Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VII

[Blackkat]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Congrats on great scans girls.

I have been lurking the past few days so i bring millionaire shortbread as a gift.

I have been so tired the last week so fingers crossed taking that to be a good sign. I got my dates through today midwife on 13th July and scan 1st august seems ages away!

Will catch up properly soon.

Fantastic news yrmotb and cep - thrilled for you both! I was exactly the same at the 16 week scan cep - sonographer seemed to take ages to get around to showing us the hb - irrational but understandable, I think

Good to see you here purple - hang on in there for the dates!

Great news cep and yrmotb. welcome stitches I hope you have an uneventful time here.

Been on the zen terrace all night. Woke up at 4am and after a couple of hours laying still I went on snail watch in the garden, we're overun with the blighters and they're eating everything we plant!

First day back at work today, I never find it too bad the first day, it's a bit of a novelty but that soon rubs off on the second day!!

Happy Thursday everyone

Great news on the scans yrmotb and cep!!!

Sorry about the jet-lag scooby! At least you put it to productive snail-bashing use!

Am seeing midwife for my first appointment this afternoon and have been thinking all night that there's no point me going as it is bound to end up in mmc the same as last time.

Somebody get a haddock please

yay to Cep and yrmotb great news, you must be very relieved to pass another stage.

Thanks for the welcomes. I will update myself on the list in a minute (although I just realised that means doing first list of the day, hope I don't mess it up) I can see this is very moving thread, good there are so many upduffed. Will do my best to keep up but can I blame hormones/sickness/tiredness if I don't quite manage.

Thursday 23rd June LIST

Lovemysleep 24+2 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 22+4 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 22+2 EDD 23/10/11
Hils74 20+1 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 20+0 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 19+5 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 19+2 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 19+0 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 19+0 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 18+2 EDD 22/11/11
Bigmacsauce 17+2 EDD 29/11/11 Next scan 11/7/11
Blackkat 16+3 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11
Jigglebum 16+0 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 15+5 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 14+3
Dooscooby 14+0 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 14+0 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 13+0
Youremindmeofthebabe 12+0 scan 22/6/11
Updiffed 11+5
Freezingmyarseoff 11+5 scan 5/7/11
Milkyways 11+4 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 04/07/11
Bump 10+5
Hairylights 10+3
Mamarara 10+0
Lily06 10+0 Next scan 12/07/11
Pigletmania 9+5
Laylasmummy09 9+4
purpletoes 7+0 EDD 09/02/12
willitbe 5+6

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 33+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 29+5 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 28+5 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 28+0 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 26+5 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 26+3 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 25+6 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 25+5 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 25+0 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 22+3 EDD 24/10/11
Velvetcu 22+2 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 20+6 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 20+5 EDD 5/11/11
CollieandPup 18+4 EDD 20/11/11
wombatinwaiting: 18+0 EDD 24/11/11
LaraMi 17+6 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 17+3 EDD 26/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Morning all,

ladybird thanks for you long and helpful post in response to my question about a bra. It was really helpful. I?m in no rush to move into nursing bras so any recommendation to not to is welcome can I ask which mat shop you went to for a fitting? Can you recommend? Only place I can think of is Mamas and Papas and although I can?t remember, I had a feeling all theirs were not under wired. lara I know Bravissimo is not a mat shop but have you had a fitting there since you got pg? If so how would you rate them? I was thinking of going there too.

Mistress how are you today? No more blood and pains I hope. Have you heard anything from your mw? Re Tea, I drink decaf. Some brands taste very chemically so I drink Clipper Organic Decaf so its not got the chemicals in. Its tastes great to me so it?s a good substitute. see here for food standards agency guidance.

Mamara lovely to hear from you. Glad your mw apt went ok.

milky I got a Bebe 200 Doppler. They are about £70 on ebay but I got it half price off ebay. You can get cheaper ones, and I don?t know what the quality difference is, but I have no problems ever picking up the hb, and its just as strong and clear as the one the mw uses. The newer version of the Bebe 200 has an LCD screen which shows you the hb rate. I think these are about £100 which is expensive but again are less than half price on ebay if you don?t mind second hand.

doo welcome home and glad you had a safe and uneventful flight. Glad the NT results are ok.

To you and everyone else freaking out, I think there must be something in the air!! I have been having major freak outs this week! I don?t know if its because I?m getting closer to my dd, my 20 wk scan or the same time that dachs lost her twins, but I am paranoid about everything. I?ve had really wet knickers the past few days and have convinced myself that I?m leaking fluid ? even though i know the most likely cause is just watery discharge. Or that I?m going to squash my baby in my sleep as I keep rolling over onto my front. I could go on, the mentalling is endless.

lara how did the trip to M&P go? I pouted a bit last night about the cot so think I?m a little bit closer to getting my own way!!

lily nice to hear from you, hope you are doing ok and not working too hard?..sounds like you are v v busy.

Well done freezing for adding yourself to the list!

Not much news from me, apart from the mentalling. Sleeping is still utterly crap (waiting for new pilliow) so levels of shatteredness are an all time high. Working from home day today though so I plan to take it easy.

Hi Collie, glad you found the post helpful. I just went to a local independent shop for the bra (SW London - don't think that's local for you), but also meant to say that specialist bra shops such as Bravissimo would probably also be very good with pregnancy boobs, so def go there if it's easier for you

MistressofP have been thinking about you. How's it going?

Morning everyone,

doo lovely to have you back my bump buddy . Sorry sil was so bloody awful, she sounds very jealous. Good news on the NT results!

Yay to Cep and yrmotb on good scans!!

Cep guess where dh and ds1 are working this week??! I should have taken a day off and got a lift down.

Mistress how are you today?? I'm drinking normal tea, but right off it when preg anway so probably about 2 mugs a day.

Collie I'm also mentalling like mad for some reason. I've been ok since the scan and hearing hb last week, but for some reason last night I'm convinced it's all gone wrong...... logically (if I can remember what that is) there's no reason, but since when did that matter ?!

Not much to add from me apart from mentalling! I went to my first preg yoga class last night which was good, and there are 3 women due around the same time so that will be nice. Maybe that's the source of the mentalling?! There were several very heavily preg ladies.... Today I'm suffering with my sinuses and earache. Flipping kills and paracetamol hasn't done much! Wish I hadn't come to work....

harassed it is totally irrational!!! I even listened to the hb last night and could hear and feel biuts of movement at the same time. But as you say, that doesn't seem to matter!!!

It could also be heavily pg ladies with me too. Having been around my pg neighbour at the weekend, and my collegaue having had her baby, i am feeling particulary vulnerable. [neurotic emoticion]

I've had earache too! For the past to days i've had a fuzzy/ringing noise in my right ear. Its actually gone today though. I wonder what that could be?

Tis me......with a slightly new name.

Collie I think the preg hormones can cause an increase in general snottiness, so I'm blaming that and think you probably can too. Unless someone has slapped you round the ear, which you might have noticed!

I'm watching several dopplers on ebay at the moment. Missed a couple yesterday as I was rushing around. Seriously thinking of asking mw to have a listen in tomorrow.

Morning ladies!

Collie - Not been to Bravissimo since getting updiffed (everyone else thinks my boobs are bigger apart from me and erm, my bras which seem to be fine!) As long you don't mind being in a changing room with the bra-fitting lady and your bare bosoms, I think they're very good. Just be careful because sometimes they've chosen bras for me that have been too tight and I've had to take them back due to wire agony.

Please get the Dream Genii, Collie - it's fab... Sleep so much better now. Actually wondered if I could take it to Dubai (but then realised it will take up vital shopping space in my case).

Guess what, guess what, guess what.... we put a deposit down on the M&Ps stuff.... GAHHHHH... Major freak out.... We went there last night. DH LOVED the furniture (Orchard sleigh cot-bed, wardrobe and dresser). I am really reticent and was loathe to buy it all so soon (petrified in fact). However, the service there is fab. They said we can put a fully refundable deposit down now, arrange for delivery right up until the birth (we chose the beginning of Oct) and just pay the balance nearer the time. It's not the £ I'm worried about (thankfully), just the pure fear of making such a significant purchase so far out from the birth when so much can go wrong. However, their Ts and Cs are so flexible that it made sense to just go for it. A quick google search has revealed there is nothing I like more. The Orchard stuff goes perfectly with the room (white shutters, cream carpet and a Victorian fireplace) and the quality looks really good. Plus the wardrobe can be used as an "adult" wardrobe (so will last years) and the changing dresser can have the top "lip" removed so that it looks like a normal dresser. Feeling very scared.

Ladybird - whereabouts in SW are you? There are a couple of us from sarfff west London.

Just heard from the lovely WIW - to make you all very jealous, we are going to sip cold drinks and eat cake together on Tuesday. Am very excited.

I feel uber neurotic... Didn't eat particularly healthily yesterday (lots of running around and general not able to get arse in gear) and so thought I'd done harm to Little Bean. Also worried I can't feel enough flutters yet. Scared something will happen before scan on 20th (one bloody month away). Paranoid about getting bump-bashed. Just generally scared.... I am also scared as Dachs lost her little ones close to now.

Picked up a takeaway last night (see above comment about not eating healthily last night!!) "Lovely" and utterly tactless Chinese Takeaway woman insulted me with a double whammy... After dropping her jaw at seeing I now have a bump (not seen me recently), she asked how far along I was and then said "wow - you're big for only 18 weeks!!!" She then said "gosh and you've still got so far to go!!!!" (and there I am choosing to see it as "wow, I am almost halfway through". In the space of a week I have had my boobs commented on twice, stomach about five times and fanjo once.... .

Sorry for long text, mememe post and general poor grammar / sp - was in such a rush to post (as I missed you all) that I can't get my words out fast enough. (As WIW will testify, I am actually rather articulate in RL!!)

Pah!

cep, Yrmotb - hurrah, hurrah! Delighted for you both

ladybird33 thinking of you today - FX

collieandpup I am applying the haddock, but only lightly because I am low -level mentalling at the moment and don't want to get scales everywhere. I'm also approaching that 20 week marker (2.5 weeks away) and I'm having to work hard to control my tension.

MistressofP How's it going?

Apart from aforementioned low-level mentalling, all is well in camp Bigmac. Except my last pair of work trousers no longer fit and are being (barely) held up by a bump band. I'm going to have to go shopping for clothes. Normally a cause for celebration, but I fear I'm going to be in awful clothes come next week.

Hello to all. Assorted party rings and pink wafers can be found on the table.

Ooh - bought a t-shirt in the sales last night. A maternity one. It looked HUGE.... Like a dress in fact. Then I put in on and it, errrr, fit perfectly. I am the reverse of what happens in that ghastly Gok Wan show (the one where the women have to choose from a line of women, the one that most represents their size - in the show they are always smaller in reality than they perceive themselves to be). I have turned into a whale overnight.

Ooh, ASOS SALE is on, and there's lots of lovely items for very cheap. Not that I have been looking as soon as I got an ok on the dating scan.

Just thought I'd let you know.

Like the new name, pantsandpup. Off to change mine now too.

I love the name, YRMOTB - very fitting.... Will go well with your new ASOS clothes (!)

Am confused... what was pantsandpup's name before??

Bigmac - please change your name to BigMacandChickenNugget or something!

OOH - it's HARASSED in disguise....! I geddit .

Like it PantsandPup (although will get confused now as I always called you Harasssed )

Afternoon!!

Just checking in very very quickly as got to work super late after my checking in appointment. It went really well ...not that form filing can go that wrong...but she was really nice, spent loads of time with me and answered all my questions. We have a few concerns about genetic stuff as a member of my family is disabled and she was really good going through it with me and gave me a number of someone to speak to about additional tests. She's also referred me to a consultant. Its all precautionary as the risk of it affecting any baby I have is low but nice she was so proactive about it all. Just hope the scan on Monday is ok now.

Cep and YITMOTB fab news on the scans! SO hoping this lucky scan chain continues!

Lara a sarf London meet up is def on the cards...but I am not seeing you until your Dubai tan fades as I feel all pasty and gross

Collie I have been to bravissimo before and they are ok but they don't always have the sizes etc. My physio told me that because I already had big boobs, I had to wear an underwire as my back needed the support and so if you have a small back but a big cup then she wouldn't recommend going to non wired at this stage. I found figleaves the best. I ordered tonnes of different sizes and tried them all on at home. When I found a style and size I liked I sent back the rest and ordered a couple in my preferred choice. You can usually find a discount code if you put it in google so it makes up for the shipping costs.

Hi to everyone else! xxxx

love the name!!

lara and am v of your furniture buying. Even though you are paying later and having it delivered later did you still get the discount? Sounds like a good deal if so. Dreamgenii on its way!!

yrmofbean yay i love your name change too! ASOS sale is very tempting but i've bought so much recently!!

bump glad your apt went well and she gave you lots of time to answer your questions. Not my experience at all but then again i don't having any serious things to ask, just irrational mentalling

Booked my NHS ante natal classes today. Not that i'm expecting much from them. But i'm still waiting for NCT to get back t me about local classes so thought it best to get good on as i'm not sure they have any. harassed i noticed on the pregnancy board you had your yoga class last night. I was looking for one yesterday. Found a good one in Manchester but would prefer one more local. Was it good?? Are you going weekly?

I'm soooo tired. Think its time for an afternoon nap. Just waiting for a call from someone at work. wish they'd hurry up!!

Hello all. It's so nice to read through the thread and see all the references asking how I am! . I love this thread!

It's all very strange. Spotting has eased off but period-type pains and backache here with a vengeance. Really confused. Every time I go to bed at night I am convinced that I'm going to wake up in a pool of blood. Just getting through the days till EPU scan on Sunday morning.

I bought Yorkshire decaf tea; it's lovely actually. Been trying to eat well and rest, although I can feel all the twinges more when I'm lying about. When I'm busy I don't notice them so much.

Is it really really bad of me to be thinking of "nice things" to focus on should it all go wrong? I'm planning a holiday in my head for DH, DS and me in the next few weeks, should it be bad news on Sunday. That's awful isn't it? Obviously I wouldn't swap my baby for a thousand holidays but it's helping me get through the days.

Tennis update; I'm watching Hewitt and enjoying his Ozzy spirit. He's one to watch folks!

Hope all are well and sorry for no name checks. Using the i phone app and cant seem to scroll about as much. Oh, and you cant preview so apologies for typos.

Lara name changed although I'm not sure it's the image that I really want :) Should I be aspiring to be skinnylatteandbabychino?

collie I've been thinking of booking classes but keep avoiding it. I might have been inspired.

Bumpgrowing it's so lovely when you are helped out like that isn't it? My sis has a genetic condition so I was in a state about the nuchal combined test and what the results would mean for us. I spoke with the midwife head of genetic screening and she was amazing. Luckily for us I had a really good risk factor rating so didn't have to embark on any kind of decision making process, but that lady made all the difference for me.

ASOS you say... interesting

Mistress no its not bad of you at all its a totally normal coping mechanism. Noone would ever doubt that you would pick a healthy bean ov er a holiday, but if things do go wrong i think having something nice to do and focus on is what gets us through the hard times. So hopefully, your planning will be unncessary, but if it a distraction then its only a good thing. When we were ttc after my mc i had a plan which would get me though each month. Basically for every month longer it took me to get pg, we'd 'up-grade' our holiday. It gave me a focus, and some silver lining.
Thanksfully we are camping this year!!!

Did someone say Tennis?? Zzzzzzzzzzz

Will someone please remove the bag of haribos that are stuck to my hand?!!!!!!!

Thanks Collie. I think DH is quaking in his boots; he's either going to be dealing with a heartbroken wife or a hefty cc bill! Oh god, I really am one of those people who use humour in difficult situations.

Been flicking through the AIBU board. Holy crap! You get ripped to shreds on that thing! I'm staying right where I am with you lovely ladies!