Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VII

[Blackkat]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

blackkat Ooh- do they? I feel a trip with my friend coming on.. I may follow advice and buy some jeggings . I used to have some, and they were so comfy. Unfortunately they got a hole in due to over-zealous pulling-up and nail combo. I miss my jeggings. I need something to wear for a party on Friday. This stage is really funny, I just look plump, and shapeless atm. Floaty top and some jeans, perhaps. I need some new jeans.

WIW glad your meet-up was ace, it must be lovely putting a face to the name.

mamarara you are of course excused the haddock. It's a nerve racking time. When exactly is the next scan?

hairy is your EPU the same place as you need to go for the 12 week scan or different? will this make any difference to it? I had a loss of symptoms for around a week at 11ish weeks. They came back, but not as bad as before.

starkadder ooh, you're getting on a bit now! Excellent news all is progressing as it should.

laylas your gp, for example, is an arse. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Is changing surgeries an option? where in the country are you?

bump hurrah for scans!

In other news, I went to pilates last night, used the cross trainer for 30 mins and cycled for 20. And feel really rather good, if tired, today. Must make more effort to do more gym stuff. Especially as I have put on 8 pounds already

Waves to all.

I've been off for a bit so have been wading through the posts - it's been a busy few days.

Mistress, if you are still lurking I was so sorry to hear that your fears were confirmed. Take care of yourself and take each day as it comes - and we all look forward to seeing you back here soon.

Hi to everyone else, lots of great scan news, new people and overseas rendevous - WiW did you carry a copy of The Times? :) Blackkat thanks for doing the list.

I was delighted to wake up at 4 this morning with another bleed, albeit smaller. Stupid placenta. Since then I've had period pains and that heavy feeling I associate with being about to start my period (something I had for the first 12 weeks of this and my last PG until I MC'd). Spoke with EPU this morning who have told me to monitor for 24 hours (as if that would be a problem for an experienced knicker checker like me!) and if the light bleeding or period pains don't stop I need to go in for an MOT. I'm trying to be relatively blase about all this but mentalling is setting in. I was out with Mrbigmac last night and we had our first baby name discussion that I haven't stopped because I was worried about jinxing. Now of course my brain is mentalling that I should have stopped the conversation because now I've stuffed it all up. Stupid. I wish I could control that part of myself.

Please apply the haddock - I have 12 days until my 20 week scan so this is unacceptable behaviour.

Fresh fruit salad on the side for you all with some giant buttons for later.

Hi everyone, sorry haven't been posting lately, hope you're all well.

A big congratulations to all the scanee's and sorry to Mistress - hope you are okay.

Nothing major happening at my end - I think I may be developing Carpal Tunnel Syndrome in my left hand. I've been getting a tingling feeling down my wrist and a twitching thumb that's gotten worse over the past few days. Also got my appointment with my counsellor next Wednesday and met my midwife yesterday - I don't think we "clicked", and she was quite distant which made me feel uncomfortable. I think I've jynxed myself now. Everytime I have made an appointment at the surgery to confirm my pregnancy, it has ended a week later. So counting down the days now.

Agh bigmac - what a PITA for you. Have a haddock and a sea bass for good measure though! Did you and mrbigmac enjoy the names conversation? Hope so.....

good to hear from all you quiet ladies and that things are progressing well for you bar the allowed mentalling.

Yrmoftb - I've always had a thing about jeggings being rather chavvy but I relented and got a fab pair one size too big in Warehouse (non maternity)and they have been my saviour for evenings out. They're black and really just look like skinny jeans (so big fan over here, although I would draw the line at the line at stonewash ones .

Glad you've got a counsellor appointment milky although sorry to hear that you felt you didn't quite click with your m/w although oddly I really felt I did with mine to start with and now I'm not so sure . Have a haddock as well though for your last sentence!

collieandpup I was just having a look at the grads board working hard and noticed your comment about your back. What stroke are you doing? If you have a sore back, breast stroke can put a lot of pressure on it so might be worth avoiding that if you can for a while. Unrelated to PG, I damaged a disc last year and my GP, while lovely, was useless. I went to an osteopath who sorted me right out (although it was £40 a session I would have given up a kidney to get it sorted at the time). And he was hot. Very enjoyable :) So, would recommend this if you can (and if you have private healthcare you can claim costs back)

WiW thank you for the haddock and bass application - much appreciated. We did enjoy it although it veered into the ridiculous - Horatio BigMac work for anyone here? Anyone? :)

thanks everyone :) I am beginning to feel like I might not be just a lurker :) Also like this might actually be OK...although just typing that feels like a jinx, of course. But I have had to go quite public now as it is also quite obvious, which makes it all a lot more real.

Feeling negative today, been having a few pains in my stomach, although it doesn't feel like cramps, not sure what they feel like but think they are not similar to when I had my MC's. Also got lower back pain but never had this either with my 2 MCs, so hoping its just aches & pains of my body changing!
I am totally shattered & just had a sneaky afternoon nap - which I never need so hoping thats a really good sign! Got my 8.5wk scan 2 weeks today, It can not come quick enough. I have been feeling surpisingly positive upto now but today I have lost it!x

MrsSteph a big hug for you. If it's any help at all I had stomach pains with this PG - a mix of wierd stabby pains, burny stretchy feelings, muscle aches, ligament aches - all of which drove me nuts and had me mentalling like a mad thing. Like you, none of them were like the stomach pains I had when MCing. I also got the odd period pain and that heavy feeling like I was going to come on both times which was disconcerting at best with this PG.

Are you or can you do something nice tonight to distract yourself? This is where I find boxsets and Come Dine with Me invaluable. Was it a sneaky afternoon nap at work? :)

Hi all, lovely to hear everyone's news!

WIW - am I missing something vital or did you meet up with Lara in Dubai?!!

BigMac - sorry to hear your placenta is up to it's old tricks, it must be very stressful for you. Try to to take comfort from the fact that you are nearly 20 weeks now - did they say the placenta would move up later on? Hope the bleeding stops v soon - keep us posted (and have another haddock for good measure..!) x

MrsSteph - well done for not mentalling about the pains in your stomach - I have been having them almost constantly for the past 5 weeks and know for a fact (since scans were fine) that it is just my body stretching and changing. On a bad day they can still worry me, but most of the time I just accept them as positive pain. Well done for having a nap - I was having one almost daily while DS was at nursery until Wimbledon started, so am planning to resume them next week as have zero energy in the afternoons - all good :o

YRMOTB - am extremely impressed by your amazing efforts in the gym.

On the clothes front, I am really struggling. I am only 10 weeks and cannot fit into any of my trousers!!! I am very ashamed to say that I am living in some maternity black capri trousers that I kept from having DS. They are way too big, but I can't find any (normal) trousers to fit - even if I go a size up, as my stomach area is expanding too quickly. I am too scared of jeggings as my thighs and bum seem to be expanding as well and it seems ridiculous to buy maternity trousers before my 12 week scan. I know I shouldn't be complaining and I would happily double in size if this pregnancy goes ok, but there is something really weird about seeing yourself balloon on a daily basis! I'm not sure how much longer I can keep this a secret at this rate.... I must say it is partly my own fault as have been eating whatever I want due to relentless nausea ...

evening all just a flying visit. Hope you're all ok.

WIW glad the meet went well, and that Lara is having a good time.

Wow-this is possibly the quietest period in the history of the freak out room (well since I've been here anyway!). I hope that's because everyone is so calm and relaxed there is no need to be on MN.

I went to get my boobs measured yesterday and got reprimanded for not knowing you weren't supposed to wear wired bras when pg. Did you all know that and was I being stupid?!

This morning my bump was visible when lyeing flat on my back (I can normally only see it when I'm on my side or stood up). thing is, it was completely wonky-bub must clearly be hanging out to one side!

Hope everyone is doing well

Hey dooscooby if you are looking for a mentaller, look no further only just passed 5 weeks and already am convinced things are going to go wrong:

why no sickness - I had none at all and had MMC at 10 weeks last time, so surely will this time

why no boob ache - really hurt last time round and none now, must mean I will miscarry earlier than last time

Have already scoped out the free scanning at the EPUs near me and costed up a private scan if I make it to 8 weeks (thats when development stopped last time)

aaaagggghhhhhh

oooh i totally agree doo ive never known it this quiet i can actually hear whistling wind... and there goes the tumbleweed lol at your wonky bump, ive not got a bump yet proberbly doesnt want to show yet for fear of being prodded and poked i didnt know til i got measured in my 1st pregnancy and i was gutted i love my underwired bras
where is everyone?

I'm here but feeling sick as a dog. Currently trying not to vom over my keyboard. Ughh. No idea how to cope as I have a client dinner tonight. I am never going to make it. Plus I just want to go to sleep.

On the bra front I am currently a 30FF and have just ordered more bras online as these are getting too small (have lasted a month in them). I am buying underwires as my physio told me I would seriously mess up my back if I didn't use underwired bras due to me having a really small back but a huge cup.

If I make it to 8 months and maternity leave I think I will switch to the non wired from then on and try to wear a supportive top with them.

Sick sick sick.......I feel gross

Hi shellshock sorry to hear your mentalling. My symptoms didn't really kick in until 6 wks and got much worse around 8. As everyone will say, every pg is different. I can't remember where the mantra came from but when I was really struggling with the worry one of the ladies mentioned that she tried to think each new day 'Today I am pregnant' rather than thinking too far in the future. I found it quite helpful to try and do the sane, although some days it was much harder than others for sure.

bump sorry you're feeling so pukey, I hope it passes soon.

Layla I love underwired too-has to buy some new non wired ones in my new supersize c cup (ha!!). I haven't had underwired since my first bra in tammy girl!

Thanks for the haddock WIW! It was much needed!

shellshock Sorry you are feeling like this. I'm not really one to give advice as I'm a worrier too, but I've only vomited once in this pregnancy so far at week 9. I didn't have any kind of nausea until week 7, and that was only in bouts of about 2 mins. In my one successful pregnancy with my DD, I didn't have any nausea until week 7 and finished at week 9. You still have time for sickness!

I got my fetal doppler this morning! Found the heartbeat after a few minutes of fiddling about! I think this will stop me worrying until Monday!

It is quiet isn't it? Afternoon all...

dooscooby with underwired bras I thought they were OK as long as they were not digging into your baps (as this could affect your milk-workings)... I'm still wearing them and very comfortable (apart from endless itching - anyone else have itchy norks?). I also am with you on the 'Today I am pregnant' approach.

Can I share some good news? After that other reoccurence of bleeding on Wednesday early morning, I had my 16 week (but at 18 weeks) MW appt today. I heard the heartbeat and the MW was really happy that I didn't have internal bleeding in my uterus (after giving me some proper tummy prods) which was the concern of the EPU. I was over the moon and guess what I did... I didn't take up the offer of a reassurance scan when it was dangled in front of me. I feel really proud of myself as I was a bit of a state yesterday.

Lots and lots of sympathy for those of you feeling sick

Sorry for the rant! I obvs don't actually want to be feeling sick and I feel really sorry for you bump, its just me mentalling!

I know its too early really for MS but in my mind, cos there wasn't any last time, I've equated MS with a successful pregnancy - total codswallop I know!

Thanks for the advice dooscooby, I am trying to just think positively an focus on now, but its hard not to set milestones in your head...oh well, there is not much I can do about what goes on in my brain, just gotta accept it

Shell I def didn't feel sick at your stage and now I do quite a lot (although never actually sick thank goodness). You still have plenty of time to feel rough so don't worry yet!

xxx

Thanks bump, I hope you feel better soon!

ARRGGGGG,,,,,,,, help how do I keep sain til 9.30am tomorrow (realistically until 11am tomorrow, knowing how "efficient" the local epu is). ...... Help. I am sitting here knowing that with my stupid tilted uterus they are unlikely to see anything much more than a sac, but my head keeps fighting with my heart saying that at 7 weeks they might see the heartbeat (with my dd they did not see it at 7+3 so why should they see it at 7+0 this time!). I am not feeling sick at all this time, yet with all my m/c I felt dreadfully sick, so this is a good thing right!!????!!!!???? ARRRGGGG, I just want to sleep and not wake up til it is time for the scan. I am also hating the thought of the wait in the waiting room at the epu, it has nothing but bad memories for me.

Please don't haddock me, I am sensitive today!

yrmotb scan on Tuesday at 6.50pm so nearly a week of low level mentalling. And then a whole day of full scale insanity! Well done on gym activity by the way. That is amazing!

lady I am 11 weeks and have been in maternity trousers from when i had dd for a week or so. I am a bit concerned about the size of my belly! Baby only 2inches big so it must just be fat!

Hope the rest of you ladies are ok and the pukeyness has stopped/started as appropriate.

Just a quick one as on the bus...

willitbe try not to mental- the scan will be fine I'm sure x

shell i second bump on not feeling sick at your stage. It kicked in at about 7 weeks (following a week of stressing about 'Why aren't I feeling sick')and then I was gutted when it didn't stop at 12 weeks! Still going at 16 weeks!

layla I think you're fine with underwired as long as they fit properly and don't dig in. No way I could wear non-underwired (gone from a 30FF to a 30H in 4 months!) my boobs would look like two puppies fighting in a sack if I did. So not a good look!!!

bigmac* fab news on the mw apponitment. I had my 16 week one today too and like you got to here the heartbeat. It is so reassuring cos it seemed like so long to the 20 week scan without knowing everything was still ok.

Happy sunny evening everyone x

bigmac I'm with ya on the itchy boobs-especially on the nipples. I keep putting my hand down my bra and having a good scratch at work (when I on my own!).

shellshock didn't mean to sound like I was telling you just to think positive and stop mentalling, as you've probably seen I could have won awards for the mentalling I've done. Was just trying to find something remotely helpful or reassuring to say but tbh, all we really want to know is is it all fine, all of the time. I lurked on some of the due in December type boards earlier and couldn't face it after reading how exciting people were about their scans. It's great that they feel that way, but I can't really relate!

willitbe your officially haddock free for 24 hrs prior to scans, it's in the rules/commandments. I really hope you manage to get a bit of sleep tonight and we'll be thinking of you tomorrow morning.

Great news on the good mw appts minnie and bigmac x