I am jolly well going to get pregnant this month and I'll brook no argument.

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Really sorry Farfel. Very sad for you :(

oh farfall that's such sad news. Please take lots of care of yourself

Thanks for positivity about internal scan everyone. I suppose I should be excited as it's bound to confirm my pregnancy

Thanks for all the reassurance re internal scan! And good luck, thelittlefriend.

Farfall, I hope you are managing to get lots of rest and are having plenty of chocolate fed to you. I hope you feel a lot better soon.

farfella I'm so sorry to hear that. Course you're still in the right place! We will positively support you til you feel ready to raise that bat and smack that rat again :) in the mean time follow the wise advice above. Look after yourself.

I am too relieved about the fanny cam, got my first gynae appointment Friday (obviously I will already be pregnant but they won't know that yet!). My GP said fanny cam may be the next step!

Oh Farfall I am so so sorry. How absolutely rotten. Be gentle to yourself.

In our culture there is no accepted and recognised way to mourn a miscarriage. Some cultures (such as Japan) recognise that there is a need to acknowledge and work through your feelings about it, and that it is a Big Thing. I just read on another thread that someone found it helpful to buy a small memento - something to mark the baby that nearly was, in some way. She bought a little crystal angel.

That's a lovely idea, I have looked after lots of women who miscarry like for instance last night I told one women she was pregnant whilst the women in the next cubicle was miscarrying, every1 handles it differently some people no that a pregnancy is not right from the start others are in shock and some refuse to believe it I think ther all incredibly strong and hope I give the best care to them I can

Thank you everyone, DH and family and my rocks. Actually back at work today because I need to keep busy!

I liked on Desperate housewives when Gaby released a balloon to commemorate her miscarriage. Goad to hear you have a good support network

I have a lovely friend who planted a rose in her garden to commemorate her lost baby.

Here, I fear that the ceremonial burning of the sanitary towels was a little precipitous :(

Oh no Aries!! What is happening?

That is a good idea, I might do a little something but strangely in some ways thinking about it as a ball of cells versus a baby is helping me.

It sounds like you're coping so well, farfall. Make sure you look after yourself.

Are you ok, aries? Hope everything is alright?

mememummy you sound lovely and I am sure it makes a big difference to the women you treat (are you a doc/nurse?)

For what it is worth the staff at St Thomas's both at A and E and in the EPU were so kind and caring, it made such a big difference to the experience as awful as it was) to feeled cared for and agknowledged when feeling so vulnerable. Don;t underestimate how important that is. Of course I did not properly thank them as I was too busy blubbing!

farfall so pleased the staff there were nice. When I m/c, my EPU somehow got my notes messed up and thought I was there for a scan following an abortion. It took them a while to realise how wrong they were!

Everything ok aries?

Well, I am most definitely smacking that rat this month. My 60, yes, 60 pregnancy tests have arrived! I got a little carried away on Amazon

Oh. Thanks for asking. But I really do feel most incredibly glum at another failure. That's what it is in my head anyway. I keep seeing pregnant tums everywhere and mine's not one of them.

But this is not the thread. There's always next month.

I know what you mean aries I seem to have a bump radar at the moment. But this month will be your month

I'm a nurse far in A&E

It's gonna by our month this month cd 36 no Af ... Wondering if a 23 I have gone thru the menopause

Oh I'm a nurse too but I look.after old people :)
I have a bump radar too aries. I'm trying to think 'you're so lucky' not 'I HATE YOU! YOU DON'T KNOW HOW LUCKY YOU ARE!!!' Cos hey you don't know their circumstances. But we do allow a little wallowing at the start of a new cycle. Take some time out, look after yourself. Start the positive attitude again in few days!

I also have total bump radar. First half of cycle, I do my best not to glower too obviously at the bump-holders while feeling terribly . Second half, I assume that I have obviously conceived and go around smiling at bump-holders like a loon. Then AF arrives and I go back to glowering. But this month AF will obviously not arrive and I will become a bump-holder (as will we all).

It is hard - I had to coo over someone's scan pictures the other day, and while I am happy for her, there was a little voice yelling in my head the whole time that it should be me who is pregnant and that I am in a much better position to have a baby (married, more financially stable etc), about which I am , as she will probably be a much better mother than me!

Have you tested mememummy (sorry if you've said somewhere above)? Good luck!

ok, so i don't hang out on conception, and this is the first time i've been on this thread, but i keep seeing it in active convos and i love the title and i neeeeeeeeeed to know....

op did you get pregnant???

PS Obviously not suggesting that there is anything wrong with having a baby when not married!

Yes she did, first try!! :)

I did. Not quite first try - been trying for quite a while, but first month of Brooking No Argument. Am delighted.