Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

[MummyAbroad]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

:( Kat. I'm so sorry. We are here to listen if you want to talk about it.

I just wanted to give kat a big hug. So so sorry I too have had that dreaded moment and I sympathise with how you feel about this who do fine and drink/smoke. :(

kat I'm really really sorry to hear that. :( Life sucks. I wish there was something we could do to change things for you we're here if you need us.

oh Kat I am so sorry! You are right it is so unfair. To go through it once is awful, but to suffer the same thing twice is so very unfair and cruel. I wish I had something comforting to say to you, but I know there arent any words that make it better. So sorry -

kat i am so so sorry, i hope you're getting lots of support in r/l

kat I am so so sorry :( it's so unfair, I'm gutted for you. I'll bethinking of you xxxx

Oh KAT :( Thats just too cruel.... you are in my thoughts my love xxx

Oh Kat I'm so so sorry to hear that.

Take care of yourself, and am thinking about you lots

xx

kat I am so sorry you are going through all this again. look after yourself and I am thinking of you at this impossible time. x

kat, I'm so, so sorry to hear your devastating news. Life is so utterly cruel and unfair sometimes. ((massive hugs)) to you and to your DP/DH, thinking of you both. xxx

So sad to hear that kat. Take lots of time for yourself over the coming days. Thinking of you xx

Kat - really sorry to hear your news. Nothing else to say really except I hope you have lots of support in RL. On the maternity clothes, I bought a few things in Paris when I was pregnant with the one I lost in May 2009 and am finally wearing them now, after I passed them onto a friend this winter convinced I would never get pregnant again. I thoroughly recommend loaning out maternity clothes as a good way of inducing fertility.

Thank you all for your kind words. I've tried getting completely shit faced but am now awake at stupid hour anyway. If anyone is able to help me with what to expect with medical management I'd appreciate it. Want to avoid the dreadful erpc. If I opt for medical is it an at home or in hospital procedure at this early stage?

kat - I am so very sorry to read your news - it is indeed very unfair. I have had 1 natural m/c and 1 m/c with ERPC which I would personally recommend. I don't have any personal knowledge of medical management, but from what I have read from others on mn, it is generally a hospital procedure. Sending many hugs and thoughts x

oh kat that's made me cry, I'm so sorry! I haven't had a medical (2 naturals), I'm sure someone will be along shortly to shed some light. Take care of yourself xx

kat i had medical management with my mmc. They gave me pills to take at home and a pessary to insert and after about 3 hours the pessary started taking effect and it all started happening. I was told that I might be in a lot of pain and that I should make sure there was someone around in case I needed them to take me to A&E but it ended up being more like bad period pains rather than deeper pain. I spent most of the day in bed and the bathroom, but I was up and around by mid-afternoon.

Hi kat I had medical management at hospital. Tablets, then two days later pessaries. They started to work within the hour - had a "flood" and then within the next hour I passed everything. I found it painful (my periods always are) but there was pain relief on hand and the staff were lovely. I came home that evening and bled for a few days.

Hi Kat I had medical management in Costa Rica. The gyne inserted the pessaries and then I went home. I was told that it would be more effective if I didnt take painkillers (dont know if this is really true?) but was prescribed some anyway in case I needed them. Unfortunately for me, it didnt work. I did bleed a lot, and felt period pains but after a scan we could see my uterus was still not clear. I was 14 weeks, so quite late for medical management, I tried the pessaries 7 times in total and ended up needing an ERPC. How far along are you Kat? Have you had signs that your body is starting to gear up for a natural anyway? I had none, except one isolated bit of brown spotting. I found the ERPC not as bad as all the long drawn out medical stuff. Dont be scared of it if you have to have one, it really is all over quickly. xxx

kat I'm so sorry to hear your news. It really is unfair. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this again. I'm sorry my mc was natural in the end. I hope you are getting lots of support in RL and that this horrid time passes as quickly as possible. We're here if you need us. Xx

So to see our "thinking of" list getting longer. I hope ALL you ladies come back to join us soon.

SUNDAYS LIST

Nickster 25+0 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 21+0 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 20+1 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 19+3 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 17+6 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 17+5 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 17+4 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 16+4 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 16+2 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 15+5 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 13+6 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 13+6 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 13+6 EDD 23/10/11
Velvetcu 13+2 EDD 28/10/11
MummyAbroad 12+2 EDD 4/11/11 nuchal 25/4/11
CEP 12+1 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 11+4 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 11+2 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 11+1 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 10+3 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 10+3 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 9+6 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 9+3 EDD 24/11/11
Collie 9+2 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 9+1 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
Banana87 8+5 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 8+2 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Kat so so sorry to hear your terrible news :( life really isn't fair :( :(

Kat, so sorry to hear your news. Mine was natural so I can't offer any advice on medical procedures. Just remember that it doesn't mean you won't go on to have a lovely baby one day and hopefully that one day will be soon. Thinking of you.

Am absolutely exhausted today after a totally full on weekend with my friends staying. It was a total riot, I was so lucky to get great friends from my NCT group with DS. Today I'm going to have to tackle the bomb site that is the house.

morning ladies, i hope you are all enjoying the sunshine as much as possible.

kat i'm sorry mine was a natural, but i have recently spoken to someone who had one, she was in hosp to have the pessary and stuff and had to stay there for 6 hours.

lara glad you managed to get your no fly note, does that mean you can claim your money back?

is there anyone handy with a fish? i only had a scan on tuesday and already i'm dreading my next on the 5th, keep thinking something will have gone wrong. i have nothing that has made me feel like that, no pains or bleeding just that same old damn feeling.

i'm telling my folks next weekend, and dh made an odd comment about looking foolish if i tell them and it's not worked out, i asked how would it make me look foolish??? i'm wondering if that's got me thinking, ironically he said that before my last scan though so.... probably i'm just being an idiot.

Cep fish splat! Repeat mantra 'don't worry about it until it happens'. There will be plenty of time to mourn and worry about a mc if it happens, you don't have to beforehand. Remember your scan was fine last week, that's a good thing, right?

Hey there cep - have a sardine and a seabass to get you started..... if you think your folks would be good support, then I think tell them.... don't think you're being an idiot, just understandably anxious. You do have a lot of positives to think on - good scans, past your "bad news" dates and you are 12+2 today..... would it help to focus on the good stuff and not the bad feelings? Sending hugs.

I see you have your nuchal scan today mummya - what time is it? Good luck with that and I hope you get a good sonographer. Did you decide to ask for your own blood tests in the end?

I had a bit of a panic last night - tiny bit of pink discharge on wiping.... and a few small cramps today to add to the anxiety. I am working from home and taking it easy and have spoken to the m/w to say that I won't go for an emergency scan unless I get anything more which she concurred with. I think it's a small reminder to me not to get too complacent....