Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

[MummyAbroad]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

CEP fab news on your scan!

I in fact DROPPED my phone. Not sure how you depose a phone...

I in fact DROPPED my phone. Not sure how you depose a phone...

I am soooooooo pleased it went well!!! Will you please now stop stressing just a little now?? Bean sounds lovely jumping for his mummy!! so happy for you, you can now relax and enjoy the weekend.

Have just woken up from nap (but still working obv ) and feel soooo much better.

Pink oh no your poor iphone. i work with a clumsy bloke who has done this twice already. You can buy the screens off ebay and replace them quite easily (aparently - I however can barely figure iTunes out!!)

Yay yay yay cep !!! Sounds like a fantastic scan!!

I feel absolutely sick with nerves here, really wishing I'd booked a morning appointment...

Sorry for crap post and lack of name-checking, in a complete mentalling state right now

I understand exactly how you feel izzy i was just the same before my last scan, but i am sure you'll be fine, there WILL be a lovely little bean in their measuring a healhy size, waiting to say hello!! Good luck xx

Good luck izzy - let us know how much your little bean is bouncing around.... you will be fine...

thankyou ladies.

collie yes i am less stressed for now. i've passed the day i got the bad news, i also passed the date its heart had stopped beating (although that was a couple of weeks ago now.) now that i've passed bad news day i'm actually a lot less stressed. Although as i said i know i'll worry before the 5th.

izzy will keeping looking out for news.

was going to say "hang in there izzy" but you are probably getting scanned right now or on your way. Will chew my nails on your behalf. Good luck! xxx

Hi I hope you don't mind me popping in but Collie mentioned on the just mc and ttc thread that this might be a good place to get some reassurance!

Quick retell of my story - I mc in Nov at 5+5 with brown spotting from when i tested positive and for the next week till mc.
I found out last Mon that I was pg again. No spotting so thought maybe in with a chance of it working. But maybe not! On Sunday (at exactly 5 weeks) the brown spotting started again-mainly after loo but also enough in day to need a pad. Also one bit of bright red on Sunday. It has been only brown since with some cramps but not bad ones.

It does seem exactly like last time so am expecting it to all end in the next week or so, especially cos the timing is the same. I'm 36 and have no dc yet -started to think bad things about my eggs!

I suppose i just wondered if anyone had had anything similar happen and still had a good outcome. The number of single magpies I have seen in the last 3 days has not helped my freaking out either!

So good to hear of so many happy scans-just hope I'll have one too at some point xxx

thinking of you IZZ!

Chewits pink.... i ate 6 chomps yesterday, have just demolished a tube of fruit gums in seconds, am starting on a wham bar before i even look at my pack of red laces or Fudge bars! I blame the heat.. might produce a healthy bambino but my teeth will fall out in the process

Fab scan news CEP!

....forgot to mention the box of chocolate fingers....

Cep Yay for a good scan!

Izzy Fingers crossed for you too.

Pink That's happened to my iphone too. Do you have insurance? A quick swap got me a brand new one :)

Hope all the sickies are feeling ok. I need slapping. I have not been feeling great but not horrid, so convinced its all over. I am also in a bit of a (huge) state because I haven't been taking my anti-anxiety meds and therefore feel like I have fallen off the ledge. Did not get out of bed for 4 days, have been contemplating termination due to how crap I feel (totally NOT like me), and basically feel like I am dying. A little OTT but it's how I feel. Anyway, DH forced the pills down me yesterday and took me out for the day and I've been out today too. He is off now for a week so we will be doing day trips all over to get me out. And I do feel better for it so now of course I am thinking thats it, it's over. Keep reminding myself I have seen the hb at 7 weeks, past "my time" and reading how your symptoms are coming/going is keeping me uplifted. Ugh. I hate hate hate feeling like this. Sorry for major me me me.

One bean with hb of 175 measuring spot on for dates, 8+3

Consultant was lovely, was shocked at lack of any extra care this pg. He couldn't believe we hadn't seen anyone at all after the mc and that I hadn't been booked in for consultant care this time. I think I might ring my uncooperative mws and raise that again with them tomorrow but not expecting any miracles. However lovely consultant also does a clinic at the nhs hospital so he says he will scan me at his nhs clinic at 16 weeks to stop me going mad regardless of whether I'm under mw or consultant care

So, first hurdle over with...and thank you for all the virtual hand-holding, it really did help xx

yippee izzy tht's fantastic news. so so pleased for you.

Fab news Izz.....made up for you toots!!

Woo hoo for the fab scanees and beans today

Short mememe update I'm afraid - went to see Occupational Health Advisor today. She was very nice, and supports my Dr's view that I should aim to go back to work but only part time (which suits me).

We got all the way though the interview and she did really well until the end when she said "if you strip away all the other stress, then you can just focus on you, your partner, you'll have a baby, and be a little family". ARGH!!!!! Did she not listen to anything I said about just seeing the future as a black hole of negativity, and just not picturable????

She's also got me doubting my feelings for my partner by asking me if I was madly in love with him, and my gut reaction was to give Prince Charles' response "whatever love is".

Oh hell, hell, hell, doubts about my relationship can't be at the bottom of this, can they?????????

Izzy so pleased for you and bean! and horray for caring consultant -that is more like it!!

cep great news too! lets hope the reassurance lasts a good long time for you. xx

minnie welcome, congrats on your BFP I had a big red bleed 2 days after my BFP and thought it was all over. I know I am not the only one either. I know its not comforting, but it really can go either way, and the odds are in your favour that it will go the right way. Those first few weeks really are a bumpy ride though, hang in there. xx

banana for you. I really feel for you, I was feeling just as low and miserable about everything just a few weeks ago. I am sure in my case it was entirely because of how horrible I felt physically, the sickness and the tiredness kept me indoors and isolated too, which never helps your emotional state. I will confess that I too felt so bad that termination crossed my mind too (after a YEAR of fighting to get pregnant and paying thousands of pounds, and travelling half way around the world and undergoing loads of horrible tests and surgery!!!)
Dont forget that ALL pregnant women get the horrible hormone shake up, plus anxiety about all the change, (sadly all of us can add to that grief over mc, stress and worry about losing this preg too). If you have an existing anxiety condition its going to be all the harder. Its a lot to go through, but it is possible to come out the otherside, I am sure that you will, you have survived so much already. I really hope the horrible times are over soon. I felt radically different at 9 and half weeks - I hope the same happens to you (or even sooner!) Only a week to get through and you are there!!!

daisy at the Occupational Health Advisor making you feel worse and not better. Some people just want to find a nice convenient answer for everything, she was obviously fishing for one. Your feelings are a due to a very complicated set of circumanstances with massive of hormones thrown in on top. Shame that she didnt really get where you are coming from, but all the more reason to ignore her comments, if she doesnt understand, then how can her opinions be worth listening to? (and has she been watching too much royal wedding stuff? - Prince Charles! )

(((hugs))) to banana and daisy - sorry you're feeling so low xx

Thank you Mummy and Teacake. Hugs to Banana too, you will get through this, I promise!

Time for a group-hug-love-in