Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VII

[Blackkat]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Sorry I've not been around for a few days, but a huge thank you for all your hugs and lovely messages after my crappy week!! We had a lovely weekend, and dh trained first thing Sat and Sunday evening, so felt like we had a good long family time together. Unfortunately I had to do some work on Sunday, but I was in the living room so it wasn't so bad.

All is well prg-wise, lots of movements now and a lovely loud hb on the doppler too. Bump is huuuge and attracting lots of comments , and I've had a few spd twinges .

lily so sorry you've had even more stress, how are you doing?

willitbe that is truly shite lovely (((hugs)))

doo lovely to see you!!! I don't feel inbetweeny, just massive. Have you had any movements yet? Won't be long if not.

bigmac great scan news!!! God you're good, I'm dying to find out the flavour. You must have stacks of will-power.

Welcome and congratulations to the newbies.....

Hello and hugs to everyone else, too many posts to remember you all. Brian has well and truly struck .

lady what a nightmare you are having, must be such a relief when you get to the scan...can't imagine what is happening to your emotions up and down all the time!

stitch it's not my good organisation - I've moved areas so got a new GP who I saw last Tuesday...the local hospital had contacted me by Friday last week with my dates, I couldn't believe it! I must say am so pleased to have moved, so I don't have to go back to the hospital where the MMC was discovered and all the info sent to me by the new hospital sounds great...encourage active birth and only have a 16.8% epidural rate so if I get to a birth they seem to do things how I would ideally like too , assuming it doesn't all go out of the window at the first sign of pain

Also stitch you have the opposite mentalling from me...I have no sickness or stretchy pains (had loads with the MC) so am mentalling there is nothing in there at all - boobs are big and very sore though so clinging on to that...we just can't win, I'm reading your post thinking your mentalling sounds positive and you probably feel the same back!

bigmac wow that is some self restraint - glad the scan went so well...have you said to each other what will make you look in the envelope?!

willitbe so sorry you have to still go through this, I hope you get an final answer soon, look after yourself xxx

harrassed that sounds so good, glad things are on the up

Congrats on the scan bigmac.
Harassed pleased you had a nice weekend, great stuff. My best friend was staying this week and she thinks I'm pretty tiny still and that I don't really look pg, although to me and dh I look massive, but it's different in the nude and later at night - I do bump out a lot. I think I have had movements these last few days too - they're kind of really weird, not really tickly but strange bubbly type sensations or something and quite a lot of them. Does that sound like movement? I feel like a complete novice with this prg lark now it's actually progressing! Got 16w mw appt in an hr so hoping to hear the hb ok - fingers crossed!

Hi to everyone else - hope you're all having relatively stress-free days.

shellshock great news about the hospital, sounds v positive!

scooby bubbly type sensations are exactly how I would describe the first movements I had with ds. I wasn't sure at first, but as they get stronger you will probably realise that it was the baby all along. Hope your mw appt goes well. x

dooscooby sounds like movement to me - mine started at 16 wks as well. Don't panic if it's very very sporadic though. I seemed to pop out 2 weeks ago.

willitbe I am so sorry

Thanks for all the kind words

Hi lady and bigmac - thanks for confirming my bubbles are prob movements, it's a strange sensation isn't it?!
Mw appt was good thanks, although it did take her ages to find the hb which was more than a bit scary!
The mw was trying to be helpful and make the point that docs, nurses etc see so many miscarriages that they wrongly become a bit desensitised to it and aren't always appreciative of the impact they have on women, but I did think her choice of language was clumsy. She said 'everyone has miscarriages, some have one, others lots and therefore we get a bit distant from the impact on women'. I certainly know lots of my friends who thankfully have never had a mc! I know she meant well but it did make me feel like she perhaps thought I'd made a 'big deal' of my mcs!

Anyway, dinner time now. Hope everyone is doing ok and the metalling is bearable x

yay for good scan bigmac

willit i'm sorry it's still ongoing. i hope you're getting lots of tlc.

After and hour and 15mins wait for my GP I got the woman who told me losing my mucus plug was thrush instead in my first pregnancy! No results back and she told me that cyclogest and aspirin is the best I'd get no matter how many miscarriages I have. Great. She also said that now I'm pregnant I won't be refered to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. I'm sure women on here are pregnant and have still be seen. I read 'Miscarriage what every woman should know' and Lesley Regan said she see's pregnant women. Guess I'll have to wait for the new surgery after all and hope they're more helpful!

Sorry for everyone who's having really rough times right now. I wish there was more we could have done to help us all.

Just quickly popping in to wish lily good luck tomorrow. I'm sorry your having to go through all this worry and I'm crossing everything that they are able to do what they need to tomorrow and that you get good results quickly- remember 95% chance all is ok! Thinking of you and dh tomorrow. X sorry you've had to rearrange your exams too, especially after all the study you've done. But they are the last you you should be worrying about now. They can wait. Xx

willitbe so sorry you are still going through this too. I hope very much that nothing more complicated develops. (big hugs) how are you holding up?

Welcome to all the newbies and congrats on your bfp's! This is a great thread for freaking out and support!

I'm feeling confident enough now to graduate properly to the grads thread. I'm still going to pop in on here, if that's ok, as there are still lots of you lovely ladies I want to follow and see graduate over too. But keeping up with both threads is hard work, especially now Brian has moved in!

harassed feeling brave enough to graduate yet? X

Woke up to a load of dark red blood with clots (sorry TMI). I know I should be used to the bleeding by now but this is in a different league... Am really, really hoping it is just old blood... Am on knicker checking code black (or whatever the highest one is). Have got my 12 week scan booked for tomorrow afternoon so am just going to have to wait it out until then... This is so horrible.

AMuminwaiting sorry your GP was so unhelpful and rude. I really hope your next surgery will be much better. Am also hoping others on the thread could advise you on the recurrent mc clinic - I'm afraid I have no experience of it so can't offer any advice. x

lady it's awful but I guess there is nothing you can do till tomorrow - are you able to be at home and just rest up? Nothing I can say will make you stop stressing, but just try to think of the earlier scans and what you have already been told xxx

Quick mid bus hello.
lily am thinking of you for tomorrow - good luck. Will have everything crossed for you. Hope it all goes ok and you get good news x

lady also good luck for scan tomorrow. Bleeding is just scary. Will be thinking of you as well and hope DH can distract you from the mentalling a bit tonight.

lady I'll be thinking of you tonight and have everything crossed for tomorrow for you. As mama says, hope you are being distracted.

I'm also plucking up the courage to graduate but will also be coming back here to see how you are if you'll all have me?

Lily how are you doing?

Oh lady so sorry to hear you're bleeding. Thank goodness you have a scan tomorrow but I know that must feel like ages away. I hope it calms down soon and that some other 'bleeders' (!) will be along to reassure you x

amuminw my gp said the RMC wouldn't see me but the hosp cllr later said they would and got me referred. The woman at the surgery sounds like an idiot to me-people can be so insensitive. In my exp, the clinics themselves are much more helpful so could you try contacting them direct? They prefer you not to be pg so they can run the clotting bloodtests but the other important function of the RMC is to provide TLC to women as this has shown to affect outcomes (as I'm sure you know) -so they could/should still offer help on that front now you're pg.

lily hope you're ok and good luck tomorrow x

bigmac you're always welcome here. Might think about coming over myself in a few weeks, assuming all is ok.

lady sorry you're having more worry, fx for tomorrows scan.

lily good luck for tomorrow.

lady sorry to hear you are having more bleeding, thinking of you and fx for tomorrrow

lily I hope all goes OK tomorrow and will also be thinking of you

shellshock amazed at the efficiencies of your hospital - I hope mine are like that but very much doubt it if last time is anything to go by.

willitbe so sorry you are still going through this all

bigmac yay for good scan

AMuminwaiting what a pain with your GP, I hope your next one will be much better

off on holidays tomorrow so will see you all next week :)

Hello ladies just jumping on as having a massive freak out. Am now officially pg (will be 5 weeks on Fri) but have no symptoms at all. Some very minor queasiness for 5 mins yesterday but nothing apart from that. No sore boobs or anything

Is this normal? I'm sure I had sore boobs v early with dd. Freaking out big time

Arrrggggh!

I got nothing til after 6 weeks marathon. Then around 6+5 I got everything.

lily best of luck for tomorrow xx

lily will be thinking of you tomorrow.
ladybird. So sorry to hear about the latest bleeding, must be so scary for you. Hope the scan comes round as quickly as possible. Wish I could speed up time for you.
Waves to everyone.

I have my next scan 1.30pm tomorrow, I am just hoping that despite not bleeding again, that everything will appear normal and that there are no mutterings of d&c's etc. I hope to be able to come here tomorrow evening and tell you all that it is all over. I don't think I could cope with anything else. My temps have now gone down to pre-ov temps so I know at least my progesteone levels are falling, as are the hcg levels looking at the hpts (this morning just faint positive). So my hormones are behaving correctly even if my uterus is not!!!!

Ladybird - hope your scan goes well, will be thinking of you.

Marathonmama - no symptoms means nothing (just as huge symptoms means nothing either!), so just relax and enjoy as that morning sickness could kick in anyday now!

stitchinline - enjoy your holiday

bigmac - great to hear your scan last monday was good!

willitbe thinking of you, bug hugs

lady thinking of you too, fx at the scan tomorrow, I have my first scan tomorrow, actually 2nd, as I had bleeding at 11 weeks, went to EPAU, had scan and all was well

Big thanks to everyone for your lovely supportive comments, I'm so sorry for mentalling like this - I deserve to be haddocked. Will let you know how the scan goes later.

lily thinking of you and really hoping that everything goes well today with the CVS.

willitbe thinking of you too and hope that they can give you some proper answers and confirm everything is normal for you.

piglet hope your scan goes brilliantly and you enjoy seeing mini-piglet wriggling around!

Collie and BigMac we will miss you but pleeeeeease come back every now and again. I have everything crossed that we will all catch up with you guys on the grads thread in a few weeks. xx

stitch hope you have a fantastic holiday!

Good luck lady willitbe and lily today (lily I was convinced it was weds when I posted on tuesday)

waves to all xx

lily lady willitbe good luck for today

I have my 25 week mw appt this morning so am now quietly mentalling about bump being too small or some other possible bad outcome. I'm a carrier for cystic fibrosis and DH has never been tested. All my mentalling so far has been about losing the baby, but I taught genetic disorders last week and it occurred to me that now it looks likely I will actually have a baby there are a whole host of other things to worry about!

Good luck to lady, piglet and willitbe for your scans, and lily will be thinking of you today.

collie ummm yes, I'll come and say hello!

doo how lovely that you're getting movement!

velvet there's always something to worry about, but you can't change any of that. It's something I've put to the back of mind. I'm 40 and didn't have the nuchal fold or blood tests as we decided (same with dd) that we'd rather not know as it wouldn't change what we'd do. So I feel similarly about genetic disorders.

marathon no symptoms doesn't mean anything! So don't worry too much about it. They may hit all of a sudden, and then we'll remind you of how much you wanted them .

stitch have a fab hols!

Nothing to report here except hayfever and general snottiness! Very tired too so in the office for a rest. Having dd's joint birthday party on Saturday......30+ plus 5 and under year olds .