Coffee lounge and bar for MI5 interviewees, little friends and other CM studiers post MC – Part II

[wombatinwaiting]

Here is part II of our intrepid journey through the minefield that is TTC post MC. You can find part I on this thread.

OK ladies, when you get up over there I need a serious fish slap! I HATE the 2ww :(

(and it will be longer than 2 weeks too, because given the longer cycles I've been having post mc, though last one was spot on to how it used to be at 29 days, I still won't test until I get to at least CD35)

Damn my stupid uni assignment - why did I have to take a day off to mental on mn about whether we've managed it this month write my assignment which is due at 12 noon UK time and I had run out of time - really have now as I've spent so much time, mentalling, imagining funny tummy feelings and stalking the freakout room and dreaming about how long it'll be before I'll get there!! I must be INSANE :)

For gawd's sake, it's only CD18, I've never been this bad before!! Somebody please slap me!!

Hi star nice to meet you and good to see you too mana

Waves to everyone else and goes back to the blasted assignment!

That better honey?
Sorry you're having a bad day, how is the assignment shaping up? Will it help you to pee on a cheap stick and get an inevitable negative at cd18 then rue being so silly? I used to do that, it was helpful. Either that or I used to get tipsy, at least you can enjoy a nice wine or three. It will happen for you Wellie, honestly, have faith. Sorry if this is not helpful, someone cute and sensitive like Wombat will be along shortly, she has more time on her hands now she's given up feeding us
Fruit salad anyone? Loving the seasonal fruit at the moment, strawberries, blueberries, apricots!! Have a buttery croissant to go with it.....x

Oh ladies, I'm loving your thread! Feel like a big fat gatecrasher but you do make me giggle.
harassed another fertile one! Were you actively trying after your erpc? It's rare to hear stories of people who don't even have an af. Good on you! I'm sure it'll all be fine, lucky lady.
I just had two emails from distant friends sending their sympathy, I don't even know them that well and have no idea where they heard. People are such gossips. It's nice to know I'm the talk of the town! Hmmm.

Thanks sparkly you're a star! I feel better already now the assignment is submitted .

Thanks also for breakfast - I had meant to bring some along but was so stressed I forgot!

Tomorrow I will go back to work and forget all about my craziness! (....on that basis I hope I am either pg before I finish this work contract, or have another job lined up so that I don't get too long a break!) :)

sorry, didn't mean harassed, meant mana, too many new names.

For those ladies who are pg for the first time DO YOUR PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES, I've just been on a trampoline for the first time since having dd and it really wasn't pretty.

I have just re-read my post from last night.......apologies for the crudeness, I must have spent too much time peeping tomming lurking on AIBU.

I am with you on the pelvic floor thing Mama, and I don't even have the excuse of a VB!!

Ah I see am too late to do the fish slapping! nicely done sparkly I hope your mood has improved welli

I have everything crossed for the ash cloud to feck off star We tried in Florida, and I was convinced I was PG, so many syptoms. Pretty sure it was one that didnt implant but no harm done as was succesful 2 cycles later.

wombat where areeeeee youuuuuu?

I am seeing where harassed was coming from re the eating. £ hours after a main me I go very quesy and have to shove salty carbs and sweet drinks down me. Dreading losing it again now as I will hate myself for all the eating and weight I must be putting on. (adopting a bury my head in the sand attitude by not going on the scales!)

Hello to anyone I have missed :)

My goodness you ladies have been chatty today! Nice to have lots to catch up on.

Glad to hear the special bespoke sparkly fish-slap did the trick wellie and well done for getting your assignment in. Hope the 2/3WW isn't tooooo ghastly for you this month - anything nice planned to take your mind off it a bit? Hang in there our booty friend!

23 weeks mana?!! Wow that has flown! Forgive my ignorance but what the heck is a VBAC? Sounds like it's one to be avoided....!

Have been meaning to ask if the antib's did the trick with your chest infection thing worm? hope so.

According to worm, the wormshuffling did the trick for her this time star so maybe find a little extra space in your suitcase for that one! - fingers and toes crossed for the ash cloud to peace orf in a hurry. I think I remember you guys saying you might move out to States at some point for DH job - is that still something you're considering?

Not a gatecrasher at all marathon - our friend sparkly would soon give you short thrift if she caught you lurking anyway, closely backed up by worm!

Have been down in Abu Dhabi most of the day but had a genuine "I love my job" moment when a couple of the guys I've been coaching have made some real progress - a wonderful moment to see their joy and excitement. Stopped in to see a friend on the way back who has passed on a couple of baby items which made me feel really quite odd - I really think I'm in denial still.... am I mad at 14 weeks tomorrow to still be thinking / feeling like this? Oh and thanks for the tips on the pelvic floor, but I think I have actually overdone it a bit - my physio gave me some pilates type ones to do (to strengthen my core stability muscles to help with the sciatica) and I really seem to have pulled one of my muscles or ligaments low down on the left hand side. I'm seeing the doc tomorrow anyway for blocked ears so will ask her about it at the same time just to be sure it's not a UTI or anything. However, some pelvic floor exercises don't seem to affect it so I'm carrying on with those. Have almost got to the stage where I can breathe while doing them....!

Waves to pecka, yellow and och - hoping och is ok - haven't heard from her in an age.....

Hi Wellie, you and me both - I hate the 2 ww - I am really struggling with this one and feel really low.
I don't think I am pregnant this month as I have zero symptoms, even with some Pecka and Worm specials included in our SWI

I seem to be constantly on the look out for signs (CM / sore boobs) - I am sure it's not healthy!
My exercise routine is also messed up - I usually run every day and do really intense exercise which is now a slow jog every morning....

Sorry for the self obsessed post - I am glad to hear everyone is getting on well Wombat wow 14 weeks -hope the pain is not a UTI...
Waves to everyone else, I may be in line for a wet fish slap soon!

VBAC = vaginal birth after cesarean, so you have no need to worry about that one wombat

Sounds like you may have just pulled something, wombat it's very easy done as your ligaments are weakened ready for stretching, nothing to worry about........

Thanks Worm I'm eying up the fish and stepping away from tests on CD25... :)

Girls I maybe in for a big fish slap soon! Have finally admitted defeat and my mindset is pure negativity at the moment....currently on day 7 and can't be bothered! Even had to just sit and work that out, didn't just know it like usual. Just have this feeling, its not going to happen to us!!!!
Sorry it a me me me post... Feeling pretty down about it all!!!!!

Hey pecka and Emma sorry you are feeling down but I think it is totally normal. I often feel the pressure and can't be bothered to swi and it does take the fun out of it.

I've just worked 12 hours and drunk lots of wine and am knackered but I guess being busy does take my mind off it a bit.

I'm kind of thinking we'll try until nov when it will be a year since the ercp and then stop. We can't go on forever and at least it gives us a few months to think about it and see how that feels.

Anyway this was meant to be a post to encourage and cheer up so big hugs and sloppy kisses with tongues to all x

Come on Pecka chin up honey :). Day 7 is pretty early to admit defeat!!! It's so hard. A friend has just had her baby that was due 2 weeks before i would have been due which has shaken things up. We're both ok but it's just dawned on me that we should be having our baby in a couple of weeks. My due date would have been while i'll still be in Florida so hope that will help. I know how you feel. I've told a friend that i just feel like my body is broken really, which sort of upset her as she didn't like the thought of me feeling that way. I'm more concerned that the ERPC has caused problems as never had trouble getting pregnent before.

Has anyone used one of the fertility monitors? Opinions please . I've sadly just bought one plus sticks from a friend for £20 quid which isn't too bad seeing as they are £100 in boots plus test sticks. I think i may be on a slippery slope into obsessive conception-aiding behaviour here . Looks like i'm heading in your direction then Emma and Wellie, hehe!!! I'm being quite good with the gym though at the moment although this is probably due to the impending holiday!

Yes, Wombat. We're looking at the States or Australia. My preferance is Oz but the flight kills me just thinking about it. Through DH's job is the only way we'd probably ever get in to the countries unless we did some retraining sharpish. Not sure if i have mentioned but he plays sport and that is the only thing he has done since leaving school at 15/16. He's 31 soon so his years are limited now that he's getting 'old' . This is why we may need to use this as an entry.....purely tactical!!
I do hope you're feeling better today?? I think you're in denial until theres a bump and then still in denial until the little one actually makes an appearance. I don't think you're mad at all. There's been so many people in the public eye having second trimester misscarriages that i think it's left a mark on every pregnant woman.

Thanks Worm. Maybe if we concieve in Florida we can call it Orlando??.......not!!!!! . Would be a nice conception story though.

Marathon, what's your history? Reading the last few pages i'm guessing you have recently misscarried. :(. How have you been post M/C? Sorry, i'm not being ignorant and lazy....well maybe a little lazy , but i dashing from pillar to post with sorting things out for our holiday next week. I keep getting on here at midnight so not had a chance to read back through everything yet.

Sparkly, How are you coping without your usual evening tipple ?? Has it been replaced with lots of other fulfilling things like cakes and chocolate, yum yum!!!

Night all.

Hi Yellow, just thought i'd pop and leave another quick one before i head to bed. I can cope with the first few days of SWI but then i become less enthusiastic. Cant they just do it in a bottle and we can self inseminate or something??? . I've managed sex on day 15, 16, 18, 19, 22 this month. Dont think it worked as had a bit of a bleed one morning around day 25/26 or so but there was nothing else. Had a bit of a brown/yellowing discharge when i've wiped and a bit in pants so think AF is on it's way. Day 29 today. Had a cycle of 33 and 37 days so far although it's been hard to know when to class day 1 and end the cycle as i've been spotting with this brown stuff for a week or so around the day 1 so i've no idea really what i'm doing or when i'm ovulating.

Hi ladies, just stopping off on the way to the fishmongers for some more kippers
So, what else have we learnt? Star is married to a premiership footballer. Marathon has just pissed herself on a trampoline Worm is in danger of needing a larger sized barbour jacket. Emma thinks her exercise routine is 'messed up' now she can only manage a daily jog! Wombat has a pelvis of steel. Yellow is tipsy again, now Barack has flown back and she can relax. Pecka can't be bothered shagging!

He he - you do make me giggle sparkly . I had wondered if star must have a footie player for a hubby given that he only gets June off - recently moved to S Yorks and has contract until 2013 with current club - can we work it out?! Er.... probably not given S Yorks could cover a massive number of clubs and what do we know about the tiddlywink / chess / male synchronised swimming season anyway - let's not assume it's footie!

Thanks for your reassuring words star and you're right -I think a bump would make me feel better and probably some movement too but I think I've got at least 4 weeks to wait til that..... re: Ov sticks, despite the outrageous and quite frankly exploitative cost, I bought the Clear Blue ones and it did definitely help me as I was ov'ing a few days later than the "standard" 10-14. Also, the 2 times I got a smiley face with them were 2 of the times I got pg. Given your current fluctuating cycles, they could definitely be a good thing for you. Fingers crossed for you this month and that the discharge isn't heralding AF's arrival.

Good news from the doc - it's not a UTI and she had a bit of a feel and also thinks it's a pulled muscle so just need to take it a bit easier (although still keen to do as much as poss for the pelvic floor after reading about marathon's trampolining incident!) These extra hormones are also the cause of my blocked ears - going back for a good old syringe on Sunday - nice!

How is the boob prodding going emma - sorry to hear that you're feeling so down this month, and pecka too . could you enrol yourself for a half marathon or something and pay up front, buy lots of new running gear and shoes as that's bound to lead to a bfp.... By the way, I wouldn't recommend the Reebok runtone shoes - they really start to hurt my feet after only about 20 mins running, they are v good for power walking though.

Loving your post yellow - sloppy kiss right back at ya!

Hi to worm and her new barbour!

xx

Haha. Just a quick one as on the way to hairdressers before we go away. At least I'll get chance while I'm there to try and catch up a bit on everyone. Mmmmm, peace and quiet!!
No, def not a premiership footie player. I'd be at my wits ends with all the injunctions and sordid lifestyle that goes with all that!!! Felt like pooh at the gym today and now feel guilty about eating all those biscuits last night, humph!!

Hi star, nice to meet you .

Sorry to the others for the repetition, I had a mmc just over two weeks ago and an erpc two weeks ago tomorrow. I was searching for "erpc" on MN and this thread popped up as the first link so I thought I'd have a nosey (I was lurking, sorry!). I have dd already, who's nearly two and wanted to have another one asap so that they're close in age (and also because my ovaries are starting to shrivel). That's how I ended up here with you lovely and funny ladies. I've had lots of great advice. My biggest question was about ttc straight after a erpc, I really wanted to get back on the wagon immediately but the gang here have persuaded me to wait until my af arrives, so I'm counting the days...

Talking of fertility monitors - when I got home from my erpc I was watching Britain's Next Big Thing and saw this on it www.duofertility.com/ with a money back guarantee if you're not pg within a year! I tried to persuade DH to buy it there and then but he just rolled his eyes and told me not to be so silly (he had a point, it is £500!). I was clearly just panicking post op but reckon it could be on my Christmas list if things don't happen before then.

Right, off to buy some Tena Lady...

Ah, thanks Marathon. I too wanted to get straight on with it but was forced to wait as no AF for 14 weeks!!! Goodness me....i was thinking £100 for Clearblue monitor was bad but £500??? I think i'd rather pay to go private at a fertility clinic!! A year is a long time when you're trying!!

I have 2 DC already by the way. A boy who's just turned 8 and a girl of 3.5. I've just turned 29. No previous miscarriages or problems in pregnancy. I miscarried in November at about 9 weeks but it wasn't coming away (waited 2 weeks), so went in for the ERPC. That's my brief history :)

Ah I know I wished for it but.....................I feel soooooooo sick tmi info alert.......I started walking DS9 up the road to school this morning and "felt it rise" so I managed to shout,"walk on your own today darling" whilst running back towards the house, I made it as far as the front door
It's nice that the thread has come alive again, thanks to our newbie and star's return
Your sparkly wit is priceless had me laughing out loud, I would say LOL but that seems to be frowned on around these parts!
Good news on the No uti wombat your heathcare sound fantastic over there.

Just had another thought which you may be interested in hearing. Well you know that time long, long ago when we all...erm......shared a bit too much??? Well, i mentioned the story about losing my big 'V' with the lifeguard at Center Parcs and then lo and behold him turning out to be in my A Levels classes 9 months later. Guess who i've found out is going to be working as an air steward on my outbound flight to Florida????

Yep, you're correct .

Now do i mention to poor DH or not? Maybe telling DM/Finlaw might be stretching it a bit though. They all know i went to school with him so wont be shocked i know him. Hehehe!! x

Well if that's not worth a free upgrade I have no idea what is!!!!! I would just say he was in your class but not the other bit if it were Me how bloody spooky hey?

I agree with worm do not go into details.

sparkly over here with the fish. I am on day 29 and going mental! this year u have had two 27 cycles, one 23 and one 31. I have no symptoms except period pains but am still knicker checking like mad. Someone help me!

So yellow.... no rumblings of AF for you? I think you usually get them a couple of days before from memory ..... interesting.... not at all surprised re: the knicker checking.... are you boob poking also? Trying not to get excited but.....! No fish slapping from Dubai for you! Keep us posted please.

Interesting to see that duofertility thing marathon - not at all surprised you're tempted. The clearblue ov packs here are about 40 quid, so if you bought 12 or more of those over a year, that's 500 quid and you get your money back if you're not pg..... doesn't seem like a total waste of money to me but I would probably wait until 3 or more months of trying before parting with the dosh.

I'd forgotten about your centerparcs thing star - most amusing! I'm with yellow and worm on the keeping quiet thing, or might keep it quiet until after the flight and then tell DH - you don't want any mid-air jealousy flaring up!

Was told I was "glowing" by some of DH's colleagues at a work thing last night which was v nice of them. A couple of them think it was unplanned though which is most amusing - I felt like directing them to this thread to see the planning and heartache that has gone into it! The pulled tummy muscle has definitely calmed down a bit. Lovely day so far today - morning swim at the beach followed by eggs benedict at the sailing club and home for an early afternoon "snooze" - bliss!

Waves to all and wishing you a very pleasant Friday!