Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other... Part IV

[MummyAbroad]

Newly pregnant after miscarriage? Here is a nice place to hang out and swap symptoms and worries until you are brave enough to sign up to the grads thread.

Here is a link to the old thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1165866-Freak-out-room-for-those-newly-updiffed-after-MC-to-hold-hands-and-support-each-other-Part-III/AllOnOnePage#24507574

Yay for positive news from scanners :)

Doc said babies look fine and no sign of bleeding. Also didn't exactly tell me to go home and put my feet up but did say 'I'd use it as an excuse to have a couple of days off if I were you' so I'm telling my boss the doc told me to stay at home for a couple of days. So am now on way home. Doc also said paracetamol is fine, aspirin is fine and ibuprofen is fine as long as you're not having 8 pills a day for an extended period. Not sure whether to believe him or not. Any thoughts?

Yay for all the good news!

dachs I hope you're going to listen to your very sensible sounding dr about having a couple of days off!!! I agree about paracetamol and asprin, don't know enough to comment on ibuprofen but would have thought he knows what he's talking about!

morning!

Dach that sounds so painful! and I presume you are suffering with no painkillers at all, you poor thing. Hope your doc has contacted you now and you are getting some good advice. I dont think its really a worry for bean, but its a big worry for you, you need some time off to relax and get over the shock and get off your bum. xxx

katherine I have been reducing my meds a bit (they make me feel so drowsy!) and most of the time am surviving without puking. Mint tea is really helping as is trying to eat more protein - bit difficult as I am a veggie. I did a long shift on bread alone too - whatever gets you through it!

welcome to the list cep, you can keep me company So glad you made it past your safe point. I have told DS who is 2.9 but he doesnt seem to understand. My therapist suggested NOT telling him until nearer the time, because it doesnt mean much to them at this stage, but we keep on talking about the pregnancy around him so it seemed unfair. I have a book called "I am a big brother now" and another one about where babies come from. We have only been through them a couple of times, hopefully after a million repititions it might all start making sense to him!

Glad you are feeling better teacake
Hugs for velvet

i would stick to paracetamol dachs, but thats me! Good news from everybody thats great xxxx

If any of you decide to chuck yourself down some stairs and break your coccyx, don't get the train home. it hurts!

dach i've always been told to avoid ibuprofen/ibrufen all that stuff. I think i'd stick to the paracetamol as well, with lots of chocolate and icecream.

hey mummya i think i'll get worried at each scan date. i want to tell him as well cause he likes jumping on my stomach and headbutting and play fighting. I know he wants a baby cause he tells me he wants a baby girl.

mummya meant to ask what's that book like? there are so many just don't know where to start.

hi cep the [[http://www.amazon.co.uk/Im-Big-Brother-Joanna-Cole/dp/0688145078/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1302013419&sr=8-2
i big brother book]] is really nice and is a story of a babies arrival into the family and the big brother's new role. I guess its designed to reassure the DS that mum and dad still love him and there is no need to be jealous. My "making babies" book is in Spanish (DS is bilingual) and is a bit rubbish, need to get a better one.

Aw Dachs your poor arse. I reckon I'd go for the paracetamol first and see if that does the trick. And some form of comfy seating arrangement. And definitely icecream

cep glad it went well

My dcs are 7 and 4; haven't told them yet but then I'm only very early. Last time we waited until after 13 week scan and showed them the pictures etc. They did understand and were really excited

Of course because I had a late mc we then had to tell them about that three weeks later, which was really tough, but in all honesty I was such a mess they would have known something was wrong and needed some kind of explanation anyway - and children are very accepting of things that adults struggle with.

This time I will probably wait until I'm past my 16week danger point if I can get away with it. Sadly however they are well versed in the fact that not all babies can come to live with us so probably won't believe it until it's here!!

For anyone looking for a nice book, I can recommend "There's a house inside my mummy"; bought it for ds (then 2.5) when I was pg with dd and he loved it - last time they dragged it out again and both enjoyed it!

Dachs I broke my coccyx 10 yrs ago so I know how painful it is! I also did it falling down the stairs! Glad your pups are ok.

cep glad your scan went well :)

So I'm pretty with the NHS. I never really use it for anything but it is total shite. Cramps got really bad last night (they are different to what I've had so far, more squezzing, less stretching), pink goo more reddish, so I went to A&E. Waited 1 1/2 hrs to see a triage, was then told to wait another 4 hrs to see an gynae dr! I said no and came home. I haven't slept all night. Woke up this morning, cramps are still there but pink goo has stopped. Phoned EPAC who said phone Dr or mw. mw didnt start work til 10 so I phoned her then. I have an appointment for an EPAC scan........ ON THURSDAY!!!! So it's ok for me to have a mental breakdown in the meantime??

I went to work to try and have something else to think about. I told my HOD today and he was great. He was trying for 6 yrs for his little girl so understands a little about how I don't care about anything at school atm. I am supposed to be observed tomorrow morning but he has cancelled that and says that I just need to do whatever I feel like.

I was doing so well at not mentalling :(

tunnocks glad you seem to be a bit brighter.

hi to everyone else, sorry for so few personal mentions, am feeling mememe right now.

velvet Thursday must seem a lifetime away...tis rubbish having to wait but yay for pink goo stopping and well done for having told boss. It is sometimes easier to just come clean.

Fx you last till Thursday without going mental x

tunnocks hope you are doing ok x

Cep MummyAbroad I've not really told DS about my pregnancy but he must have heard something because yesterday he said 'have you got a tiny person in your tummy? Is it a baby, is it tiny like Grandpa (in my Pocket)?'. I told him the truth but he hasn't really bothered much about it.

Dachs glad there's good news and you can now have a couple of days resting. Enjoy if you're not in too much pain.

Velvet awful wait, fx no more goo. Cramps and pains do happen in healthy pregnancies to try not to stress (easier said than done).

Katherine Mummya I'm surviving on brown bread largely although I can often eat an evening meal without being sick. It really is hellish the sickness this time.

Hey lovely ladies

Not the news I hoped to be posting. Bean has a 1/3 chance of Trisomy... so Downs and Turners etc... BAck to St Georges at 9.30 tomorrow for a CVS... We get the results in a week and then decisions have to be made.

Gutted

The scan itself was lovely - bean was awake, had lovely strong HB and waved and wiggled loads...

Will post more later...

oh knitter sorry to hear that.

((( knitter ))) so sorry the news wasn't what you wanted to hear, you must be gutted and so worried now. Ok, so 1 in 3...you do still have better odds of everything being absolutely fine than it not being fine so focus on that for now. I know it must be a huge amount to take in and you're faced with the possibility of some difficult choices, but it could well still be ok.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this worry this week - fx it all turns out to be for nothing xxx

my thoughts are with you knitter I had amnio at St Georges with DS. The staff were great and the counselling service they gave me before doing the test was helpful (but scary as hell) good luck xxxx

Huhu ladies!!!! I found you. Thought you'd all disappeared from mn. I wrote a quick
hi in old thread mid march but never looked back. Loads if new names I don't recognize there.

Sooooo glad to see you all had BFPs. Only caught a couple of you. It's such a long time.

I'm still crossing my fingers. Wanted to switch off the topic for a while as you know and fret about losing weight instead.
.......until today. I'm on day 19 and have tummy twinges and but of bright pinkh red blood when I wipe. Have been googling and hoping for implantation???
Any ideas???

Cheers babes!!!!

Hope you're all enjoying bump time!!! How are your boobies growing?? :-D

xx

knitter so sorry. Hugs

knitter I'm so sorry, you must be so worried. I really hope the results come back ok. Thinking of you.

dachs ouch your fall sounds so painful. Glad all seems ok though and you're resting.

velvet poor you I am sorry you are having this worry. The fact the the goo has gone is good though. Your boss sounds just lovely, well done for telling him. Lots of rest for you too, take it easy at work. Thursday must seem like a long time off but it will come. Fx you little beans are safe and sound.

YAY for cep you know how made up I am for you .

will catch up properly later or tomorrow as have mum coming for dinner any moment - having fajitas!! Yummmm. With blueberry muffins for pud!

I'm thinking positive... 1/3 chance of an anomaly is 2/3 chance of not an anomaly isn't it... So updating the stats... Will probably crumple later...

In terms of the scan itself they've moved my EDD until 16/10/2011 - so in line with my original thinking. Bean was lovely and wriggly and kept waving at us. The scan seemed to be more detailed than the EPU scans and also more than when we had scans with DS. Everything else they checked seemed fine - if it is Downs then one other thing they often see is heart defects but the heart was perfect. The Bean's CRM is 5.7cm and the Nuchal Measurement is 6mm... so quite big. Bean was so cute an so perfect in so many ways...

Tuesday's List

Nickster 22+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 18+1 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 17+3 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 16+5 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 15+1 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 15+0 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 14+6 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 13+4 EDD 7/10/11
Emoo 13+4 EDD 7/10/11
Lovemysleep 13+0 EDD 11/10/11
KnitterNotTwitter 12+2 EDD 16/10/11 CVS 6/4/2011 next scan 10/6/11
Onions 10+5 EDD 27/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 10+5 EDD 27/10/11
Velvetcu 10+4 EDD 30/10/11
IreneHeron 10+1 EDD 26/10/11
MummyAbroad 9+4 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 9+3 EDD 5/11/11
Hils74 8+6 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 8+5 EDD 9/11/11
Haffertee 8+2 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 7+5 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 7+5 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 7+1 EDD:21/11/11
wombatinwaiting: 6+5 EDD 26/11/11 first scan on 17/04/11
Collie 6+4 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 6+4 EDD 26/11/11 first scan 19/4/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum

knitter hoping for the best outcome for you and your bean