now wish I hadn't been quite so pushy with his practise over the summer hols........ poor lad. DD has gained an attitude in the first week back that will be squashed with a mighty force the next time it rears it's head!
Waves to wellie (good news about the results Mrsb come on here and moan some time! and everyone else xx

Ah sorry all. Thought i had posted results on here. Everything looks to be ok. In the absense of anything tail like, she decided to go with a girl . I wouldn't have been convinced by her due to how she put it, but the sexing scan a few weeks ago said girl too. Think we'll roll with that. Might have 4d scan so can double check then. I'm 19 weeks tomorrow yellow so not far behind you :)

welcome back yellow! China sounds v interesting. Am with you on the humidity thing - come here and try it if you fancy some more! I think the extra phlegm thing is normal - I read the reason for it somewhere but can't remember it now.... I was tempted with those side cot bed things too - they do it so one side folds down and under very easily. DH v against it as thinks bub should sleep in nursery from day one and he says his DSs were all v noisy sleepers. I am yet to be convinced! re: car seat - can you borrow one from friends / rellies for the one day?

at your pool-side pervs sparkly - not surprised it put you off! Hope your cold gets better soon.

REally don't have any advice to offer harassed I"m sorry to say but sending big bar of raisin and biscuit yorkie your way at the thought of a normal delivery with all that pain around your nether regions....

Great news for a good scan star - how's the mentalling now?

Good to hear from you yellow - have you tried much in the way of stretching / yoga for your pains? I am not as regular at doing them as I should be, but I think they do make a difference - having always suffered from lower back pain, I am amazed that (touch wood, looks out for black cat etc.) it doesn't seem too bad so far. Poor DS with all that study etc. but I'm sure he'll be grateful for it in the end.

29 week appt tomorrow with Ronald McDonald (my new ob/gyn with the great ball of orange curly hair) - hoping I'll get measured too and blood pressure taken as heart rate increase and ridiculous breathlessness is sometimes a bit of a worry.....

Not sure if I told you that we renamed the pooch from Beauty to Lucy, which she seems to respond to better than Beauty. It would have been one of our choices for a girl, but DH thinks that with my surname (we are going double barrelled, we think, even though I generally don't like double barrelled-ness) she would have sounded like a porn star - I have to admit that he's not too far off the mark..... we are going back to the dog shelter tomorrow to officially adopt her - she really has settled in wonderfully and we think she'll be pretty good with wombatjunior.

Hot crumpets and butter for all! x

Oooh, crumpets! I love crumpets! My local bakery does a crumpet loaf, which makes dense, sweet toast. Hom!
Feeling much better today, perhaps because we're off for a week after today, yahoo! Nothing much planned, as per usual (leaving 4 cats is quite difficult) but we are really looking forward to the break and doing more on the house
Yellow, there was an interesting thread yesterday about how long to have your bubs in the same room as you. Some solid, valid researched opinions, and some hysteria (the SIDS research was open to interpretation, shall we say). DH is a really heavy sleeper so Monty's snuffles will not rouse him, and I think I will be slightly paranoid mum () so will want him close to start with, though part of this is the thought of getting out of my bed in the early hours of a dark January morning!
Glad Lucy has settled in Wombat, and that you've a little companion for the family. Breathlessness is quite normal apparently, all our vitals being squeezed! You sound like you're being active, which will help.
Star, glad you got good news, always a relief. Bubs may have been hiding his bits! I wouldn't be surprised to find a little girl, devious of nature and wily of spirit, popping out of me in December - let's hope she suits blue!
Harassed, sorry you are having a tough time of it, spd sounds awful. Sending hugs, and some apricot jam for your crumpets x

Quick message and I'll be back later!

I've just signed up for a Which trial, so let me know if you want me to look at anything or message me.

Hello,
Glad Star got a good scan, I would def suggest getting a 4d one later on, it's a great experience.
Well, i have been mentalling constantly, DH keeps telling me to 'calm down' and 'you're making it worse' which really helps... anyway I have booked an early scan for tomorrow as I will be 9.5weeks which is when I lost the last baby - but carried it until the 12 week scan and don't think I can face that again.

Please have everything crossed for a positive experience.

Sparkly I'm with you on the keeping them close at first, I did used to prod DD to check :)

Morning ladies, apologies for my last garbled post, it was via phone so harder to review before posting [must try harder emocion]

Ah I have everything crossed for you emma all the best for today I bet it has been the longest 6 weeks of your life!

Thanks for the offer harassed I am wracking my brains! I have no plans for any major purchases though, I am definately having a cut price baby this time! I am getting everything except the cot second hand and then flogging it all afterwards!

I second the having the baby close by wombat at least for the first few weeks, more for your own sanity and peace of mind. There are times when babies just wake for no real reason and all they need is a little face stroke/dummy insertion , if you don't get to it quick it can become a full blown screaming fit! My DS was only with us 3 weeks as he was a better sleeper than DD (a year and still awake half the night [yawn])
Re your breathlessness, It's normal can you remember I had it from 8 to 12 weeks? it's just stuff moving around. How did it go with Ronald? Lucy looks a delight! and I don't even like dogs!

I am also tempted by having a 4d scan star dh is not keen on the price though and I am a little worried I would end up seeing the sex when I really want to keep team yellow.

Where are you with your cycle at the moment wellie? how is it all going?

harrased by the measuring 4 weeks too big, and as we all know your date,s we were here! it is a physical impossibility for it to have been concieved any earlier! Hoping it is a growth spurt, try not to fret me dear. Hope they can sort out the spd soon too.........what a worry, you are certainly not having the bast time with this one, only 15 weeks to go :)

So I have been busy trying to come up with post birth money making schemes, today's genius idea is to offer a house looking after service for people who work all day and leave pets, or go away on holiday, I am thinking it is something I could do just in the village with the new addition tagging along. What do you reckon?

Have a lovely weekend ladies x

Ooh - thanks for the offer harassed - is there anything there on moses baskets and / or cotbed mattresses?

Very best of luck today emma - do let us know how you get on. We're all virtually holding your hand.

Thanks for the advice on sleeping with/without the baby in the room worm and sparkly - I think this is one I will be putting my foot down on. Also, while we don't have the same cold weather issues here, I hate getting out of bed in the middle of the night (although am almost used to it now with the 2 pee stops per night....!)

Please don't mention that crumpet loaf again sparkly - my keyboard cannot survive the drooling!

We have had 2 x 3D and 1 x 4D scan already worm and we definitely couldn't see anything - the sonographer was extremely good at discarding the pictures which obviously gave things away (either that or wombatjunior was ugly and he didn't want to give us those shots!) I think your money making scheme is genius - you may just have to be a bit careful with the new addition in tow - some people get dead funny about babies being in their homes....

Didn't get measured yesterday, but blood pressure fine. Had a very quick scan as ob/gyn was rushing to hospital for a delivery. Wombatjunior looked ok as far as we could tell and Ronald seemed ok with it all. We have a full-on scan booked for 3 weeks time which will be nice to see - hopefully the 3D bit will be better too -last time he was very alien-like.....

Bagels with smoked salmon and cream cheese today - yum!

Afternoon all

emma how did it go today?

harassed thanks for the offer, I am interested in those cots that you push up against the bed and ones with slidy/removeable sides. I read they had been banned in US so i guess wanted to be sure about the safety. We have a narrow bed frame sticking out round the bed so the cot would either have to be one of those attaching ones or one pushed up close with the mattress pulled over with a towel or something pushed down the other side to make up the gap. Does that sound too makeshift/dangerous? And if the bed is set up like that would 'Bob' be able to have a nap in there when I'm not in bed or would I have to put the side back on each time?

Glad check-up went well wombat I'm counting the days to my scan on 19th, am so impatient. I think I can feel movements today but they are so subtle it is difficult to be sure.

worm that sounds like a good plan, maybe also for letting tradesmen in/deliveries. Such a pain otherwise..........

I am doing a 'manage your pelvic floor' course at the hospital this week as well as yoga for pregnancy in the evening. It all makes it more real somehow.

mrsb33 how are you doing?

Back to work tomorrow.........boo.........I'm sure my blackberrry will catch fire when I turn it back on. I'm going to miss my daytime naps!

just a quick post to say all wet well, it measured 9 weeks exactly and had a wiggle.
Was really tough in the lead up to it and how tempting to have another before the 12 week...

Hope you are all ok, Yellow I think you would need to put the sides up each time if you are not in bed & glad you are managing your pelvic floor - I don't have any left to manage now!!

Emma thats great news, if it will make you feel better to have another scan then go for it!

harassed could you look up about nappies please? I have heard good things about the aldi and lidl ones? Just wondering if Which back that up? Many thanks

Horray for movements yellow they are very subtle at first and freaky! DH managed to see bump move yesterday, He is getting really excited now which is great considering I had to twist his arm to get PG!

Thanks for the info re the 3 and 4d scans wombat you certainly get more advanced care over there! Did you ever make a decision about if you are returning to work post baby or not?

My dreams are ramping up in mental-ness they are so vivid! I feel like I have been watching films all night. Last night DH was out clubbing with Vernon Kay and when I went to pick them up and pay the bar bill of £1200

Yay emma! - so pleased for your wriggly scan. And I would second worm's suggestion of another one if it helps with the mentalling.

Your dream made me chuckle worm - I'm also having loads and seemingly all night and about all sorts of people - nothing remotely pg related though.... yes, we do get advanced care here, but we have to pay for it (well, partly pay) - it's quite annoying as here in Dubai, by law, companies have to cover you for up to approx GBP3.5k, whereas down the road in Abu Dhabi, the law is up to approx GBP20k. We have about 2k left after all the scans / appts etc. but what makes me v is that the insurance company only "allows" one pg per year and they take mcs into account so we started off with less cover than we should have - grrrr.....

Boo to being back at work yellow.... will be v interested about your pelvic floor management - well, not yours personally , but the course!

And yes, mrsb - we are desperate for an update - how are you doing??

Bacon sarnies all round - droooool......

Oh and worm - forgot to answer your qu about returning to work. I'm actually handing in my written notice this week - eek! I'm looking to finish on 12th Oct which will give me about 5/6 weeks off pre wombatjunior's arrival. With the shitty 45 days maternity leave you get (plus an additional 90 days if you can get a doc's note ) I am definitely not going back then. I may do some consultancy work for them perhaps 9/12 months down the line but I'm going to see how I feel. At the moment, not working after 16 years of working feels distinctly odd....

I'm just having a freak out. Baby bug hasn't moved much over the last 12-15 hours. Much less than normal anyway. There are some movements but all in different place to normal, and not at the normal times. I have an anterior placenta, so he could have moved behind that..... still freaking though.

Have phoned in sick and am waiting for birth centre to open.

Will update you all later x

Big hug to you harassed hope you get the reassurance you need soon.

hurrah for scan emma I'm all for having all the scans you need.

I've had some very weird dreams too, very vivid when I wake up but I can't remember them now.

Being back at work is odd as my manager is on a business trip this week and the rest of my team are in a different time zone. So although I know people in the office where I'm based they are not yet really friends so no-one has welcomed me back or wanted to know how my holiday was. plus the ones I do know slightly better are all off on the same business trip.

I had 750 emails, not really sure where to start......probably being on MN isn't going to get them read is it?

Panic over thank goodness. It appears Bug has manoeveured himself round behind the placenta so lots of movements are masked. His hb is perfect. Hugely relieved..... I wish I could calm down a bit more. I feel more worried now than I did prior to 12 wks I think!

worm we're also having a cut price baby! So far everything is second hand or a hand me down. Poor baby lol. I will buy him new mattresses for pram, moses basket and cot, and also a new car seat. I'd only use 2nd hand if I knew where it came from.

emma fab news!!!

mrsb still can't get on here! She's feeling really rough, and has been off work for the last couple of weeks. She's struggling to eat and drink, but they won't give her any meds as she's not actually being ill! She's away soon, then scan is a couple of weeks after that.

yellow I'd whizz through them quickly and delete the obvious junk....that'll shorten the amount a bit!

Oh harassed - really thinking of you. Keep us posted on what the birth centre say - big hugs to you and bug x

What an odd start to work yellow - no fun at all . A friend of mine swears by deleting all emails after a holiday as he figures that if it's urgent, they will email again! Would love to try that one day but just don't have the nerve! The sensible wombat says start with the hardest ones..... the fun wombat says stay on mn

x-post harassed - big phew! Naughty bug making you worried like that...... I don't have a doppler (yet!) but would it help you if you did? (or does DH not want to....?) Hope you can get signed off for a bit- your spd sounds no fun at all.... sorry to hear you've been treated so badly too. In these days of PC-ness I'm amazed they can get away with it. Curious to know about your own business.....

Phew, I got there in the end. Now I just have to action all the things requiring action that I found. It's never ending this work stuff.

I went to the pelvic floor thing at the hospital this afternoon. It was a bit disappointing, only about 45 mins and she more or less did read from a sheet. But it did scare me a lot, she said 7 out of 10 pg get incontinence of one form or another and talked a lot about tears and yukky stuff like that. Made me want to get on with some pelvic floor exercises immediately....altoghether now.....and squeeeeeeeze!

On the bus today someone had mcdonalds chips......I really want some now....and ice cream. But i haven't got either.....boo!

harassed did you manage to see the dr and get signed off?

sparkly how you doing? Feeling any better? What have you been scoffing today? Make me drool...... :)

Going to pg yoga tonight, feel a bit nervous, hopefully everyone will be friendly. I always find it a bit tough to go somewhere for the first time but I'm really hoping that I'll enjoy it. Will mean a fairly late night (well 10pm is late nowadays!)

How is everyone? And more to the point where is everyone?

Yes where is everyone? - tis like a ghost town around here these days....

Shame about the pelvic floor thing yellow but I supposed a good thing it scared you into squeezing! Yoga is fab and I'm sure all the other ladies will be lovely.

Took myself off to the midwife yesterday afternoon as wombatjunior was being extreeeemely naughty and went very, very quiet overnight and all during the day..... Didn't help that DH is currently away in Delhi..... typically as soon as I lay down on her couch, I felt a kick. She put the hb and contractions trace on and all was perfect and they give you a clicker to count the movements too and he managed a very impressive 25 in 20 minutes! Clearly he just wanted a bit of attention! Midwife was fantastically reassuring and said to come back every day if I felt the need to and that sometimes tensing up about it can stop you relaxing and focusing on the movements properly which may explain why as soon as I saw the heartbeat, the real kicking started - I think I must have relaxed completely at that point. Will try to remember in future to relax more before mentalling!

Hello Ladies We are still here ! We are the hardcore ones!!

Sparkly hasn't been seen around these parts for ages.................
Glad wombat junior made an appearance for you, the little tinker........

Yellow I have many close friends with children and non of them have ever said anything about incontinence issues, so I think there was bit of scaremongering going on from Mrs Pelvicfloor!

Harassed are you feeling any better? has the babies (naughty) shift in position eased the SPD any?

So here is a TMI complaint...............I feel weird down below, the only way I can describe it is ,it feels like I have had a marathon sex sesh (which I havn't)! Never had it with last 2 PG's what do you reckon girls?
As a third times I am not officially supposed to see anyone now until 28 weeks, however as a neurotic beast I have made an appointment at next weeks midwife clinic (hope she doesnt chuck me out!)

wellie how are you? give us just a wave if you don't feel like posting.......

He he worm - only you or mrsb could have compared that feeling to a marathon sex session! (are you sure you haven't?! ) To take you more seriously, I think there's a lot going on down there. I have read on some pg threads that our bits can turn almost purple and v swollen with the amount of extra blood that's flowing around there - do you think it could be that. They do say NOT to try and look at it in a mirror - I may be tempted in a couple of weeks out of sheer curiosity

Saw your thing about the tuning forks on fb harassed - did they do the trick with the spd? I'm intrigued!

Haven't heard from marathon, emma or star in a wee while either - hope all is well with you and the mentalling is not too severe for our early stagers....

nurse and maramara must be due any second too. Very keen to hear from you if you're out there.....

I'm sure sparkly is around - just busy whipping up something delicious for us!

Cannot believe I am 30 weeks today - the last 10 have absolutely flown by. Went back to aquazumba this morning which was much better and more fun than last week's as at least had a rough idea of what I should be doing - still feel a bit of a tit doing some of the moves though which are clearly designed for young, lithe bodies not aging whale-like ones!

Evening all

wombat wow 30 weeks, that's fab. So exciting! Glad you enjoyed aquazumba, sounds fun. Is that true about the bits downstairs . I thought the swelling was just after giving birth?

worm that does sound odd, glad you're getting checked out, do you really not see a midwife until 28 weeks?

My complaint is that I'm feeling all jittery and tearful tonight and have no idea why. I've had a busy week so maybe just tired?

Yoga was good on tues but I felt v sick by the time I got home, a very long day. It was lots of breathing and stretching, relaxing. I am changing my day to wed so I won't have to do acu in the morning and yoga in the eve.

I'm off to bed, hopefully I'll feel more cheerful tomorrow.

Wave!!! I'm alive, just having a bit of an mn rest, but I do lurk and I keep up with you on fb as well..I still love you!