Coffee lounge and bar for MI5 interviewees, little friends and other CM studiers post MC – Part II

[wombatinwaiting]

Here is part II of our intrepid journey through the minefield that is TTC post MC. You can find part I on this thread.

Hi all and sorry for being a bit incommunicado lately -been out on site a lot and actually working quite hard for a change!

Firstly, pecka, yellow, ochaye and wellie - I am acutely aware of how very hard it must be to have all these pg around you here on mn and I know for some of you at least in RL as well. I desperately wish it was all of us and I have my fingers tightly crossed for BFPs for you all soon. Thank you for being so supportive and kind to us and listen to us trill on about our symptoms / lack of symptoms etc. I would dearly love us all to stick together but would also completely understand if you wanted us to pipe down for a while. I think the world of everyone on here and am super-grateful for your friendships. ((((Hugs to all))))

worm - up and down is completely normal as is freaking out. Would highly recommend a distration technique - decorating the hall an excellent idea. As pecka says nothing could have prevented it - hard as it is to want to pin a reason on mc, it was meant to be. Now stay off the google and get decorating!!

Glad to hear your cycle is finally back to normal wellie - SWI with vigour for you soon. Good luck to yellow's efforts this month - great that you have EWCM already and well done to mryellow for getting his priorities sorted .

Got to dash so sorry not to name check everyone. All ok here - 42 hours til 12 week / NT scan - not that I'm counting or anything you understand....!

Hi all I'm so sorry not been on just finish all my uni work and work has been so busy with all the changes and I'm normally in bed for 8 too!!!!
What have I missed please someone fill me in!!!
Hope everyone is ok?? How are the pg ladies?
I'm 19+3 days!! Its flying by! X

Great to see you again nurse ! Sure is flying by!! How are you feeling?

I can't remember when you were last on but a brief summary :- Wombat has a bean and is almost 12 weeks!, Sparkly is about 9 weeks, Harassed is about 6 weeks and i am a tiny bit PG at 4 plus 4. Yellow and pecka are still SWI and being very brave and supportive of us. Wellie has is now based down down under and has been busy finding work/ settling in and is also SWI.
We have some lovely newbies too.
wombat will be along a bit later and fill you in properly via the spreadsheet

As for Me I am trying to get into the mindset of only being a little bit pregnant, and expecting it to fail, more as a self preservation technique. Although i did feel a bit sick this morning

Hi nurse - lovely to hear from you and so glad that all is progressing well. worm has done a wonderful job with the update and I don't think I have anything to add! Good news on feeling sick this morning .

I am feeling a bit woozy myself - it's super hot here right now - over 40 degrees - and I was in a portacabin today with v poor air con. Stupidly didn't think until after last meeting that I am not supposed to be over-heating - cue big anxiety and jumped into car with air con up super high in bid to cool down. Got home and had a lie down and not sure if I feel any better.... am also anxious that my message yesterday sounded patronising to anyone as it's been v quiet on the thread..... really hope not. Of course also worrying about tomorrow's scan - it's 8.30am our time and 1.5 hours with blood tests, results etc. so will post as soon as I can with an update (hopefully positive.....).

Waves to all and sorry for being a crap name-checker and for such a me me me post..... xx

Aw, Wombat you are so cute! I was nodding away reading your post, I am hoping, and don't think, we come across as smug or self-congratulatory and everyone on here knows that though pregnancy is the end goal, it brings with it a host of new anxieties and no-one feels safe or complacent. I'm a bit jealous of Pecka constantly boffing away as it happens but don't mind her mentioning it
I'm only quiet because I don't want to seem patronising....
Joke! Actually, just very busy at work and so duck in to make sure everyone's alive and well but not much news. Had the midwife's booking in appt this morning which was boring form-filling. Someone in the baby centre handed me a leaflet on mother and baby activities which I found startlingly premature, but I'm probably too focussed on the what-ifs, and should just enjoy this time. What's not to love about having a belly bulging over too-small jeans? Looking good!

My scan is booked for 31st May at 8.30am, less than 3 weeks away! I pointed out I would only be 11+6 but midwife says that's fine to see what they need, and do the nuchal fold do-da. What time is your scan tomorrow Wombat? Get a march on with brekkie when you're done, won't you xx

Oh, reading back, you have given the scan time. Must pay attention......eeeh, I'll be able to read the update over my cornflakes, good luck!!
By the way, women through centuries have successfully carried children to term through extremes of temperature and minus aircon, you shall be fine! Wombs heat up last, made up helpful fact!

Thanks sparkly - you're a gem and I love the made up facts - makes perfect sense in my mind . Feeling a bit better after lie down to watch crap tv and jacket potato with beans and cheese - can't get enough potatoes right now....

What was your midwife like? Will she see you the whole way through?

Trying not to think about tomorrow too much which is bound to result in really weird dreams tonight....

boffing sparkly? Dont you mean bonking?? Lol

Hello all

Just a quickie (fnar fnar, like what i had tonight) SWI can just make things so practical sometimes. Had a shit 11 hour day and came home and had to have sex........have to admit to not being totally in the mood! Thank heavens for pre-seed! That's all I'm sayin'! Don't say me and Pecka are not dedicated. No, I don't mean she was there.........well you know what I mean!

Will have fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow wombat

Must go to bed, knackered and have an early start tomorrow

Oh and just wanted to add to the discussion, of course you pg ladies should talk about your pregnancies and your fears and issues with morning sickness etc........and you me and the others still SWI can admit we feel a bit jealous. And it's all good cos we're like special friends and everything........

Big group hug

xx

Yellow, it would not surprise me in the slightest if Pecka was there!
Have a and a ginger nut to hand, waiting patiently for Wombat...
Have laid out some hot chocolate and warm bread with continental jams. You will need to warm the frozen packs of butter between your warmest parts (not the womb, science will bear me out on that one) x

Oooh lovely bit of brekkie, thanks sparkly
Come on wombat it's after 10 there now I believe, update us!

So I am now on the 2ww, never fun. My bil is visiting from today so I shall have to socialise and drink lots of wine to entertain him!

Morning Ladies, just looking out for wombat back from scan. I forgot to tell you all, the only difference between this month where I got a BFP and the last 3months where I didn't was........... We were joined one night by our resident special guest!. (no shuffling required) yellow and pecka give it a go!!

I have been willing myself to feel sick today but it's not really kicking in properly, I felt the tiniest again. Come on you old hormones!!! get going!

Ha! That's brilliant worm - friend-assisted conception - you should start a new thread on the conception board advocating it!

Thanks for your lovely message yellow - made me a bit teary reading it. Have fun with your bil!

Thanks for sorting brekkie sparkly even if we need to defrost the butter ourselves!

So, apologies for the late posting. Let me star with a few - deeeeeeeelighted to tell you that wombatbean is measuring spot on 12 weeks still, all the soft markers were exactly as they should be, nasal bone present, NT measurement was 1.6mm and combined with the bloods, gives me an incredible 1 in 4568 risk factor - we never thought it could be that low with our combined geriatric ages!! - huge grins from us both - the midwife who talked us through the results was absolutely brilliant. WE have a v detailed report and a DVD of the whole thing which is extremely dull to anyone who isn't one of the parents but we really enjoyed looking over it. The detail is phenomenal and our sonographer pointed out just about everything. HB at 164 which is lower than the 8 week scan but as it should be - HB comes down as the pg progresses. He (we are sure it is) just wouldn't keep still - jumping all over the place so it took a long time to get him in the right place for the NT measurement plus my bladder was apparently too full so I had to empty it half way (in the bathroom of course!). Feeling so relieved and actually starting to believe it's real. Crown to rump is 6.1cm which is on the high side but femur measurement was absolutely normal so we are expecting a tall chap but with short legs .

Thanks for all your wonderful support ladies - not sure I could have got this far without you

And breathe......!

Fantastic news wombat great start to the day!

Hurrah, brilliant news Wombat! Felt a bit teary! Good news re. the nose, smelling is important - fact! What lovely news. Are you 12 weeks exactly?
Got to get on with work but will be back later to catch up. I have been warming a pack of butter for you , come and get some brekkie

Ahhhhh wombat that's fab news!!!!! So pleased for you, its looking very positive on this thread ladies whoop whoop!!!
I second what Yellow says too ladies, you all keep me going on that baby making quest so cotinue on with your positive stories they really do helpm
As for me joining in on anyone elses ttc action, errrrrmmmm no!!! Don't you think I'm busy enough this end, my name is pecka for a reason.
And worm, my resident friend is always involved!!!!! Lol

Fantastic news Wombat!!! So pleased for you .

I'm sorry I haven't been around for a couple of days, I'm really struggling at the moment physically and mentally. Well I suppose it's all linked really, the exhaustion doesn't help with the mentalling etc....

I'm convinced I'm going to have another mmc, even though looking back I can see that my symptoms had begun to tail off but that wasn't until I was about 9weeks. The mmc was discovered at 10+1 and baby measured 7 wks. I'm 7+1 today. I really don't know what to do........

Sorry for being sooo miserable.

Aw thanks ladies - you really are the best! Sparkly - you are absolutely right (again!) about the nose fact! Erm, thanks for warming the butter (I think....!) And yes, 12 weeks exactly today - you're really not that far behind! We treated ourselves out to lunch today and stopped off at our favourite cake shop on the way home - bean demanded!

He he pecka - you almost got yourself another name there - polygamous pecka!

So sorry to hear you're feeling so blue harassed - totally understandable. The only advice I can offer (if you are looking for any of course) is to focus on the positives so far and just take one day at a time. The days will start to pass, I promise. When are you likely to have your next scan? Could you pay privately for a reassurance one? What can you do to distract yourself? Sending lots of hugs.

Excellent news wombat You may now relax
I know where you are coming from harassed I am also now in the mindset that I am not actually PG, just might be, call it self preservation but I actually feel a bit better today about it all. All the various milestones are always a lurching point, I second trying to get another scan maybe next week when you will be 8 weeks? if you went to the GP and said how stressed it is making you ( and lie a bit maybe about cramps) you may get one?
So pecka yours comes out every time you really are a go-er arn't you!!!

Morning ladies - bagels and toppings for brekkie today. Hope you are all fine and dandy this Friday and looking forward to your weekends - any exciting plans? (other than pecka of course who seemingly always has an exciting life! - keep going girl! )

Glad to hear you are feeling a bit better worm - any more sickness? Are you planning to see the doc / book in for a scan any time soon? Forgot to say last week, very well done on the parish council stuff - you'll overthrow them next time for sure - have you thought of standing yourself? I think Councillor Wormshuffler has quite a ring to it!

And what about work for you yellow - has it calmed down at all? Most impressed with your dedication to the cause after a crappy 11 hour day - presumably you won't be entitled to hols for a while....? And what plans for your bil while he's in town? I am craving some London culture - a friend posted a pic on facebook the other day of their view from the Chop House at Butlers Wharf over Tower Bridge and felt reeeeeally homesick - I love that place..... the good news is that I should be booking a trip back to the UK for mid July - can't wait! Have had such lovely messages from friends / family that I can't wait to share the news with them in person - can't tell you how different I feel since yesterday - it's like a weight's been lifted. I know there is still lots that can go wrong and lots to worry about, but I can honestly say I think I'm going to enjoy being pg at last

Enough of me - how are you doing sparkly and milkybarbean? Any more jersey purchases? Cravings? Is DH providing lots of lovely support? And I have to ask about "boffing away" - did you go to boarding school to pick up an expression like that?!!

And harassed - are you feeling any better about things? Really hope so - it's hard, I know. Sending lots of and x

And wellie - how are things down under? Still in your temp job? How is DH's job going? You're waiting to start SWI I think..... correct me if I'm wrong!

What about your cycle och - any glimpse of AF yet? For once, I'm sure you'll be pleased to see her so you can get back on track.

Enjoy your Fridays ladies!

Morning girls
I can imagine how relieved you must be wombat you now have official wormy permission to browse baby clothes and prams!! and a trip to the UK is something definately to look forward to! Take a trip to the harrods baby department for some baby equipment porn Did you decide where you are going to visit whilst here?
Update on the sickness for me, I havn't been sick, just felt a little bit, 3 mornings on the trot now, it's almost like when you get an excited lump in your throat kinda feeling. I'm very glad of it to be honest, I was very sick with my DC's but not at all with the MC. I am not planning on booking an early scan, as my experience during my MC was that having bled and cramped for a week then I had a scan to confirm MC where a heartbeat was found, then an hour later the whole thing came away......... My body was rejecting it for whatever reason and I wish I hadn't known it was alive just before I lost it.
As long as I don't bleed or cramp I will use that as my comfort blanket! I havn't even called the MW to organise booking in, as that is done at 8 weeks here. We only have a midwife led service here and if any problems arise I would have to go through my GP for a referal to EPU in the next city in the first trimester. Will give them a call in another week. I don't want to have to un-make appointments if the worst should happen.

I am having my highlight re-growth done today, and am currently fretting over whether I need to tell my hairdresser to keep a special eye on the colour in case the hormones cause it to go a funny colour! I think I will, She is my regular for 5 years now and I told her about the MC so she knows We are trying.......

We are going for a long famly walk tomorrow, to celebrate My Dear Step Mum's retirement then a meal, which will be nice but very wet I suspect! thundery showers forecast!

Are you about harassed ? how are you feeling today?

Worm, you celebrate family milestones with a long walk? Crazy! We tend to just get trolleyed. I'm hoping that mindset changes with milky, would like him to be a country squire like your dh Do hormones affect hair dye then? Blimey.
Wombat, wasn't quite sure what bagel 'toppings' were but my hundreds and thousands are surprisingly good, thanks! You do sound really chilled out and relieved now, I am hoping for similar following my scan. Dsis rang yesterday to propmt me to look into NCT classes, before they get booked up! Nice that people are treating this pregnancy like it is actually real but I was a little bit 'ooooh, early doors pet!'
No I didn't go to private school but I might get saving for Monty to go, so's he meets posh people and forges useful lifelong contacts
Harassed, how are you doing today? Are you going to get an 8 week scan do you think? I'm sorry you're feeling down, the 6 week scan had you so positive. Are you mixing up intuition with projected worst case scenario thoughts? I've got a meeting so must dash but you can finish my marshmallow bagel!

Hi girls,

Yes I'm still feeling pretty crap. I think Sparkly has it, it is worst case scenario thoughts and really trying to protect myself as much as possible. With my mmc I had my booking app when the baby had already died, and looking back that really hurts. I don't want it to happen again so really want another scan before then, but it's on Wed!! So...... I'm going to phone the epu and speak to them after work (3pm finish today to pick dd up) and they're not playing ball then I'll have to persuade dh on a private one. Or just get on with it.....

Worm I hadn't thought about hair dye.....bugger!! Having my hi-lights done tomorrow and my hairdresser is my sil . What to do???

I went to private school, and we looked for dd. Until we found out the prices!! How the hell did my parents put both me and my sister through???!

I remember your extraordinary circumstances last time worm and thinking about you for ages afterwards. Seems you are applying lots of common sense to this time around - clearly you lady of the manor types are very practical privet hedge sorts! Thanks for the permission slip - will def be in London for a while so loving the thought of a trip to Harrods. 2 of my best girlfriends there have already insisted we go shopping when I'm back! Planning on the Midlands to start with, quick side trip to the Cotswolds then back down to the hometown in Surrey - can't wait!

Sparkly - you have got me craving fairybread now - aggghh! So if it wasn't private school, where did you pick up the expression "boffing" - it's one I've never heard of before!

Good luck with the epu today harassed - I really hope you get your reassurance soon.

Oh and I have a daft question for you.... had a look at some maternity clothes yesterday and I know that you're supposed to buy your normal size but do they then do different sizes again dependent on size of bump? All the clothes I saw yesterday seemed to only be for big bumps.....