Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other... Part IV

[MummyAbroad]

Newly pregnant after miscarriage? Here is a nice place to hang out and swap symptoms and worries until you are brave enough to sign up to the grads thread.

Here is a link to the old thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1165866-Freak-out-room-for-those-newly-updiffed-after-MC-to-hold-hands-and-support-each-other-Part-III/AllOnOnePage#24507574

hellooo Blackkat welcome and congratulations

oooh Blackkat - lovely news - welcome, welcome, welcome

Blackkat it's so good to see you here. Congratulations!

tunnocks what a naughty little bean you have. I'm so relieved to hear that all is well.

Waves to everyone, on train now and have been feeling rubbish so haven't been very active, but always lurking.

LOVELY to see you in here xxx

Thanks soooo much for your reassurances, Ladies... I so appreciate all your support every day. Couldn't burden anyone else with my neuroses in real life!

Blackkat - welcome! I remember your name from a thread somewhere...

You know, it's as if any previous blogs were like a trial run and now hopefully we're all in it for real...

tunnocks - fabulous news!!!

Big congrats too to blackkat - great stuff!!!

Lara my gp and MWs are not giving me any extra scans or appointments either - boo!! In the end I've decided I'll just have to pay - am keeping it sensible though and just going for 8, 12 and 15 weeks, if we get that far. The 15 week one will be the big one for me as last time the baby died at 14 weeks but it wasn't picked up till my 16 week appt. But my sister's mcs have all happened just before 8 weeks so I think I've inherited a bit of a hang up from her about that one too!!

Aha! There you are - why so quiet? x

hello, just read back a bit and see you have been asking after me - fanks.

I'm OK, just feeling really sick and tired and drowning in house work/childcare/work Cant wait for this bit to be over because its ruining my image of the happiness of pregnancy!

Whoever mentioned heartbeats at 6 weeks - did you know that the babies heartbeat actually starts much earlier - about 4 weeks amazingly, but its only at around age 6 weeks that you can detect it on ultrasound, so just because you didnt see it, it doesnt mean it was never there IUSWIM.

Congrats BlackKat

hi BlackKat - nice to meet you! Congratulations on your BFP!

Izzy - 8, 12 and 15 sounds very sensible. I am going to try and kill the next three weeks and then try and convince DH that we need to have a scan... Fingers crossed nothing happens in the meantime.

MummyA - I think it must be the word "mummy" in your "name" plus the fact that you started this thread, but I actually see you as the mummy of this group...

Good day for everyone I think / hope

So relieved for you tunnocks...let us know what else they said when you get a chance.

Lara I fully believe that scans save our sanity and I think alot can be said for stress having a negative effect on an early pregnancy. I wish the NHS would catch on to this idea...luckily I have a consultant who has caught on and has kindly told me he will get EPU to scan me whenever I want. Trouble is I am WAY too scared.

Congratulations blackkat.

MummyA take it easy will ya :)

Queasiness on and off here, mainly when I am hungry. Boobs seems to have grown at least half a size. Just crossing fingers and everything else that things stay in place.

Phew! Have been trying to find a chance to sneak back all day... FAIL! But I'm having a sneaky peek now, and delighted to see the good news, teacake, and congrats on getting to double figures.

Blackkat - lovely to see you here - congratulations!

Woo hoo for Tunnocks and the naughty bean

Go Bean, Go Bean!

hey mummya sorry you're still feeling really sick.

heyblackkat good to see you here.

Tunnocks fantastic news regarding your scan! Shame you had a miserable sonographer - just when you need someone to be kind and reassuring it's typical you get a jerk! The main thing is you got the news you wanted to hear

Blackkat Congratulations on your BFP and welcome!

Just a quickie; I am really missing you guys! I have only had enough time to jump on the internet once since moving and you facebookers will know that was to do the deed (grand announcement) ... DH couldn't keep it a secret any longer!!! Bless him!

Good to see Dachs emoo and love all passed week 12

for Barbie and Harassed

Welcome Blackkat and any other newbies around

How's my twin pink you got a bump yet?? I have! eeek!

Nix & Owl both passed 20 weeks, wha hoo! Where's that time gone?

Working until 2am on avg at the mo and starting at 8am... so must dash as much to do. Sorry I haven't name checked you all but I think about everyone daily and I can't wait to get 5 min's and catch up properly. Big hugs to you all xxx

MummyA good to hear from you, but so sorry you're having such a miserable few weeks. Hopefully it will be over soon. I must say...I'm really starting to sympathise. I'm only 6+3, and my MS has become virtually unbearable as soon as I hit 6 weeks.

Do any of you have to battle the tube every morning? I normally drive to work since I work outside London, but I had a meeting just off Oxford Street this morning, so went in by tube at peak hour. I have to say that it was an awful experience. The tube was packed as usual, there was no air, and everyone's perfume was really strong. I was sure I'd end up throwing up on the guy standing next to me....thankfully I managed to hold it in.

I'm so pleased I'm not doing that every morning. How do people do it?

Ninu agreed that the tube is vile - stinky and claustrophobic... I'm still cycling to and from work in Victoria at the moment and will then try and arrange my life around bus schedules...

Sleep well wonderful ladies

Morning lovely ladies.

Quiet night, hope that means everyones beans are behaving.

Did my fare share of stressing out yesterday, but am resolved today to staying calm, and not worrying about every little twinge

woke up this morning thinking it was Saturday

Anyway, hope everyone is ok? mummya sorry you feel so rotten.

I'm on my phone so don't want mess up the stats, so pls can whoever does them today please change my first scan date to Monday -4/4/11 (eekk)

good to see you again, lovely, sorry you're feeling so rubbish atm . When does the ms tend to let up for you? Hopefully once you get past the first trimester it'll ease up (I expect that seems a long way away though). When do you get your cleaner back? xx

don't work too hard! Remember to take some time to chill out!

Hellooooo everyone!

Friday's List - hope I haven't messed it up, please have a quick look!

Nickster 21+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 17+5 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 16+6 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 16+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 14+4 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 14+3 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 14+2 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 13+0 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 30/3/11
Emoo 13+0 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 30/3/11
Lovemysleep 12+3 EDD 11/10/11
KnitterNotTwitter 11+0 EDD 21/10/11 next scan 5/4/11
Onions 10+1 EDD 27/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 10+1 EDD 27/10/11
Velvetcu 10+0 EDD 30/10/11
IreneHeron 9+4 EDD 26/10/11
MummyAbroad 8+5 EDD 4/11/11
Hils74 8+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 8+1 EDD 9/11/11 first scan 29/3/11
Haffertee 7+4 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 7+1 EDD 22/11/11 next scan 4/4/11
Mattsmama 7+1 EDD 17/11/11 next scan 30/3/11
Ninunina: 6+4 EDD:21/11/11
Collie 6+0 EDD 25/11/11 first scan 4/4/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 6+0 EDD 26/11/11 first scan 19/4/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed

Welcome blackkat! Feel free to add yourself to the list when you feel ready.

collie sorry yesterday was stressy, fingers crossed the zen returns today!

ninu I get the train to work and only need the tube if I'm going to the clinic for scans or medication or whatever, and luckily when I do it's only a couple of stops. I agree, it is completely horrible - I think the lack of fresh air is what makes you feel most grim. I think tigger might get the tube every day, but she's hardcore

mamap I have no clue how you do it!!! You are definitely made of tougher stuff than me. I spend my days wondering around, either daydreaming about sleeping, or having a little sleep in any quiet corner I can find..... I too have a little bump - it seems like the bloat bump is just getting harder which is fab! I'm still not convinced it's more than bloat yet though, although it makes DH laugh when I insist that because he thinks I'm going to have a surprise when a baby eventually emerges from my bloat

tunnocks just want to say again how pleased I am for you. What did the miserable sonographer say? Did you buy the dress?

daisy how's the lambing going? Is your sheepdog still poorly?

banana your consultant sounds fab! Not sure how far along you are but I would definitely recommend taking them up on the offer - the first one is terrifying but the fear subsides gradually with each one after that and there's nothing quite like it for restoring positivity and calm

lara - mummya is definitely the mummy of our group - she is in fact the oracle that helped most of us get our BFPs in the first place with her enviable knowledge about OPKs, temping, ovulating and pretty much everything else. We love you mummya - sorry you're feeling grimbags. I would definitely bin the housework - my house looks like some kind of squat but as long as no-one decides they're going to pop around for a surprise cup of tea, it's fine. Planning on cleaning it when my surge of blooming and energy arrives.....

lara did you have any thoughts about what to do with work and your trip abroad? Also, out of interest, why did you GP tell you to resist having a scan before 12 weeks? Ridiculous man, it can't possibly do any harm and in fact does your sanity a lot of good. GPs are, in the main, of absolutely no help at all on this stuff though. I went to one telling them I was going round the bend anxious-tastic and they told me to "think positive". Well, thanks for that!

izz your scan schedule sounds great, and very restrained!

velvet fab news on the developing bump! Tell the whispering girls they should be concentrating more on your lesson than whether you are pregnant/eating lots of pies!

nix thanks for lending me your dad! My boss also had words with me yesterday and told me I need to get my act together because a baby will arrive before I know it and I need to stop pretending it's not and actually sort my life out!! She is the best! Sorry about your grumpy midwife - it scares me when that happens because what happens if that's the one that actually rocks up to deliver you?? arghgh!

How are all of our doublediffed ladies??

Really sorry if I missed anyone! I'd just like to say again, this really is a lovely little corner of mumsnet - I do worry about the sanity of some of the other bits. For example, I've been lurking on a thread which someone asked with the what seems reasonable question of how do you manage going back to work if you have to keep having time off when DC gets ill and the nursery/CM (hahaha WIW apparently that means childminder but made me laugh - thought you might appreciate that one!) won't have them, and it turns into a massive row about who is better, stay at home mums or mums that go back to work!!!

Anyway I am off on a long weekend with some friends down at the coast! The weather was supposed to be gorgeous but it's not looking very promising so far! Catch up with you all soon xx

morning everyone and welcome newbies :)

pink I'm fine but totally and completely knackered. I am also glad I don't have to get the tube apart from scans and consultant appointments (my train goes to Paddington and my office is about 3 minutes walk from the station). Had to get the tube yesterday as I had an appointment with my consultant and it was SO stuffy and hot I nearly fainted!

Consultant is lovely and adorable and is going to be on holiday for two weeks and he knows I'm stressing about stuff so he's going to see me before he goes and when he gets back, although he usually only sees people every 4 weeks at this stage. So am trying to be happy.

My boss is going to be difficult about when I start maternity leave so I see a few battles ahead - I am expecting to be huge by 32 weeks so I want to leave at 31 weeks (logic being that I am expecting to have them at 37 weeks so I was planning to start mat leave then and I have 6 weeks holiday to use as well) but that means I won't be here for our half year financial results so boss isn't happy. But if I stay until she wants me to I'll be here until 38 weeks, which isn't practical. Anyone got any advice on managing bosses in situations like this?

pink your boss sounds way more fab than mione. I take it your panic the other night was all sorted without boss yelling?

tunnocks so pleased for you. I had a few scares with bleeding but nothing like yours sounds and it must have been horrible for you. I'm glad it all worked out for you.

Not liking the sounds of your hours m'dear - don't forget to look after yourself... :)

mummya sorry the ms is still bothering you. Hope it eases off a bit soon

Morning to you all... you are my lifeblood at the moment. Out of intrigue I scanned over the "mums due in December" thread yesterday and realised how the experience of MC changes your perspective of pg. I couldn't bring myself to post a message on that thread as they all seemed so joyous and oblivious to the experiences that we have all had on this thread. Not only had many of them announced their pg to lots of people around them but they already seemed to be looking at babynames and furniture! For me, if I even get to that stage, it will be a long, long way away (although my DH started a list of names on his i-phone that we occasionally add to).

Knitter - not only do you not live too far away from me but I also work in Victoria! (Wilton Road to be precise). It's a very handy journey in and I am delighted not to have to use the tube. For some reason, the overland train has a very different vibe, is much calmer and slower-paced.

Pink - the words of my GP were: "I am advising you not to have intercourse for the next 12 weeks so how can I in the next breath advise you to have an early scan? Put it this way, I am a doctor and I wouldn't support my wife having one. It is invasive even if they say it is safe". Discussed it with my DH last night and he still seems to want to wait.

Dachs - to be frank, I'd say screw your boss. You are talking about the birth of your babies which impacts your health and the health of your little pups. My attitude is that as long as you are at work, the company expects 100% performance - they won't pat your back for being in. I think many companies would quite happily take blood if they could. You have to do what is right by you and the babies. Don't succomb to her pressure. You're having twins for chrissake!

I am scared for my trip next week but will have to go and play it by ear. Any time it gets too much, I will feign sickness. Ideally I'd love not to go but then I'd have to admit I was pg and after last Oct's MC I don't want to do that yet.