Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VII

[Blackkat]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

D'oh. Hopefully he'll be dealing with neither.

Hand me those haribos...

Afternoon all - haven't got much to say other than loving the new name changes on this thread! Extra haribos and iced buns to bigmac, pants and YRMOTbean!

Hi all, am concentrating really hard on the name changes - pregnancy brain should have processed them in a few weeks!

So the midwife booking in appointment this avo was fine. It was weird talking to someone who actually seemed to believe I would have these babies (instead of me mentalling in my head that it's never going to happen). Turned out to be really hard getting a decent date for scan and consultant appts, they are nearly solidly booked in July, grrrr. Ended up with scan at 12+4 (3 weeks today) so not too bad, but another countdown begins....

Lara great news about your furniture, I am v excited for you! I am in Clapham BTW...

Bigmac thanks for the thoughts and the pink wafers (which are the best)!

Mistress am v pleased the spotting has eased off for you. Time must be going so slowly though, I really sympathise. I think that's a really sensible idea about the holiday - whatever helps you has got to be good. Also, what is the AIBU board?!

Evening all
On bus so quick update before signal is lost/I miss my stop.

Loving the name changes ladies!

Collie - have you tried boiling water in bowl + menthol (karvol or something), lean over bowl, put towel over head. Then wait for the contents of your sinuses to empty out. Gross. But effective and drug free!

Hope you are all ok. Someone mentioned quavers and I have not been able to stop thinking about them since. So I offer quavers and some cold out the fridge sataumas. A combination that is really doing it for me right now.

Have a good evening all!

Hi all - just want to quickly pop in and say a big congratulations to cep and yrmotb on the scans!

Thanks for the info on dopplers collie will definitely look those up on ebay and amazon.

Suffering from flu here - Thought I was better this morning but aches and pains are starting up again and I'm blowing out balls of snot. Hope everyone else is okay. Will catch up properly later

evening ladies. My dream genii arrived today so looking forward to trying it out. Just hope i can fit inbetween the bolster bits.

loving the name changes. milky sorry you're not feeling well hope you get better soon.

Hello everyone, sorry been massively busy today at work.

Loving the name changes, made me

mistressp so glad things are going ok, and yes it's the only way to get through to think of the nice things you'd do to cheer yourself up. ((hugs)) you won't need to though.

Finally started telling people, which makes it feel real. And, I got home and DH had ordered me a dream genii after I'd been telling him about you all buying them. He gets top marks for that!

katherine if you're lurking I hope your scan went ok today, if the list is correct!

to everyone, sorry not to name check. xx

Just popping by to wave at all you preggos -

VIP spot reserved for you, looking forward to seeing you here mouse x

that ol' beanbag's looking rather dusty - hopefully not too long till I can dust it off! One more AF to go....

so it looks like nobody missed me :(

anyways, loving the name changes and just wanted to say I'm down saarf too so dont forget me!

We just didn't miss you out loud velvet. I've missed you

We're waiting for you mouse!

Off to bed now, knackered! All that spending really took it out of me!

waves to velvet xx

Morning all. I'm really sorry for posting here as it's not a very happy start to the day. The cramps have got worse and I've started to bleed, but it's all going much more slowly than I'd imagine. Woke up in terrible pain last night, but the bleeding is still very slow and mucusy (TMI: so sorry). The thing that's making it worse is that I'm actually frightened this time. Previous mc was 6 weeks; this time I think I'm 11. Every time I cramp or go to the loo I'm scared. Scared of what might come out, scared of the pain but mostly scared of the unknown. Does anyone have experience of an mc at around this time? I think if I knew how big the baby was/is (it could have died weeks ago), I would know what to expect.

I might head up to A&E later just to get checked out, although I hate that too. All that prodding and poking and blood tests and fanjo cams and internal examinations and waiting about. Argh!

Sorry everyone. Perhaps I should be on the mc boards but they seem to deal with the aftermath more, and they go so slowly.

Mistress do you have someone with you? If you are on your own, I would really recommend that you get yourself to A&E just in case. I started bleeding with my mmc at 11 weeks but had an ERPC at 12 as there was no sign of it happening spontaneously. I had bleeding the whole time (mild) but no bad cramps -just mild ones. If you are scared I really think you should be somewhere safe. I'm so sorry for you and wish this wasn't happening to you. x

Mistress I'm so, so sorry it sounds like you have had a horrible night. You poor love. Please don't apologise for posting here - it is why we are here, to support each other and be here to listen. I'm afraid I can't help in terms of having been through a mc at this stage (I had a mmc at 10 weeks last time so no symptoms at all) but I really think you should go to hospital and have this checked out. I know it's a completely miserable experience having to go to A&E but at least they might be able to tell you a bit more about what is going on? If you can't face it this morning, please, please call your midwife and see if she can get you an emergency appointment at the EPU? You need someone professional to help you through this. In the meantime am sending a big hug and loads of brave thoughts. Let us know how you get on if you get the chance...

Mistress - please get yourself to A&E. Please try not to panic and take someone with you if you can... As Ladybird said, we're all here for eachother so please don't apologise. Fingers and toes crossed that everything's okay... Hugs...

ps - I had a MMC at 10 weeks... turned out to have been a blighted ovum that my body hadn't detected... it happened spontaneously but was just intense bleeding for a week or so. It wasn't gory. A&E will be supportive and ensure you're in safe hands xx

Mistress - I agree with the other ladies, take yourself into A&E. The earlier you get there the better in case it get's busy later in the morning. Although I had a couple of duff nurses when i went in last week, in the main everyone was lovely and helpful.

My MC was at 9 weeks so can't help there I'm afraid.

I'm sending a massive hug your way and have everything crossed.
x

mistress so sorry to hear about your night. Keep posting here when you can as we all want to be there for you and help as much as we can. My mmc happened around 11wks but it had stopped growing much earlier so was a different scenario. If you get to a&e then they should take you straight to epu for a scan given they should be open at this time - I do hope they treat you sensitively and with the tlc you deserve x x

oh mistress I'm so so sorry it sounds like you have had a horrid night. You know your body and the signs but I dearly hope that it's not what you fear. Mucusy blood might not be the end, although the cramps aren't good. I think if you can bring yourself to go, I'd get yourself to A&E. I can imgaine it's the last place you want to be but they can check you over, give you answers and the care you need. After a mlc, I evevtuslkt started to mc naturally but I did have to go to a&e due as a clot was stuck causejbg the bleeding and cramps to be sever. I waited about 20 mins to be triaged and was immediately prioritied due to loss of blood. So make sure they know you are bleeding. Can someone go with you?

I found out about my mc at my 12. wk scan but baby only measured 9 1/2. It passed it naturally and it wasn't very big. Smaller than a round tea bag (sorry can't think of anything better to compare it to).

And lastly, please please don't apologise or feel bad for posting. Stay as long as you like, this is your home until you decide otherwise. We are all thinkng about you so please keep us updated. Good luck xx

Sorry for typos I'm on phone at work.

Thank you lovely people.

My mum's been round with maternity pads and cocodamol. DS is at nursery.

I've spoken to the midwife who was helpful. She says to go to A&E if I feel very anxious, or am bleeding heavily. So as the bleeding is still brown and more like the beginning of a period, I'm resting up at home. If it gets heavy or I get scared, I'll get my friend to drive me in. As it stands I'd rather be at home. People are sent home to have mcs by themselves aren't they? So it can't be dangerous, IYSWIM. The A&E can't do a lot, and I'm much more comfortable here. If I freak out I'll go in, I promise.

It's perfectly fine and safe to be at home mistress unless you start to bleed heavily. I think they say if you're soaking more than 3 pads an hour. I'm so sorry for you, but you're dealing with it very bravely and admirably. Glad you have your mum near. Rest lots. Thinking of you x

Hi mistress, thanks for updating us and I'm pleased you've got someone with you. I'm with you on wanting to stay away from a&e and as long as people know what is going on that seems sensible to me. Sorry to be annoying if you've already said but why didn't the midwife offer you a scan/ suggest epu?