Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 3

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As you were ladies

Oh and I don't think I'm next for testing, in answer to BB. I'm CD 15, but suspect I haven't ov'd this month. I had EWCM Friday and Saturday, my temp went up Sunday, but has been low again Monday & today. So no idea what's going on. I won't bother POAS unless my period is late or I "feel" pg.

Next month we'll be on holiday around ov time, so I'm hoping that will be my best opportunity for SWI on the right days.

how about texting him at work? avoids confrontation, gives him the opportunity to digest the news and then come home calmly. What do you think?

I'm not good at confrontation and it would probably be messy if it were down to me!

I don't think I've ever felt pregnant before my bfp even when I was pregnant. (I feel pregnant all the time now of course!).

Love the 'night night' solution Mitzi If he kicks off Gum could just persist with pretend snoring...Not sure about the low temps I'm afraid..
BB My very first symptom of pregnancy was 4am waking...
MUST get some work done. Spend all night anxious about deadlines, then all day putting them of!

I've been pg twice and both times I "felt pregnant" before I tested. Other times when my period has been late or I've had a scare (contraceptive failure) I assessed whether I felt pregnant, decided "No", then when I tested it was BFN.

This from the woman who doesn't feel ovulation.

I was asking lou about the placebo really. Don't know anything about it myself. People take it incase they have a blood clotting issue and Lou was saying that she takes it as a placebo and I was confused as I thought the whole point of a placebo was that the person actually taking it thought it was a real tablet - probably not explaining myself very well. Upon reflection I think what she meant was that it makes her feel a bit safer to take it and her doctor doesn't mind

gum personally I would just tell him at home (not good to text at work incase he needs to talk to you about it immediately and can't due to people over hearing).

You are obviously a fertile couple and he's had unprotected sex with you so he shouldn't be that surprised that he's gotten you pregnant.

ps. I've been pregnant 4 times now and apart from the first time when I didn't know what to expect - I felt sure I was pregnant the other 3 times before I took a test.

Of course, as many have said, I now feel pregnant every feckin' 2 WW - but that's just cos I'm loopy!

I wonder if lou means she takes it as a prophylaxis rather than a placebo? I.e. taking it to treat a problem that may or may not occur. I'm as puzzled as hippy about how a placebo can work if you know it's a placebo.

I don't understand the placebo thing either, but I was advised NOT to take aspirin unless you know you've got a clotting disorder as it can cause mc.

I didn't really mean for gum to tell her dh by text! even I am not so scared of confrontation to advise that! Now email on the other hand...

The Aspirin is prescribed by my consultant. I meant as a placebo as all my tests were nad so I have no clotting problems but my consultant prescribed it last year when I was of with Georgie and said such a low dose wouldn t cause any problems but it was worth a try even though ve no clotting issues.
Hi BB hope alls well?
Gum still making me smile.told your hubby yet?
Shandy good luck Friday that helicopter is well used
At the moment!!!
Hippy hope the house goes through quickly.
Hi Diege when's your next scan?
Italian not long to you start now!!!
Hi Isaboo
Hi curly
hope everyones ok? Work ; busy, busy, busy. Next scan Thurs OMG!!!! Just trying to arrange my 20 week scan.
Love to all xxxxxxxxxxx

(hippy thinks of lou getting to 20 week scan soon = )

OK, I get the whole placebo thing now - move on ladies, there's nothing to see here

Hi Ladies! Is there any room for me still in the snug? I know I've been AWOL for a bit. Looks like you've all been busy!

10000 lovely name hi don't think we have met before nice to have you back anyway

Gum blimey ......its one of those you know you will feel better once you have told him but the thought of telling him is so ...knicker-wettingly scarey you can't face it straight away .....I would recommend then follow the tell him then "night night" pass out thing ....however when newly pregnant ...alcohol may not be a great plan ....you could try and get half-cut on orange juice ....might work if you pretend hard enough

Again, it is late and i am knackered I DS1 has exams next week so I he is revising but there seems to be too much cricket too play too do any homework though ....to be honest I am starting to see cricket as v similar to ttc you go along for hours only to see DS not bowl and not bat and not win but is still desperate to play next week ? go figure ?

forgot to add WOW lou 20 week scan .....thats half way ....just great book me a slot on posh Hippy's limo-copter ....but on reflection probably better than a minibus-copter considering all the queasy passengers

Hello 10000, I have been wondering where you have been.Still loads of room in the snug.

How are you feeling Shandy?

BB, fingers crossed for you.Yes, I got bfp (very light) at 10 dpo.DId another internet cheapie this morning and a much more obvious pink line has turned up.

Thanks everyone for all the suggestions. I sort of have a plan, and it won't happen for a couple of weeks I think. Last time I just blurted it out when I had planned to wait a little while (to see if it wasn't a chemical iykwim), but then he was saying -"let's throw these baby name books away", and I said,"no, we might need that".

I'll just be very quiet about it til after I've seen doc and have scan lined up, blood tests done etc. I will also buy a very expensive bottle of wine that I know he likes, send the kids off somewhere and then decline a glass of it and see if he twigs. I'm bricking it, but know I'll feel better after all is revealed. Watch this space.

Deige, when did you tell your other kids? I'm not sure what to do because we told them at 10 weeks and I m/c a day later. I wonder if we should tell them earlier (youngest is 11, apart from DS who is 2), in case things don't work out, better to know why mum is sad, or just wait til we know things are okay (12 week scan) so they don't worry. My 11 year old is prone to worrying.

I suppose I'm getting ahead of myself. One. day. at. a. time. phew....I have a good feeling about this bean, very excited.

Lou - I can't believe you are nearly half way. Oh my gosh that's exciting. Will you find out the sex of the babe?

Gum you re a bigger person than me if you can keep your mouth shut and not tell u re hubby !!! I always end up blurting it out the minute he gets in from work!!' Yes, hopefully, if alls well and we can maybe able to find out GBOS's gender tomorrow. OMG!!!
Isaboothink we ll stick to a more stable form of transport now!!! shandy can have the helicopter oh and Gum but I m ok no chucking!!!!!
Hi 1000Flies don t think I ve met you before if I have excuse my tired,over worked forgetful brain!!!
Right off for another day of work; bring on the
Patients please just let them speak English or be over 15
Years of age or even "normal" !!!'nun is
That too much to ask ?????
Love to all xxxxxxxxxx

good news on stronger line gum, can't really help with the DH dilemma, sorry.

lou all FX for you tomorrow.

Hope everyone ok, CD9 here so need to start SWI for another month I guess .

Had a lovely day yesterday and met up with some MN people (mostly from the MC threads). REAL people after all!!

Wow jolls real people, any truckers called Dav from Slough? (Old joke from the assisted conception thread - my hubby said he thought some of the mumsneters were really truckers from Slough etc!) So tells us what it was like? Did your recognise them? How exciting.

Can't keep up with all the news at the moment.

Lou 20 weeks fab. I can't wait until this baby is OUT and we can all share a VIRTUAL (((()))) hug.

Gum it's up to you if you tell your kids now or wait but I think they will take their cue from you. By that I mean if you are happy but realistic (I mean not getting too excited - it is early days) then hopefully they will follow suit. I don't want to sound negative at all but just play it low key so that they are not too upset if things do not go down the right path. Likewise, with your DH I would just play it low key. Of course you are excited and happy, and rightly so, but he may need some time to digest this. I would not assume that just because he was not using protect (sorry, I hate that word it sounds like he needs a shield and visor to approach you!) but just because he was not taking precautions he would assume you would get up the duff again. You are (I think) incredibly lucky to get pregnant and in some ways he may be surprised even given how fertile you both obviously are, so just be gentle with him!

Morning! All plans for today scuppered we think dd3 has broken her foot so will be taking her up to gps now and then no doubt to a&e for an x-ray...Bleedin' trampoline collision with her sister!!!! And just before our Whitby holiday!!
Gum great news on the darker line, that's very positive. IN terms of telling the dcs I waited until 12 weeks (after the scan) to tell mine, though they are a bit younger than yours (9, 8, 5, 1). It really depends on their personalitis I suppose - if they are worriers than maybe defer for as long as poss? (ie. to scan date). I think your plan re: dh is very sensible. Wouldn't it be funny if he was on dadsnet airing his suspicians and wondering how to ask you? (Not in a ha ha way).
HI Fireflies good to see you back!
isaboo the knicker-wetting ref is exactly right
Jolls your meet-up sounds lovely. I've met MNetteres in rl before and although initally a bit scary goes really well. Funny when 'strangers' know intimate things about your cervical mucous etc!!! Have got a meet-up myself in July with my old antenatal thread.
HI Italian good advice there as always
Hi lou hope the day goes ok - will be in the copter tomorrow. My 20 wk scan is on Monday 20th June.
Right, better try and prise dd3 into dc's buggy and get down the hill to the drs!

Big hug for diege's little one. Sorry to hear about the foot.

Welcome back 10,000.

Love italian's take on using protection - lol.

Gum We told the boys before the 12 week scan with the first pregnancy and then of course found out it was a MMC. Telling them the baby had 'died' was the worse thing about the MMC and so when I got a BFP 3 months later I decided to say nothing until after 12 weeks. It turned out to be the right idea as we lost that one at 7 weeks. If I ever get another BFP I will not tell them until after 12 weeks. It was hard when we lost the second one cos I was sad and I did have to try to hide that from them but I would Never want to have to tell them that awful news again if I can help it. It was one of the worse days of my life and to quote 4 weddings and a funeral - right up there with my father's funeral!

Up to you. Just my experience.

Good luck everyone, haven't got time for details, off up north for the night, catch up tomorrow. {{{Hugs}}} to all.

Hello everyone

hope your dd ok diege, my youngest dd has broken her wrist three times from various exploits with hoolahoops ( not the edible ones), trampolines and swings. It gets embarrassing when plaster man recognises you !

Exciting news about yours and lous impending scans

I researched a little on leaking nipples and it can be something to do with prolactin levels, also excessive nipple stimulation in foreplay, must tell him to leave them alone

Isaboo you're right about pre af hormone rollercoaster, a bit of a relief to get off it for a week or two.

Gum glad the line is getting stronger, hope things go ok with you and dh. It must be hard for you keeping the news to yourself, especially in these early days when you are distracted with every twinge.

Hee Hee panashe has been getting her nipples tweaked.... (Hippy giggles like a school girl and then realises she is actually over 40 !)

He would kill me for saying this, but in all my experience ( not that there's that much ) I have never known a man so nipple obsessed, even after we've dtd he still tweaks them as we lay there !!

OMG panashe it's lucky he didn't get with me - I cannot stand my nipples being touched - I do not find it at all sexy. My DH knows not to go there (Feel like we should be having this conversation in the school loos or something like that )