Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

[MummyAbroad]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

Hello to all the easter bunnies out there!

To those having the cramps, they are indeed growing/stretching pains and I had them for the first 10 weeks or so. I still occasionally get them at 19 weeks so please don't panic.

WIW am soooo jealous about your weekend break, what a wonderful place to go to! Beats a weekend in Skeggy any day!!!! (apols to all those in Skegness - oops).

I've started having weird dreams too, definitely anxiety ones but I'm wondering if its to do with having to take piriton for my hayfever which is knocking me out. Hugs to all those having them and really hope they pass soon.

As you lovely ladies know about my mental health issues over the last few weeks, can I ask some advice. Had a lovely chat with CMW today about many things but specifically including:

a) finding out the sex at my 20 wk scan next week - may help me to bond?

b) she's worried that the NCT classes may make me feel even more isolated - very large catchment area, never to see classmates again, attendees completely in love with being PG, and highly excited. She's suggested that I just attend for the post-natal sessions, and has offered me and OH a private 'labour' preparation appointment tailored to my needs/fears. What do you think?

Lurving these easter bunnies but given my tummy's measuring 3 weeks ahead, maybe these would be more appropriate...
[bubiscuit] [bubiscuit] [bubiscuit] [bubiscuit] [bubiscuit] [bubiscuit] [bubiscuit]

[bublush]

Hellooo all, am back from rainy Spain now and am hoping I will get some sun here tomorrow!

Daisy I have no idea about bonding but if you get any answers please pass them on.

Ladies who are around my sort of diffedness - are you in any mat clothes yet? My trousers arent necessarily too small but they are really uncomfortable. I tried on some mat jeggings my sister gave me and they are soooo comfy but I look huuuuge in them. I don't want to jump the gun with wearing them iyswim I suppose because then I have to admit that it's really happening!

Have a great bank holiday weekend all if I dont "see" you before it's over [bugrin]

Daisy - for me I think it helped knowing it was a boy at the 20 week scan (they'd guessed correctly at the 12 week one). I am going to my first NCT class on 3rd May so will let you know how it is - I've also met up with a group of people off here who live local to me and there's been nobody who is overwhelmingly giddy about it - a few have gone the tough route so I haven't felt bad about telling them about mc etc. I've found meeting other updiffed people generally a positive experience despite my own wibblings. :)

morning ladies, hope you're all ok.

talking about weird mc dreams, i had a strange one the other day i dreamt that i passed a coin type thing is was as large as a 50p but as thick as a pound or maybe a little thicker. But instead of the picture of the queen is was a scan pic. And that symbolled (sp?) that i'd lost it, i just "knew" i woke up feeling a little sad but not thinking i'd actually mc'd thankfully.

velvet i'm a bit behind you and i'm wearing some mat clothes, a pair of trousers to replace my buttoned trousers, as my other work trousers are stretch they're still ok.

daisy i'm not sure what to advise to be honest. Do you think you'd "bond" knowing the sex? did you originally want to? It would be nice to know what clothes to buy, and plan colours and things.

Cep Daisy DH and I found that finding out the sex really helped us to bond. It became less of a medical condition and more of a small person to us, especially as we could properly start choosing names. NCT classes are a bit hit and miss. Mine was absolutely fantastic, I even have two families I met at NCT coming to stay for Easter, we're good friends after over 3 years. It's the luck of the draw really isn't it, some people complain of how boring their NCT people are and how competitive.

Got to get back to the grind stone. As I said, i've two families of 4 staying this weekend. Am ironing bed linen and have all the beds to make up and bathrooms to clean. Loads of tidying, poor ds is getting well and truly ignored.

cep for having had a classic anxiety mc dream. Not fun.

velvet I am bit behind you too but in maternity tops already. Partly for comfort and partly to hide bump easier. I frequently have to undo top button of trousers, so I dont think it will be long before I switch to mat trousers/dresses. I chose comfort over jinx pixie worries any day!!

Daisy I was really glad we found out the sex - mainly because I was really shocked and it took a long time to get used to it! I was convinced it was a girl, could only think of girls names and everything I knew about babies was related to my niece. When we found out it was a boy I couldnt believe it, it took ages to think of a name and start imagining life with a boy (which I LOVE!) I am so glad I had that adjustment time while pregnant, I think it might have been harder to get used to at the same time as him arriving. By the way, I was really surprised at my reaction too - I had told everyone I really didnt mind what sex it was, so I felt freaked out that suddenly I did! I also dont like the idea of buying loads of white/yellow clothes and decorating a room in pastels. I would much rather find out so you can buy more personalised stuff.

re: NTC - how rich do you feel? If you can afford it, sign up, if you hate it after the first class - dont go back!
Your CMW does sound lovely, I am glad she is helping you through all these things.

FRIDAYS LIST

Nickster 24+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 20+5 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 19+6 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 19+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 17+4 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 17+3 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 17+2 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 16+2 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 16+0 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 15+3 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 13+4 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 13+4 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 13+4 EDD 23/10/11
Velvetcu 13+0 EDD 28/10/11
MummyAbroad 12+0 EDD 4/11/11 nuchal 25/4/11
CEP 11+6 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 11+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 11+0 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 10+5 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 10+1 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 10+1 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 9+4 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 9+1 EDD 24/11/11
Collie 9+0 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 8+6 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
Banana87 8+3 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 8+0 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter

Hello all hope you are enjoying the sunshine!
About the maternity wear I am ashamed to admit to having purchased a dress already. But only cos it was on sale and beautiful colours. I was delighted to be back in a size 14 for the first time in a year. Maternity wear is a good solution for fatties in denial!

According to the ten commandments I have a haddock free day today as my early scan is in the morning. Paranoid it will show no baby but much more zen than I have been the rest of the week. At least this time tomorrow I'll know one way or the other.

good luck kat for tomorrow x

Hello ladies from my sickbed. Got a yucky bug and in addition to a temp, shivers, cold, cough, bungedupness, I am puking up everything that I eat and drink. Feeling v sorry for myself and actually thinking I'll cancel our trip to the algarve on sunday.

Good luck with your scan tmrw kat. V excited for you.

Have a good evening all and speak tmrw.

good luck for tomorrow kat

hope everyone has a good easter weekend. [bubear]

sorry lara i hope you get better soon.

Kat good luck tomorrow,

Lara hope you feel better soon

Happy Easter to you all [busmile]

Hi all

lara hope you feel better soon.

kat good luck with the scan

I've had no bleeding today except when i go to the loo so am hoping that's a good sign. Also today was the day I started miscarrying last time so have at least made it further this time. Fx I'm not jinxing it by saying that[busmile]

Happy Easter everyone x

Happy st george's day and a lovely choclately easter to all [bugrin]

kat fx for scan.

Just dropping by to check on you all and wish you a happy Easter, me old muckers. We are swi again. Would live to join you all again soon x x x

Fingers x for scan kat.

Waves to hairylights, hope we see you in here soon!

Haven't name checked but hope everyone is doing ok. Anyone else moody? I just want everyone to go away and leave me ALONE to wallow in my own self pity of feeling like shit. My work friend who lives with us has been asking me constantly about work and I just said I don't want to talk about it. She is currently upstairs in her room talking on the phone, complaining about what a bitch I am being.

good luck today kat

hi hairy hope to see you moving in here soon

Happy day

banana does she know you're pg? Besides, why would you want to talk about work when you're at home??

Can someone make sure the jinx pixies are safely locked up - I'm going to look for a pair or mat trousers for work today [busmile]

Good luck Kat !!!

waves to velvet hairy and banana and cep and anyone else lurking about today

Afternoon everyone.

Good luck to kat today

in car heading to cottage after a bit of retail therapy in Glasgow left home sunny, pissing it down now

Had awful night last night. Was woken at 1am by hiddeous painful cramps. After about an hour of panicing (tmi warning) turns out it was a bad dose of diaherrea

banana ignore your friend, she shouldn't be bitching about you in your own home! I've noticed recently I'm a lot more moody and snapping. Putting it down to hormones and lack of sleep.

Happy Easter to all for tomorrow as I've no idea if I'll be able to get a signal to get on.

9+2 today, tomorrows that dreaded date! Eek!

xx

Any news on scan, kat? Been thinking about you all morning...

Still feeling yucky so went to docs this miorning, got an "unfit to fly" letter and have subsequently cancelled the Algarve trip. Quite relieved to be staying here (not like me at all!)

Also panicking cos boob pain / tenderness has completely gone today... Has anyone else had this? Am v scared...

Fucking awful scan. Big space, no baby. Again. Epu closed until Tuesday so can't even do anything about it. Am gutted. Twice in less than a year. I knew it was not looking good when the lady got dildo cam out. No use asking why me, but well, with so many people that don't give a fuck and drink and smoke and all that, and me who has tried so hard to do everything perfect, it is so unfair.
Thanks for all your support in the last few weeks. I look forward to hearing about your lovely babies.

Oh kat I am so so sorry . I don't know what to say, lovely, sometimes life is so unfair. I'll be thinking of you, big (((hugs))) xxx

((((((((((kat)))))))))))) - big hugs, so sorry , it is just the most gutting feeling in the world to see that empty space

I lurk on here, hoping to join one day, but I just didn't want you to go unanswered

please look after yourself and chat when you feel up to it, much much love and hope you have lots of support

so so sorry kat I remember that awful feeling :( you're right it is so unfair.