Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

[MummyAbroad]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

Lara definitely not ridiculous, I've had exactly the same thoughts myself eg. Sitting on a White chair, what if I start bleeding....

Argh panic last night caused by peach toilet roll at the curry house-goes a disturbing pink colour when you wipe... Don't these people realise that we need White toilet paper to be able to check properly???? anyway was all ok but definitely caused a heart in mouth moment....

Irene good news that you have managed to lose a whole week of mentalling :)

Dachs your boss is an arse, definately speak to HR about it. I remember the weeks after I broke my coccyx, you never even know its there til you've damaged it and then you cant forget!

lol Pink at the loo roll - I'm at my nans in spain atm and she has white loo roll with a streaky pink pattern in it! What is she trying to do to me.

Good luck scanners

So we have started telling close family and friends because it's the magic time to do it and I can't hide my bump any longer. Everyone is really excited but I'm finding it difficult to feign interest tbh. I have no connection whatsoever with my bean even though I know in my head that it's there, I have pictures and a dvd of it kicking and moving but I still can't believe that everything is ok and I'm having a baby. I feel like everything that's happening to my body is just a cruel joke and I'm not going to get anything at then end of it. My mum and nan keep telling me I need to relax and be more positive because I've made it to 12 weeks so everything will be just fine but I know that isn't necessarily true! I'm so disconnected from it all and that is making me more miserable. I don't know what to do :(

Had to at peach toilet roll pink!

Hugs for lara - I find that if I keep myself as busy as I possibly can, then I mental less and then you're into the next day and can see your dates ticking over....

irene - can understand your concern re: sonographer. I think they have to concentrate pretty hard as they really want to get it accurate. Did they give you an indication of when you're likely to know? I was told that they would do the scan, do the bloods and then give you scan results same day and bloods a couple of days later.... it is private here too though.

Am v at your boss dachs. She does know it's twins right?

collie - hope you're doing as ok as you can be and can get lots of restful sleep at your Scottish cottage.

How are izzy and cep doing....? Much hand-holding from over here x

velvet - your lack of interest / excitement is completely understandable - I believe it's a self-defence mechanism. Do you think some forward planning would help you feel more of a connection? It has helped me a little although I still find it quite surreal that there is actually a little bean in there and that (apparently) it all ends in a baby. I'm desperate to fast forward a few weeks.....

Velvet I know exactly where you're coming from, your feelings match mine completely. Everyone being so excited is frustrating, and you end up wanting to scream that no-one understands how you feel.

I also hoped i'd feel better after 12 weeks but like you, it didn't feel that signifiant. I'm now being pressurised to go fully public at 20 weeks but still don't feel comfortable doing that, esp as I still have no bond with the absent bump.

My very basic advice is to do what makes you feel calm, and less mentally, not what other people want you to do. Your mum will have the best intentions but being told to enjoy it won't help you relax.

I agree that some forward planning may help, altho I think you need to be careful. I can't face buying anything, or making decisions, but can cope with accepting offers of 2nd hand stuff (it helps I love pre-loved/antiques!). This may help you. I'm also thinking of asking the sonographer to write the sex down & pop it in an envelope in case I feel that knowing that will help me bond in the next few weeks.

Lots of hugs to you as I know how it can feel. If you're starting to feel very unhappy or disconnected, pls see your Dr or MW for a chat.

at Pinks peach loo roll!! And @ velvets nans streaky pink stuff! Me too!!!! Work have this horrid recyled paper that goes brown when its wet. Freaks me out on a daily basis!!

Oh velvet I'm sorry to hear how you are feeling although i think its completely understandable and how most/all of us on here feel. I think its especially worst being your first child (me too) bcs you've only had a failed pg before. I feel the same, just can't believe i'm pg again and that this will end well. But why shouldn;t it? I think what tunnocks said is so nice though, I can't wait to feel a kick!

pink thanks for you lovely words. What you said about the pains and possibly bowel movements is a bit reassuring as it does feel a bit like that. I think you are right about the temping. I'm going to put it away now, there is really no need to be temping.

well done collie on putting away the thermometer - we absolutely don't need any extra reasons to mental!

Who'd have thought toilet roll could cause so much anxiety....

Just popping in to nick some eggy bread and wish cep and izz all the best today. Work has taken over my life and have just moved dd into a toddler bed so have had zero sleep for the last three nights.

Quickie about MS. Mine disappeared for 3 days at 9 weeks and I feared the worst and booked a scan. (my tiredness seemed to lift too and boobs felt very normal). As soon as I had the scan and saw Junior's hb the MS came back again - as did the other symptoms. It still comes and goes, but I assume it's hormones surging and then waning...

Sending love to everyone and growling at Dachs' horrible boss.

Hello all, mind if I crash the thread and ask a quick question to pink? nicks and mummya suggested I ask.

Am currently 4+2 after getting my BFP on Sunday. This is the 5th time I've been pg in last two years. I'm trying to get Progesterone prescribed but it's proving more difficult than I anticipated so mummya suggested I ask you about a private GP appointment and getting a private prescription. Did you find it easy to get the prescription? Or the appointment?

Be grateful if you could give me any pointers etc!

Cheers ladies, as you were

Lurky lurky for cep hope your ok sweet and scan all good xx

Lurking for news from Cep x

Hoping all goes well for you brook.

All - am panicking more now... was in a meeting just now and got a series of sharp twinges on the left side, quite low. Please tell me it's normal. I was utterly famished if that does or doesn't have any impact. Needing reassurance. Gah!

Wombat she said that if it was bad news they'd phone in about 10 days, if it is good news then it will come in the post in about 2 weeks. 10 days to two weeks of freak out time for me then.

brook hiya, can't answer you but congrats on your bfp, hope it goes well.

Hello BBB!!

MummyA - I was hoping you'd come on line too... If you're not worrying then perhaps I shouldn't either. Maybe the twinges are just uterus "growing pains"? Although you're well ahead of me!

Oi. Lara . That is PERFECTLY NORMAL you daft bat. Tis your uterus expanding.

Hope our lovely scanning people are okay x

Hello brook! Congratulations on your BFP!! I hope you're going to pull up a beanbag and make yourself comfy. I'm on progesterone because I was having the MC investigated by the ARGC in London (it's an IVF clinic but they were happy to look into stuff for me), and then when I got the BFP they started to monitor the pregnancy. They put me on progesterone because they took bloods soon after the BFP and they were worried it was a bit low. The problem with going there is that there's about a month's wait for an initial consultation so they're probably not ideal for you. Having said that, before I went there, I saw a Bupa fertility specialist and got an appointment within a couple of days so I would have thought that you could phone your local private hospital and get an appointment pretty quickly. I hope this is helpful - feel free to message me if you need any more info, more than happy to tell you about who I've been to see and the medication I'm on etc.

lara I second owly, definitely normal.

velvet I felt the same. It still feels weird buying stuff and hard to squash the nagging voice in the back of my head that it's all pointless because no baby is coming later this year but I have been working really hard on being positive and concentrating on the very good probability that things are all going to work out fine.

lara I had LOADS of cramps in the first three weeks, it has settled down a lot since then. Owl is right, it is a normal healthy symptom of being properly diffed

lara i had quite bad cramps through to 8 weeks - and did with dd (now 2.6). congrats and good luck x

And, you wait til you get a bit further along and cough or laugh without realising you're going to. OW OW OW stabby pain. :)

BBB good luck with getting hold of the magical drugs; I hope it's not too hard to find some sensible person to hand them over.

Awww - Ladies, I love you sooo much! In fact I did sneeze last night and it killed! Thanks for reassuring me. I have never been so glad to be beaten on the head with a kipper / haddock / swordfish...

Just had the meeting from hell with the vilest director I have ever come across in my life. In group meetings she's always effing rude and sarcastic to me only! (not paranoid, promise). I don't report to her but she always stresses me.... can't wait for the next few weeks to pass when I can hopefully say to her "well guess what you bitter and twisted cow, am PG so eff you!" HA - that will show her!

Where is news of today's scans?!

xx

afternoon ladies.

scan went fine. little bean waving an arm and gave a huge bounce. which i have to admit melted my resolve to stay detached, my heart gave a huge jolt with it, so i'm lost now. Even though i know i'll be scared come next scan right now i'm chilled. they initially measured it at 10+6 but then it moved and was 11+1 i still think it's 11+3, just think it was being akward like it's daddy.

izzy keeping fx for you hon.

congrats bbb so pleased for you.

TUESDAYS LIST
Nickster 24+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 20+2 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 19+3 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 18+5 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 17+1 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 17+0 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 16+6 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 15+6 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 15+4 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 15+0 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 13+1 EDD 24/10/11 next scan 20/04/11
IreneHeron 13+1 EDD 23/10/11
Onions 12+5 EDD 27/10/11 First Scan 20/04/11!
Velvetcu 12+4 EDD 28/10/11
MummyAbroad 11+4 EDD 4/11/11 nuchal 25/4/11
CEP 11+3 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 10+6 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 10+4 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 10+2 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 9+5 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 9+5 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 9+1 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 8+5 EDD 24/11/11
Collie 8+4 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 8+3 EDD 26/11/11 first scan 19/4/11
Banana87 8+0 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 7+4 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter

I have developed a dangerous chewit addiction- 5 packets for £1 at WH Smiths....

I deposed my iPhone earlier and when I picked it up I thought "Oooh that's a pretty cobweb stuck on it..." it is in fact not a cobweb but a completely destroyed screen d-oh!! Am planning to Sellotape it back together this afternoon but not sure if I can live with the shame of owning the most embarrassingly clearly knackered phone!!