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Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VII

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Blackkat · 05/06/2011 14:30

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

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IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 13/06/2011 11:48

Just popping in to say hurrah for good scan news wiw and harassed and good luck to all those scanning today and tomorrow!

Lovely to see you again yrmotb - hope the sickiness isn't too severe and you're not starting to get nervous about the upcoming scan. Are you on the list yet?! Smile

jigglebum · 13/06/2011 14:20

HI ladies - just a quick one to say all is well. Baby was in a very awkward position but heart beat fine, size within parameters and no obvious signs for the bleeding at all. They said it could possibly be cervical erosion but not to worry. Needless to say I cried with relief! Feel so much better about everything now. Just off to take DS to the park whilst the sun is shining once again. thanks again for all your thoughts and reassurances.

CollieandPup · 13/06/2011 14:22

Afternoon everyone,

Good luck to jiggle and Hadrian for scans today.

Laylas sorry you?re worried about tomorrow. Fading symptoms is worrying but lots of ladies here have had them come and go and some not at all, so fix all is ok. Good luck, what time is your scan?

Blackkat yay for great NT scan results. How is all else with you?

wiw very brave making the plunge to the grads thread. I joined the waiting to join list recently ? although think cep moved me on Smile but I?m not ready yet to make the move over, I?m just to comfy here. But I?m lurking over there and make the odd post so I?ll be following your progress dearly.

cep good luck at the dentist?.i hate filings!!!

harassed thanks for checking on me sweet. I?m ok thanks. Feeling better than Saturday. Think my emotions were in over-drive Grin !! I do live in a 3 storey, although not purpose built, it?s a little old cottage. Very impractical with kitchen and main bathroom down stairs, living room in the middle and bedroom and en-suite upstaurs, so lote of running up and down ? If the FIL tell me one more time how impractical it is and how I?ll struggle I think I might strangle someone. Apparently we?ll need 2 high chairs (one for kitchen one for living room..??) and 2 changing tables?? Do I even need a single changing table?!!! Are you all settled in now? Apart from the technical difficulties? Have you told your boss?

yrmotb good luck for you booking in apt. My mw didn?t even mention my mc, like it was irrelevant and unimportant Sad Hope yours goes ok. How?s the sickness?

lara how are you today lovely?
lily and bump are you lurking? Hope you are ok?

Have had another brian moment today! Drove into the city for a meeting at lunchtime. Found a car park and parked, but then realised I had no purse!!! So had to make a mad dash out of the car park before it charged me, abandoning my meeting! Headed home to work from home, and stopped for petrol, and just about remember before I got out to fill?.that I didn?t have my purse!! Doh!!!

Had another mini meltdown at the weekend. My auntie bout me an ?I?m Pregnant? T-shirt and gave it to me at the family 25th wedding anniversary I was at on Saturday. Despite my best efforts to hide it, and the fact that I am pg, mum in her excitement (and frustration that I won?t tell people) kept getting it out and holding it up to anyone that came over to say hello. Was mortifying!!!! This lead me to sit there in my sweaty knickers, convinced that as she was telling the world I was bleeding. Then on Sunday I couldn?t find the hb with the Doppler and just broke down. I pretty much did the same thing when I announced it at work. I?m really happy telling my nearest and dearest, but I just wish I could keep it at that. What?s hardest is that my mum just doesn?t understand, and even worse, doesn?t try too. Sad Anyway, dh came to the rescue with a big hug and found little pup hiding, so all is good at least!!!

Oh, and by the way, after me moaning my head off about everyone going on about how big I am, several people on Saturday commented that I was tiny!! Which indeed put me out!! Lol?.there is just no pleasing some people!!! Grin

cep · 13/06/2011 14:22

hihp Hi, glad to see you're doing well. Good luck with telling the boss, hope it goes well. He's not allowed to discriminate against you for being pg just remember that. Ds is lots better thankyou, we get the odd night where he wakes up but he mostly goes back to sleep quite quickly. He's still waking a bit earlier than i like but better that than waking during the night.

layla i hope you're wrong. fx for tomorrow hon.

CollieandPup · 13/06/2011 14:23

x-posts jiggle YAY for reat scan news. Glad all is well. Enjoy your afternoon!!

Cadmum · 13/06/2011 14:27

Just holding a spot... But no Dr Google, REALLY?

cep · 13/06/2011 14:31

jiggle yay so pleased for a great scan.

collie oh bugger sorry hon, i didn't realise you were on the waiting list. Do you want me to remove you from the other bit? Blush Sorry you had a bit of a melt down. I keep getting worried when i don't feel the baby for the most of the day, which is pretty much everyday as it's still small. Glad you managed to find the hb eventually though.

The dentist started a root canal today, got to go back for the filling. not quite sure what he's done then if he hasn't done the filling bit, cause he's put something in the tooth. .

harassedinherpants · 13/06/2011 14:49

jiggle fabulous news!!!

Collie you sound like a normal, hormonal and sensitive preg lady to me!! I find it best if people don't mention me being preg, then they can't upset lol. And no you won't need a single changing table...... you'll soon find the changing mat is redundant, it's what your lap was made for Grin. Your house sounds gorgeous by the way, I'd love a quirky house like that

Cep glad things have improved on the sleep front, we've gone backwards since we moved! Urgh @ dentist, hope it's not too sore.

Cadmum NO Dr Google.....Grin

Haven't told my boss yet, he's gone off early!! Plus not arranged any cover in the office....Hmm!

LaraMi · 13/06/2011 14:53

Aww Collie - you're too cute for words... I'd be mortified too.. In fact I get horrifically embarrassed at the fact I now look pg (as it's now obvious to the wider world and I'm scared something will happen / has happened, thus making me a fraud).

No one can mortify me quite like my mother... She can be utterly tactless. She met up with my sister (30 weeks pg) and I last week. As soon as she saw me, she said that my bump looked "much smaller than it did four days before" (sooo the wrong thing to say) and then when she saw my sister she said that her bump "had dropped and looked dangerously low". We were ready to throttle her!

Similar to you with your 3-storey house, I have got close to losing the plot with my mother on five separate occasions when she has expressed her concerns over how our dogs will behave with the baby ("I don't think the baby will be safe you know"). I bloody well know we have two dogs and am therefore doing / will do all I can to ensure dogs adapt and that baby is safe.

Wishing I had bough a doppler - desperate for the reassurance of a heartbeat...

Great news on scan, Jiggle (I have cried at both scans too - anticipate 20 week scan will be total meltdown).

Was so paranoid after meeting with DH's colleague on Sat afternoon (the one who is pg and due five days before me). In my head, I was thinking "it's alright for you - your pg is going swimmingly and you will be fine". Oh dear...

Lower tum feels so stretchy today. And I am peeing constantly. Splitting headache. Drinking lots water which puts more pressure on tum and makes me want to pee again. Concentration is zero. Have probs done 1 hour's worth of work (if that). Oh dear...

CollieandPup · 13/06/2011 15:10

Aww cep no no its fine - i was just to chicken to join, but i'm happy being on. But like you, going to stay put here for a while longer. Its nice to be able to pop into the grads thread and talk to the other, further gone ladies, but for now i still feel this is were i belong (doesn't that sound daft?!). Besides, I'm not ready to move and leave some of the ladies on here yet.

cep BOOO to root canal treatment. At least its free though Grin

Oh that reminds me. I need to visit the dentist but only sent my form for free nhs treatment last week. Do i need to wait to get something back?

Grin @ lara your mums sounds like a gem!!! Somehow they always say the wrong things!!! I always get the, in my day..... remarks too!! lol And what is it with Pets - the number of people that have asked if we'll get rid of our 2 cats!! NO, what sort of question is that?!

I know most people haven't bothered with a doppler, but seriously i couldn't recommmend one more highly. Its the only think that saves my sanity. And DH really loves it too.

cadmum come back and take a seat Dr Google is forbidden - although i kniw i may have broken that one a few times Blush , and then haddocked afterwards!!!

LaraMi · 13/06/2011 15:37

I break the Dr Google rule every day .

I've had people asking when we're getting rid of the dogs too - of course we're not. Of course, if either of them have behavioural issues with the dog, we will address it swiftly but "getting rid of them" is the last thing we plan to do. Millions of people with dogs have babies every day.

Another gem from my mum - she didn't like our shortlist of baby names (what's it got to do with her anyway???) and so presented me with a baby names book yesterday.

Cep - dentist talk makes me squeamish - hope you're okay hun!

Very excited about a meet-up with WIW in Dubai. I now know her real name but think I will automatically call her Wombat when I meet her.

Did I rant about the location of my NCT classes BTW? My sister lives in Islington. Hers are at the Hilton in Islington. My closest ones are at the freakin Salvation Army (I kid you not). I then tried to reassure myself that at least she'll be paying more , did a quick web search and found out that no, she is paying LESS! How on earth does that work?!

One hour and 50 minutes until I am free - there'd better be lots of you on this thread at the mo - there's no way I will pass the time otherwise.

CollieandPup · 13/06/2011 15:45

Lol at the NCT classes lara Impressed that you have booked. I looked into it early on last time but haven't look yet this time. I was all gung-ho about it last time, but for some reason can't decided if its worth the cash this time....are you doing nhs classes too? THe main reason i am thinking go for them are fot the people i might meet, but then thats an expensive way to find a social network - any thoughts anyone?

lara i don't know what i am more Envy about. the fact that you know wiw name and are meeting up, or that fact you have a lovely sunny holiday in Dubai to look forward too. Thankfully, the VW van is coming along nicely (respray next week) so hopefully that means we'll at least get to use that and not a tent for our wet UK holiday next month!!!

YouremindmeoftheBFP · 13/06/2011 15:46

Booking in went fine. Midwife did ask me what I had had the ERPC for. Me =Confused

Lara Hilton, nice! Someone got the short straw, hey. Grin

CollieandPup · 13/06/2011 15:47

opps sorry for typos!!

Blackkat · 13/06/2011 16:25

Woop for great scan Jiggle any news from Hadrian

Sorry bloody mental at work, will catch up tomorrow/later

to all

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laylasmummy09 · 13/06/2011 16:28

collie baby brain is terrible isnt it, i dont think mine ever went away after i had dd 2.5 years ago, my scan is at 10 30 but will be on the train early with dd and dp so not too long for mentalling thank god,
cep i hope they prove me wrong i would love to get past 8 weeks, sorry you had dentist today,
jiggle glad your scan went well Smile

CollieandPup · 13/06/2011 16:32

Lurking for hadrian

LaraMi · 13/06/2011 16:46

Missing you Blackkat - can't believe you're working so hard!!

Ooh - camper van will be fab Collie - DH is desperate for us to get one but I get motion sickness.... I think he'd love to have a DS just to go away on boys weekends in one..!

Collie - I am only doing NCT for the network to be honest.... (I'm not bothering with the hospital ones). I was loathe to book them now but am only doing so as they get so booked up. She read out the DDs for me of the other participants and around 7 people had already registered. Might just be that inner London gets busy - we are having a serious baby boom. I think it will be really important to build up that network - I don't know anyone with a baby nearby and I am sure it can get really isolated otherwise. I'm planning a long maternity leave so making friends will be important. I am bricking myself that something bad will happen in this pg but have already checked and they will do a full refund or allow you to transfer the dates .

Will be fab meeting WIW - although kind of weird - I mean us ladies in this thread have spoken about everything from sex, to boob shapes, to discharge, to spotting, to hurty fanjos. I mean how will I not blush when I meet her?

CollieandPup · 13/06/2011 16:57

lara how far away are you NCT classes? I've been on and had a look and the nearest onces to me are nearly 15 miles away - in my last pg theyb had some closer. I can't imagine here they'd be booked up already.

yrmotb glad apt weng well. although i'm equally Confused at her asking why you had an ERPC. Maybe she was having her very own Brian moment!! Grin

LaraMi · 13/06/2011 17:00

Maybe the ones closer to you have booked up already??? Here (south London) we have lots so mine are less than a mile away (and that location isn't actually my first choice - the times are just better for us). The lady was uber-helpful, might be worth calling your local woman.

Bumpgrowing · 13/06/2011 17:35

Hi ladies!

Yep, Collie I have been lurking but trying to keep up with everyone. I've just been wanting to keep my head down and try and make it one day at a time to 12 weeks. I can't believe I have made it this far...

Got my scan appointment through over the weekend for 27 June so only two weeks away! I just can't even imagine getting there at the moment and everything being fine. For that to be the case I just feel like I would be so incredibly lucky!

Will try and remember what's been going on with everyone...

Collie hun the brian thing is a nighmare isn't it! I washed all the towels yest. hung them out on the line to dry and then intended to put them in the tumble dryer to soften then....except I washed them again by accident. I also tried to defrost a chick in the microwave and ended up cooking it in 10 minutes. Ooops.

Wiwv Harassed Jiggle so pleased the scans went well for you all! Grin

Lara you are near me aren't you?? Where are the earlsfield/southfield/wimbledon NCT classes you are going to?

Hadrian hope the scan has gone well!

HI to Laylas Cep Blakkat and everyone else! xxx

hadrian · 13/06/2011 17:40

Ah jiggle I'm so pleased and relieved for you. What great news. Hope you've had a lovely relaxing day.

All good here - just back from the hospital. Spent 40 lovely minutes watching my bean wriggle around with the doctors being very sweet and reassuring and pointing out the hands and feet and stomach. Got my NT results too - 1 in 8,000 or so which I'm pretty pleased about given that I'm 34. Oh and they've put my dates forward a little - according to the measurements I'm 12+1 today and my EDD is Christmas Day would you believe!

Feel very relieved and much calmer - wonder how long that will last! Might have a pack of pickled onion monster munch to celebrate Blush

Thanks for all the good wishes ladies, it's lovely having you around to share all this with

hadrian · 13/06/2011 17:44

laylas I'm sorry you've had a worrying time. My symptoms eased off around 7 weeks and I was totally convinced it was all over - I had a scan then which was very reassuring. Best of luck for tomorrow - will be thinking of you and sending lots of positive vibes

Bumpgrowing · 13/06/2011 17:45

Yay Hadrian excellent news!!!!

(Bump hangs head in shame that she is freaking that there have been so many lovely positive scans lately that hers must be the one that goes wrong...someone fish slap me)

xx

hadrian · 13/06/2011 18:01

bump I can't remember how to draw the fish but consider yourself haddocked (although I have thought the same thing more times than I care to remember...)

The statistician in me is duty bound to remind you that your pregnancy is totally independent of everyone else's! Hang in there, only two weeks until the next scan

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