Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 3

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As you were ladies

panashe sorry AF got you. Not sure what to say about the boob thing - will have to wait for someone a bit more knowledgeable to pop along. Nice of your DP to tell you though

Well done gum - good luck with DH.

BB we are both lucky in that we have a lot to think about as well as TTC. This move is definitely feeling like a good cut off point for me. ((()))

Gum fantastic news .... sure your DH will be fine once he has got his head round it like we said earlier on I think their fear of losing a pregnancy is as bad as ours but they have no control over it and are expected to be delighted ....be gentle with him

panashe it sucks today but by cd4 feeling cheerful and good to be off the pre AF hormone rollercoster and the dog can leave the tissues at home when we head out in a morning now so hang in there ...

Hippy nice to still have you with us ....you too need to be gentle on yourself at the moment it is never a good idea to push yourself too much after a nasty bout of "sleepover" the effects can be with you for years

hi to the pregnant ladies ....when is it we were suppose to be firing the chopper up again...... this week ?

Hello again lovely ladies, sorry I keep coming and going, all a bit chaotic with me. I've caught up as best I can but you all talk far too much!

Congrats Shandy, Hairy and now Gum for your bfps, hopefully also Jolls! Congrats Diege and Lou on your good scans and hopefully the end of Diege's sickness. Congrats Italian on getting to the top of the list and getting control of your eating habits. Congrats Hippy on selling the house & getting clomid. Commiserations Lol with your dp's attitude; that really stinks. I hope he gets his brain sorted out pdq! Apologies to anyone I've missed.

I don't know where I'm at tbh. I still want to ttc and dp still doesn't, BUT we're still DTD without any contraception. Work that out! I'm temping but not using OPK or anything like that. My temps are all over the place recently, up & down like a yo-yo. I'm still kind of new to this TTC business and this is only my 2nd cycle since the mc. I had EWCM Fri and so tried to interest DP in DTD but failed. It ended up being Sunday morning. I suspect it's too late as my temp was up - although it's down again today. Sigh.

Question: Do any of you feel your ovulation? Someone I know says she can tell when she's ovulating because she gets a sharp pain in the relevant ovary. I never have, but the scan showed my mc pregnancy came from my left ovary; the EPU nurse said I might feel the next ovulation and, sure enough, at about the right time I did get a pain in my lower right abdomen - so intense (when my bladder was full) that I wondered if it were appendicitis (but it eased considerably when my bladder was empty.) This month I haven't been aware of any pain on the left side. Just wondered what was normal for everyone?

isi - you are so right my love. I'm knackered today

mitzi I thought it was a myth that we alternated ovaries. I heard that both ovaries begin preparing eggs and the first one to get a big one wins the race and releases it. ... I do think that I feel ovulation, I have sicky pains low down about 2 days after a pos on an OPK. BUT I have also been told that those pains an occur before, after or during ovulation. So they are only vague proof that you have ovulated but not an exact science. Sorry if I'm not helping much .

Your comment does help, Hippy. It confirms that the pain I had last month was probably trapped wind!

A little googling brought up this - don't understand all of it but it certainly suggests you're right:

humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/16/12/2501.full

Mitzi I think that lots of people can feel ovulation. Also I think that if the follicle grows quite large before it pops then you can feel ovulation - I was told when I had my last monitored cycle that ovulation might be quite painful that month. (but follicle was on verge of changing into a cyst I think too)

For the last 2 cycles I have had alot of pain around ovulation - for 2 days - bloating and pain. it's agony. kind of puts you off swi but you know it's the right time to do it.

Totally agree with you all. I can feel it too. The odd thing is that I have EWCM for the week before the pain, so kind of assuming that that week is the one to do it. Then I get super grumpy (like wanting to tell everyone near me to s** off) and then I get the pain in the ovary that's ovulating. Sometimes that pain doesn't stop until AF, so presuming those months are the ones when I have a cyst/the egg doesn't release properly etc. It's easy for me to confuse them with implantation pain.

GUM don't you just love the blue line! Way to go!!!! So pleased for you. Hoping it's getting darker by the minute. You've been so patient and tried so hard. Fingers crossed you've got a sticky bean. So pleased I'm grinning!

YEh wonderful , bloody wonderful gum so happy for you xxxxx Very tired tonight long day at work will post tomorrow xxx
Brill news you ve made me smile xxxxxx

Fab news Gum, keeping everything crossed it's a sticky. Sorry been very busy with work and soooooo tired. Hopefully I'll find time to post more soon, off to bed now nite nite.

Hi. Massive Congrats gum. As were going on this thread, I think our stats are surprisingly high if you are to believe the books on over 40 women.

I too am knackered tonight, but yes need the chopper for Fri am. Had my first chuck this morning, so you may want to steer clear of me. Ha ha.

PREGNANT LADIES look at them pleading tiredness ...no posting.... Diege where are you .... any one would think they deserved a break ... tis nothing compared to postsleepoverfatigue.....Hippy you need the break but expect you chopterterside friday you will be next too shandy in the waterproof overall.....Lou and Deige are you ready this could be it for you .....too big for gum later !

Thanks everyone. It is so exciting, but you know how worrying it can be too.Though I am determined to just enjoy every minute, I know what a privilege it is to be here again. I tested again this a.m and it is darker. I've been using First Response tests and internet cheapies - those internet cheapies - although they are supposed to be very sensitive -aren't showing much of a line, I don't think they get very dark do they? I have one precious digital test packed away - might do that one for fun in a few days. Perhaps I could text a picture of it to DH? Hmm, probably not the best approach...

Mitzi I have the ovulation pain regularly - sometimes its worse than other times. It usually happens the day of or day before O for me, but I have heard it can be before,during or after. One of my friends collapsed in a night-club from her ovulation pain! I know it wasn't from drinking or drugs - she's a naturopath and prides herself on being super healthy. Poor thing has terrible pains.

I've made an appointment to see my very lovey GP - the gentle one who did the D&C for me- in a couple of weeks.

BB I hope this means that light periods are nothing to worry about. I'm still taking a "baby" aspirin daily - I don't know if I should stop or not. Now I wish I'd never started taking it - but maybe it helped? I think I'll google it...

And how much caffeine is safe? I've cut down to one cup of tea a day - my beloved morning cup when I get up - can't manage without it. That should be okay?

Thanks again for all the kind words - I'm lucky to be on this thread with my cyber friends. I'm not telling anyone in RL for a while.

Just googled the aspirin - luckily in low doses it is okay, but it is best not to take it - so I won't from here on.

Hippy, how many DPO are you now? When will you test?

Gum I m on 75 mg of Aspirin otherwise know as " baby" Aspirin prescribed by my consultant as a placebo . I took it with Georgie also. Off to work will check in properly later xxx

lou interesting that you say - as a placebo. If you know it's a placebo - does it still work?

isi Thank you for realising that I am obviously sooo much more tired than these preggos I will indeed be copter ready on Friday, wearing my waterproofs. We may have to invest in a stretch copter if we keep all wanting to go - we'll ask tank she holds the thread credit card

glad to hear the line is darker gum - when will you tell Daddy???

I was supposed to be going to the museum of london with DS1;s class today but due to bomb threats the trip has been posponed. So it's washing and cleaning instead......

gum I think I ov'd late this month (about day 17 at a guess) so wont be testing until at least the week-end but suspect Auntie dearest will turn up before then.

shandy when you chucked up did it smell of beer and lemonade?? Get it???

Tee hee, still chuckling at Hippy's shandy joke Sorry for going awol - tis our busiest time at work what with exam boards and marking to start finish off.
Gum that is brilliant news!!!! YOu know I just knew you were from your early symptoms. I wouldn;t get too stressed about the baby aspirin. My epu recommends it to everyone, as it 'can do any harm', though as you say there is conflicting stuff about it. Do you think dh has sussed even a teeny bit? Not sure I could hold it in, but can totaly understand your reluctance! Manybe wait for another couple of weeks while things 'bed in'? Oh and on internet cheapies I've never got a dark line - I know many others who have said the same.
Isaboo yes I will be there with the copter on Friday! I'm pretty happy just to be a 'supporter' on this one and not a scanee!
Shandy I will pass you the snug sick bucket (have you finished with it Lou?) This is the first day I haven't been sick for a while first thing, so please take it, it;s all yours . I'll sit next to you on the copter thoguh just in case
Big hello to everyone - I know I've missed loads .

Thanks Deige.It is brilliant - I'm chuffed. However I am also a big scaredy cat and don't know how on earth I'll tell DH. Like you I thinking I may wait a couple of weeks. I have a Doctor appointment in a couple of weeks, so might wait til after I've seen her.

I have my 18 year old hovering over my shoulder, so will have to sign off. Will catch up tomorrow...

I think that's a good plan Gum. I think you're going to have to tough it out a bit when the time comes and expect that dh might be a bit , but on the other hand he'd be laughed out of court if he made too big a deal of it, him not having used contraception! Would you usually be feeling a bit sick by say 6 weeks? (thinking that might be a giveaway).

Ha ha for the shandy jokes! I am so grateful to be up duffed and am not at all complaining. But I can fully sympathise with the post fatigue of a sleep over too, isi and hippy.

I was up with cramps last night, started yesterday and still going today so I'm glad the scan is Friday. I badly need reassurance. I was going to tell mil and my boss today, but after a comment about me pulling a 'sicky' and the boss being in a meeting, I didn't do it. Wish it was out in the open.

hippy what is the aspirin for, placebo for keeping you calm? And why not use paracetamol? Sorry if I'm being thick.

mitzi I've never noticed ov pain, although I occasionally get a stabbing pain. Then again I never paid much attention to cycle length, ewcm, or anything prior to this year and ttc scientifically. It's amazing what signs you can notice if you listen out to your body's signs.

Yes, would definitely be sick by then. Already feeling yuck, but I think I may have a flu/cold/virus thing that my daughter has had for a few days. My head is throbbing - but that may just be a pregnant thing.

No matter what, I am really pleased to be upduffed and even if he hits the roof (which I don't think he will) I'll still be pleased. I can't decide when a "good" time to tell him is. Should I ply him with alcohol first? Should I wait til he's in a good mood for some reason? Should I take him out for a drink and break it to him that way. I so wish I didn't have this dilemma, but I know things will be ok in the end.

Any suggestions gratefully accepted!

I think I may take the chicken's way out and get a nice card and write it in there, complete with something along the lines of 'I appreciate that this might come as something of a shock to you, and for that reason I thought you'd like the time and space to reflect on it...' (making sure he gets and reads it when you are out)- and then maybe have a bottle of something fizzy in the fridge to toast with? (that way it looiks like a surprise/congrats thing rather than keeping anything from him? Failing that I could send him an e-mail ?
Hi Shandy - I really fancy a can of top deck shandy now! Oh and think the aspirin is linked to preventing blood clotting in pregnancy, which can be a cause of repeated mcs - please correct me Hippy though if I am wrong!

so you got your bfp at 10dpo gum? I'm very excited for you, and sure your dh will take it well in the end. After all, what did he expect really if he didn't use contraception/abstain? These men honestly...

I'm 7dpo or possibly less. trying not to obsess too much. Last month my period started at this time, so I'm knicker checking slightly.

am still waking up at 4am every day, and consequently falling asleep at 8pm which isn't helping. dh and I are barely seeing each other! It's quite nice to be up first thing in the morning though - I even went for a run yesterday

Who's n ext for testing? (apart from me and I don't have any tests so won't be doing anything soon, or at least before the weekend!).

Tricky one, Gum. I'd be in the same dilemma myself if I were lucky enough to get a bfp. I think I'd wait until last thing at night, and simply say something like "You know I said I wanted to try again for a baby?..." dramatic pause... "Well, it worked. I love you. Night night." Kiss him, roll over and go to sleep, leaving him to lie awake fretting all night. Yes?

Somehow I don't think it would quite go like that.