Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

[MummyAbroad]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

I'm trying so hard not to freak out and think the worst.

hairy try not to freak-says me who freaks at the drop of a hat!

cep i think I'd get the doppler (if I get that far I know it would really help calm me down). Will it cause huge arguments if you do go for it? I guess it's about balancing out the stress.

retro hi and fx for strong bfp

Thought the bleeding had calmed down a bit earlier but then made the mistake of struggling to get the top of a bottle (yes this sounds pathetic) and it started up again but stronger! My negative thoughts are now in full swing!!! Even considering paying for a 'reassurance scan' at a local screening centre. Is that too mental?

hairy whats up??

mamap I'm starting to worry now coz a few of you further along aren't feeling it yet! Shouldn't I be??? Aaarrgghh now I'm stressing about the good signs!!

Thanks. It's just hard it being so early and after my losses that's all.

velvet I think you probably are feeling your little one, I think so much of it depends on how it's lying, how lazy it is and where your placenta is. Plus if you've got the extra info that you can feel it as well as hear it on the Doppler I expect it makes it easier to identify what you're feeling. I thinkorange was being poked a lot around the same stage as you.

hairy huge hugs, try and hang in there, it is horrible being at this stage but I'm keeping everything crossed for a sticky one for you

Minnie I'm so sorry you're still having this stress with bleeding. Having a scan definitely isn't mental. I had a weekly scan from 6 weeks until 12 weeks so I definitely won't be judging you if you go for a scan tomorrow....

Velvet - I've been feeling them both for nearly 2 weeks now. Didn't want to mention it with pink and mamap stressing. I think the position does make a big difference.

The other thing is they tend to get active when I'm lying down in bed at night - jumping around must send them to sleep.

Hairy and Minnie - thinking of you both.... Minnie - I'd say to def have your scan.

Pink - you had a scan EVERY week? I am panicked beyond belief ahead of my scan next week. The only scan I had was at six weeks and I am actually too scared to have another scan before next week's scan. I wish I'd had a scan at 8 or 9 weeks now.

Ladies - I am knackered... can you believe, I spent the WHOLE weekend at home in pjs? I only left the bed to go and eat... I have never been so tired in my whole life.. It felt like jet lag.

I am also getting heaps and heaps of skin tags - my neck, stomach, chest. I am going to have to ask the specialist to attack my whole body with an heated iron rod after pg. Anyone else had this?

My dress also makes me look quite pg this AM. As I am errr, quite curvy in any case, I just look like I spent the weekend eating pies. Oh dear.

Now panicked that if I go for my scan next week and there is nothing there then I will have no excuse - I will officially just be huge and fat.

Morning,

Sorry I haven't been on all weekend, I'm just exhausted and we're moving in 3 weeks. Which is even more exhausting!

Minnie how are things today?? Getting a scan sounds like a good plan to me. I feel much happier after mine last week.

hairy right there with you on the freaking!! I found out very early on too, and hadn't had af after last mc in March, and also had a mmc in Jan. Doesn't do much for you head does it?! Will you be able to get an early scan? My epu do a reassurance scan after two consecutive mc's but the paperwork said at 8 weeks. All my symptoms vanished last week so I phoned them and they scanned me the following day at 6+1.

Lara I'm also curvy, and look like I've eaten all the pies too!!! Luckily I'm a bit of a hippy at heart so don't tend to wear fitted clothes anyway.

Harassed - I too am a bit of a hippy (apart from at work!) so looking forward to wearing lots of maxi dresses this summer!

I am living in maxi dresses!! Also floaty shortish dresses with leggings. I don't like tunics, they're not long enough. Can't get in my jeans due to putting on a bit of weight from comfort eating after my two mc's. Trying to be kind myself though!

Dreading the winter though, my edd is 28 Dec! I think I'll have to give in and get some Uggs.........

Thanks again for simply being here! Did a test first thing and absolutely nothing - less than the there-if-you-hold-it-to-the-light yesterday - so game over it seems. Waiting for af now. Hurumpf.

Wishing you all success this time.
Mags.

Hello lovely ladies, I'm so sorry so many of you are having such stresses. Really hoping it's all just a false alarm. so many of us on here have had bleeding of some kind and it's by no means always bad.

Daisy when's your referal to the mental health people? Good luck for it!

Wombat xxx (at work, in a maxi dress... so much for suits - too uncomfy!)

Harrassed - I too like floaty things with leggings. Also jeggings are my saviour with long tops and those cardigans with huge flappy sides (not sure what they're called). I love pashminas too....

Retro - we will see you here soon am sure....

Retro sorry you think you're out. Hurry back, we'll save your bean bag!

Wombat I'm with you, hate suits!

Luckily where I work is quite casual, the whole industry is (entertainment type)!

Where is everyone today? .

Gawd, I feel so tired and pukey. Had a meeting this AM to discuss a very difficult launch event I'm doing in October. Literally felt like standing up and saying: "I don't care because all being well, I will be on my way out".

But then I came round to my usual panicked state and thought, "WTF if it all goes wrong and I am still here?!!"

OOH - forgot to tell you all the good news... Am supposed to be in Dubai in two weeks time for a horrendous event I'm running... (think 18 hour days, pain in the arse attendees, no time to eat / sit / sleep)... Anyways - I've been DREADING it, particularly as I'm so scared of something going wrong with this pg... When I went to see my doc last week, he said that if all goes well with my scan next week, he'll do me an unfit to fly note so I can get out of going - woooo hoooooooo! (And I also figured that if something does go wrong with this pg before then, I will genuinely be too ill to fly). Hoping for the former of course.

Jeez - am blabbing the for the hell of it. Where are you ladies? Please come on and chat!

Ate kiev for lunch. Bean doesn't like kiev. So I thought I'd feel better if I masked the kiev memory with a yogurt. So now I feel extra pukey. But puking up kiev isn't an option so I will sit here and feel miserable.

Calm down!!! I'm sure all will be fine for you.......

I'm tired and pukey too, but finding continual eating helps. I've munched my way through two biscuits, a pot of chopped fruit (half a small melon, apple, banana and a few blueberries) and just had a cheese and pickle sandwich which was to die for and a yogurt.

I have my booking in appoinment next week and wondering how I can get another scan out of them??? Any ideas?? I'm very conscious that even though my scan was fab last week, that my mmc in Jan was found at 10+1 and the baby measured 7. I'll be 7wks on Wednesday......

What are you all drinking?? Water tastes foul and I've gone off squash.

Delurks after weekend away to keep lara company before she loses it completely and actually starts talking to herself!!

Good news on the Dubai trip Hun, that will be a weight off your mind, such long stressful hours over there is not good!!! Sorry you're feeling pucky, but remember but the silver lining is that is a ressuring symptom!

Back this morning from windy belfast, after lovely weekend away. Just with 2 girl friends, mainly did the political sights so rather cultured!! I had my first alcoholic drink while there, 1/2 a guinness. Was a lush treat! That's it though now, 6 more months of Ginger ale and solcher (sp?)

12 weeks today!!! Eekk!!!! How did that happen?! Off out to buy myself a new bra as I just can't wait any longer! And some new bigger granny kickers!!

minnie and battery I hope things have calmed down for you both.

Yeyyy - some company.... (can stop talking to my reflection).

Harassed - for me it's a huge mug of milk in the morning (otherwise I feel sick) then water or apple hi-juice cordial in the day. (I can only drink apple, no other flavour). I try to drink mint tea but IMHO it's vile (apart from the proper Moroccan stuff).

I agree, constant eating is the way forward but it was quite depressing to have had my booking in appt the other day to see I'd gained a couple of kilos already.

Welcome back Collie and congrats on reaching the big 12+0!

TMI ALERT.... Euch, went to the loo before (to puke) and the force of my retching made a big blob of white CM come out. How gross. Of course I panicked that it was something untoward, came back to my desk and did some frantic googling (trying to make "white discharge in tenth week of pregnancy" look as innocent as possible from my work computer) and apparently increased white CM is normal and yes, it can be blobby. How gross though. I am obsessed with knicker-checking.

Monday's List (9th May 2011)

Nickster 27+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 23+2 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 22+2 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 21+4 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 20+1 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 19+6 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 13/5/11
mamapower 19+5 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 18+5 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 18+3 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 17+6 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 16+1 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 16+1 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 16+1 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
Velvetcu 15+6 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 14+3 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 14+2 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 13+5 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 13+4 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 13+2 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 12+4 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 12+4 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 12+1 EDD 20/11/11
Ninunina: 12+0 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 11+4 EDD 24/11/11 NT scan 12/5/11
Banana87: 11+4 EDD 24/11/11 NT scan 19/5/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 11+2 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
LaraMi 10+3 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11
Blackkat 10+0 EDD 5/12/11
Jigglebum 9+4 EDD 8/12/11
Hairylights 4+0

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Ooooh congrats Collie!!! Has the worrying magically lifted?? Please say yes. Belfast sounds fab, my friend is moving there in 3ish weeks as her dh is in the army.

Lara I've been drinking the apple hi-Juice, but gone off it now. Thinking maybe a squeeze of lemon juice might be the way to go next.......

I have loads of cm too, no blobs thank goodness!! I won't go anywhere without wearing a towel though. For cm and also in case I mc again. Neurotic??? Me??!!

Hi I am here too - feeling rubbish and rather tired, but with a DS who sadly no longer has a day sleep.

Had a bit of a rubbish weekend. DH and I have not been getting on well recently and my tireness is not helping. Had a long and rather depressing discussion last night but good to finally get things out in the open. Basically we both feel if it wasn't for DS we might well have split up by now and getting pregnant again became a bit of a mission after 18 months of trying and one mc but unfortunately our relationship is not in a great place now for me to be having another and I do worry about the future. We came up with some solutions and we both need to make more effort we agreed, so we will see how things go.

DH is also worried about money and we bought a house in Nov which needs lots of work and now he feels we can afford the extension, but I don't think we would have bought the house if we were not going to extend.

I feel quite stressed and run down generally at the moment. My ezcema has come up, which I have not had since I was a child. Lots of allergies and general tireness. Sorry for moan. No one in RL knows I am pregnant yet and I don;t like to expose DH and I's problems to my RL friends (although they know there are issues)

Hope everyone is ok.

Lemon juice might work - so long as it's not too strong. As an occasional tipple, sprite is quite refreshing. But I can't have the Sicilian lemonade that Pizza Express and Carluccios serve.

You wear a proper sanitary towel all the time? I wear pantyliners and, like you, won't go anywhere without them. If I am going somewhere new, I also take with me the number of the local EPU . Paranoid in these quarters? Nooooo!

Jiggle - just got your message... (you posted the same time as me). Sending you a big hug... Maybe your DH is extra stressed as the realisation of the pg kicks in. My DH had a weird mood this weekend when he panicked that my insatiable tiredness might be permanent and therefore signify the end of our relationship as he knows it. He is also extremely worried about money even though we have financially planned for bean as best as we can. Maybe your DH just needs time and reassurance. I think that men can sometimes hide from the reality of pg and it often doesn't kick in until long after it has for the rest of us.

I admit too I need to make more of an effort but when you're tired, feel like crp and are scared shtless every time you do a wee that you'll have a mc, it's easier said than done. I'd say relax, give it time and keep talking. And maybe it would help to confide in someone in RL...?

Thanks lara, sound advice. I think you are partly right and I did explain that after a day with DS when I am pg I have no energy left to give much time or attention to him. One friend in RL knows and she is lovely but feel I have burdened her with too many moans about DH in the past!