so here it is, a new home for us newly updiffed ladies or still seeking that golden egg after a mc part 3

[mrsb33]

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ladies here it is our new home, ive tried my best, im not very good at the witty banter so hopefully this will do, get yourself comfortable it could be a bumpy ride with me at the helm!!!

So sorry girls, was just feeling thoroughly miserable yesterday. At least af turned up later in the day, so my body is doing something right!

I'm sorry emma in particular for not noticing that you were feeling low, I really hope it all works out for you this time.

Hugs and apologies to everyone

A quiet congrats to you emma - while I know it's really early days I have my fingers, toes and all other bits crossed for you. Do keep us posted.

Aw wellie - completely understand re: your frustrations and up and down-ness and I'm very conscious that it must be saddening / frustrating / annoying / aggravating to be sharing this thread with others who are at the stage of the journey you would dearly love to be at. Absolutely no need to apologise - sending hugs x

Good to hear from you star and sorry to hear re: your dd's eye - nasty stuff. Hope it hasn't put too much strain on you.

What other news from all you lovely ladies?

I was a bit too to post last night and I'm sorry to bring some bad news to this thread. We made the very tough decision yesterday to have Suki put to sleep as after running some blood tests to check her kidney / bladder function, the vet saw some very worrying results and then performed a further x-ray that showed that her bladder had ruptured and become detached and we really had no option but to end her suffering. It was very quick and painless for her but suffice to say me and DH were really upset. She was such a darling pooch - so affectionate and human-like in so many ways. Doing better today as lots to distract me at work. She will be sorely missed.

Hi all,

Haven't caught up properly but just wanted to say a big (whispered) congrats and fx to Emma

Also, Wombat sorry to hear about Suki, she won't be in pain anymore and it's probably relief for her. Hope you feel better soon.

Ahhh wombat so sorry for you, big hugs and gentle head strokes coming your way. I really feel for you, sounds like your being stoic but it must be tough. You made the best decision for her but it must be difficult. I've made you some camomile tea and scones with jam. ((((hugs))))

wellie there is no need to apologise, we're here to vent and listen to each other. I went through some tough moments before I got to this stage so can totally empathise. Do I remember correctly that you have a doctors appt coming up?

emma congrats........i know it's a tough time and the weeks will drag but you've made the first step. Well done!

How are all the other recently duffed ladies?

star that sounds frightening, glad all is well now

mrsb33 did you get all your results?

I bought some maternity trousers today and a skirt and some tiny, tiny little socks! We also looked at buggies which gave me a headache. So many......We just want something really small and light that doesn't cost a million pounds. Any suggestions from you previous duffers? To be honest I was v bored looking at buggies and cots etc, was like washing machines to me.....what criteria are you supposed to use to decide? I've no idea what I'm looking for.........

Also feeling a bit hysterical that something might have happened and I'm not pg anymore.....such a limbo stage, am at 15 weeks....been obsessively thinking about having a private scan. This is based on nothing and when I mentioned it to DP he just rolled his eyes at me. Not sure if I should just have a scan and not tell him?

The good news is that I've been feeling better, went out until 12.30 last night, for dinner and then a bar......been feeling tired today but I couldn't believe I managed to stay out so late......I think I must have turned a corner!

Waves to all..........and another big hug for wombat

Thanks ladies and for the tea and scones - tis tough but we will get through it.

Well done yellow on getting the socks and maternity gear! I was definitely similar to you in terms of getting bored with the buggies. I found the mumsnet review section here on travel systems quite good - as you need to consider if you're likely to be on public transport a lot, have stairs to climb etc.

To be honest, I hated the 12-16 week period - I felt so un-duffed and was convinced it had all gone wrong (as you say, based on nothing at all) but fortunately we had a 16 week scan as routine here. I would highly recommend you go for it for peace of mind. Junior's real activity kicked in around 20 weeks which was hugely reassuring (plus good 20 week scan too) and I am waaaaay more relaxed about the whole thing and dare I say it, almost enjoying it

Waves to all and leaves out hot buttered muffins with selection of condiments.

Aw, Wombat, what sad news! I have welled up in the workplace and must have some sugary tea and a malted milk asap. Poor Suki. I'm sending you lots of hugs, you're being very brave. You're going to be such a great mum, I'm going to be a complete basket-case, I know it! The type that has to have an afternoon lie-down in a darkened room with some smelling salts.
Wellie, I'm sending you hugs too, it must be awful sometimes us banging on, we're quite far away from monitoring ewcm now but I hope you stay with us to chat, and there are some lovely sort-of-newbies on here in the same place. It will happen for you, look at Yellow and her trials, and now here she is buying, er, teensy socks! I'm not sure why, but then I've bought a bookcase not suitable for age 3 and under due to tiny dangerous pointy parts. We've all clearly lost it.
Yellow, as Wombat says the run-up to 20 weeks is a bit crappy - no movements, no proper bump, wondering if the scan in many many weeks time is going to reveal your worst fears........if a private scan will make you feel better then go for it, not for me to say really but I'd recommend involving DP too, you need his love and support. Oui.

Had a lovely glass of red wine last night and then dreamt all night that I'd got absolutely hammered on cocktails, to the extent I kept waking up in a panic wracked with guilt. Haven't really felt any kicks since Saturday so trying to stay calm, but it's quite worrying. I've spent far too much time lying prostrate on the bed with the bio oil, gently pressing down on various parts of me trying to get some movement out of Monts. I get one kick, then can't quite believe it and try for more, but he only does it once
So, goes to show, no matter how lucky we are compared to others, I for one am still an ungrateful, whinging old bag!
Waves to Harassed (you ok out there?) and everyone else, I hope we have a happier week x

Sorry, haven't been on much. The weeks are so busy, work is crap and lurching from one crisis to another, boss off for two weeks at our busiest time and the weekends are sooo busy plus mil has been in hospital for 6 weeks now. To be honest I'm exhausted. First due date coming up this week, and struggling to get my head round it all and make sense of it all tbh. God I'm depressing!!!! On the plus side, lots of wriggling and have even bought a few bits. Trying to get my head round a pram. Think we've narrowed it down to a 2nd hand Chameleon or a new baby style oyster.......

Wombat such sad news about Suki, I'm so very sorry. But you've most def made the right decision, it just might take you a while to believe it. We had our beloved dog pts 2.5 years ago when he got desperately ill. It was awful and he wasn't ever going to have any quality of life, but god we all sobbed our eyes out. It does get better, we just talk about the good/funny bits now.

wellie have a squish ((()))! If you can't vent here, where can you???

emma good luck lovely.....

sparkly my mum was a basket-case mum, don't do it!!! How are you keeping?? Sounds like you're blooming.

yellow have a look at the baby jogger city mini. It can also take a carrycot now. The only down-side, in my opinion, is that it's forward facing only. Or the Britax one is very good too. I'm craving an Uppababy Vista but just too much money and they don't come up 2nd hand often.....

This poor baby is going to have a complex, everything is hand me downs/second hand!!!!

Bugger, missed people!!

mrsb any news on your test results?

star how are you feeling now?? dd is slowly coming round to the idea of a boy, but she's 5 so boys are rubbish . She's taking some persuading!!

Just to let you know that Monts has sobered up and is kicking away, yay!
Harassed, had a look at the Uppababy, oooh it's plush! The pil's have kindly offered to buy us the pram when the time comes, they state it's family tradition but actually they are just looking to kick-start one I think Further research highlights the Silver Cross Surf, retailing at a mere £500 as opposed to the £560 for the Uppababy. Whadya think? In the meantime I have successfully bid on a Sleepy Wrap sling for £18, cheapskate that I am! Half a grand does seem a bit steep, but I suppose it does for 3 years or so and will get almost daily use. That is 45p a day by my reckoning (this dubious maths is how I justify all my outrageous purchases )

Sparkly I'm sure the cats will oblige! Take pics I looked at the Surf but am not keen on not having a proper carrycot type bit as I'll be using it for Bug to sleep in during the day. We live in a 3 storey house so will NOT be humping the moses basket up and down every day, and don't want to buy another one!

Hello ladies, thought id check back in and say hello and see how you all are doing.
wombat, im so sorry about suki, that so sad,chin up...
wellie, i compleatly understand where your coming from, ive currently in the same doomy place.
sorry not had chance to catchup on everyones updates, god you girls can chat!!!!
still no news this end, bloods came back as i was ovualting, just waiting on my scan date and dh sperm test dates, called docs today as its been 5 weeks since my last appointment and ive not heard anything.
trying desperatly not to get upset and worked up every month, but its so difficult, offically been 11 months now, feel like my bodys failing me.
myself and dh arent getting along too well, this ttc lark is putting so much pressure on our relationship!!! only been married a year and had a miscarriage and the pressure of not conceiving for the whole of that year! so sad.... any way enough of the me me me post.
can some one update me on where everyones at????

hugs to all xx

Hello mrsb33 really sorry to hear you are feeling so down and it is rubbish that tests are taking so long. It really is tough, not sure if it helps but we tried 3 years altogether, would you consider acupuncture?

sparkly where is the pic of the cats in the sling, I'm sure they'll model it really well.

I am going to try to resist another scan, am seeing the midwife next thurs to listen to heartbeat so maybe that will help!

Am def feeling much better now, such a relief!

Estate agency opposite my flat got smashed up last night, I slept through it though! Hopefullythings will be calmer tonight.

waves and magnum ice-cream to all

Hi girls
Greetings from cornwall where I have a celebrity neighbour! Brad and ang ! They are staying on a yacht off the coast so I am off armed with binoloculars tommorow. We are staying with in laws and just had a quicky now feeling like a naughty teeenager!
Sorry am on phone so not able to reply much, just to say sorry about your pooch wombat :(
And hope things pick up for you soon mrsb x

Oooh, Magnum icecream! I had some meringues and clotted cream icecream last night, twas delightful.
We got let out of work early yesterday as we're in Salford and there were hoodies amassing outside the local McDonalds. Everyone was really concerned to make sure I got home safely which was very touching, I like being vulnerable pregnant woman! Out in the sleepy enclaves of Cheshire we were untouched by trouble, although the city centre Patisserie Valerie seems to have been looted for pastries (we clearly have a better class of hoodlum up here! )
Worm, too much information as usual!
Hugs to Mrsb33, my Sis took 18 months for her first (she was v early 30's) with no known obvious cause. Look after each other x

Morning all and thank you so much for your lovely thoughts and wishes on Suki- we are definitely better than we were at the weekend, but the place does seem really quiet and not the same without her.

Glad to read that Monty is up and kicking again sparkly - the sporadicness (is that a word?!) is so frustrating. Can't wait to see the pics of the cats in a sling! You definitely have a classier hoodlum oop north - I have been really upset to see my hometown of Croydon being destroyed but relieved that all friends and family are safe. Did any of you see this bbc clip of some mindless, ignorant girls? It beggars belief. I was lost for words.

Sorry to hear that it got quite close to you yellow although glad you slept through it! WEll done on holding back on a scan - may these next few weeks until movements pass really quickly for you.

Sounds like you need a bit of a break harassed - can you get any help / time off to put your feet up, even for an afternoon?

Can't remember if I told you that we bought a 2nd hand chameleon - we bought it from a nice English family and the mum bought just about every accessory going for it so it was quite a bargain.

Good to hear from you mrsb and I'm glad you're still hanging around. Well done for hassling the docs on your appointments etc. - I really hope they will provide you with some answers. Hope also that you and DH can get things back on track soon - it is a very stressful time. Sending hugs.

Love your stories worm - what would we do for filth without you?!

Any more updates from you emma? everything still tightly crossed here.

How are you doing marathon? When is your scan?

How is your dd's eye star? Hope it's recovering well and you're feeling ok.

Saw a new ob/gyn yesterday as my original one (with the 3 broken vertebrae) pushed my appointment back again and this other one came highly recommended from someone else and she delivers at a different hospital from the one where I had the m/cs. She looks like a mad professor with bright orange curly hair but seems to know what she's talking about! She did a quick scan and wombatjunior has grown enormously in the 5 weeks since the last one and was doing some weird frogs legs position - it was really nice to see him!

Ooh - how are nurse and manamana doing? - they must be close to the end now!

wombat I am so sorry to hear about Suki , hope you are getting on OK and yay for good scan!

mrsb great to hear from you, good luck with getting news from the docs

Off to the docs on Friday, haven't been since we got here so no idea how it will go - but the system here is completely different, you don't have to register or anything, just make an appointment, so if I don't like them I can just go to another one next time. Just want some chat about how things work here in terms of whether they would do investigations and when and all that, but more than anything concerned about my v irregular cycles post mc and feel the need to tell a doc about that and see what they think - the latest scary dr google diagnosis I have decided on is that I have ashermans syndrome caused by the ERPC..... why do we do it to ourselves, eh?!

Hope you enjoy cornwall worm

please take it a bit easy harassed, you need to look after yourself

hope all of you are ok with all this rioting rubbish going on - can't believe it!

waves!

Hi ladies!

Urgh I'm having a grotty day. Work is busy, I've got a cold coming, it's my first due date and I'm shattered! The shattered bit is self inflicted though. Went to the pub with my prg yoga ladies and didn't get in to 10.30...go me and my rock 'n' roll lifestye. 10.30 I ask you??!!! And not a drop of alcohol involved. I hope I'm getting a baby that sleeps this time .

Thank you all for concern though. I'm ok honestly. I have Monday & Tuesday booked off (don't work Weds) so looking forward to a long weekend. We were hoping to go away but dh is so busy he doesn't think he can . Looking forward to lots of time with dd though.

Cute alert: dd has started talking through my belly button, as she thinks this is a direct route to Bug!

Wombat glad to hear all is going ok and yaay to good scan! Is your original ob still on sick leave?

mrsb lovely to hear from you, and I really hope you get some answers soon.

wellie get off dr. google!!! You know better than that .

worm.... hmmm and you look such a "nice" girl in your fb pic!! Don't forget to share your Brad pics either.

sparkly at they least the didn't loot Poundland like in some towns. I mean, why???!!

Have you all tried the Mint Magnum??? It's delicious....... although there may be a nationwide shortage as I've eaten so many of them. My local shops are still out of stock from my Curly Wurly stage .

Can you bloody believe the NHS its a 10 week waiting list for an ultra sound!!so another 5 weeks before they even see me, probably 2 weeks for the results then dh has to do his tests! It will be christmas before we know it!!!! Aaaahhhhhhhh frustrating isn't the word!

I can't believe it, what a nightmare. So frustrating for you. Let me offer you some have you thought about maybe trying acu in the meantime, might help to feel you are doing something? Big hugs

Thanks yellow, wasn't sure if I needed it with me finding out I ovulate as normal?? A friend of my cousin does it and only charges 25 per session to friends and family, so may look into him doing it, if I reach that 12 month milestone with no bfp at the end, which isn't far now, 22nd sept.
Af is due any day, think its all over this month, have all the af symptoms! Boo hiss!!! How are you anyway? Feeling ok?

I'm feeling a lot better now, thanks, hardly feeling sick at all now. However belly is massive, more like 5 or 6 months when I'm only almost 16 weeks!

I ovulated too but the acupuncture helps for the whole body to be more balanced and have the right welcoming atmosphere for the egg nurturing. Also the Chinese herbs were helping with having the best quality of everything. So for eg each month a number of eggs may ripen but the herbs helped for the best quality one to be selected and the acu helped with overall body balance. Or something like that.

On mums net I did read of other people who had used acu to change fsh levels or something, some who had been having problems and after 3 months of acu conceived. That's what made me try it in the first place.

Worth a try, may or may not have been the decisive factor but it also made me feel good that I was doing something.

Fingers crossed af stays away.

That sounds really shitty mrsb Lets hope you become upduffed between now and then!
I hope the docs in Oz are kinder to you wellie!!

Im Worm Junior news I felt the baby do some kind of flip last night where is seemed to be trying to lie with its feet in my back and head in my belly button! was most odd!

Waves to all

How very frustrating mrsb - I'd be tempted to try the acu if I was you.

Haven't got mint magnums here harassed but they sound bloody good.... my original ob/gyn is back this week, but I haven't see her since I was 8 weeks (25 weeks currently) - feeling very disloyal and need time to settle into the new clinic but it seems pretty good so far. Had some routine blood tests there this morning and spent 15 mins with one of the midwives with all my questions which was helpful. Oh, and they even have valet parking!

How did you get on at the docs wellie? Do let us know when you can.

Waves to all! x

Hi ladies!

Been away for the weekend, fantastic time despite flight delays and all that stuff.

Doc was really helpful - wants to get all my bloods done and DH to do his SA, I think it was the irregular cycles as well which made him act quick. He was lovely and understanding and his wife had a blighted ovum first time too :( so he was sympathetic to that as well which was great - now on to the next challenge of staying calm and not stressing about what they might find when we get it done

Sorry just quick catch up as just back and back to work tomorrow - will come back during the week and catch up properly

:) to everyone