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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

994 replies

MummyAbroad · 13/04/2011 13:29

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

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DoubleDiffedDachs · 04/05/2011 14:30

yrmotb who's calm? I don't think any of us are. I'm certainly not!

Youremindmeofthebabe · 04/05/2011 14:32

Oh God. You shouldn't have told me that about that poor woman.

Ok, thanks. I guess I will just have to become better at hiding my emotions outwardly! I can manage that, surely, and reserve the wrath for DP. I rang my dp earlier and told him I was angry, and he told me that shagging is a good release of tension. I was looking forward to a few months off

jigglebum · 04/05/2011 14:32

HI everyone, decided I just don't feel brave enough to join the due Dec 2011 thread yet so will hang out here for a bit longer! I am 9 weeks today. Mc at 11 weeks last time so still not feeling confident about it all yet. Saw the MW yesterday for my booking appointment though and she was lovely. They come to your house here for a good hour or so, which was a novel experience for me. Hoping for a scan in about 3 weeks.

Told the first person yesterday (apart from DH obviously) - a good friend who had been very supportive during the mc. Still haven't told my mum but probably will soon.

Sorry to hear about all the stresses with symptoms or lack of them, or less than conclusive scans.

Got offered a great part time job yesterday. It is just the sort of thing I have been looking for since moving house over a year ago but as a teacher it would not start until Sep and then (if things go to plan) I could only work one term before leaving. I don't know whether to tell them up front now, even though have not had a scan or anything. It would be a great job to have in the long term but would feel morally wrong taking it , although legally I know i can. What would you guys do? Obviously in the back of my mind I know it could all go wrong again anyway.

Youremindmeofthebabe · 04/05/2011 14:33

ok good, as long as we're all faking it I feel a bit better! Thanks dachs

LaraMi · 04/05/2011 14:38

Welcome Jiggle - this is the bestest place to hang out IMHO...

Had my booking in appt this morning. What a load of bollox.... Maybe I am just being a cynic after my previous MCs but it just didn't feel real - felt like we were going through the motions and when I left I felt like I wouldn't be seeing any of them again as I will probs MC. .

She said I could go for another early scan if it makes me feel more reassured but for some reason I feel too scared to have another one.

Hey Blackkat - must I bully you EVERY DAY?! Where is your name on the list?!!

cep · 04/05/2011 16:33
Collie2 · 04/05/2011 16:58

Had scan, colliepup just perfect!!!! It was AMAZING thank you everyone for encouraging me to go!! Little pup all wriggly rubbing it's eyes and kicking it's legs!!! I somehow managed to again 5 days (a whole week in fact on last scan) so I'm 11+3 edd. 20th nov! Also ended up having nt scan and odds are 1:10098 so couldn't be happier about that either. Nice healthy heartbeat of 177bpm!! I'm on cloud 9 Grin soooo happy! Thanks everyone for getting me this far.

... I'm off to mamas and papas on the way home to look at ickle baby things!! Grin xxxxxx

cep · 04/05/2011 16:59

yay collie so pleased for you. now go and have a nice break away. Grin

harassedinherpants · 04/05/2011 17:17

Oh Collie I am soooo pleased for you Grin Grin!!!

I'm 6 weeks today I think. Well 6 weeks since last mc anyway! Mw said to use that as my date as long as I ov'd at a normal time, which I did. Both mw and epu said symptoms can come and go, but my ms is still alive and kicking. Smelly kitten has just made ill, flaming thing....

Youremindmeofthebabe · 04/05/2011 17:22

yey collie! Great news.Grin

LaraMi · 04/05/2011 17:38

Yeyyy Collie - so very excited and happy for you. Enjoy your break - it will be all the more enjoyable now!!

batteryhen · 04/05/2011 18:25

Hooray for collie :) great great news xxx

welcome jiggle :)

mummyA Just wanted to say thank you for the hcg link, you really are very thoughtful :)

My hcg came back as 14778 yesterday and I am having a repeat tomorrow, so fingers crossed they are rising nicely :)

Wombat33 · 04/05/2011 18:27

Yey collie fab news!! Grin

yrmotb everyone else has beaten me to it but I can assume you that we're all faking the calmness!! (except maybe Irene who seems to be the exception who proves the rule!).

Wombat33 · 04/05/2011 18:31

WEDNESDAY'S LIST

Nickster 26+4 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 22+4 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 21+4 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 20+6 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 19+3 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 19+1 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 13/5/11
mamapower 19 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 18 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 17+5 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 17+1 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 15+3 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 15+3 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 15+3 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
Velvetcu 15+1 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 13+5 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 13+4 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 13 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 12+5 EDD 11/11/11 nuchal scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 12+4 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 11+6 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 11+6 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 11+3 EDD 20/11/11
Ninunina: 11+2 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 10+6 EDD 24/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 10+4 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
Banana87 10+1 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 9+5 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

katherine2008 · 04/05/2011 19:12

hooray for collie how brilliant! And how brilliant to get your nuchal results so quickly - I have a bit of a wait...

cep good luck tomorrow hun.

just amending the list with my new EDD. sending positive sticky vibes to everyone..

WEDNESDAY'S LIST

Nickster 26+4 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 22+4 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 21+4 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 20+6 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 19+3 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 19+1 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 13/5/11
mamapower 19 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 18 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 17+5 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 17+1 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 15+3 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 15+3 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 15+3 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
Velvetcu 15+1 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 13+5 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 13+4 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 13 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 12+6 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 12+4 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 11+6 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 11+6 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 11+3 EDD 20/11/11
Ninunina: 11+2 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 10+6 EDD 24/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 10+4 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
Banana87 10+1 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 9+5 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Velvetcu · 04/05/2011 19:18

great news collie glad you got to fast forward some days too :)

whoop for the hcg levels battery now breathe!

thanks daisy for the response re bras

cep · 04/05/2011 19:47

thanks katherine have to admit i'm feeling rather nervous, ds is well aware of baby now, so am worried something may have gone wrong, sods law and all that. Plus we have to take him as no childcare, so the plan is for dh to wait outside with him and then when all ok they get brought in, am hoping the staff will do that anyway.

battery that sounds like a nice figure, fx it's increased tomorrow.

Velvetcu · 04/05/2011 20:52

good luck for tomorrow cep

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 04/05/2011 21:58

Hooray for the good scans today!! Grin Grin and a slight Envy for collie at jumping ahead - lovely when that happens!!!

cep best of luck for tomorrow!

mummya how are you? Is the spotting continuing to keep away? Hope the sickness has settled down a bit too - the new job sounds like a fabulous distraction (do not worry about housework, our house is permanent carnage since I've been working nearly every day and feeling too tired/nauseous in the evenings to clean!)

yrmotb how're you doing? Mentalling is par for the course, trust me, as is panicking about symptoms, lack of, and variation in. There is no inner calm with pg after mc!! Anyway I hope you're managing to cope and keep the mentalling manageable Smile

velvet I have tried to remember about bras but I'm drawing a blank, the only thing I recall is my normal bras suddenly becoming v v uncomfortable and having to jump up a size or five but no idea how long this went on...sorry... [useless emoticon]

Thanks to all for being duly Angry on my behalf yesterday (especially mummya who really did seem as angry as I felt! Grin ). Phone call today from hospital ante natal clinic manager to say I could have a consultant appt. After my 20 week scan Hmm. So looks as though we're on our own until then Sad. I think I'm going to see how the NT goes on the 16th and then decide what scans etc I think I need and whether we can pay for them. I don't know. I do feel a bit abandoned tbh, like after the mc when we heard from and spoke to no medical professionals at all...it feels like no one's bothered about this baby except me. It's a strange and lonely time, and I'm glad I've got mn to vent on and know at least the ladies on here know where I'm coming from!

Small confession though - I did get a bargain Doppler on eBay which should arrive this week Blush. Clearly as I'm only 10+4 it would be madness to use it just yet so I will endeavour to hold off a bit longer. Actually part of me is terrified and not sure I'll ever dare but we'll see how long that lasts! Grin. (btw it was cheap as missing the instructions - go on, tell me I'm really adding to the mentalling by trying to find a hb pre-12 weeks with no instructions, aren't I?!) Grin

wombatinwaiting · 05/05/2011 05:55

Ah collie - what a great day for you yesterday Grin - you must be made up! Like izzy - am a touch Envy for your extra days - wonder if I'll be so lucky this time next week....

And izzy - very brave of you to admit buying the doppler on this thread - and one without instructions too! - you must be very resistant to fish slaps Grin Good luck for when you try it.

Good luck also to cep for today and I really hope you can have some of your fears allayed. Keep us posted.

WElcome to jiggle - what a dilemma for you re: the job.... I wish I had some advice for you. When do you have to give them an answer?

wombatinwaiting · 05/05/2011 05:57

THURSDAY'S LIST

Nickster 26+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 22+5 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 21+5 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 21+0 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 19+4 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 19+2 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 13/5/11
mamapower 19+1 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 18+1 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 17+6 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 17+2 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 15+4 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 15+4 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 15+4 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
Velvetcu 15+2 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 13+6 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 13+5 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 13+1 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 12+6 EDD 11/11/11 nuchal scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 12+5 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 12+0 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 12+0 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 11+4 EDD 20/11/11
Ninunina: 11+3 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 11+0 EDD 24/11/11 NT scan 12/5/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 10+5 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
Banana87 10+2 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 9+6 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Ninunina · 05/05/2011 07:06

collie you've moved 1 day ahead of me. I actually believe my edd is also on the 20th, so hopefully my scan next Thursday will put us as due date twins. I can't wait for the scan now. I want to start celebrating this pregnancy. Fx that I get a similar nuchal scan as you. You got the results very quickly. Did you do it privately?

dooscooby · 05/05/2011 07:29

collie fantastic news to wake up to-congratulations!

katherine2008 · 05/05/2011 09:47

just reposting as my dates seem to have changed back

THURSDAY'S LIST

Nickster 26+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 22+5 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 21+5 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 21+0 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 19+4 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 19+2 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 13/5/11
mamapower 19+1 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 18+1 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 17+6 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 17+2 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 15+4 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 15+4 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 15+4 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
Velvetcu 15+2 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 13+6 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 13+5 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 13+1 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 13+0 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 12+5 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 12+0 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 12+0 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 11+4 EDD 20/11/11
Ninunina: 11+3 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 11+0 EDD 24/11/11 NT scan 12/5/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 10+5 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
Banana87 10+2 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 9+6 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

katherine2008 · 05/05/2011 09:47

and still thinking of cep today, go get em. x

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